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Nedangel:
So this girl ( 15 years) was brought to my house by my wife after my wife gave birth a year after. My wife said she really needs someone to help her, but I kicked against it. After much pestering from my wife, I agreed.
I sooo much have feelings for this girl.
I have fought it so much. Some times my wife is out/ travels and am alone with her and kid when am back from work. But this strong feeling comes up and I feel like having her. Most times I find my self thinking about this girl. It's to the point that my chest pains me.. When I ask my wife for s*x, Most times & always she says she's tired.
Please it's really affecting me, it's eating me up. I need suggestions/ advice from my well meaning Nairalanders. Thanks allot.

bro it's lust...and she is underaged..you can't handle the consequences that may arise from sleeping with the innocent little girl...please control yourself because sending her away might be a little difficult cus she helps your wife.... so what reason would you give your wife that's making you to want her to go?..you might lose respect from your wife if she discovers that lust made you send her away...but it's better you send the little girl away than fall for the temptation and "destroy" the girls life..please be wise enough to know that you have no business sleeping with that little girl.. please

NO gender is superior and No gender is inferior,both gender needs love,care, respect and understanding from each other.And come to think of it NO ONE CHOOSE HIS/HER GENDER ON CREATION..both need each other.


NO tribe is superior and none is inferior,why fight over something you did not choose or something you can't change?.. humanity should be respected and tolerated.


About religion,why fight for superiority when a very large percentage never chose any religion, they're there just because they were born into it..

In the Western world you will never see age, religion,tribe or gender in a CV when looking for a job, doesn't that tell you the level of irrelevance those parameters are?..Life should be what a individual has to offer NOT his or her gender,tribe or religion.

Finally,in arguments it's about opinions,no opinion is more superior..that's why it's encouraged to use "in my opinion" in a more civilized argument and conversation... Remember most times no one actually wins an argument,one party just gets tired and moves on..so?.. there's absolutely no need to force your opinion down the throat of anyone.. opinions must be respected, tolerated and criticised constructively without insults or anyone made to look inferior...LIFE IS A LEARNING CURVE.

LoL..na wa

Everyone should really be careful,it's not only females that are targets for ritual purposes,guys are used too......some guys have fallen victims cus of quest for free drinks,food,party,club and rolling with "big boys"...please this should not be a gender issue cus it's something very serious...a guy was drugged and kill then body parts removed in anambra...ritual knows no gender...we should all be careful the friends and places we go be you a male or a female

golor:
She's a graduate ....and, a makeup artist..she can still learn any skill if needed .what documents are u talking about ...I planned doing court wedding and take pictures as evidence should in case it's needed for her coming

...then it's easy,just get to Canada,file for her to come..Canada gives work permit to spouse of students...I don't know how much you trust this lady or how much of a good person she is but trust me this is the best bet...she will work full time and make good money...I pray she is really a good person and won't get carried away

golor:
Good morning fam , please I am in a total preparation to travel to Canada for a master but there's this girl HV been dating for long and wish to marry how do I make it easy for her to come over to Canada after my travel to Canada. People with experience please tell me what I need to do before I travel .

...the easiest way is to marry her ..go to any local government registry and get married...we you get to Canada...file for her to join u...spouse sponsorship...she will be given work permit on arrival...and you will be the one to apply for renewal and even PR when the time comes...if you haven't applied for the Visa yet...then go to the local government registry and marry her..20k or less don solve the problem...then u use the document of proof of marriage to apply... except you don't want to marry her yet but why would u want to take her abroad when u ain't gonna marry her immediately?...do the needful...just an agreement between you two...if she no gree...let her be cus it will cost you alot to bring her to Canada without marriage...u won't want to go through all that bro ..all the best

Olori003:
Good morning,

I have tried searching for threads I can find in relative to this question but I seem not to find any.... I just want to know if its really compulsory to change name if one wants to travel to Canada with ones spouse? And if I don't want to what do I present to show I'm married.. thanks

present proof of marriage from the local government or if you like court marriage you can use that too...change of name not needed...the local government marriage document is all you need

love is give and take... sharing of time, emotions etc not always only money..so when it's one sided,then YOU SHOULD BE CAREFUL

na wa

so sorry about your mum... wasn't she on medication to control her blood pressure before now,?..so sorry..you can only be there for her and hopefully she comes good... constant medication is key for high blood pressure patients...so sorry,you need to be strong cus she really needs you and your sibling(s) now

when we no see peace abi na piss or urine for naija... hissssss

MorataFC:
France was leading with 20 points at some point before Nigeria catch up with them
What a win!!!

...wow...that's great...they did well

mehn,these ladies tried o...only felt they could beat Mali in the last group game and stood no chance against China and France....thumbs up...France is a power House in basketball

if only they will be duly convicted,e for good,they go dey reduce...bribe loading!!!!

Candidlady:
Yeah thank you


Do have a groovy weekend

..lol... groovy?..don't really know about that...but I will try to stay happy....have a great weekend..be good

Candidlady:
No we are good... Sorry if isounded rude...

But my health is good/better/best

..not offended at all...I really got concerned but felt you won't be okay if I asked...so I kept thinking about a way to ask for days......thank God and sure you shall be at your BEST going forward

Candidlady:


Have iever told you igot issues with my health ?

...sorry to intrude...I read a post of yours and got a little concerned....so sorry...apologies

Candidlady:
Ever heard of run DMc

Idoubt

...I don't wish to take much of your time or disturb your conversation....just want to ask how you are doing with regards to your health?

Candidlady:
Afternoon
Hope you are doing great




Lol

Around where ? Same kubwa..?
Now imagine what the price will be like in Jos

Yes...I am doing great....how are you doing today?

Candidlady:



You got that for 35 thou? Maybe mr kabiru got the fake... Cuz they look so much alike...


Modified: illicit thank you... Our security guard got that same thing there around dutse... Again maybe mr KB got the fake..

Bull was up with your music career? Heard it is sinking faster than the Titanic !!

...hello candidlady... good afternoon

you see why we are where we are...a law is broken,the sanctions roll out...and we call it racism..too bad....zouma wasn't reported by anyone...he did what he did..his bro filmed it and posted it...is that not mocking the law?...there is racism but this particular issue...zoumas went too far...so blacks should stop playing the VICTIMS CARD..someone has been jailed before for partaking in DOG FIGHTING BETTING...he got about two years jail term...order to pay $1m for the care and adoption for the dogs he has been fighting....read about MICHEAL VICK,he was an American football star...that scandal halted his career.... ANIMAL CRUELTY IS NO JOKE...zouma go get am hot..this is no racism

IamV:
Kurt Zouma’s younger brother, Yoan, banned from playing for Dagenham and Redbridge after filming West Ham star’s cat incidence.

Source:
https://www.thesun.co.uk/sport/football/17613184/kurt-zouma-brother-yoan-banned-cat-attack/?utm_medium=Social&utm_campaign=sunfootballtwitter&utm_source=Twitter#Echobox=1644508333

.... sometimes I just doubt the sanity of some people...you are in.a land where you should know about the laws that protect animals..now you brutalized a cat,another devil told your bro to film it and a bigger devil told him to post it...for what reason?...the zoumas have not told us what their problem is.... ANIMAL CRUELTY IS NO JOKE ABROAD...they should have the music... rubbish!..

WriterNig:
Zlatan doesn't need a bodyguard. Bodyguards need a Zlatan.....

Lalasticlala Mynd44 Seun

... exactly,the dude is a black belt holder in karate.....lol

hilarious... NOTHING MUSA NOR GO SEE FOR SUPER EAGLES!

Havesomesense:
My girlfriend of 1 year and 5 months just told me that she has a daughter.
She said she was impregnated at the age of 16 in 2015 by a guy who promised to give her admission. She said they had sex once and that the guy took away her virginity.
My girlfriend will be 24 this year and her daughter will be 7 years.

I asked her for proof and she showed me her daughter's birthday certificate with her name written as the mother and pictures of her daughter when she was a baby.
She is not involved in her daughter's life, her daughter lives with her Aunt.

I wouldn't have fallen in love with my girlfriend if she had told me in the beginning of the relationship that she has a child.
I remember telling her multiples times when we talked about baby mama's in the early stage of our relationship that I can fvvk them but I can't have anything serious with them.

I still love my girlfriend but I'm not proud of her currently.

I need opinions of matured folks concerning this issue.

I don't want this post to appear on front page.

Finally, my perception of girls has changed for worse.

...the only wrong your girlfriend did was not telling you from the beginning..*I wonder she should not be proud of a daughter that people would give up everything to have*...well bro,if you can forgive her and she never keeps secret from you next time..then continue with your relationship..and please remember since you love her,love the little girl too,she didn't bring herself to this world...so please if you can't love them both,then QUIT....let your girl learn to open up and trust you in all issues...secrets like these ain't good...love them both or quit..cus your girl will never be happy in that relationship if you don't love daughter as well...forget her if you can and if you still love and want the relationship..

Candidlady:
Last week friday was one hell of a day,. Since am nat allowed any form of clubbing/partying outside the house until ful completion of my "sober probation".. Idecided to bring the party to the house

rang couple of friends. Ihad the house and 'er living and non living thing to myself.

as at 9pm iwas already faded. Trust the effect of been on snow and mitpils. Some kinda music became noise, even the few friends around become a crowd. Ijust wanted to be left alone¤effect of mitz¤


so idecided to go sit by the pool where icould let the effect sink in. It was shadow that first came to sit by me. Inoticed this dog wont stop looking at me. Truth is then iwas already contemplating taking my life¤with the hope of getting eternal peace, and saying a final bye bye to the mental trauma¤

...first of all,let me apologise for kinda invading your privacy but please no matter what it is,taking your life doesn't really guarantee any solution..one wicked thing about drugs and alcohol is that,they never guarantee any solution to any problem we face,they only give temporary "joy" but once the effect goes away,the problem comes back even double..please just try to surround yourself with people that genuinely love and care about you cus trust me they are people that truly do..love and care about you selflessly without wanting anything in return..I KNOW YOU CAN PULL THROUGH ANY FORM OF DRUG USAGE.. please life is really worth living even when sometimes we don't really see reasons to continue but the fact that we are alive we try and don't give up..drug is just an habit and I believe you can pull through...stay safe..God bless you richly ma'am..thanks and sorry for the epistle..I wish you get better soonest

[quote author=GodHatesBigots post=110087697][/quote]...but terrorist will attack the military irrespective of the weather....NAIJA WE HAIL THEE

naija matter don tire person...na our leaders headache go kill NOT US;the citizens

Feeyarh:
I don't know if this is normal. I've never had a relationship in my life
I just find it difficult and feel it is a disturbance to my life and career. Although I'm the introverted type,I can stay indoor for as long as possible in as much as there is food ,water and internet. And even if I go out I frown to make me look unapproachable.
For example if someone ask me out today, I will block him on all social media platforms coz I think he's going to disturb my life.
Been the first child of the family, my mom is stylishly asking about my relationship life, infact she wants me to introduce my boyfriend to her since I've graduated from school but I've not opened up to her abt it.
Nairalanders, Do you think this is normal?
You can also help me on tips to stop this act coz honestly I'm tired[right][/right][left][/left]

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it's very much normal...as you said you're are focusing on your career for now...my only advise is for a to be a little more friendly,interact a little though I understand you're an introvert but you could still relate with people you share similar interest with...and when a guy is wooing you and you ain't ready...tell him NO .. frowning to put off people or blocking guys ain't too good...so just relate more and always keep an open mind...YOUR CAREER IS MORE IMPORTANT AND TRUST ME;LOVE WILL DEFINITELY FIND YOU..wish you all the best

Candidlady:
Truth is your last paragraph confused me... Thanks anyway..


Ithink the word is demonic.

....been goes with have,had while being goes with is,was,were.
eg I have been working
I had never been there before

she is being polite
she was being nice
we were being curious


I hope this helps..

Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

...first of all...take a break... evaluate the kind of woman you want..as in the key things you want... secondly keep sex away from the relationship,so you can grow intim acy outside sex cus the problem here MIGHT just be having sex too early without building any form of friendship and companionship...trust me friendship is so so important cus when love tends to be reducing in any relationship, friendship will hold that relationship and help rekindle the love; thirdly please be ready mentally before you think of marriage cus you will be seeing that face every day for most years of your life...so you must tell yourself I'M READY FOR THIS, I'M READY TO SEE THIS PERSON ALWAYS...the sex fit tire u sef under two months,then reality sets in....so please build friendship, companionship and bonding without sex at the early stages... sex may even make you think you are in love when you are not..take your time and don't rush..I wish you the best