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JoannaSedley:
Nobody is saying she is innocent. It is for the court to decide. She sued her husband for beating her.
It is not even about her beating her mother in law. Court have no idea that that even happened except a suit is filled against her in a court and in this case, who is going to file the suit. The husband or the MIL. Will the evidence of her beating her MIL still be admissible in court?

JoannaSedley:
YES. He will be sued for robbery and his assailants will be sued for assault and battery.
This shouldn't be a question. You should know that.
Well since you are using internet to define the tradition. Have at it. Meanwhile it onugwo not omugo.
This is the Igbo definition of Omugwo. I don't know where you are from...Delta, Akwacross etc but this is it

Eketem:
The man who steals if any body reports theft will be arraigned for that however those who beat him will face charges of assault if he is the only one who went to report them.

Remember the Ojugo case or the Aluu 4 nobody is talking about the stealing again it is those who beat and killed that are now facing trial

JoannaSedley:
the police will have to arraign the robber first the assailants are in for it.

JoannaSedley:
YES. He will be sued for robbery and his assailants will be sued for assault and battery.
This shouldn't be a question. You should know that.
Well since you are using internet to define the tradition. Have at it. Meanwhile it onugwo not omugo.
This is the Igbo definition of Omugwo. I don't know where you are from...Delta, Akwacross etc but this is it

Eketem:
The man who steals if any body reports theft will be arraigned for that however those who beat him will face charges of assault if he is the only one who went to report them.

Remember the Ojugo case or the Aluu 4 nobody is talking about the stealing again it is those who beat and killed that are now facing trial

JoannaSedley:
YES. He will be sued for robbery and his assailants will be sued for assault and battery.
This shouldn't be a question. You should know that.
Well since you are using internet to define the tradition. Have at it. Meanwhile it onugwo not omugo.
This is the Igbo definition of Omugwo. I don't know where you are from...Delta, Akwacross etc but this is it

JoannaSedley:
YES. He will be sued for robbery and his assailants will be sued for assault and battery.
This shouldn't be a question. You should know that.
Well since you are using internet to define the tradition. Have at it. Meanwhile it onugwo not omugo.
This is the Igbo definition of Omugwo. I don't know where you are from...Delta, Akwacross etc but this is it

JoannaSedley:
I withdraw from this thread as you are not ready to face reality or at most learn something.
He took the laws into his hands. .he is lucky he is still walking free. The wife ...who instigated the whole works and reported with fresh evidence will walk. That's it. Stop being emotional. Next time you should've use your brain instead of brawn.

JoannaSedley:
Is her mother dead, indisposed or uninterested. We are talking about the tradition here. Seems you don't know what it means..my post is self explanatory. Traditionally, it is what it is and it us widely accepted and practised in Igboland. You can borrow other people's culture but do not pass it off as your own.
And I also mentioned who the wife is comfortable with...which maybe her sister, aunt, cousin and in rare cases her in laws...last resort or when she is coerced to accept the arrangement. Traditionally, it has never been the mother in law.
A mother in law from whichever woodworks they crawl out from is a guest in their sons or daughters house. It is not their house and they are guests and should be treated as one with utmost respect accorded to them which they are expected to reciprocate.
You keep on hampering about MIL coming for omugwo. Do you know what it entails ? The continuous bathing, sweeping, cleaning, washing, cooking, taking care of the kids and sleepless night carrying baby they are expected to do. It is not a holiday. Which mother in law in this age and time will subject themselves to that in her sons HOUSE. Some women after giving birth goes into depression and postnatal blues cos of lack of care and the stresses of labour involved then compounding it with typical stereotypes of MIL/DIL fracas.
Most mother's are not been begged to do this it comes spontaneously for them but how can you tell your mother in law
" I want to eat pounded yam and ofe nsala as I do not want the pap you made, It is watery Mum"
" Mum, that's not how I wash their cloths, I normally soak it with hypo"
Mum, Kachi does not like yam he prefers indomie and there is none available"
Mum, can you go to the supermarket, please?"
If your wife tells your mum all these won't you get offended and tell her to deal with it herself but with her mum you won't even bait an eyelid.
People should stop subjecting women to uncomfortable positions and expecting them to deal with it. Mentally unstable women may snap and be utterly violent. Some kill their babies. I'd think the MIL was lucky to be alive.

Eketem:
It is hence he should have gone to the Police station as I stated in my first response, he didn't she did.

He can still go and report her and start another case because if he has not done that he cannot expect justice for his mother in a case she Instituted against him

Eketem:
He can try but I doubt he will be successful as he has already taken the laws into his hands.

JoannaSedley:
He did not report that. Ain't you getting it. ? Him reporting it now will be farfetching as the beating maybe ruled as self inflicted to evoke emotions in court.
Nigerians should start thinking with their brain and not brawn for once.

JoannaSedley:
These shows that you are not anywhere closed to being an Igbo man.
Traditionally, wives lives with there husband's families including the parents and siblings. Then upon giving birth her mother will come from her house to tend to her daughter and her child for four weeks. That is the Igbo tradition and what you are postulating as the tradition is not only fallacious but alien. It is left for the wife to decide who she is comfortable with if the mother is unavailable, and if the couple cannot reach an agreement on this trivial issue then they do not have any reason to be married.
Get someone to educate you properly.

NB: the wife do not need to bond with the mother in law she is not married to her. She owes the mother in law nothing but respect as a guest, as each of them has their own families now.

JoannaSedley:
Oh come on. I am a full blooded Igbo lady, born and bred so don't tell me that. The wife's mother is the tradition. In the case where that is not possible, the wife will choose who will care for her during the postnatal period.
Do people think omugwo is a jamboree affair? It is a very difficult period for every new mother and compounding the process with someone who the wife is not familiar with because that's the way the husband want it is a recipe for disaster. Especially in this case where the wife is an obvious psychiatric patient.

Make them take this tales somewhere else.

JoannaSedley:
It is wrong to say that in Igbo culture the husband's mother comes for omugwo. Its the wife's mother.
No wonder Sh!t hit the ceiling so hard when tradition was not obeyed .

Mad and intolerant wife...and her Mike Tyson husband disgracing themselves infront of neighbours and a magistrate.

dollytino4real:
see different strokes 4 different folkes! who fork her? abeg goats are better of than some men.

Glink2018:
ode! ole 'loruko meji. Ole ni ole nje.
Igbo pipo, call community meeting and find a lasting solutions to all this bad reputation your people usually give us abroad. Abi afi se ni?

Eketem:
You cannot know what every mother in the world wants, just because people say these things doesn't mean every woman wants the same


If he had reported immediately he will have a case, he cannot go and claim she hit his mother now just because she reported her own abuse. He should have taken pictures of his mother's bruises and maybe a medical report and go and report. He has already taken the law into his hands he cannot go now and be seeking justice


Why am I even talking abeg go and report her

Eketem:
You didn't read.

The man should have been the first to report instead of taking the law into his hands.

Right now only him will face trial because she is the only one who reported to the Police.

He has already taken the law into his hands and so the law cannot now be called to serve him.

Some women have their lives revolving around their kids and grandkids some do not. It is faulty to generalise
Society thinks a woman's life should revolve around these things but some women do not think this or want it

Eketem:
No Sir, revenge is not justice, the mother you said won't be happy if she reported to police but the mother was happy that the man hit his wife?

If the case is prosecuted I hope you know he will go to jail or pay a huge fine. The real issue of him hitting his wife won't matter.

If your wife hits your mother report her to the Police let her face the consequences of her actions.



The grandmother can come and carry her baby but not be the one who is solely responsible for child care and running errands.

Please don't say it is the joy of every woman, it is the joy of some women

SilentBang:
What woman hits her mother inlaw don't get it twisted that she is very super capable of killing the husband.

Im a strong advocate of "Men should try never to hit a lady" but i think personally i would have given her a double dose of her medicine... THAT DOESN'T MEAN I WILL BE RIGHT TO... BECAUSE TWO WRONGS DONT MAKE A RIGHT.

That marriage should have been over since... why wait till after the court case.

what is really wrong with us As a Nation and individually we loosing it.

Acidosis:
Any man or woman that beats up her parent or parent in-law shouldn't be allowed to live among humans.

eyinjuege:
What the wife did was evil, however the man and his mother should have reported her to the police for assault and violence against the elderly.
The elderly people are vulnerable groups and are abused everyday by their children with their spouses and grandchildren.
You'll be surprised how common this is, especially on old people with dementia. I won't be surprised if some have been poisoned by their children .
I don't pity the wife for anything, but the husband should have reported her first

Eketem:
We are ever so crude.

He should have reported her to the Police for assault instead of beating her up.


Let her be the one going to court everyday.


Back to the issue, let old women rest and not be dragged into slavery in the name of Omugwuo, let parents learn to care for their kids themselves.

The threat of ending a marriage isn't such a bad thing that women will be crying about these days, they have their own jobs and lives and in some cases even own houses not returning to their parents so most of them don't really care they simply move on


However anybody that introduces violence to a relationship male or female deserves to be alone till they can manage their anger

MrBrownJay1:
better to get rid of such disrespectful woman now than later

MrBrownJay1:
sometimes such issues is a wake up call to let everyone know that this is NOT working and you should just divorce and go your merry ways.