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So....do they mean the DSS were acting without approval from the President?

Foolish idiots. 2019 must not pass una by.

dollyjoy:
Are you sure that isn't someone's husband she stole

finders keepers.

Tinubu and OBJ, see how your brother from the north has finished you people.

To me this guy has always been ugly or is it because he is light skin? With his gorimakpa head looking like Dr evil.

Anyway, he made the right decision sha....its not a nice feeling knowing your child is out there somewhere.

Lol, not surprised. He is kuku a fake senator already and living a fake life.

If only Google was able to research into these senators lives, so we see how fake and useless most of them are.

mrk74:
Thanks.

We won't break apart. An concerning the nagging it's not what I can expect of me. My kind of nag has been that I've said I don't like this, she acknowledges and in some cases promises to adjust but doesn't. So I remind her when she does it again. At the 4th time, she may get a lecture. Lol. But I don't like it. I think that 1 or 2 times should be enough for someone to make adjustment. Or if you have a problem adjusting then say it and we have a discussion and arrive at a compromise.

I believe we will get there sha. I've already made up my mind not to make a complain more than once.

No, it's okay to let her know when she does something.

A nag will keep hammering on the same point for over thirty minutes, some will do it for hours and it's just annoying but anytime she makes a fault, please let her know or else you will be bottling up your own emotions which isnt good either.

Speaking from experience, one or two times isn't enough to get someone to change. You know we are not machines. It will take time because it's a habit she has formed.... that's why it's good to keep telling her or she will think you are becoming okay with it.

I am not encouraging you to nag o, lol but you should be free to talk about what you don't like and over time naturally, she will adjust (shebi they say change takes time). The adjustment will not be instant but gradually it will happen.

Finally, like you said, when you notice the ingredient is too much, boycott the food and let her know why you can't eat it. That action would speak more volumes than a lecture.

The first few years are the trickiest. I truly wish you both the best.

Chai...Buhari just keeps making zombie lives tougher. Lmao!

Internship with no pay. Lol! Who dem Epp ?

Yes o! I am in support of democratic marriages. Division of labour for everyone involved.

Nice one OP!

Lol, OP sounds exactly like my husband. but you are not him, cos he is not a Nairalander ....or is he?

Op, your wife you described sounds like my very self, and you sound like my husband although we have been married a few years now so we have adjusted quite well to each other.

My husband hates salt , he prefers eating bland food to something salty although I have eaten a few of the stuff he eats at work o and it's quite salty but when I cook my own and miscalculate the salt a few times, he will not let me hear word again. Lol.

Anyway .... you have married, I can only ask you to accept her the way she is. Afterall, you already knew this before you went ahead and married her. There must be something good about her and that's why you married her. Don't let irrelevant things push you two apart pls.

You two are still adjusting as you only just married a few months back. Give it time and you will both understand each other better. It's quite hard for her to drop years of formed habits just like that.

You need to push her gently where she needs to be pushed. It might seem like work but that's marriage . Realise her faults and make room for it, work with her strengths and make her better.

Over time, she might get to understand how you feel about apologies and would oblige you. Back then I myself could keep malice for days but I think I'm quite better now. Lol.

So please, make room for her... noone is perfect. Ofcourse always let her know when she has misbehaved but don't nag and nag about it after she has understood. With time she will become the woman you want her to be, hopefully .

The way people treat this iPhone na wa o..... abi is juju involved? Steve jobs needs to answer some questions, too bad he isn't around anymore.

Maxvasia:
Very sad indeed. And you are supposed to be wife to an unfortunate man bah? Well no hard feelings but u just showed urself. Its obvious u will end up like her or even worse. Its not far fetched. Your mouth will spoil whatever marriage u enter till u learn to know ur mate. No problem, talk away, its ur time. Reality waits for you in front.

yes, there are many unfortunates such as yourself running around the place but my husband is a man with a good head.

Give your useless advice to your daughters so that they might die in silence and unhappiness in their marital homes just to keep up the façade that all is well. In the end it will blow up in your own face that all wasn't well afterall.

Mate ko Móron ni!

Style007:
madam. I will advice you to have a heart to heart talk with your husband. I know people will tell you that you should not disturb yourself that who wants to cheat will cheat... ignore that type of advice

he is your husband and you know her more than all of us put together do. you can help him, as you said he apologize to you whenever you confront him. it shows he still have conscience and their is still hope for him to change. no marriage is perfect it is only when one tell you about his/hers that u will know

men are polygamous by nature. but cheating in marriage is very bad. there is this Igbo proverb that says "all dogs eats shit but its only the one that eats and didn't clean the mouth that people see"

NOW THE ADVICE

tell him how bitter u are. and how his actions are affecting you negatively. explain to him about how he can contact infections 'he knows that but still tell him' be emotional, cry if you feel like. beg him to forgive you if you have done anything wrong to him...

after all this 'if he have conscience he will beg you to forgive him' forgive him with hot se.x ....yes

now try to look out for things u guys should be doing together. bath together even if u have done yours before he came back, still bath with him..

be more romantic. be naughty sometimes, send him naughty messages sometimes if he is at work. call him on phone and tell him u miss him... look for places both of you will be going together... be it gym,wedding, outing, party.... does he like football dress sexy and follow him to field...

start looking good for him. be classy but dress like a married woman.. when u are with him dress the way people will compliment ur look... it will make him happy and proud of you

some of his friends that knows his bad ways may even join to advice him like "so u have this pretty wife and still chase girls" all those words will go a long way to change him

I know all these are what he suppose to be doing but dear understand marriage is a two way thing not a bf and a gf kinda relationship... their is a huge difference between a girl and a woman..... BE A WOMAN...... CHEERS


pardon my errors I have no time to proof read

very good advice

Maxvasia:
Well my candid contribution is that it is obvious that there is something you are not doing right as evidenced by you, bringing ur marital issues which are meant to be sacred, to the public, which in turn is a good enough reason why he is stupid to have married u in the first place. You need self introspection and reorientation. Marriage is supposed to be sacred to u and not a matter to be discussed on Nairaland with people u dont even know.

shut up jare! Do you know who she is? Do you have her name, contact details and picture from anything she wrote up there. If you do, pls go and report to her husband who I am sure you are in support of.

Hypocrite, if you have nothing to say, pls keep shut. This is a faceless and nameless place, anybody can talk about their problems.

Wow...this is hard.


Plsssss don't mind any idíot chastising you that you are not doing this or that. You are not to blame in anyway. A cheat is a cheat who will find a reason to cheat.

If it were me, I would threaten to cheat on him back just to see what he would say. If he says pls don't, then he still has feelings for you and there might be hope for your marriage but if he says that the marriage will end, then you know your marriage needs to end.

Finally, it's up to you, you obviously want to save your marriage...so I will advise you to use condom when you are doing it before you contract something from one of his numerous friends, and ofcourse commit it to prayer. There's obviously something wrong somewhere with him.

Life in general is a huge 'WHAT IF'..... but it doesn't stop one from trying.

Everyone has fears, it's best not to focus on it but do your own part instead.

Is shr pregnant? Why the maternity gown? She has a good body, why hide it?

Shes practically drowning in fabric.

It won't work, Africans are just too selfish to do.anything worthwhile for their people.

Dan Etete's oil block will have controversy but the ones belonging to Danjuma and the other Northerners will be free of controversy. Mtcheeeeeeeewwwwwww!

esosuo2:
But .Why d guy do face like hu dey bear hot fart lol

lmao, as if you read my mind.

They are not international standard pageant material jare!

This one down here looks like he's seriously trying to hold in a fart, .

What must be going through his mind is like, "ohboy, if I mess by mistake for here, e go be royal mess up.'

Izonpikin:
has the man made any products except making children and cows...

The guy is so freaking annoying..does he know the dynamics of manufacturing before putting up such stiff laws as regards imports and forex in a time of recession??..

but he is adamant at passing the blame on his predecessors, as if he met a dead economy when he resumed office.

A bad workman always blames everything else, including his own tools.

And Boooohari is encouraging made in Nigeria products.

The bride must have stolen the make up artists boyfriend. Lol. That's the only thing that can justify this kind of make down up.

Jethrolite:
Tecno will not think of releasing ota updates for even their recent phones instead they continue releasing more expensive and worthless phones. From this boom j8 I have my eyes squarely on Pixel XL or Note 7.

True talk. What good is an expensive phone if the OS isn't updated frequently. Google phones are the best right now.

Did you say Note7? Isn't that the one that explodes?

Dr. Godwin Marika for President 2019, not one back ward lying power hungry two-faced hypocrite flanked by sycophants and zombies.

PaulIdu:
But the father didn't even have money to buy form two years ago according to him

lmao! I wonder o...maybe he sold some cows to buy this earring.

Lol,operation find a wife in a month....good luck with that.

Lmao! These people are funny sha......

After they ridicule Tinubu, they will begin petting him so that the anger will simmer a bit, lol.

Lol, when Buhari and his brothers sidelined him when awarding appointments to their CPC people, shebi they were sending Northern governors and co to his house.

When Saraki and Dogara usurped power, they were sending house of reps.members to his house, lol.

Like that rat that eats one's feet when one is asleep then when it sees that one is stirring to wake up, it begins to blow air it, lmao!

OP, pls divorce her and marry another one that tells you her true age and when you find the new wife's faults divorce her also and marry another.

Mtcheww! Rubbish.

OP, you have let your wife control you like remote control. As a man you have to put your foot down when it's important. She carried you to Oshogbo and brought you back to Lagos.

Make decisions that are best for your family and not your wife only. Even your wife will be bored of you when you can not make your own decisions and stand by them, instead you flow according to how she pushes you.

Go and take your children from her before she poisons their minds against you.

She has forgotten the vows she made? It's for better or worse, rich or poor. When you marry, you agree to these terms. Leaving you because you are broke is wicked.

If she wants to go, she should go but leave your children. Pls take care of your kids well. Don't be like those men who chase their work and abandon their children. If you want them with you, then keep them safe.

Mtcheeeeew! Hollywood, we know....Bollywood, we know....even Nollywood sef, we know..... What da EFF is a Kanywood?

Two faced hypocrites. Bloody Pharisees.