Peppyluv:
Eziokwu,otolo ga gbagbu gi enwero part 2

Madam I'm being real here. Or dju honestly believe that many of the Fathers that serve yhu do so because they made up their minds to become celibate? O girl, many Catholic priests are closet homosexuals who upon realizing their weakness, have converted their energies towards God's service. That way, by virtue of priestly tradition, their secret remains, and by calling and grace, they refrain from delving into homosexual sin. Since OP is conscious of his religious life, I recommend that. Being gay does not imply that he shags every gay man he comes across. Or do yhu sleep around because yhu're straight.

To add to that, kindly stay away from gay company (don't know how yhu guys seem to locate yhurselves, like yhu have some code the straights don't know of) don't go close to homophobes either, they won't help yhur situation. If yhu feel bored, drive to your mechanics. Trust me, better and more matured discussions occur in mechanic workshops over groundnuts and pure water than in many joints.

Personally I feel all these questions about sexuality, orientations and stuff arise because this generation has placed undue attention to sex and sexuality. From toothpaste to car and home designs, most statements and ideas are schemed to arouse sexual fantasies. Not suggesting that these sexual variations have not existed, but our generation has elevated the ultimate quest to get laid to atmospheric proportions. And that's why @OP is depressed. Being gay is no sin. Just as being straight isn't. However, engaging in gay sex is, as well as engaging in straight fornication/adultery. The only difference between the two 'sins' is that society is more tolerant and condones one over the other. And this is for yhu so called Nairaland Christians that literally encourage OP to expunge one demon with another.

OP,let's be frank in line with present realities. Its good yhu're religious so take yhur mind off sex completely. Prepare yhurself towards celibacy. Its not a crime to be celibate. Do not engage in gay sex. If yhu're currently in one, kindly desist. Also do not watch porn of any kind, gay or straight. Try to get an outdoor life. That stifles the urge to mastü®bate. Spend less idle time cocooned by yhurself, try to be in the company of at least 1 person. And get friendly. Hangout with yhur guys, be friendly with the ladies (go on dates but don't push intimacy) and if its God's plan for yhu, what yhu wish for will materialise. Like many before me have urged, don't beat yhurself up. And keep up the pretences. Who knows, yhu might just "trick" yhur brain into recognising that yhu're straight.

@OP, are yhu Catholic, if yes, become a priest. If no, become one and become a priest. Then yhu wouldn't need to marry. Marriage will not guarantee a change in yhur sexuality. And if yhur wife finds out, we will certainly then know who yhu are offline. Inasmuch as I'm not a gay advocate, its foolishness to hate them either. Afterall, their maker hates the Sin and not the sinner. As long as yhu don't try molesting young boys, or are caught with a man, yhu may as well keep yhur secret till yhu die. I'm only being realistic in a country where homosexuality is more criminal than armed robbery or murder.

Don't be depressed. Take yhur mind off yhur sexuality and focus those energies into more positive ends like hanging out more, or playing a sport. If it is God's will, the lady who will win yhur heart and activate yhur loins will come. And all others will be automatic. Stay positive.

Dheartless:

will you take your advice if your husband beat up your dad for this same reason?

if it did happen, her dad deserves it. You do not come to my turf to fight me. Anything yhu see, yhu take. QED.

iiichidodo:
You don't expect us to read this nonsensical empty chest beating,do you,boy?..goes to show the small size of your penice.Shoot! if it wasnt for providence you'd be wearing pigtails jes to please your skank.Buck up son,you heard us? To each his own let the OP handle his biz like a man.

Now, this is just plain wrong. Instead of countering @MadCow's argument with superior points, all yhu do is measure balls and d1cks and denigerate his family. I hope yhu're not married because if yhu really act this way in real life, even yhur mum should be wary of yhu, leave all the NL show of love. That @MadCow has his priorities does not mean he loves his mother any less than yhu do yhurs. I align with his argument and I'm a confirmed mummy's boi. Funnily enough, I showed her this post this evening. She reasons alongside @MadCow's assertion. She even said that if the man dares drive his wife on account of this issue for a day, that he has lost control of his home forever, his mother may as well move in and take over headship of the home. As I mentioned to @Freecocoa, let's remove the hierachy and family ties and treat this case as between two feuding women. Judge it from that angle and advise OP therefrom.

freecocoa:
Believe me, no one has this mentality of, "Being an elder doesn't give you right to misbehave" than me, I totally agree that being older doesn't mean wiser or superior, I believe that respect is reciprocal, everyone deserves respect.

Still, there is this unwritten rule about respecting elders first, MIL was wrong no doubt, she hit DIL, do you sincerely believe hitting and fighting her is the best way to go about the issue? Will you support hitting anyone back immediately without thinking twice let alone an elder? Understand that I agree MIL is at fault btw.

This is about manners, it's not just about always being right, I believe the two holy books instructed that elders/parents be honored, does the fact that mama broke a commandment mean you should break one? What makes you wiser than mama then? If this wife behaves like this already, she'll be worse than mama later on.

Hello, all around the world. deference to the elderly is encouraged. But here in Nigeria, elders take the advantage too far. They bully, denigerate and mistreat their subordinates, the subordinates growing up continue the circle. We are in the problem we currently face as a nation because our elders have refused to behave their age or use their wisdom towards beneficial ends. Sacred texts advocate respect to elders, yes, but they also admonish us to do as we would like done to us. Remove emotional sentiments and hierarchy from this argument. Let's analyse it on the basis of two razz women fighting. I bet yhur judgement would be more logical. And so will many of ôus taking sides in the matter. The mama instigated the violence, she belittled her age and abused her exalted position. The daughter is not free of blame because she had a choice of restraint but chose to reply in like manner. Anyways OP has hinted of beef. And as a woman yhurself, yhu know how yhur beefs are like.

@OP, admist the flurry of posts, you can filter out useful information. @MadCow's and @Babyosisi's come off relevant, (tho the latter could do with less bile). As I mentioned, you're king over your kingdom. How you rule will determine how you will be regarded outside. Its your call ultimately. Not your wife's and certainly not your mother's. NO ONE should cajole you into making any decisions afterall, when they wanted to fight, they didn't seek your advise or restrain themselves till you showed up.

Old age is no protection against foolishness. That the African culture encourages deference to the elderly does not grant them the right to misuse the privilege. As young people, we should learn to exercise more restraint in dealing with "difficult" people, elderly or not. Turning the other cheek may be difficult in the light of present realities but it is achievable and profitable. It requires determination and effort.

Love the Mercedes.

Weeches are using yhur fuel to power their brooms/groundnut husks. However, where do yhu park? Either someone is sipping from yhur fuel tank or yhur tank has started giving back to the environment without seeking yhur consent.

coolsegun2002:


I've chcked dat, I said it automatically goes very dull wheni switch on the full light..nd brightens again when I switch off the full light

in some cars, dash lights dim when brights are used. So except its a recent development in yhur vehicle, I'd say its normal.

soe:
Liars..this pic is from the common entrance exam into the almajiri school in kasuchi

I hail ur lying spirit

And since when did INEC get involved with Common Entrance Examinations? NB, see the INEC official logo on the lady in the Hijab.

@Filmmaker, the wife said no. Couldn't she just wait. What does she need the pictures for herself. If she needed them so badly, smartphones are a dime a dozen. She could have taken a pic of the pic and moved on. Trying to absolve the OP's mum of blame is not helping the OP. The wife you're antagonising here is funnily enough the one most open to reconciliation, meaning she has admitted her wrongdoing. I love my mum very much. She has sacrificed a lot for me and will forever be relevant in my life. But she has her limits as well. And thankfully, she's sound enough to realize that. So @OP like many of us have earlier mentioned, seek out reconciliation between the feuding parties. BUT, your mother's condition MUST not stand. I'd your wife must leave, it must be your call to make, not your mother's, not your family or hers. You're the Man here. Your home is your kingdom. How you RULE determines how you WILL be perceived by outsiders.

TheFilmmaker:

Also remember to ask her how she would feel if she was denied pictures of her grandchildren.
Also teach her not to run her mouth like a sloth.

@Filmmaker, the wife said no. Couldn't she just wait. What does she need the pictures for herself. If she needed them so badly, smartphones are a dime a dozen. She could have taken a pic of the pic and moved on. And OP never mentioned running of mouth in his post so where did you get your info from? Except if you are one of the onlookers. See, trying to absolve the OP's mum of major blame is not helping the OP. She's the instigator of the whole melee for all the story is worth. The wife you're antagonising here is funnily enough the one most open to reconciliation, meaning she has realized her wrongdoing. I love my mum very much. She has sacrificed a lot for me and will forever be relevant in my life. But she has her limits as well. And thankfully, she's sound enough to realize that. So @OP like many of us have earlier mentioned, seek out reconciliation between the feuding parties. BUT, your mother's condition MUST not stand. If your wife must leave, it must be your call to make, not your mother's, not your family or hers. You're the MAN here. Your home is your kingdom. How you RULE determines how you WILL be perceived by outsiders.

Film maker and the ichidodo person, stop being emotional here. Let's look at this as an issue between two human beings of same gender having similar cognitive reasonings. Now if you were told that two unrelated tenants of yours had the same issue, how will you resolve the situation? I believe with less bias and more logic. Because your boss pays your salary and for now is practically responsible for your survival, would you allow him order your dependants around when he comes to visit? It's natural to be sentimental in issues like OP's but we have to realise that sentiments have hardly led to good judgements. Sound logical analysis almost always had. That's what differentiates a man from a woman, and a man from a boy.

My own take.
Mother is irresponsible to have slapped wife. Wife is HIGHLY irresponsible to have set decorum aside and responded to mother in kind.
Basically, the two have long standing deep seated resentment Issues, you even mentioned that. Otherwise such a trivial matter wouldn't have caused a fight.
Now, since your wife is willing to make amends, assuming she has been made to realise the error of her ways, its up to you to work on your mother to accept wife's reconciliation moves. Now, how your mother regards you will come to play here. However, your mother's premise that your wife must leave MUST not stand. You must be FIRM on that. Grant that concession, and you have OPENED your home as a branch of your mother's kingdom. She will run your family for life, handing over to her siblings when she passes on.
As someone here mentioned, your women love you so much to fight foe you. But you're the MAN of your house. That role comes with powers. Don't be afraid to wield them, in your home. whether your wife, your mother or any of your relatives are on the receiving end.
Irresponsibility must not be tolerated, irrespective of who's involved. My opinion.

chuka5000:




Watch ur word, its the most expensive car now

That its expensive does not make it any beautiful. The car is just hype with frosting on the top.

Attn @CityNG
www.nairaland.com/2217705/land-rover-defender

Let's not be too harsh on the OP. She's expressing her fears in the light of the circumstance befalling her at the moment. @OP, a bad child is a bad child, adopted or not. So do not (and advise yhur family not to as well) look at the other two boys with too much circumspect, else they may become detached. Its haunting for them as they are already. I'm an advocate for adoption cause IMHO 1adopted child = 1 chance of better living= 1 less burden/menace to society.

Current price of z30, note 2, 10.1

Phone number. Where can we see? 23k cash

The Reliant regal. Everything a car should not be.
That car is so ugly and slouchy that Mr Bean loved to hit it for spite.

AutosBay has made FP.
Answer=golf

And it has to appear on FP twice?

@OP, any would do. At least from @Lomomike's assertion. Since yhu aren't particular about power, the i4 would be yhur best bet. Cheaper in all ramifications than her v6 sister. Though I think the engine comes only for base trims, usually without 4WD and third row seating. I stand to be corrected.

@Ikenna, I don't think @Smartchoice(s) and @Praxkisnetworks are the same person. I think they're two people who share a common demon. Take the advice yhu gave me when I was belttling myself trying to boil stones. (Prov. 12:15; 14:8; 10:23; 14:9) Don't engage yhurself with this lot, else, they'd bring yhu down to their level of foolishness and beat yhu with experience. (Prov. 15:2, 14; 18:2). Unlike yhurself who has been of immense benefit to NLanders both online and offline, whether peugeot related or not, ( I'm a grateful beneficiary of yhur acquaintance), these two unfortunately serve no utilitarian purpose to both themselves and their society other than spamming the Merc thread with endless complaints. Sincerely, they're both not worth the effort. Cept if yhu're as bored as I am right now, and ar in the mood for mischief.

In line with @Lomomike's recommendations,
Yhu may also wish to check up on some MDAs like PHCN, FRCN, FAAN, Min of Agric, Works and so forth. I've seen a couple of abandoned but good looking 110s in backyard parking lots.
PS, the ones @PHCN may not count.

Every car comes with its peculiar issues. The EOD/DC is known for her ball joint issues, yet she still sells like pure water in Nigeria. Until yhur post, I honestly haven't yet come across any 4runner with ripped off wheels. Go for any of the two. They're both sturdy vehicles . I reecommend either platinum trim for the Pathfinder, or the 4runner Limited, whichever is cheaper for yhu to acquire. Best of luck.

No comments. Only condolences.

ogawisdom:


Kazeens ve a cordial rship with toyota products u kw

This got me laughing.

lomomike:

Going by the manufacturer's ranking, the Pathy was and is above the xterra and xtrail.

True dat. But in 9ja our ranking is size oriented most of the time. That's why the 1997-2005 Pathfinder is regarded as small compared to her xterra counterpart despite the former being more kitted.

lomomike:


Lol @ 'baby jeep', what would people call xterra and xtrail if pathy is called such?

The Xterra till 2005 had been bigger (taller & longer) than the Path of same year. Where I stay, any SUV perceived to be smaller than the Toyota Highlander by as little as 1 inch is a 'baby jeep'.