₦airaland Forum

rubey:
I am yet to experience that!

lovat:
The man will leave that brown roof environment, op is that place State of Osun

Loyalblak007:

jaydude:
She's got talent! They r beautiful!

PAT4HOT:
Fellow Nairalanders, I am not attending a white garment church or the likes but a decent pentecostal church that believes in the teaching of the bible, but my girl wants me to change it in order to sustain our relationship.

Although I love her, I'm not comfortable with any other church doctrines (especially orthodox that she falls in), I love my church doctrines too.

So please advice,what should I do?

Enegod:
Ok, you'd rather make yourself look like a maga to her abi? by telling her telling her you want friendship? (she is gonna friendzone imediately)
or telling her you want to make her happy? or you want her to be your gf bla bla bla bla!!! Thats shit!!

annazubi:
Photoshop is allowed. N250 detained after 5 million had been killed? Photoshop won't help you. Buhari is a dictator. We don't want a killer-president. Thank you.

yinkus4u2c:
what is sex pls

helpee:
but which of the information given by the article do you disagree with? Why do you always attack anybody pointing out the flaws of the fraud INEC is about to conduct in the name of election. Isn't it obvious JEGA is skewing the electoral process to favour the north and thereby setting the tone for a massive post election litigation. This is not about scuttling elections....jega deserves his terminal leave abeg

CharlesNneji1:
First, before you get someone to like you, you have to first love yourself.

I know, this sounds like a textbook advice but that's just the truth.

Regaining a battered confidence takes time and inferiority complex don't disappear overnight. Infact, motivational books will always preach "positive thinking" but the fact still remains that it doesn't work - positive think from today till tomorrow, if you don't act you will never improve.

For someone like that, who has a battered self esteem, my advice is not to "toast girls" yet.

What he has to do is to start doing "positive actions"

What is "positive action"

Simple: start doing things, little by little, which would trick your mind into not fearing what you were once afraid of, and while doing this - NEVER JUDGE each action and fight the negative thoughts that come up for such action.

Let me make it clearer

For example: a guy who is always afraid of talking to girls could just start with saying "Good day" to every girl he comes in contact with.

For instance; walk into a restaurant, sit on a table near a girl turn, say "hi, good day" then face your table.

Church, want to joing the pew: "hi, good day"

It's easier than a full blown toasting.

The more this guys does the "hi good day" routine the more he finds out he is becoming less intimidated by saying "hi, good morning to a girl"

His mind has been tricked.

When this is achieved, he should move over to the question stage and throw in the "hi goodmorning" routine:

For instance:

"Hi, good morning, what's the time please"

"Hi, good morning. What's the name for your hairstyle. I want my sister to get it"

"Hi goodmorning, I just leaned on a dirty chair - is my back dusty"

Get her reply, say thanks and walk away

You get the gist? I know, it sounds silly - but it works.

After you are comfortable asking questions you will find out you are more relaxed, your confidence grows because you find out that saying hi to a girl is not as intimidating as it once was - that is when you start working on keeping a conversation.

If you jump directly into been a casanova or getting a girlfriend it won't work. And the more things don't work the more you get discouraged.

Also, while you do this - throw in the "pretty girl chewing guming" trick I outlined up there.
The mind is stubborn...to bend it to your will, you have to trick it.

To the stuttering part; it's your mind. When you concentrate a lot on how your voice sounds that's when you stutter

Try this: Play a loud song through an earpiece then when you can't hear your voice - record yourself say something long, then play the recording - you will be amazed how reduced your stuttering would be.

To stop stuttering, you need to stop been self-conscious about your voice. To stop been self-conscious you don't just need positive words; you need positive actions.

Answer questions in a group class, then tell yourself you sounded well - yes, your mind won't believe that but here is the big secret of psychology: When you lie to yourself long enough you will start believing it's true.

It will take time, but it always works.

Hope this helped. Have a great day.

Enegod:
Just tell her, "What do I want? What kind of questions is that? I will find out what I want from you further down the road while I am getting to know you and what I want it only depends on how good you treat me"

Always be in control
Act like a boS$

yemmit90:
Your friend must be dumb by allowing her to starts asking such a silly question. Perhaps he doesn't know what to discuss with the girl, hence her question.

afolag:
you tell her to vote GMB come march 28.

adami:
the quote below is ur reply and the reason why i think Buhari/Osibanjo won't be any better...this was the same thing we said about Jonathan in 2011, he has no shoes ,he understands the masses bla bla bla...if Buhari eventually wins, we'll be clamouring in 2019 to throw him out as we are doing for GEJ now.

Vivly:
See as Flavor just ruined this girl.

avrex3k:
pity your generation for that your ded comment and stop checking me out..

avrex3k:
your generation are so dumb Bleep boy...

adami:
As much as I despise this government, i don't think APC woluld be any better...I am anti PDP and anti APC,there are credible candidates from other parties for crying out loud..... why are Nigerians like this, why have we opted to pick from the 2 wrongest choices

DDeliverer:
Honestly, I've noticed this pattern...and it scares me!

I can't settle for anything ugly

aljazira:
Success rate in Niger state is put @ 86%. Card Reader giving PDP/GEJ/SAMBO/PEJ/DOYIN/FFK/ABATI/FAYOSE/BOKO HARAM sleepless night since 1914. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.
SAI APC
SAI GMB
SAI PYO
Click LIKE and SHARE for APC.

1bkaye:
Common sense eluded you, you were merely having a moment, I get it lol. Ta-ta

Danhumprey:
With all due respect,what has poverty got to do with this?

1bkaye:
Making jest of such a highly sensitive topic as terrorism and most especially coming from such a prominent public figure 'could have meant something else and was read in a different way?' My friend use your head

Clerverly:
! This Man Will Never Learn! Igbos Dont Vote During Elections!

About Igbo Voters in Lagos:

30% Registered in their villages.
30% Did not care to register anywhere at all (the most vocal set).
40% Registered In Lagos, but 90% of this group would rather be in pepper soup or nkwobi joints on the election day than vote any bagger!

Summary: Yorubas In Lagos determine who wins!

aniwilz:
no offense bro BT ain't u a Nigerian?