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is this place still regulated?

takes a deep breathe...this war no dey end sef

TRIBALISM!!!!!

hahahaha..shoo!..na wa

na wa

MITCHELL96:
Mumu man, he's not sensitive enough to know the girl doesn't give a F about him, see as he's begging her to reply sef

He needs to be knocked very hard on the head!

.. hahahaha...true though

This may not make much sense or be 100%,so it's open for criticism...Let's go

1) men know your responsibilities in the relationship/marriage

2) women know your responsibilities in the relationship/marriage

NUMBER THREE IS THE GOLDEN RULE AND THE MOST IMPORTANT..IT MIGHT BE THE BEDROCK OF A GREAT AND SUCCESSFUL HOME.

3) SUPPORT YOURSELVES IN ACHIEVING YOUR VARIOUS RESPONSIBILITIES... ALWAYS REMEMBER ITS A TEAM WORK...in football,its almost impossible to win a game with a goal keeper!!

God1000:
I don't have to mention their titles, we've all watched them, very interesting movies.


Seun, lalasticlala, myn44

... TITANIC

Some thing as little as APPRECIATION might be just the little pinch of salt missing in that relationship...it really takes nothing for a man to say thank you for a meal,a glass of water,a clean home,a well arranged clothes etc.before you're quick to say "is she not my wife,if she doesn't do it who will"..calm down and take a second to think about the women who don't do those things.

For a woman,it takes absolutely nothing from you to say thank you when the man pays the fees for the kids..Yes,say it!.. remember those man who have the money be never take care of fees or the kids...say thank you when he does those things that you tag his responsibilities because trust me some men don't do those things and you can't really kill them for it!

these little things may become totally non-existent in a relationship and that might just be the beginning of the end of that union.. Appreciation is a special tool...Two couples that really appreciate themselves have the tendency of going very far..Seeing a movie together and one of the couple gets thirsty,goes to get himself/herself water and ask the other what he/she would like to drink...Rich or poor Appreciation is key..you can see a "poor" couple happy..IT MIGHT JUST BE HOW MUCH THEY APPRECIATE THEMSELVES THAT KEEPS THEM GOING...please this is not 100% but it might be worth trying out!

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

...bro if you don't succeed in fixing yourself and help your help too..don't go abroad with her o..cus you will regret it...I have seen cases where a woman will break her own nose herself and call the cops on the husband... please be careful...and note Western world don't find cheating on a woman funny at all..

Gokoyer0:
Sir, can you say that something else can't trigger her apart from the bolded in the future?

...I said MAJOR,I DIDN'T SAY ITS THE ONLY TRIGGER...try to understand well...and from the story most of their fights are caused by the flirting issue

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

.... firstly you must fix your end very well,that way her triggers can be managed... she is hyper temperamental...so if flirting is the major cus of the fights,do the right thing bro,STOP FLIRTING. ..then after that start loving her more,give her attention more...from the way u talk..you really love this woman but flirting is breaking your home...you wife is very jealous!..in as much as she is wrong in destroying stuffs,just try to make her happier...if you don't fix your end and help her through hers,bro abroad will be disaster for you... WOMEN ARE EXTREMELY PROTECTED ABROAD..FIX YOURSELF AND HELP HET FIX HERSELF TOO ..stop flirting and a reasonable part of your Marital issues is solved ..I wish you the best

lalasticlala:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ReemPLgPcjE

West Ham ace Kurt Zouma filmed KICKING and slapping his pet cat in horrific video.

.,..zouma you will be arrested o...be careful... LoL...that cat has more RIGHTS than you o...Western world protects children first,women second,pets third and man last.... LoL

Anxiety2022:
I just got diagnosed of been HIV+. I don't even know what to do or where to start at this phase in life. Dream looks shambles. I had that HIV positive patient must take it's drugs everyday in other to survive. I really do not know where to start. I feel like taking my life away. Who can give me a concrete advise on how to survive this. The trauma is much on me. I really do not know who to ask for favor. I am looking forward for your advice.

Secondly is the drugs affordable?

....the drugs are free ..get registered in a government clinic... HIV is easily managed compared to some other more deadly illness...wish you the best bro

na wa.....any need for all these in an online forum,where anyone can be anything at any point in time.... SMH

good old days...when life was eventful...this book was the first days of climbing the education MOUNTAIN

In this time of very high rate of molestation and defilement of kids... someone still post this kind of stuff...na really wa

na wa...na bad government still cause this one... SMH...some people suppose dey sanko or zoo or museum

silverlinen:
How Mendy take win that award please someone should explain to me
Caf with their political football

...Mendy played 5games kept 3 clean sheets...gabaski played 3 and half games kept two and half clean sheets... goal keepers are judged by number of clean sheets... gabaski is second choice that's why he didn't play much games

tribal war loading.... Lol...bro you shouldn't have involved tribe in this issue...is the tribal the issue or the affair?... anyways talk to your bro about the possible consequences of his actions cus even if you tell the wife,if your bro wants to still continue the affair he will

StoicAdvisor:
The chance of balancing both are 100%. Its not an issue of probability, but of certainty. That's why I said that sometimes, the head takes the front sit, and this is an example of such scenario.

If you feel you have to take a dangerous road, then you must damn your feelings and go the safer route. It's same with anger, envy and jealousy. It might push you to do bad things but you know you shouldn't.

... okay...this only validates the initial post which is basically the difference between the two faculties...the heart may push for something not so good while the head counters it...the post was DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO FACULTIES AND HOW THEY COULD ANALYSE THINGS DIFFERENTLY...it does not mean any is better than the other...cus the decision from the heart pays off too as much as the head....eg it's possible walking that dangerous route and don't get hurt to see the person your heart wants to go see

StoicAdvisor:
The way you tabled it made it seems like the heart is bad, and the head is good. That's wrong. Both are good, and compliments each other. One should not go without the other, otherwise it there will be a lack of balance. There are places the heart leads, and the brain follows and vice versa.

....what are the chances of balancing both?...just thinking aloud though...is it that easy?...for example you know a road is bad,that you might be robbed if you take that route...but due to love you will trek to go see a lover ( that's more of your heart) while your head(brain) tells you not to.... hahahaha... Lol...na joke o

Candidlady:
Listen to heartbeat by proverb

...sound poetic...*winks*

Truvelisback:
Bro, the Head too suffers. Too much thinking, too responsibility, too much stress, too much sleepless night, etc.

... hahahaha... ofcourse that's where the analytical function comes in..some times brings forth very good judgement

Datboredberry:
That's why a balance is needed... It's stupid to not your heart... Impossible... So your advice makes no sense...

Empathy, love, devotion, loyalty, trust, hope... It's the heart... The would would be a dark, cold, bitter place without it...

Only heartbroken, insecure people are scared of their own emotions...

It's the irony... The strongest people are those who've been able to love, genuinely...

The weakest are those who've been beaten so much, they've refused to rise up once again...

It's a defence mechanism...

....I get your point...but it wasn't really an advise though

1) The heart is foolish; the head is wise

2) the heart doesn't have eyes and can't see; the head has eyes and can see

3) the heart suffers heart break(emotional)); the head doesn't suffer that

4) the heart is sentimental; the head is analytical

5) the heart gives excuses and may make one make wrong decisions in relationships; the head also drives you to make the right decisions

6) the right decision made by the head can give the heart heart break cus of the sentiments of the heart

7) weaker people follow the heart a lot; stronger people follow the head

weak willed people depend on the heart; strong willed people depend on the head

9) the heart can be deceptive; the head can be very much truthful

10) the heart gives joy in the short term; the head gives more long term joy even if it may seem hard at the beginning

there are still some very good successful guys but it's really difficult to be rich and not have one of those shortcomings like alcohol, womanizing and smoking...you know the saying "MORE MONEY,MORE TROUBLE (LESS DISCIPLINE)..but trust me with strong will, discipline and setting of one's priority right,money can't really change or control a man..WE SHOULD CONTROL MONEY AND DON'T LET MONEY CONTROL US...do more charity!!

uncle your marriage is an epitome of secrets and your wife is the chairlady of those secrets...the next will be you committing suicide,if you don't run for your life...she and her family are just playing you ..this kind matter na Las Las we go hear say "WIFE RUNS AWAY TO CANADA WITH HER LOVER"...hope you go still come for advise that time?... people are desperately wicked...so be wise...use your tongue count your teeth

there's a man/woman for everyone...love shouldn't be stressful...don't chase those that will never run after you,don't settle for those that don't value you or see you as LESS!...A wealthy woman can value a man she loves whether she is richer or not ....some "broke" partners even gives more trouble and heartache...God help us all

;Dpublic assault for proposal?...quite dumb and disrespectful....well I wish her more slaps ..slap for wedding anniversary...punch for silver jubilee and a casket for golden jubilee..... Lol ;Dpublic assault for proposal?...quite dumb and disrespectful....well I wish her more slaps ..slap for wedding anniversary...punch for silver jubilee and a casket for golden jubilee..... Lol

since you didn't retrieve it before the break up and you are sure you didn't give her the laptop permanently cus some people after break up then want stuffs back...once you are sure it was lending..get the police involved and make sure you have proof of ownership..you will surely get it back..use the police so you don't get yourself hurt over nothing..good luck