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In continuation,as per the abuse you got in the hands(or should I say from the mouths) of his siblings,trust me,so many of us have either been on that road or came close to walking that road.Like I said,so many peeps have different ways of dealing with this issue,to some,they'd quarrel with their siblings and side opinionatedly with their wives or vice versa(none of either is advisable as he needs you and his siblings in life),but this is what I'd do if I were your husband;of course I'd sit you down and let you rewind the graphic events that led to the verbal abuse(believing you did not start it yourself),if you were culpable at any point I'd let you know,then I'd go ahead to reassure you that I'll handle the situation after which I'd put a call to all the people you said were involved in this(of course they should be older than you as it would be an anathema for them to be younger than you),and express my dissappointment in their inability to wait to inform me of whatever you may have done to offend them if they could not resolve with you amicably,I'll then remind them that you are now my immediate family so they have no option than to accept you,I'll also make sure I call a meeting for all parties to come,offload their minds,forgive and make up.

From experience,when in-laws hurt you,or your siblings hurt your spouse or vice versa,it really hurts and leaves the other spouse in an akward position that requires wisdom to handle.You MUST be ready to ADMIT(especially to your spouse)your fault in the matter and be ready to FORGIVE your inlaws,confide in and trust your spouse to come through for you.NEVER let your love and respect for your husband diminish at this point in time but rather increase it and let him know,see and feel it and you'll see what happens

Believe me,once you overcome this one,you both will be the better for it and you'll be better placed to deal with any similar circumstances even before they happen

@ OP

First,I urge you not to listen to advocator,he sounds like less of home breaker,and more of an immature youth,full of exuberance and ABSOLUTE lack of knowledge in conjugal matters and most likely with no spouse of his own,so ignore his error.

Now let me geddit,is it the abuse by his siblings you're angry about or that you FEEL he's cheatingHe may be an ass(pls permit me cos I'm a man too),but it's not confirmed he's cheating.
Remember,said you're just two years into your marriage,so you need a lot of effort on your part and on his part to build your very young marriage.I know of couples who,even if they had nothing serious or adulterous with their ex,they still kept sending texts and exchanging calls,I guess this happens when the spouse feels his/her ex was nice to them and so somehow feels a bit of guilt for leaving them for their spouses.Time and a conscious effort on the part of the "offending" couple to overcome this act is ALL it takes to put the ex where they truly belong;in the past and out of their love lives.He said the ex was leaving with another guy,so let the guy be the one bombarding her with texts and let yours stop being in delusion;tell him so,but wisely and politely

Good a thing,he has openly told you that you're the most important person in his life(I once had an Ishan client that lives in Houston,who had no qualms letting the whole world know that he valued his people in this pecking order;
His Children
His siblings

Then his wife
Let your hubby know that you're uncormfortable with his communication with hjis ex and that if he truly wants your happiness,you should put an end to that act

@ OP

First,I urge you not to listen to advocator,he sounds like less of home breaker,and more of an immature youth,full of exuberance and ABSOLUTE lack of knowledge in conjugal matters and most likely with no spouse of his own,so ignore his error.

Now let me geddit,is it the abuse by his siblings you're angry about or that you FEEL he's cheating
Remember,said you're just two years into your marriage,so you need a lot of effort on your part and on his part to build your very young marriage.I know of couples who,even if they had nothing serious or adulterous with their ex,they still kept sending texts and exchanging calls,I guess this happens when the spouse feels his/her ex was nice to them and so somehow feels a bit of guilt for leaving them for their spouses.Time and a conscious effort on the part of the "offending" couple to overcome this act is ALL it takes to put the ex where they truly belong;in the past and out of their love lives

Good a thing,he has openly told you that you're the most important person in his life(I once had an Ishan client that lives in Houston,who had no qualms letting the whole world know that he valued his people in this pecking order;
His Children
His siblings

Then his wife
Let your hubby know that you're uncormfortable with his communication with hjis ex and that if he truly wants your happiness,you should put an end to that act

Omooba77:
The Sun Poll
Who wins next Presidential Elections in April [9901 votes total]


Buhari (2108) 21%
Jonathan (6574) 66%
Ribadu (1075) 11%
Shekarau (62) 1%
Others (82) 1%

I really don't believe in any of these useless contrived polls,remember Atiku's poll on the PDP website of all places
Again,anybody that thinks Ribadu would perform better than Shekarau in the polls is a dreamer.

My advice;let the campaign teams of the aspirants double their efforts rather than ceaselessly writing nonsense which their prinipals may have happened to spew on the pages of newspapers day in day out

Jarus:
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But are we going to sacrifice the progress of this country on the altar of sympathy? I don't think it's worth it. That's why I'm for BB.

Firslyt I disagree with your skewed and dubious analysis

Secondly,it's good to know you're for Buhari,then go to the OP and rectify those shortcomings so at least he'd have a fighting chance in the election

Yaya Jameh,be careful now,be verrrrrrrrrry careful.
This' how Gadafi ranted his "support" for the protesters in Egypt,then pronto karma then sent the protesters to Libya.Yaya Jameh,I say be careful

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Seconded

RSA:
Do you mean fourty six thousand six hundred and sixty four Nigerians where evacuated in Libya? Sound like a scam to me

LOL

RSA you no well @ all,of course you know what I mean

How's ur area? I find Randburg interesting,you live in/around Jossy??

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BTW,I learnt the number has risen to 1,035 already,I saw Bash Alli smiling from ear to ear,na God save am,desperation for cash for wound am,somebody should please tell him to hang his boxing gloves,this na warning for am

@ RSA

No,it's 46664(Mandela's apartheid prison number)

noblezone:
What we are suffering was not caused by jonathan. It was caused my military misfule of which uhari was a partaker.
The fact is this, we have never seen it so before now. I am from Anambra State, although the election that brought Ngige to power was rigged, he became popular and won the people's heart simply by paying salaries. How is that ? The previuos admistration did not pay salaries

Now, let us be fear.

Thanks Mr President.

Thanks noblezone,you know there are some posts that one has tyo ignore as sound reasoning,truth,objectivity cannot be forced on anybody,some people will just never get it,besides they are entitled to their opinion

Well done GEJ,God bless Nigeria

@ OP

I learnt the number was actually higher than that,I saw BAsh Ali brimming with smile(I'm sure he boxed his way into the plane to ensure he left Libya with the first rescue plane),GEJ should not rest till ALL Nigerians are ferried out from Libya,the reasons for some of them being there notwithstanding

Ozin:
Even Tinubu his Godfather,Lai Mohammed and co have not been campaigning for Mr.Ribadu in all their political rally since they started in the South-west

By the time GEJ wins the presidentikal election come April,these are the same idiots that will now turn round to cry blue murder and allege that GEJ rigged the election,I wonder why all their clueless troupe of zombie praise-singers on nairaland have not spoken against the deafining silence of Tinubu and the ACN hierachy as it affects Ribadu's campaign

@ OP,

Very objective,sentiments-free analyses

***yawns***

And I call for governorship debate with Fashola

damola1:
Was ribadu the accountant?

Was the accountant per the $15 milla bribe money he said Ibori gave him how come he knows where that one is and when it comes to the N20 billion he seized from Tafa Balogun,all off a sudden he becomes dumb

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otokx:
magical stroll in the park for the gunners

Bros abeg no talk like dat,this is a league cup final and those blues are bound to play as if their lives depended on it.I pray our guys don't cop any injuries on our way to lifting the trophy

Best of luck guys,we've waited too long for this

Still on the issue of Dayo,while I make the search in the romance section,someone should please leave word for him to call this line;713-1-0,1-1,1-2,1-3 for free advice on how not to overate a shyte club

medjai:
she our Nazi bros don go into hiding?

We can lure him out,let me go to the romance section and get a damsel in bikini,with that Dayo will run down here

duduspace:
E be like say una don lose am finally, na out of frustration cashley go dey shoot person?

LOL

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Don't underate Ibime,if only you know how much he's made from oil bunkering,pipeline vandalisation and kidnapping  

BTW,shiit happens.Cashley should be cut some slack,though Cheski's present form could have affected his aim  

Intrepid!:
The power of incumbency! Goodluck is getting rid of his opponents one by one. Don't be surprised if Buhari's PTDF stint comes under the searchlight of those fuckin' animals in the National Assembly.

Fa fa fa foul

Nobody will witch hunt Ribadu as he neither has sufficient witch hunt value nor political value,if the presidential elections were to hold today(free and fair) Ribadu WILL NOT rank in the top THREE,so he isnt worth it.

Secondly,just because he is Ribadu,we should close our eyes to the N20 biliion he seized from Tafa Balogun

Ribadu is known to be a loquacious fellow,it's very strange that he has yet to respond to this question from the house of reps

Rhodalyn:
well, thats just the nature of men, some things just shouldnt be questioned

Na wa,but na true

topsy25:
@poster,

I think most women (married ones) forgive easily just to keep their family cos either u like it or not the success or otherwise of a family depend mainly on the woman. More so, men by nature are polygamous and at the same time possessive.

Notwithstanding, men should learn to rule over their polygamous nature and try to love their women truthfully and faithfully

Na wa also,na true also

violent:
They really don't require a permission with a military transport plane.

Yea right,military planes DO require permission to enter the airspace of another SOVEREIGN nation

In any case,see the link to the report I posted http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-middle-east-12552374

deols:
by plotting a coup to topple a government

Simple

Ayowumie: Since tilted glasses make the people inside such vehicles invisible, such people could then carry out criminal acts because they cant be seen in their vehicles. The criminal acts using tilted vehicles are carried out by non politicians most of whom seek respect by using custom made tilted glasses. For this reason, they should all be banned from using tilted glasses. For our politicians, all of whom use factory fitted tilted glasses do not commit crime using their tilted-glass vehicles, THEY CAN THEREFORE CONTINUE USING THEIR TILTED GLASS VEHICLES because THEY ARE ALL FACTORY FITTED

Someone please translate this gibberish

Pharoh:
The elections mentioned where those of the governors that went to the court for interpretation, uduaghan has already been sworn in before the new electoral act came into place. He is going for four years trust me and as for me i am laughing here until when INEC fools themselves again by trying to conduct election in delta state.

aguiyi:
^^ they will conduct elections but not in april,i think it should be june or there about

More confusions,we certainly have not seen the last of this.The vacation or otherwise of this pronouncement will come from the court appeals by the aspirants and not the pretentious one by INEC

chaircover:
This is the trouble though. When we do things with a view for a reward, we are disappointed when the reward doesn’t quite match our expectations.

You sound a bit hypocritical here by standing logic on its head,sorry.What kind of reward would one possibly get from a nanny/house help other than that they do duties diligently abd reciprocate the love showered on themNannies and house helps are actually the ones that do things(work) in order to get a reward(pay),so what exactly are you talking about

BTW,do you have/have you ACTUALLY hired nannies/house helps(you don't have to answer that)

Funny topic