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RomanceRe: When Ladies Were Wooed With Letters by Rival(op): 5:14pm On Aug 20, 2014
jennylove7575: ha ha ha you should know na. my charger is main source of my power supply.. grin can't be left behind.
Ok.... But I hope you're not using it to charge other batteris! grin
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Oh Xynerise! I Need You. I Love Everything About You. by Rival(m): 5:08pm On Aug 20, 2014
Liability? ...There is fire on the mountain... grin
RomanceRe: When Ladies Were Wooed With Letters by Rival(op): 7:50pm On Aug 19, 2014
jennylove7575: Last week I received a love letter from my ex.with a bunch of flower begging me to come back to him. Thank goodness he is not Nigerian I would not have been writing this here.... I threw the flower in the bin and read the letter. It said,

My dearest Jenny
Hope this letter meet u in good fate. Please i want us back. Since u left and stop powering my battery my system have been down. It has been difficult for me to browse other networks to recharge nor discharge.Please I cannot continue to live without you..your power supply is what I need now..I missed you. pls call me.

Yours forever
Nzwanni

Hmm! cheesy
So when are you going to power his battery? grin At least you could have left the charger while leaving!
RomanceWhat Your Girlfriend Is Saying When You Call Her On The Phone by Rival(op):
Sometimes it’s not as she seems on the phone! She could be suppressing a feeling!

For the guys who call their girlfriends often thinking they are being romantic, caring or otherwise, some girls think differently of your calling attitude!

Now hear this and why would a girlfriend react the way she did?

A neighbor of mine, whom I was with, had her boyfriend call! He had called a while back and the call came the second time!
Hear her, with a frown, “What kind of man is this na? Why is he disturbing me like this?” Then she heaved a laborious sigh before picking the call!

Now what could be responsible for this behavior?
RomanceRe: When Ladies Were Wooed With Letters by Rival(op): 11:05am On Aug 19, 2014
dytbabe: I rem I wrote one to a guy too I was crushing on, he gave me my first peck on the lip.
*smiles*

Only a peck! grin
RomanceRe: When Ladies Were Wooed With Letters by Rival(op): 10:56am On Aug 19, 2014
Tolexander: Another interesting parts of the letter writing is that it wasn't something you could just write in a matter of seconds.
You would need sitting down for hours or days to draft after consulting dictionaries and friends that are gurus in the line. Most times they were always of the same verses. Cos the verses were from the days of Witney Houston, Boys II men (the blues in the 80s in short), Celine Dion and later, westlifes.

After drafting the letter, one would now sit down calmly to write on a clean sheet of paper with [b]very fine handwriting or call on a trusted friend or sib with a very fine handwriting to help write the letter drafted, with close monitoring so that there won't be any mistake. And if there is, that's gonna be another paper.[/b]

Many times, they weren't given by the persons trying to woo the lady/guy but the accomplice.
Imagine all the effort, dedication and meticulousness required to convey your feelings! grin .... And back in school, one would embellish it with one or two Big words to let the lady know that you're not dull! grin Oh, sweet days gone by!
RomanceRe: When Ladies Were Wooed With Letters by Rival(op): 10:41am On Aug 19, 2014
Tolexander: those days were good bro!

One would keep the letters for long at home reading and meditating on it, sustaining the emotional feeling. The problem with the letter then was if one's parent(s] sees it, one would definitely be in trouble.
A friend's mum didn't buy him 'aso odun'(xmas and new year wears) just because of a love letter he wrote to his classmate was intercepted by his classmates and given to the teacher. His mum had to be invited by the teacher and given the letter.

Many people won't wanna keep a SMS for long cos it is an exhibit. Most especially the players.
Some classmates hen! Maybe the classmate also had interest in the girl! grin Back in the secondary school days, men, that was sweet!
RomanceRe: When Ladies Were Wooed With Letters by Rival(op): 10:33am On Aug 19, 2014
Emyemyberry: Lol@op.......
Those days in sec. Skul a friends of mine started like this
'this is my symbol to symbolise my symbolism,i swear that i love u,i want u to be my girlfriend,hope you will reply me soon,dnt keep me waiting else i go die o
So did your friend die? grin grin
RomanceRe: When Ladies Were Wooed With Letters by Rival(op): 9:18pm On Aug 18, 2014
krazydave: Hahah... Nice topic bro @OP

Love letters, were sOo romantic, especially when we were in the hostel and you stay up all night drafting the emotions in your heart on a piece of paper and the best part is, making the bravest decision of delivering your letter
#bck_in_da_dayz_of_true_luv
My brother, it was so romantic and that's when romance was in its purest state!
RomanceRe: When Ladies Were Wooed With Letters by Rival(op): 9:13pm On Aug 18, 2014
Tolexander: This isn't a question for the pikins born from the last decade of the last century.

I felt so elated seeing a letter written to me by my first gurl then. Not funny i just burnt the letter last year after a decade of keeping it and reading it daily for the first 2 years i was given! Lol.
I wish I could find one like that!
RomanceWhen Ladies Were Wooed With Letters by Rival(op):
I feel a particular attachment to those days when you would get a clean sheet of paper and start mapping out your mind on it, expressing your desire!

I feel it was more emotional the way love was expressed then through letter writing than what is done today through sms and all that with words shortened so much that you can hardly make a meaning out of them!

What was expressed through letters those days were more a reflection of the internal environment of your heart; unlike now that people start buying sms books and start sending things they do not even come close to feeling!

So guys, how was your first wooing experience with a letter? Did you plan it for days with a dictionary trying to find big words to impress your target?

Ladies, have you ever received a love letter? How did you enjoy reading it (them)?
Please share you experience.
RomanceRe: Do You Think He Ever Loved? by Rival(m): 5:51pm On Aug 18, 2014
Looks more like you were in one of those things people engage in to kill tension!
By the way, your question should have been "Did he ever matter to me?"
RomanceRe: The Modern Slave by Rival(op): 9:08pm On Aug 09, 2014
MrCork: ...so u tink creating a thread about slave will help u find woman on nairaland??...bro...serrrriously..u nid help! (no ofeinse) embarassed
You're funny!
RomanceRe: The Modern Slave by Rival(op): 8:30pm On Aug 09, 2014
MrCork: ...ok...who the hek is samuel? ...bro do u nid help? angry
Done.
RomanceRe: The Modern Slave by Rival(op): 4:55pm On Aug 09, 2014
MrCork: ..of course the counrtry u come from makes u superior.... u comparin Ghana to London?..bro u from Ghana innnit?undecided
Was Samson in the Bible from Ghana?
RomanceRe: The Modern Slave by Rival(op): 3:56pm On Aug 09, 2014
MrCork: .....bro ....so u r loookin for slave work ther in Nigeria........r u from Ghana? (no ooferinse) angry
Would the country a man comes from make him less/more a man?
RomanceThe Modern Slave by Rival(op):
Who is the modern slave?

Before I start, here are a few definitions of a SLAVE from the dictionary which I find appropriate for my write-up:
• A slave is a person who’s entirely under the dominance of some influence or person.
• A slave is a person who works hard without proper remunerations or appreciations.
• A slave is a person who’s excessively dependent or controlled by something.

Now with these definitions we all may have a fair idea of who a slave is!

From the cradle of history, women have been known to be in possession of the power of a master and even great men, men of valour, have trembled and been subjugated by this power!

Men can be giants, lions, predators or whatever, but once they come under this power, power not by might and the power of gun, but the ability of an intelligent woman to set goals and knowing how to manipulate her SLAVE (man) in order to achieve them, they become wobbly nannies!

Have you seen where the master works while the slave stands and look? It’s the opposite! The master tells the slave what he/she wants and the slave does it!

An intelligent woman who knows what she wants does not need to lift a finger to get it! She just has to tell her slave (man) and he slaves away to get it for her!

An intelligent woman knows exactly how to manipulate her slave, man, and when to reward him for meeting targets on time and when to punish him for not meeting her goals on time!

Such is the power of an intelligent woman! She just has to decide on what she wants and press the right buttons on her slave to put him in action to fulfill her desire!

So if you are a woman and you’re reading this you have to be intelligent and let your slave labour for you. If you have a husband or a boyfriend, then you have to use them with intelligence to do your bidding! You’re the masters of men! Start to act like the masters you are from today if you've not been doing so!

Do you know what happened to Samson in the Bible? What about what Jacob did? Do you know the story of Adam and Eve? History is abound with the use of this subtle yet effective power by intelligent women to achieve their goals, make dwarfs out of giants and giants out of dwarfs!
RomanceRe: If You Are In A Relationship, Come Here! by Rival(op): 8:36pm On Aug 08, 2014
mstik: did u give me one grin
If you need one we can always make arrangement, you know! grin
RomanceRe: If You Are In A Relationship, Come Here! by Rival(op): 8:24pm On Aug 08, 2014
chidyhels: My dear, if i tell you i got reason then i must be lying. The tin just dey do me tininitininig grin
I feel you! Enjoy it while it lasts!
RomanceRe: Why You Should Not Get Married! by Rival(op): 3:52pm On Aug 08, 2014
Harbosede02: Op,datz ur wahala,if u knw marriage isn't worth it then itz ur problem....as 4 me and everytin about me,i must get married to dat cute guy waiting 4 me out dere cheesy i must have two beautiful chubby daughters,i must be called MRS sumfin and mummy waheva,i must have a cute family picture wif jst me,my husband and my babies.....i must experience wat mum is experiencing nw dat makes her a very happy woman....i must do/av all dis by God's grace.

My little advice 4 u,is dat u sud try and dwell more on d positive outcome of tinz dan d negative outcome.
grin Good for you and may your dreams come true!

At the parts in bold, it seems like the men are the slaves in this whole union working tirelessly to make the women happy! You didn't say how happy your father is and you want your children to be girls so that they won't go through what dad might be passing through! Ok o!

Thanks for your advice anyway.
RomanceRe: Why You Should Not Get Married! by Rival(op):
traware: All forms of marriages are sh.it.Only women truly gain from marriage because they acquire a slave(husband) to work for them for the rest of their lives without having to lift a finger and later give birth to children inorder to continually trap the slaves(husbands) for the rest of their lives.The book "The manipulated man" by Esther Vilar explains everything
Sometimes when you see some couples you begin to wonder; the wife looking so healthy, beautiful and lively but the man is quite the opposite!

Imagine a man struggling day in day out just to make ends meet, then at the end of the day, he brings home everything to his wife (his master) and she decides how much he would have as transport to go and labour more and then she keeps the rest!!!
If he wants any money other than his transport she must approve of it; she must know how much money you're making in a month so that, for instance, if you don't bring home the expected amount at the end of the month, she queries you!

And what does the wife do? She sleeps and wakes up in the morning, eat and then goes to the salon, fixes her hair, cuts her nails, paint and comes back home, eat, takes her bath and then sleeps! No wonder men die younger than women!
RomanceRe: If You Are In A Relationship, Come Here! by Rival(op): 2:42pm On Aug 08, 2014
mstik: #passing by# cool
Don't you have a boyfriend?
RomanceRe: If You Are In A Relationship, Come Here! by Rival(op): 2:40pm On Aug 08, 2014
chidyhels: Some people dey jealous this thread grin
grin So what's your reason?
RomanceRe: Why You Should Not Get Married! by Rival(op): 10:47pm On Aug 07, 2014
BluePearls: You paint marriage as if its some kind of prison or bondage, its so much more than that. If you don't want to go into it, It's really not by force. I just don't think its a thing for the feeble minds. undecided
Yes I'm trying to paint the difficult side of it!
And for it being painted like a prison or bondage, as you put it, well, that's what it is to some and you see the result as broken marriages in the society, while to others it's a beautiful home!

Like Freecocoa said, which I subscribe to, if there's love, compatibility and understanding, it can be a beautiful home and she also stated her desire to have cute kids raised by two parents and her desire to be told 'I love you mummy', by her children. To her, the feeling of her children looking into her eyes and saying those words is worth more than whatever moments of discomfort that will arise in the home.

But, is this the case for everybody? Both the feeble minds (as you put it) and the strong minds are going into it! Some have wandered away from their original course in life because of it; some have had their lives cut short because of it; some pray for the day to break so that they can leave home, and when they go out, coming back home is a nightmare;

Looking at it, especially if you're unlucky to have a partner that's bereft of the qualities that make a decent partner, it's not rosy and appealing!
RomanceRe: Why You Should Not Get Married! by Rival(op): 9:09pm On Aug 07, 2014
Lily4star: "what's normal for the spider is chaos for the fly"

Though the write-up is written in English but still feels to me like its in Spanish,

Emmm, OP by the way ve got a question for you...

'If ur Mum and Dad didn't get married how would you ve come into existence?' (Just thinking though)
Wow, are you saying that there're no couples who do not have children? That the moment you get married, even though you're infertile, you start producing children and your infertility problem will be solved? Think through your question!
RomanceRe: If You Are In A Relationship, Come Here! by Rival(op): 5:45pm On Aug 07, 2014
Alikaxon: This relationship isshhh is getting out of hand, every post is emphasizing relationship....... When are we going to talk about how to better our life? How to impact the society positively.
Pls don't let it get out of hand! By the way would you prefer we talk about business here in the romance section?
RomanceWhy You Should Not Get Married! by Rival(op): 5:41pm On Aug 07, 2014
Is Marriage worth the effort?

Nations go to war to have freedom; in fact, history is replete with individuals who risked their lives to get freedom for themselves and their people!

We all live in societies governed by a certain set of rules that put limitations on our freedom and as long as we are members of that society we are bound by such rules and our freedom is limited to such extent as expressed by the rules governing the society.

But then, this is good for the entire society as rights are protected under such rules/laws and the negative tendencies of other members of the society, inimical to its existence and likely to cause public disorder, are curtailed.

In life we all want freedom; freedom to make our own decisions, freedom to make friends, freedom to have relationships, freedom to go where we want; freedom to associate with others, etc.
In the office, we want freedom; in the home we want freedom; in our relationships, we want freedom; in our finances, we want freedom. We want freedom in everything!
Nobody wants being bossed around!

Why then do I want to go into something that limits my freedom that is protected under the laws of the society? Why do I have to hang my freedom and independence at the door and go into a marriage institution?

The institution of marriage places many restrictions on our freedom as individuals! You're forced to live a kind of lifestyle that is totally different from what you're used to as a single guy/lady or what you would want to, yet everybody wants to go into it!

You can’t spend your own money the way you want and on whom you want; if you’re not home by a certain time you answer query; if you’re seen smiling at another person, query awaits you at home; if you don’t eat at home, another problem; if you are tired and just go to bed, you’re unfaithful; if you’re seen standing with another lady/man, ha, that is queries without end! You can’t go out without stating where you are going. Why?

You come home after a hectic day in the office only to meet your nagging wife at the door, drumming it into your ears why you’ve not bought her a new car; why you’re coming home late; you’re not giving her enough attention, etc!

Another person who was not there at the cradle of your rise gives you instructions on how to use the rewards of your sleepless nights to the detriment of those who held and pressed the ladder against the wall while you climbed!

So, what is the attraction?
As far as I’m concerned marriage is not worth the fuss associated with it.

So, ladies and gentlemen, what’s your opinion about marriage and being single?
RomanceIf You Are In A Relationship, Come Here! by Rival(op): 1:46pm On Aug 07, 2014
As we all journey through life to fufill our destinies, at some point we get involved in one relationship or the other with the opposite gender. Some live on to the end of our journeys here on earth in the form of marriage while others wither away as we progress from one stage to the other in the course of our existence.

For those relationships that have not yet metamorphosed into marriage and been appended the stamp of legality, what is holding them? Why have you not let go of your present relationship and started a new one as you journey through life?

Below I have outlined a few reasons why you might still be holding on. State your honest reason(s) , not more than two, why you’re still holding on to that relationship.

Possible reasons:
(1) Hoping that it will lead to marriage.
(2) I like the way he /she makes love to me.
(3) Because of his/her money.
(4) Age is against me so I have to manage it.
(5) I have not seen someone better.
(6) I love him/her with or without money.
(7) I like the way he/she treats me.
(cool I like his/her personality.
(9) Some other reason(s).

Note: If your choice is (9), please specify your reason(s).

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