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Fahvvy:
Should this even be a question? ...

Like I would come to visit you and I will send money so you can entertain me, how?

Did I come for a visit, abi I came for a show that I have to pay for? ...

Abeg o...
If the people I'm going to visit cannot entertain me, then it's fine, I'll take it to mean that that's how they treat their guest or that they're broke and/or stingy ...

It just means gross irresponsibility. They're the kind of in-laws that will will all their needs upon their son in-law's head.

BmAe:
it's just a question, some fathers fit no like am..... They will think is an insult... If you are coming to my house, even if you will carry millions and come.. I must still cook for you

I'm a woman sef and already seeing it as an insult. Things can't be that bad na. I can't imagine collecting si-si from my fiance for introduction. How na?

Any girl telling you you must pay, just know that.. like the devil, she has come to kill and destroy.

The bride's family is the host. They're to fund the menu menu and other expenses to be incurred for the day.

iSense247:
Mr Seun, how can I block myself from seeing comments from Tinubu's surpporters? Please help sane people on Nairaland. Please!

So you're telling the owner of this site that his people are mad people? Isn't that the height of stupidity?

Geminita:
My ex never stressed me about cooking. He even preferred buying us food. The times I cooked in the three years relationship were because I wanted to cook.

I am not a badass cook and he never complained or rejected the food. He ate the food with so much joy .

So many kitchen errors and he never said anything to belittle me or so.

He loved you.

am4truth:
Its wickedness to ask for 50 percent of someone wealth just because you married him and have kids for him.

Thank you Hakimi.....

It's wickedness and even gold digging to ask for anything at all. Her husband knows very well to leave something for his kids. She can sort herself out. That's why women ought to empower themselves before going into marriage and not rely on their man for everything. In her own case, she even has her own money.

theredaddy:
For all the time husband fvck his wife is it for free, check most ladies picture before and after marriage the only thing mothers can't for her son is sex but olosho can easily replace a wife. plus room for balance diet

Just make sure you use protection when you do prostitutes. That's the most important takeaway.

JJuanMiguel:
Some of you against the situation maybe in the position of the mother in the future
So when you become a mother, would you want your son to lose his fortune in that manner

I'm in support of what she did to protect her son. She's a smart woman. The guy already knew he married a thief hence he did what he did.

theredaddy:
Please no even think am not to talk of saying it, no lady in this present time will die for a man, lailai ! for better she stays for worst she japa or make you regret coming to life

90% of marriages is all about convenience, True love don die tey tey naa poverty bury am.
90% ladies are just using men for financial security, remove money new school marriages will crumble

Because you all keep going for slayqueens and not the one who truly loves you. You guys, most of you give up peace of mind for vanity.

JJuanMiguel:
Don't dabble into what you don't fully grasp

It's even more irritating that you people are always quick to play the sexual card as a means of blackmail.

Wives are mothers and mothers are Wives

Some of you also wish and pray that your future potential MIL should be dead cos you don't want to have a MIL.

Not knowing you'll also be in that same position one day

You shouldn't tell me this. I have the wisdom of that already. And that's my point exactly.

29Ade07:
Okay. Are the duties you mentioned above all that a wife is supposed to contribute to the man`s life?
What if the man does not want kids or he can control his biological impulse?
What value does the woman have in his life then? Just asking.

A lot. She supports him financially too. Advises him on investment decisions. Prevents him from entering or engaging in shady deals. Curbs his frivolous spending habit, if he has any. Curbs his drinking/smoking habits, if he has any. Cares for him when ill. Cares for his family. Be there for him when the chips are down. Helps him to become a better person, generally.

saintbillion:
This ur logic is as lame as your writeups. I don't care if my dad love his wife more than his own mother, I do hear him calling my mom, his lovely wife. That is his own choice. My dear as for me, I can never ever replace the love of my mom with another woman or girl, cause there's nobody not even a single woman soul that can take my mother's place in my heart. If e pain u go and die. Thats my decision. I don't know y e dey pain u. Na ur sister I marry?

It's your choice and your pain not anybody's pain. Also, it's your cross. So bear it well.

saintbillion:
This one is a lost and bitter soul roaming about looking for whom to devour . If u have ever heard of wife praying for their mother in-law to die, I think this is one of them. Entitlement beings spit.

If I've been praying for my mother in law to die, let it never be well with me. My own mother inlaw must not die o, cos she must come and do omugwo for me and my kids.

If you're praying for your wife's mother in law to die, not my business. There are women and there are unique women. Have you forgotten that, the mother you're praising today is someone's wife? If she's a good mother she must also be a good wife. So if you have a good wife, why should you love her than your mother? Should you not pray to do better?

If you married wrongly, nobody is to blame for it, but you. I forbid everything that'll make me love my parents than I love my husband. If I love my parents 100%, I want to love my husband 200%. I want to be better. That's how to grow. Pray for growth in your life, not backwardness or stagnancy. If you married a woman that cannot stake her head on a spike for you, that's your problem, not mine.

saintbillion:
So not falling for all the gimmicks u women play means I don't love and value my wife? Interesting, I should start worshipping her na, or say yes to everything she say. Heheh my mumu no reach that level.

Oga, nobody said you should be a doormat to your wife. In my initial post, I said, marry a good woman and you'll be fine. If you don't believe in the idea of "good woman", it means your mother is not an example of a good woman or wife. You are a product of how you were raised to love. Simple logic.

saintbillion:
I've seen ur types. They will always want their brothers to support them. If their brothers give their wife or gf money they complain. Yet they can't handle their own home. U seems like one of them.

Then be fckking your mother well at night before you sleep. Let her have your kids and raise them for you. Then she will raise your kids as she raised you, not to love their wives more than they love her. Isn't that nice? That way, your love will remain with her. And ONLY HER.

saintbillion:
Lol. You sound funny and gibberish. Since I was born, I've never in a day seen my dad having a quarrel with my mom, or beat up my mom.

Long story. If I read the whole of this nonsense you posted, let me die. You tried too hard to validate your lies. If you were well brought up as you claim, then you would love your wife as your father loved his. Simple logic.

Connected1:
Aunty Keep Quiet.

If we follow this strategy, even yourself won't get married.

People reveal themselves as time fades, you can't really tell if there's an inner attitude that's yet to surface, if the woman is fertile, can cook and has a good personality she can pass to our children and good genes too, what more can we ask for?

So calm down and I won't reply you again.

Oga shut that your stinking mouth. Where in my response did I insult you, abi o ya werey ni? You're mad for telling me to keep quiet, who do you think you are? You lack manners and I blame your parents. What is good personality, what is good manners? Now I see why you're daft.

saintbillion:
So u can allow ur own brother to love his wife more than ur mother? Na una type dey go fight una brother wife, saying she's a bad woman. If Hakimi was ur brother I know what would have been ur reaction towards his wife

Yes. Cos his wife is his wife not his mother. Thing is most of you are sick. You grew up in dysfunctional homes. The toxicity of your father's relationship with your mum is what you see while growing up and what you'll pass on to your nuclear family. Your father never loved or treated your mum with respect. It's what you grew up with and how you'd raise your family.

Connected1:
I think you should recommend Good Wives for men since them dae write am 4 forehead.
😒

It's certainly not written on the forehead. It takes wisdom and discernment to be able to sieve the wifeables from their opposite counterparts. But you men chase after frivolities rather than good morals.

Joemavel:
Y'all don't get it.. the fact that I made that statement turned all your focus from ideas I seek to a speaker abi.

Initially typed a response to someone but felt there was no need. But lemme do this.

I am not talking about a thing of grace or favour in the Nigerian system but pure enabling environment. An environment where anyone with the push and ambition can excel. I do not want where it's harsh or where only but a few can thrive.

Abeg leave story jor.

Even with the disabled environment, people are making it. Why aren't you one of them?

saintbillion:
God4bit. The difference between a mother love and wife love. Anything your mother does for you, is for your survival, Anything your wife does for you is for Her survival. I can never love my wife more than my mother.

Pray you marry a good wife. There's no reason for you to love your mother than your wife. When a man marries a bad woman, it is his fault and responsibility. Or how would you feel if your father loved his mother than your own mum, his wife? The responsibility of a man to marry a good woman is his. Some women will die for their husbands.

Joemavel:
Do not say so... The majority are getting affected by the government of the day and alot of companies packed up and you are saying it has zero effect. Are you talking about the majority or just a select few of whom I used to be among?

All those things you mentioned are somewhat artificial to the reality of things.

The fact that you already tied down the outcome of your destiny to govt responsibility sets you up for failure already. Ask yourself why you're not amongst the few making it in this harsh economy. Up your game and stop complaining. Complaining and sulking are signs of weakness.

Xxxxtentacion2:
why cant Tinubu rest in the Lagos he built ?

Why is the criminal detainee in Rondon?

LagosFirstSon:
Resting abi receiving treatment

Receiving treatment for your headache? Please name one politician who worked half as hard as him during the campaign period.