I couldn't tell any of this to my close friends and family cause of shame.
Easier to tell complete strangers you know. I felt ashamed for allowing this to happen.
I got the divorce in 2017 but didn't have the mental energy to kick him out and dealing with the lawyers and such, until this past summer.
I shouldn't be ashamed, the shame isn't mine but it's quite embarrassing to tell family and most friends about such a thing.

He got committed into mental hospital against his will for violent and suicidal behavior before, I found that out much much later.

SweetBuns:

You have only one solution. The law has failed you. Man has failed You. Please turn to God and start praying for yourself.
Relocate to some where far. And when I say far, I mean very far. I hear getting immigration permit in other countries if you have a us visa is easier, so it shouldn't be much of a problem.
He's losing his sanity fast, and he doesn't want help. Please run away. Run!
God will see you through. I've seen too many CSI shows and most murders come from this kind of situation. Police call it "A Crime Of Passion''

I already ran away overseas to the other side of the world.
He is going after the weak and vulnerable people nearby, not very likely to go after me but I still have some fear and watch out.

SweetBuns:

He's a rapist.
He's a thief
He's a sex offender.
He breaks the law.
Please stay safe and be safe. Men are creatures of habit. If he had raped a girl brutally and got away with it, he's sure to do to again. And his next target will be you. He will see it as payback for all the charges you pulled at him. Please, please and please, stay away from anyone who might disclose your whereabouts to him. Your safety and health is paramount. He seems to be a sadist and a very callous fellow.

Texas is ugly? I had always seen it as the steak and cowboy capital of the United States

The girl he raped was local.
I am thousands of miles away, overseas. But I am always cautious, got my address removed from directories and made me population registry record private and closed to everyone except the government. But he is more likely to go after the easy prey, which he did. We have reason to suspect he raped his little nephew. The kid hung himself, why would a9 year old take his own life? I am reporting this to the police too, maybe they will do something cause a child is dead. This is messed up, no one treated this as a suspicious death or done autopsy. A 9 year old boy hangs himself and no one bats an eye. Police doesn't care, no autopsy, no questioning the mother for neglect.

He is a sadist of the highest order, only hid it really well. I was the milking cow and slave, to work and make money to feed his fat lazy arse so he never laid a finger on me but did terrible, terrible psychological torture, threats, sleep deprivation. I planned my escape and ran away. I tried everything to get him arrested, but the rape-torture victim will not speak, she is mentally devastated from the ordeal and the law enforcement doesn't care unless the victim talks. He would be tried and sentenced long time ago in a civilized country!

At least get the jungle justice anywhere else. He wouldn't get away with any of this in Nigeria for sure.

Texas is the cowboy and steak capital but there is also poverty, ghettoes and sick psycho mass murderers.
There are a lot of unsolved murders where I used to live.

SweetBuns:
its a good thing you did. He's crazy. Cover your tracks well please. Don't let him know your whereabouts. He is the type of man who stalks his exes

I try my best, I always have the fear in the back of my head he may try to stalk me, even with the ocean in-between. I feel nervous when I see any car following me, if they follow long enough I get spooked and make a diversion to lose them. It's always coincidence just people going the same direction, but if it's small rods and they take all the same turns, I get really spooked and divert to a well-lit crowded place or main road where I can shake them off in traffic.

highcollide:
So why are you telling us? So that we can go and arranged the house for you?

I tell as a lesson in life, anything can happen to anyone and your life can turn upside down.
I got it cleaned up and getting it fixed. I will post the photos after cleanup and fixes.
There was quite a bit of damage.

Olalan:
The fellow must be having issues with maintaining his sanity he needs to see a doctor before he unleashes the beast in him on a fellow human being

He refused to get help. He started to have paranoid delusions and started making threats to my life. Was quite normal in the beginning, known as a good person who helped the weak and poor.
He got real nasty and aggressive if anyone suggested he should get mental help. I left when I felt unsafe and he threatened me with a gun.

SweetBuns:
Some men are just very inconsiderate and stupid. Sometimes they act without thinking. How does this actions done by him help the matter now?
Sister you'd better stay far away from him. If he could destroy things that belongs to you like this then imagine what he'd do if he had the chance to deal with you.

Oh I ran away for my life and took my things with me. He stole my gold, silver, valuable things and never gave any of it back, despite the court order. I learned later it is pointless to try to enforce the court order, it will cost me tons of money and I am not likely to get it back. Apparently he won't even go to jail for stealing my valuables, or trashing my house. He completely got away with this.

I learned that he kidnapped, tortured and brutally raped a woman who is a friend's girlfriend. He bullied and intimidated the victim so bad, she refuses to go to the police, refuses to leave her apartment too. We couldn't convince her to file charges. She is convinced he will go kill all of her family if she talks. We don't know how many other people he possibly hurt. I tried to call the sheriff's department to report him as a violent criminal, but they brushed me off and said they can do nothing unless the victim herself comes forth and officially presses charges. They will do NOTHING and let a violent, sick psycho walk free and get away with all this crime.

This is Texas for you.
Dark and ugly side of America.

SweetBuns:

Are you in Nigeria or in diaspora?

I have never been to Nigeria.
The house is in the US (Texas), I'm in Europe. Ran away form that monster pretty much.

Not cheap to remove all that trash from the house and the dumped junk-furniture form the yard.

I can't hate that sick b*stard enough and no amount of beating and torture would be enough for what he did to me and my house over those years.

He was not present when they did the eviction, neighbors said he got a long haul truck driving job and wasn't coming home much.
I hope he dies in a fire burning and screaming somewhere out in the middle of nowhere.

More stills from the video showing the horrifying state of the kitchen and living room.

How could anyone do this?
His old roommate told me he didn't allow the guy to vacuum and clean anything.

I hope he dies from cancer and rots in a ditch!

Photo 1: The hole in the bedroom ceiling

Photo 2: Disgusting bathroom

Photo 3: Grossly neglected, overgrown backyard

Photo 4: Living room from another angle

Photo 1: The living room

Photo 2: The kitchen bar, he hoarded trash for 2 years and the place became a breeding grounds for swarms of flies and cockroaches, sick f**k hung flypapers all over the place instead of cleaning up.

Photos 3,4: The bedroom, completely trashed. He is a fat blob like Jabba the Hut, kept eating fast food and drinking soda and just throwing all the trash on the floor, and actually LIVED in that mess.

Dealing with this has ben mentally and emotionally (not to mention financially) exhausting and terrible.

Photos 1 and 4: The living room
Photo 2: Toilet and sink had to be replaced, they were messed up beyond any hope.
Photo 3: This is a huge hole in the bedroom ceiling. He refused to trim the trees for years and one branch fell in and punched a huge hole through the roof. He fixed the roof tiles but not that horrible hole in the ceiling. I learned about this from old friends, who started talking to me (he told them lies and cut their contact from me, but they eventually woke up and told me everyhting.)

I have been away for a while cause I have been fighting legal battles to evict my ex who has been illegally squatting at my house months after divorce. It took forever to kick him out of there cause I'm overseas and it's difficult to coordinate things with 8 hours time difference.
Constable kept dragging his feet and made stupid excuses to delay it and cost me a ton of money. The lawyer was not very communicative and didn't do a good job with pushign the constable. In the end I had to personally call the constable office and literally weep and scream on the phone to get them to realize I am the victim and my house is being trashed (which I was told by friends who visited there, before my ex turned completely psycho and alienated them all.)


He went more and more insane and turned into a sick trash hoarder.

This is the state of my house after they removed the broken, old, trashed furniture. 1st photo is the furniture and some of my old stuff piled in the front yard. The others are in the house.
It used to be nice when I lived there. It became totally unrecognizeable, literally a "Hoarders buried alive" episode and a horror show.
I steeled myself hardcore not to have a heart attack when my lawyer sent me the video report post-eviction.



Edit note: The house is in Texas. I'm in Europe. The monster wasn't there when they evicted him.

One word: Pheromones.

amhelpless:
I was with friend today when someone said he has slept with 7 girls this year alone, and I was so ashamed of myself because I have lost count, let me tell you, I dont look for girls to sleep with, I slept with two different girls today and two other girls were still calling me till around 11.30, I didnt go to pick any of them because I hate going to drop them in the morning when I should be getting ready for work, my problem is if I sleep with one girl, every girl around her will want to sleep with me.. I left my last job when my boss discovered she was not the only one sleeping with me in our office, she fired me and ended the relationship .. she asked the person in charge to give me a sack later when she was out of town.

3 months later, she started calling me , begging me, saying she told her friend in another company to fix me in their company but I already got another job through another lady.

you wont believe she drove all the way from Abuja to my hometown in 2016 December to know my people, she wanted to marry me but I can not marry a divorcee , mother of one, who even senior me with about 12 years.. God forbid, I'm not looking for another mother, I already have one.

the truth is am well endowed , curve upward, bigger, thicker and longer and I feel little or no pleasure when nacking , the only pleasure I derive is seeing ladies acting funny when they want to cum, some of them will squirt , they will rush to the bathroom and be exhaling seriously , some will grab you tight like they want to kill you ..lol, some will be so stiff , and some will almost lose their breath , they always forget something, and later that week, you will see some of their friends calling me to confessing they stole my number from their friend's phone after they had a gist about me.

I find it embarrassing and I have been trying to stop, I don't toast women, imagine a lady coming to pick you at work, with food and lubricant ?

now my biggest problem is any time I try to keep a woman for myself, some people will go and tell her bla bla bla and she will start unnecessary monitoring and eventually leave, one said, no one has ever made her feel the way I made her feel, she practically wrote a full page on my jotter which another lady found when tiding up the house, imagine a lady who I have not seen in 5 months, we have not even be talking after they last time, just called me , saying she will be coming to town just to come and spend weekend with me.

I heard my grandfather married 13 wives, the reason I have so many cousins,so I'm thinking I took after the man.

AlphaStyles:
finally some one who gets it thank u mam

If they say I look like Yoruba you can have a good laugh at least!

AlphaStyles:
finally some one who gets it thank u mam

You are welcome!
I am on Nairaland too, for quite a few months

AlphaStyles:
do i look like yoruba to u? does everybody on nairaland look like hausa,igbo or yoruba to u?

Most definitely not everyone

Great info about the diaspora heroes.
Great collection of photos especially the 19th and early 20th century.
Calabar people dressed so well back then. Are they known for fashion today too?

Mimi0620:
Vegetable soup, goat meat and eba Igbo.

That looks so yummy! What's eba Igbo?

awelekiti:
I see. Nothing to fear dear. Their malls are safe. By the way, where are you?

I'm in Finland. Not a big fan of shopping malls and shopping unnecessary things, anyway. I'd rather take photos of the architecture, historical buildings and museum artifacts. Photos don't weigh anything! Or cost anything.

awelekiti:
Pls do. France has amazing sites . You'd also enjoy amazing shopping in their malls in Paris. The below is Eiffel tower. I took the photograph of it during my visit recently. The ground floor was under renovation as of then. I also snapped pictures there but can't display my face here, lol. I'm a public figure so, I like keeping my identity anonymous here as always .

I think I will avoid the malls, I have sensory processing disorder and I can go to noisy places only with earplugs. But the malls have far more stimuli than noise, it literally makes me ill to spend more than 5 minutes there. I think I'll be more interested i the architecture, historical places, museums. If you are a public figure in Nigeria I wouldn't recognize you anyway, I don't even recognize the public figures where I live

Not a good idea to go there in major holiday season cause of islamist terrorist attacks. But the city is so beautiful with all the history and geat arctitecture, I should go if I can find a travel companion (I can't travel on my own to unfamiliar big cities cause of my sensory processing problems and dyspraxia issues) so I will go when one of my friends is going.

awelekiti:
Wow! I was at this very location this year's summer. The structure is still very intact till today. I also visited Eiffel tower. Amazing !

They were lucky none of it got destroyed in earthquakes or WW2 bombing.
I want to visit there some day.

Filmed by the Lumière brothers in the dawn of film. They added sound for ambiance, the original was silent. Very clear video showing what it was like 120+ years ago


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NjDclfAFRB4

nextstep:
This year, I'm staying put. I no dey comot. Chilling with my immediate family, and sleeping.
Don't have money for slay mamas, hotels, clubs, house parties, street parties, my village people, police, FRSC, fuel scarcity vendors, transporters, kidnappers, or even pastor.

When the Yuletide comes and goes, and the country returns to normal, ehen, you will find me going places.

No village people?

1. Lamb chops seasoned with thyme, with a side of white rice. Lamb is ao expensive here and not anywhere near, I found a South African artisan meat chef who tells fresh meats, makes South African biltong, droewors, boerewors, British sausages, he had great low prices so I jumped at the opportunity.

2. American pumpkin pie with real pumpkin (most people use canned pumpkin which is crap, stuffed with cheaper gourds like butternut squash and full of chemicals.)

I bought 3 pumpkins, roasted and mashed them all, made this pumpkin pie then froze the rest so I can make a few more pumpkin pies. No chemicals!

jagugu88li:
Table cloth, pots, metal plate all gifts from Nana (grandma).

4 days dinner...

Oooo this looks like a kingly feast! Can I come to dinner some day? Looks soooooo good!

funmisticqueen:
black people are always exploited especially in the media.


First things first, racially ambigious and mixed race people are not black. they do not have the same struggles as black people.

for more info, read more on colorism. Cos it is rampant even in nigeria

This is very sad. Whenever wedding photo threads are posted here, if the bride has very dark skin lot of the Nairaland boys start screaming "She's so lack! What did that guy find in her? She's ugly! I like light skinned women!" Then they complain about girls bleaching. There is always a whole gang of men badmouthing the African women with dark skin tone and calling them ugly. Those men should be shamed for spreading colorism. All colors are beautiful.

Joe88:
What about the blacks bleaching their skin to look like the white. Was Michael Jackson ever called out for changing his skin color and appearance to a white man's?

Michael Jackson claimed to have vitiligo disease and bleached to make his skin tone even. There was also a rumor that he bleached his skin and got cosmetic surgeries to look like Diana Ross cause he was obsessed with her.

Here is the instagram of the Swedish fake black girl:

https://www.instagram.com/eemmahallberg/

She tries real hard to look like mixed race. Makeup can do such radical changes, she even looks like half Chinese half African in some of it.

nextstep:


Well summed up. Here I am looking for how I'm going to take care of family, and people are complaining about irrelevant matters.

These same black girls will be straightening their hair, lightening their skin (to look oyinbo), yet complain when other races want to look black.
OK so black fishing are doing it for compliments and raising their social media value... isn't that what black girls do when they straighten their hair to be more "acceptable"?

Why can't people be happy with what they have?

kongolo:

@emboldened Bullshiit.About three Indian men were shot dead last year in a high-brow area in the US because their attackers falsely believed they were Arabs.
Racism is an attack on a persons/people's identity not the development garbage you posted up there.
You are a white person.YOU HAVE NO SAY ON WHAT IS RACIST OR NOT.YOUR ILK ARE ONE OF THE MAIN PROPAGATORS OF THE BULLSHIIT.I SUGGEST YOU TAKE A SEAT AND SHUT UP

That's an isolated incident, not institutionalized racism.
US software companies are full of managers from India, including executives. Racism is bad and shouldn't happen regardless of anyones country of origin or color, but that's the way things are. Black guy with US or UK passport will be treated much different in Asian countries than one with the passport of poor African country.