PunkyVeer:
You haven't lived if you still don't know how to put on a straight face even when a volcano is raging hell inside you. That my dear, is a skill!

You don't owe her zilch imo. Especially if it's a family matter. Just make up a believable lie to shut her pie up.

Thanks man but I prefer to say nothing than lie to her

The issue is quite a funny one now. Last nite I ended up not talking to her. After a while she slept and I did too. Woke up this morning, went into the bathroom, turned on the tap and dials a numbers (meanwhile she tot I was outside). Tells the person's she'll come by 11 or 11:30. I said nothing.

By 11 I called her number, her friends who she told me she was going to visit picked up the call and told me she left her phone in her bag and went out. When I got home, I found out she didn't drop the house key so I went to her friends place which is not actually far. Was still calling her number. she wasn't picking up but when I got there I saw her in the midst of 5girls. She said she just came back from seeing her other friend who also stays close. Then I asked why she didn't return my calls, she said nothing. Asked her for the house keys, she couldn't find it. Out of anger I left for home. She was calling with her friends phone to ask if I've gotten home. I refused to pick, sent her airtime to call me with her number which she did. Told her I couldn't find the key whr she guessed she dropped it. Told her I want to break the padlock, she said ok I should break it. And I ended the call. Since then she hasn't called or texted.

Now what manners of a woman would know her man is angry and still choose to remain at her friends place?

What manner of woman would know her man is angry and still choose to remain at her friends place?

Nairalanders.....

I know some of us have been through things like this. Please advice me.

What do you do when something is really bothering you and it's not something you want to share with your girl cos it's about family. Unfortunately she happened to be in your house when you got back from your family house with this long face. Since then she won't stop asking you what the problem is. Because I don't want to lie to her, I keep telling her am fine but deep down I know am not.
She finally tells you "you know we tell each other anything, but then if you don't tell me this night, I won't ask again in the morning"

Somehow as a man way I be, I just want to deal with the issues first within myself before I talk to her but she just won't understand. She's just saying so many things and asking too many questions;

1. Did I offend you?
2. Do you want to break up
3. What is happening to us? Etc

Her questions are even compounding my thoughts. What do I do? Should I just tell her what's up or lie to her?

Nairalanders.....

I know some of us have been through things like this. Please advice me.

What do you do when something is really bothering you and it's not something you want to share with your girl cos it's about family. Unfortunately she happened to be in your house when you got back from your family house with this long face. Since then she won't stop asking you what the problem is. Because I don't want to lie to her, I keep telling her am fine but deep down I know am not.
She finally tells you "you know we tell each other anything, but then if you don't tell me this night, I won't ask again in the morning"

Somehow as a man way I be, I just want to deal with the issues first within myself before I talk to her but she just won't understand. She's just saying so many things and asking too many questions;

1. Did I offend you?
2. Do you want to break up
3. What is happening to us? Etc

It depends on the person you're dating. Is the person mature enough to accommodate your past?
As for me, talking about my past with my girl has really brought us closer. She also told me about hers. We are mature enough to respect boundaries and shut those thoughts that trigger the negative thoughts. All dis is possible because she's not just my girlfriend, she's my friend.

But me Ex ready to feel jealous, make face for you self if she find out say you bang the girl you bn de date. She go ask you weda she and my ex who de bang well pass. I always don't answer...

YOU ARE THE PROBLEM OF NIGERIA
Once again, it's independence day. Our Great nation is 55. There are several pros and cons for those who are dishing out inspirational, motivational and grudge messages for and against our Fortress of Hope.
It is easy to rejoice on this day and afterwards, cry, yell and moan about how much you hate this country without thinking for a moment how much the country hates you.
Did you just read that right? Oh yes you did!!!
This country hates you for what you have done to it, for what you have become and for what you have refused to be. You find it easy to pour everything on the Government, Oh Yes, that again is easy. All you have to do is convince yourself about that lie with total negligence for what you have done.
Wanna know what you've done? I'll tell you
1. You're the reason politicians steal.
In the words of Amaechi, he said "we steal because they don't stone us" Have you ever for a second thought about the meaning of that My guess is a big No! I will say nothing about your actions during elections but we all know. Are you still the leader of tomorrow? My guess is that tomorrow will never come.
2. You lack Self-consciousness: when you drive through the sorry state of our roads with refuse dump almost taking of one lane on the road, what comes to your mind? When lecturers test you with what they never taught, what comes to your mind? When you walk up to that filling station that is supposed to sell fuel for N85 selling for N120 without scarcity, what comes to your mind? When you learn in classrooms that look like a pig farms when you paid acceptance fees of almost N35,000 and development levies of N30,000. What really is acceptance fee? Why should we pay to accept our own admission? what comes to your mind when the Student Union turn a blind eye to your travail?
3. You're only schooled not Educated: Proverbs 17:16 "It is senseless to pay tuition to educate a fool, since he has no heart for learning." Reexamine the reason(s) you went to school. How many of you are really studying what you like or have a passion for? Maybe because you have no passion, that's why you just took that course the school gave you. I just want to be in school. School has become a measure of how successful one would or wouldn't be. You hear of students commit suicide because of low grades. Maybe you should travel through history and ask yourself who schooled Jesus, Plato, Aristotle, Steve jobs, Bill Gates etc. Education is about empowering your mind with reality and possibility based mindset that awakens you to the responsibility you owe yourself as a person whose aim is to transform his himself and society at large, shape your character, bring you to the horizon where ideas freely flow. But schooling? Pass the exams and you're cool. Maybe you should start wondering why first class graduates don't always become first class citizens.
4. You're too Religious, therefore Useless : Now am not against religion but like philosophy, religion is either pointing you to something or its pointing you to nothing. Ever heard the phrase "heavenly conscious and earthly useless?" That's you. What would you answer be when asked if you want to be great. A big fat yes. How and where would you become great? Maybe in heaven where your mansions have been laid up.
Young men and women who are supposed to make meaning to their lives spend it in church praying for their enemies, sowing seeds from the little they have. To enrich whose pocket? Heaven? Think again. Now am not saying evil doesn't exist, but you spend so much time thinking about how many people chasing you or will chase you that you've forgotten you the journey had already started. Pathetic thinking and mindset. You are expecting the coming of Christ like you are the one paying his flight ticket. What would you say when the good master ask you about the talents he gave you. Simply tell him like the story of the foolish servant in the bible (matt 25:14-26) that you were waiting for his return, so you buried it.
That's only but a few. There are so much more. This Nation belongs to us. Why do we keep waiting for Jesus to come and change our society? Why do we mystify what is not a mystery? Why do let our destiny nosedive while we patronise pastors and spiritualist with money we can invest into our future? Our society is suffering but our body language remains comatose. Our lives begin to end the day we keep quiet about the things that really matter.
I will leave you with this words
“Throughout history it has been the inaction of those who could have acted, the indifference of those who should have known better and the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most that has made it possible for evil to triumph”- His Royal Majesty Haile Selassie 1, Emperor of Ethiopia.
NIGERIA has ONE ENEMY and that ENEMY is YOU....

Happy Independence