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Greenfusion:
you are right, but if you allow to many grace period it becomes the norm....they would now be asking for grace period inside the grace period....we should learn to be timely and avoid african time traditional and behaviours

Nope. You warn them the first time. Then going forward you allow people who are a little late. The grace period is not a set timr - it's just so you won't be draconian and shut the door at exactly 8. That's thr HUMAN way to don't things

Love800:
You are trying to say that a woman will not sponsor a man and still want him to marry her?

Am finding it hard to comprehend what you wrote.
Try write it in a layman's language(easy to understand). Don't use too much grammars.
Just put it in pidgin if you can.

Thank you.

A woman won't sponsor a guy to go abroad and establish then send for her later (as the guy in the story did), no matter how rich the woman is

Something seriously needs to be done about PRIVATE SCHOOLS in this country!

Greenfusion:
Is good they are locked sometimes because Nigerians takes too many things for granted, i believe the school had told them b4 they enrolled their children there. Its a simple thing, if u ain't comfortable with it, take your kids to a school that allows lateness.

There should be time for everything, although i know circumstances might affect in some cases anyway

My friend you allow a grace period in things like this. A religious school at that. Imagine God judged them like that

Lovelink1991:
She almost exposed it until she stopped

Lovelink1991:
Believe me this is my first time of hearing the word Puff Toto. It was from the video I got to understand what she meant by that word

Expose what?
All na content
No Nigerian woman will ever do "puff toto". Some crazy whites, maybe

Magnetic010:
What da Bleep is puff Toto🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️….Why are women never satisfied with what they came to the world with.

The nails on their hands and feet is not good enough for them- so they buy extensions.

The hair on their head is not long enough for them- they buy another person’s own to attach.

If she’s dark skin- she’ll bleach

If she’s fair- she’ll tan

They are not pleased with their boobs- they either enlarge or reduce

They are not satisfied with their ass- they want bbl

Now even the shape of their pusssy they do not like- puff Toto🤦🏽‍♂️☹️

All for content
She's lying
No Nigerian lady will puff her toto.
Tightening they'd do if it were possible

So OP why didn't you just post the entire article as done below:

From sky-high bride prices to delayed weddings and the quiet rise of cohabitation, Nigeria's harsh economic climate is forcing young couples to rethink everything they were taught about marriage. Here's what's really happening.

For generations, Nigerians have grown up knowing the roadmap: finish school, get a job, pay the bride price, do the traditional, then the white wedding, then start a family. Today, that roadmap is increasingly unaffordable and young Nigerians are quietly drawing a new one.

There is a quiet revolution happening in Nigerian homes, and it does not announce itself with protests or policy papers. It shows up in the WhatsApp chats of frustrated young men trying to raise bride price. In the conversations between couples who have chosen to "manage" together without a ceremony. In the growing number of educated women who are asking, out loud, whether traditional marriage expectations still make sense in an economy that has all but collapsed on the average young person.

Nigeria's cost of living crisis driven by fuel subsidy removal, naira devaluation, and relentless inflation has not spared the institution of marriage. If anything, it has cracked it open and forced a reckoning that families and culture have long avoided.

The Bride Price Problem Nobody Wants to Name

Across ethnic groups in Nigeria, bride price has always been more than money. It is cultural affirmation, family honour, and the official stamp on a union. But something has changed.

Rising unemployment and inflation mean that most grooms are now unable to meet what are sometimes exorbitant bride price demands. As a result, some turn to loans or credit facilities debts that, if unpaid at the time of death, pass on to their families as a burden of honour.

While some communities collect as little as a hundred thousand naira, others demand up to a million naira. Inflation continues to affect many across Nigeria. When you consider the items on a typical traditional marriage list, including drinks, fabrics, livestock, and cash, a wedding can easily consume two to three years of a young man's savings, if he has any.

The results are clear. The commercialization of bride prices has become a major factor in the rise of late marriages and the decline of marriages among young Nigerians. This has led to a growing culture of cohabitation, where couples live together without formally getting married, either by choice or while the groom tries to gather funds.

Social media campaigns like #ReduceBridePrice have amplified the voices of young Nigerians seeking a balance between tradition and financial realism, even as elders and cultural leaders in some communities including parts of Ebonyi, Anambra, and Enugu have moved to revise inflated marriage requirements According to Igbo People

The Weight Before the Wedding Even Begins

It is not just the bride price. The full machinery of a Nigerian traditional wedding the engagement list, the owambe reception, the asoebi fabrics for extended family, the white wedding many families still consider obligatory has become a financial undertaking that rivals buying a car.
Traditional expectations demand significant dowries and wedding expenses that affect couples' readiness for marriage, and families frequently go to great lengths to ensure weddings reflect their social status.
For the young couple at the centre of all this, the pressure can feel suffocating. Many are already navigating unemployment, unstable income, and rising rent and then they are expected to simultaneously perform prosperity at a ceremony that costs millions.
Many respondents in recent studies expressed that the financial burden of traditional marriage rites often puts couples under enormous pressure even before the marriage actually begins.
You are starting a life together already in debt, already worn down, and that is before the realities of running a household set in.

Inside the Marriage: When the Economy Follows You Home

For those who do manage to marry, the economic pressure does not stop at the ceremony. It moves in with them.
The increased economic instability, shifting gender roles, urbanisation, and individualism are destroying the old values that married couples once relied on to endure. Today's couples face financial insecurity, competing career demands, and limited emotional intimacy all of which amount to a slow erosion of commitment to the marriage itself.
Marriage counsellors across Nigeria are seeing this pattern up close. Couples have been found to be less tolerant of conflict, with less communication and diminished trust factors that have collectively led to emotional detachment and eventual separation. Marital strain has been heightened by unemployment, poverty, cultural expectations, and social comparison amplified by media exposure, particularly among young couples in urban and semi-urban environments.
The gender dynamics are especially fraught. For decades, Nigerian culture positioned the man as the primary provider. That expectation has not fully shifted, but the economy has. Financial stress often leads to frustration, communication breakdown, and blame especially in homes where the responsibility of provision has been assigned entirely to one partner.
When that partner cannot provide, the marriage framework itself can begin to feel like a trap.

Women, Work, and a Changing Calculus

It would be a mistake to read this story only through the lens of men struggling to pay bride price. Nigerian women are navigating their own renegotiation and for many, it is quietly radical.

More women are entering the workforce in larger numbers, challenging conventional expectations. Educated women lean increasingly towards partnerships built on mutual respect rather than traditional hierarchy, and younger generations are embracing modern ideas of relationships that call for egalitarian partnerships over traditional arrangements.

Many young Nigerians now seek economic independence before committing to marriage a trend that reflects a growing awareness of the economic realities facing modern couples. Financial stability plays a critical role in marriage decisions today.

And where once a young woman delaying marriage might have been seen as a problem to be solved, it is increasingly a deliberate, strategic choice. The question being asked more openly now especially among women in Lagos, Abuja, and Port Harcourt is not just when to marry, but whether traditional marriage, in its current form, still works for them.

The Rise of "Let Us Just Manage Together"

One of the clearest signs of how things have shifted is the normalisation of cohabitation couples living together, sharing expenses, building a life, without the cultural or legal formalisation of marriage.

High wedding costs are discouraging couples from formal marriages, and cohabitation has emerged as a practical alternative. Many young Nigerians also prioritise education and career paths, often delaying marriage until they feel more established.

This is not necessarily what older generations would call a moral failure. For many young Nigerians, it is a pragmatic response to an economy that has made the traditional path genuinely inaccessible. The ceremony can wait. The relationship cannot.

But this shift carries its own complications. Legally, bride price remains indispensable for a valid customary marriage in Nigeria. its absence, unless explicitly waived, renders such a union void under customary law, which underscores the ongoing legal and social vulnerability of cohabiting couples. Women, in particular, remain largely unprotected in informal arrangements.

None of this means Nigerians are abandoning marriage. They are not. The desire to build a life with someone, to be celebrated by family, to formalise love that has not gone away. What has shifted is the tolerance for doing it in ways that are financially ruinous or emotionally dishonest.
In Nigeria's competitive urban economy, job insecurity and high living costs put significant stress on relationships, and romantic expectations increasingly clash with cultural or financial realities, leading to conflict or divorce.

That conversation is uncomfortable. It upsets parents, confuses elders, and sometimes fractures communities. But it is also honest — and in a country where dishonesty about money has destroyed as many marriages as infidelity, that honesty might be exactly what Nigerian marriage needs right now.

Love800:
I didn't understand your write-up.

Sorry for my late response.

I meant to write:
A woman won't sponsor a guy to go and then send for her later, no matter how rich she is

RhemaJet7:
Based on 1 Corinthians 2:14, a "natural" or carnal person cannot understand spiritual truths because they are discerned only through the Holy Spirit, not human intellect or senses. Such individuals perceive spiritual concepts as foolishness. This state often describes believers still driven by worldly desires or fleshly impulses, rather than the Spirit.

So you have no answer. Let's make it easier: give examples where God asked someone to ask Him (same God) to save a nation

FreeStuffsNG:
They were hit. This is partly why Trump is frustrated.

JUST IN: Iran’s navy claims strikes on US forces in Abu Dhabi, Bahrain
Iranian media have quoted the IRGC’s navy chief, Admiral Alireza Tangsiri, as saying Iranian naval forces launched “several consecutive waves” of attacks against US forces in two military bases in the region.

He listed them as Abu Dhabi’s al-Dhafra and Bahrain’s Sheikh Isa.

The targets, Tangsiri claimed, included patriot radar systems, planes and aircraft fuel storage tanks. https://aje.news/j4onxu?update=4398111

Unit linked to the C-RAM air defence system at the US embassy compound in Baghdad hit by a missile today
A unit linked to the C-RAM air defence system at the US embassy compound in Baghdad was hit by a missile today. So far, no group has claimed responsibility for it.

Tel Aviv Stock Exchange hit by Iranian missile

https://youtube.com/shorts/rGRxzpeCEBo?si=GgHgkSG4R6zmYSoE

You forgot to blot out where that photo says "3 March 2026"
Ancient fake news

erad:
Lol... Ignorance will be the end of you. You don't even know how nairaland works but you're quick to throw around accusations.

I'm a MOD in a particular section(arts & graphics). I only have the ability to ban you from that section or even do anything to you if it's on a thread in that section.

I'm not a super mod, they are the ones that have the power to ban on all sections and spam your comments on all sections.

So if you're getting banned because you replied to me, that has nothing to do with me. The anti-spam bot is probably getting triggered by some things in your comment.

The fact you even had to type out an epistle to further display your ignorance is just...
Well, have a nice day.

Wow!!!! I can't believe you actually typed this with a straight face. I mean, this just happened, not as if it happened last week!
Wow again! So why did the super mod or bot suddenly stop banning me?? Bet you didn't think of that angle. You and I know what happened. YOU were banning me, directly or indirectly, for absolutely no reason. YOU and nobody else!

Then again I know this is not meant for me, because you know I know. I don't know what you gain intentionally destroying another man's business, someone that made you a mod! Anyway It's up to Seun how to handle you and people like you. I have done my part.
Nairaland will survive and thrive whether people like you like it or not!

erad:
I read your comment and was blank for minutes because I didn't know how to react to such stupidity.

How exactly did you arrive at that comment with a functioning brain?

Jeez! I give up on this site, too many retarded folks.

Dear Seun,

YOU ARE BEING SABOTAGED!!
(COMPLAINT ABOUT MOD erad)

I hope this post finds you well and thanks for Nairaland.
Please I want to bring to your attention that some of your mods hate this site and are intentionally sabotaging it.. They deliberately do things that they know will drive people away from the forum. That's why participation in the forum is now way down.

Take this erad guy for example. He intentionally uses bad language then promptly bans people when they use same exact language back at him. See his language above. He intentionally uses the R-word then promptly bans people if they use it. Then he bans people for absolutely no reason. I think the reason is to have them confused and frustrate them away from the site.
YOU ARE BEING SABOTAGED!!
He has banned me several times for absolutely no reason.
My opinion is, these kinds of people are like the enemy within. They DON'T wish the site well. They hate this forum and will definitely run it to the ground if you insist on keeping them around

Thanks for your attention and may Nairaland go from strength to strength.
Yours truly,
QuinQ

**I'll send this as a screenshot because the erad guy will ban it as soon as he sees my moniker

YoungBlackRico:
No I'm not siding with you lol, do you have comprehension problems? Genuinely concerned right now.

You been claiming there is no privacy in public spaces at all. And people have been trying to lecture you that there are exceptions; country, circumstance, consent...

Make e no be say na one 12th grader person dey follow argue self.

Please kindly tell everyone how the circled (which YOU posted) differs from what I've been preaching throughout this thread

success1smyn:
Is it that you are dump or what? Filming people and posting it on the internet without their consent is what we are talking about here, and it is wrong. Filming people for political, religious, or similar purposes is different, because the people involved are already aware and are treated as having given their consent. It’s that simple.

Mr. Man how many times will you be told this. Someone comming to your occasion doesn't mean they give you permission to use their image for advertising, campaigning or such. If you use their image without their EXPLICIT permission they ought sue you and win serious money!

No kidding Einstein, u r a real genius

Fake shıt everywhere!
And Nairaland carries them all!!

How comr Dangote refinery doesn't figure into this your equation??

1) DANGOTE MAKES MORE FUEL THAN NIGERIA CONSUMES!!!
2) NIGERIA CAN SUPPLY ALL THE CRUDE DANGOTE REFINERY NEEDS!!

You see why your analysis makes no sense??

Meanwhile US is still mourning the seven soldiers they've lost in the war and have made them narional heroes

Can you please explain to.me because I truly don't understand.
How can God instruct you to intercede with God for the US. Why does God need you to intercede with Him and tell you what to pray to Him about?

HacheNoire:
Another Lamba!

Just tell us Iran shot it down!

Always covering up their losses with excuses.

My friend US is NOT Iran where govt can suppress news. Their reporters are all over everything and they are NOT pro US govt, and NO ONE censures what they publish!

The video posted above says this is an accident that can also happen durring peace time. Happened in FRIENDLY airspace. Not due to any fire, friendly or not.
You can be sure US media reporters will dig up everything AND publish it - especially if it embarrasses their govt!

FreeStuffsNG:
Smh.

You are naive and ignorant about war messaging and propaganda. In that same place it crashed yesterday, 6 French soldiers were wounded in a drone hit.

That base in Iraq was used to kill dozens of pro-Iran PMF fighters in Iraq on Wednessday and they retaliated. The PMF alone has attacked that military base almost 30 times and it is no brainer that the fuelling aircraft was targetted to render the jets useless for on Iran combat trip that require refuelling.

Sources say that US has between 3 to 5 of them in the Middle East, US losing just one with expert crew in such fatal hit is a collosal set back for the US.

USS Ford Gerald also had a fire incident yesterday and the Isreali military intelligence base was hit but the news censored.

US has lost this war.

HacheNoire:
😂🤣😂🤣😂

Another excuse for failure!

Iran never takes out the jets and planes, it’s always an accident or friendly fire.

Give it up for Iran! I don’t need any confirmation to know it was brought down. Losers always give flimsy excuses.

They think we are foolish! When did Iraq become friendly airspace?

My friend you posted a video and I actually took my time to watch the video b4 commenting!
We always hear of accidents like this happening with US troops DURRING PEACE TIME.
My comment is based entirely on the video YOU posted.
If you have any other additional thing post it like you posted the video instead of talking from top of your head!!

An accident that can also happen durring peace time. Happened in FRIENDLY airspace.
Has nothing to do with Iran

BodyCount:
Iran is the blablabla according to yah DAFT brain

Iran sponsors suicide bombers and organizations that suicide bomb, and they just perpetrated a suicide ship against US. That's textbook definition of terrorism. Mention when US has ever sponsored such or organizations that do such

Parachoko:
I've not seen it. Just one person is arguing with her in the video, the rest of the passengers are calming him down. He said he does not want his face in the video

In this one she said there were so many threats she had to take Uber
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVx1HgOCufw/?igsh=aGJ1cTRiZHdzOTMy

NairalandBishop:
I won't sit and let the propagandist militants and Nairaland Revolutionary Guard corps spread their lies.

Nairaland is experiencing massive decrease in participation (nobody knows why). Threads now barely get to 2 or 3 pages. You understand they're doing all they can to ginger interest by posting any controversial stuff they see