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Pls is this just normal... My girl broke my heart and till today i still use her picture to jerk off even though i got another girlfriend already...

Ilekokonit:
Instead of cutting off your fraudulent friends you are comparing yourself to criminals and contemplating aborting your destiny to become a common fraudster forgetting that some criminals have been convicted many years after they thought they had gotten away with their crimes.

Orji Uzor Kalu was sent to jail 12 years after he thought he had gotten away with his crimes.

Did you go to school just to throw away your hard earned degree , self respect and rubbish your good family name and become a common fraudster ??

Don't you know that a good name is better than silver or gold ??

What happened to contentment

Why are you comparing yourself to your criminal friends when even twins don't have the same financial fortunes ?

Cut off and stay away from any family, friend or foe that makes you feel; financially insecure in any way and your peace of mind and contentment will return to you. That is the trick to happiness in such a financially judgmental environment like Nigeria.

Thanks...I love this

solonubinho:
My brother, sorry for this state of things you find yourself in. You obviously come across as a very sound person. Please do not join them. Trust me, it never ends well. The country is very tough and I'm not in the position to advise you to do x or to do y but if you can gather the means, try the relocation thing. Your brain would be of more use overseas. If you cannot, please seek advice from other friends you have who are into legit business and start from there. Cut off all these Yahoo guys, the money is not worth the consequences. By the time you find out the truth about what befalls them, you would cherish the peace you have even though with little money. Shalom

Thanks

CptCharlesVane:
Exactly, Karma is another feel-good pill for poor victims. And many religions are based on that. The concept that your oppressor would be punished in the life after is a defense mechanism for the helpless/oppressed.

Someone mentioned Babangida living the life worse still when he dies he will be celebrated, monuments built in his honor, Nigerian history books would honor him and he may even be known to future generations as the ‘good’ guy. Where is karma?

Where is/was Karma for Hitler? For someone who orchestrated the death of millions to have the luxury to kill himself is no karma. The OP highlighted the puzzle of life where he may, with all his good grades and education, live and die as a poor man in Nigeria while his fraudulent peers go on to achieve greater things. We see these around us in Nigeria but pretend that it is University education that is noble while illiterates, thugs, and drug dealers rule over the majority.

‘The good die young’ was coined from many of these observations that the indeed many ruthless and evil people live longer and more fulfilled lives than their victims and their relatives.

Gbosa for u bro

MrStan11:
Bro
Don't listen to people who would invite you for work or ask you to send CV.
They are EFCC agents.
Once you do, you ll be arrested and asked to show them those your friends.




Out of Experience, the mouth speaketh.
Genuine help is rare in naija.

My advice to you is, Allow your CONSCIENCE to guide you. Some of us are at the pity of our conscience.

Secondly, be HAPPY, if se x hungry you, nack.
If beer hungry you, go club dance away your sorrow.

Learn a skill.


Don't allow REligion hold you hostage.
Don't listen to motivational speakers, they give pseudo hope.




I may add more..

Thanks bro...ah no even think ham this way

Twizzy30:
OMG at long last I found someone sharing same philosophy as me. People around me think am weird or something

This is d same thing I tell people oooo but they always think I am insane...

herzernIsHere:
RobertMugabe,

Aren't you guilty by association for this ? (Just curious)

I am not a saint bro...only that my conscience is not in tandem with been non-righteous in the capacity of fraud. I am a normal guy who does normal guy things... Seems to me now that I am underutilising my non-righteousness...

CosmicJames:
You are thinking Karma is only a bad reward for evil deeds. I told you Karma is in two forms. Good Karma and bad Karma
Remember that no one is righteous.
All the people you are mentioning have also done some good and they must reap accordingly.
Remember also that suffering and pains is not only the absence of money.
The rich also cry!

You mentioned children of the innocents.
What did you know about their fathers?
Do you know what their fathers or forefathers have done or committed in the past?
Ask yourself what must have happened for them not to be rich and why their children are suffering?

Don't think that looting of public funds is the worst crime. All sin are equal before the maker. Whether it is a little false witness, a little lie or looting of billions. They are all the same!
The only difference is in the level of consequences.

On the other hand, all good deeds are the same. Whether it is a little help of pointing someone in the right direction, buying a house or a car for someone, they are all the same!
The only difference is in the level of rewards.

Whether you believe it or not, it is a universal principle that works all the time.

The little, little things we do all counts. And we must reap we sow.

We live in a well ordered universe full of principles and nothing just happen without a reason.

Is not everything that you can understand.
The world is too deep. Some things you see happening today are a manifestations of what happened over 20yrs ago!

What we all see is the manifestation. We don't see the cause and we cannot see it.

We only try to understand the Universal with the eyes of laws of principles.

Don't go get involve in evil of any kind today thinking that there's no Karma.
You will be preparing and keeping suffering for your unborn generations.

I only disagree with u where u said all sins are equal bf d maker. Equating all sins to the same severity, in your own little human wisdom how fair do you think this is ?

Viking007:
Sometimes I begin to doubt karma exists. I'm beginning to come to the conclusion that karma is just another 'feel good' pill for the poor.

Bro, when you see those who are successful in our society and live a normal life to the end of thier life, one may want to agree with u that karma is just a concept to keep us on our toe in upright lane. Some of them even retire into politics and we keep praising them till d end of time

davillian:
Bro
If truly they are your friends they should be able to give you a soft loan to start a business.
If they can't then they are truly not your friends....
What you should do is to get close to family and your true friends making money legitimately for assistance write your business plan and mail all of them and if nothing comes out baba join them make small change invest it....
Pls if you join them and make small money hopping you don't get caught in the process cut them all off.....
God help you sometimes in life you need to dance with the pigs in the mod to cool off.

Lol...they will rather tell you to go and hustle than giving you their illegally hard earned cash....

Apination:
LOL.... Societal expectations you say, NOBODY CARES . The same society would be the ones to put a tyre on your neck and set you ablaze when the going gets tough. This path you are aiming for, it will not end well for you. There are people sleeping under the bridge, people selling on the streets, doing every menial job possible so as to be able to provide for their upkeep or you think they don't know where they can get guns to Rob or do ritual? There is no quick money anywhere, you should be willing to sacrifice something if you choose to follow that path, your so called friends will not tell you until its too late to turn around. Be smart!

OK sha...thanks

Couzy21:
I love the way you composed this write-up though, ever thought of writing as a job?

Aaahhh... Na just normal writeup to me nah...I have never had d thought anyway

Apination:
Ewu! Hope you go follow them die their die when the time reach. Just imagine the low lives you are using to compare yourself, instead of you to focus and build your life, you are moving around with nonentities. You call them friends but they won't help you unless you join them, what a pity that at 32 you are still useless. This life is a race, run your own, do not allow greed for unsustainable wealth to blind you and Rob you of your peace and happiness. 2020 is the year, work hard and be content, when the time is right God will provide beyond your expectations.

Well, you may call them low life in your own narrow way of reasoning but in far broad societal expectations, they are far from what you call them until the time of consequences of their actions, if at all there will be. Baba it is not in my nature to compare my self but at some point of protracted hopelessness, you spontaneously find your self in d habit of putting your life in retrospective assessment and measure against the societal expectations and those things you see all arround...

Kevsmart88:
Ur case is very similar to mine bro....av intentionally cut contact with all of them, I know it's hard but believe me there's a reason U still haven't compromised yet...First, u must understand U ain't competing with nobody in life.
Secondly, av seen where it took someone only one year to achieve what it took others ten years and please do not judge nor despise them for their actions, ur time will surely come and God who maketh Rich will grant U wealth with peace of mind...stay blessed and keep believing...

Bro no be small thing...

madampresident:
Bro, don't do it. I repeat, do not do it.
Believe that your time will come. Every man's timing is not the same and can never be.

For a minute, put yourself in Invictus Obi's shoe. Guy made money, appeared on Forbes list....Where is he today?

I know a bro who was broke at 35. He was deported penniless. Mom sent this guy 10K from time to time just to survive. Three years later, guy is earning a 6 digit salary and is balling.

I think you should figure a way to improve yourself and make yourself marketable. You should also consider skills as nothing beats skills. Do not just live hoping for something good to come your way, improve and arm yourself to attract what you truly deserve!


A wise man said, "the best time to have planted a tree was 10 years ago, another time to plant one is now."

Thanks, I really appreciate

heniford2:
I don't know how to say mine here i feel God most have forgotten me too this xmas don't have money to buy rice to eat no bread i hate myself and am totally ready to do anything to make it anything no job have looked for everywhere nothing just nothing don't have money to learn trade its all f..k up here Mehn so if am alive till next year the devil will have a friend and that's me..

You're funny bro

Augla1:
My brother one truth I must tell you, define what success is not just in d short run if things.
That is the first thing wt ur case

This form part of my mentality also bro...but these guys keep winning back to back

Universe8888:
My brother,
Take heart....
U mustn't join them because it never ends well.

Anyways, send a message to axxelusglobalservicesintl@gmail.com stating ur financial need and u will get a solution be it job, entrepreneurship,loan e.t.c



Thank me later.....

Hmmmmm...OK bro

Pls permit me to post this piece here as it seems not to be compatible with all the sessions available...

I will be brief as much as possible...

I am typing in disdain and gross depression. I am 32 years old. I finished from a university in the year 2012. As it is always of any person living in the glory and self-simulated value of finishing with good grade and from one of the leading universities in Nigeria, one would, of course, erroneously expected to retire from the academic environment, to a cushy labour market environment. Far from what I confidently pictured while in school, it is 6 years now and still counting, of active service in the labor market in search of deserving job. From the beginning of post-university time, many of my friends picked up YAHOO instead of wasting their time in d tensed labor market while some newly opted for it along the line of their hopelessness in the labor market. I was invited but I took my uncompromising stance. So far, I have tried to upgrade my self sha with professional exams but yet not materialising.

Behold, my friends are now juicily successful in their fraudline path. Even if I get good work today, it may take me 15 years of conservative savings before matching their lofty height of success. Almost all of them are now married, have an obviously paying businesses and of course, possess what it takes to earn Daddy status in their respective environment. While me no even get an apartment of my own... Ah still they live with my brother who is already married.

I am aware of how they make their money through compromising gmail, but I was hellbent even though the cross breeds of alerts on their respective phones is always intimidating. Even, sometimes, they did engage my service of writing an official and professionally worded statements meant to be furnished to their clients.

Funniest thing and not unexpected anyway, some of them are now stylishly cutting me off. Because I am presently far below their current social status and probably because I seems to them not to be a serious type or seems to them to be a coward.

For days now, I have been contemplating compromise and it's appearing to me that it is getting too late to be an upright man.

Dear Nairalanders, pls have you ever been in this situation and how did you overcome the thought of such compromise ?

Grayjoy:
6 years ago? I can see, you probably kicked off late, what you need now is not self-pity and hopelessness, if you can think which I percieve you can, then you can get there, you are still a young man, too young to give up on life, if you give up at this stage and you are alive in 50 years time, how will you live? the kind of acquaintances you keep matters alot, re-plan and re-dress your life, simple mistakes we make in life as young people is sticking with our class of human beings all through, changing your environment if you can may do alot just like a lady rightly said. Talking about your girl friend, you probably have a woman who believes in you, nothing is as refreshing as that but you can choose to shatter her hope am not here to advice on you that, I don't know if my girl friend will hang around in your kind of situation, am not thinking of checking that out either.

Thanks sir, this is edifying

OlaitanAkanbi:
Today I invited a girl we have being chatting for 2years on facebook so we met today I really love this girl no be small but .
This girls once they see you are fresh they will empty you by fire by force with billing

We just met today she came with here friend I took you to my house
She said she was hungry I told her to cook she said No
I took her to buy food for she and her friend almost 1,500naira
She said she won’t to sub I bought card 1,000naira
After eating the food with her friend she said she will be going home soon
She no even use pass 1hour for my house
She then told me I will give she and her friend transport money she just started complaining she want to do hair
I was like which kind wahala be this
And I really like this girl oh
I then give she and her friend 3kfor transport
Can you believe this girl said the money is too small that she and her friend will use ( O-pay) bike home
I give her 5k
She then start asking for money for hair I told her next time she come that am cashlesss
She said ok
Na so she go oh I delete her number instant



Mind my English oh
Is true love real I beg
Every girl out here is always billing

Bro you lost out...you should have waited patiently for her next visit and do d needful...

peterveo:
All I can say to the OP is brace up! Things will get better soon, keep the hope alive. Millions of young Nigerians within your age are in that table, trust me. Letting go is not the answer bro, but, if she's not contented or show traits of her entitlement to the diamonds silver and gold of this life which you can't afford for now(someday you will). Just be sure she's not a selfish nag, if she is move on without any apology. That's the best thing you can do for your self.

Thanks sir

Kendumazy:
Hmmm. You write very well. In a bid of avoiding letting go of this good lady, why not forget about the jackpot now and start something like business, hustling from the scratch. At least, little reasonable amount of money should be coming in and you can build yourself from there and take care of your woman and build a future with her. If you don't man up now and let go of that girl for a situation you have a control over, you will so regret it. It's not easy to see that kind of your woman. Wish you all the very best.

Thanks for the advice

samdavjustin:
While some people might praise you I see your decision as selfish and a narcissist all you think about is yourself. Didn’t you know you were broke before you started this relationship and to top it off you want another relationship with someone with a tough skin. Something is definitely wrong with you. If you said you breaking up with her to hustle and make yourself better I would understand but no no you want another relationship. ODE

Aaahhhh... A soul that has tasted relationship can not find it easy to be totally off relationship for a period of unknown time. Hence, the reasons i need a babe that will atleast keep my company even if not for something serious like that...

XploreLife:
Sobs! I feel your pains bro. Life gives no bleep at your situation.

Accept the reality and keep pressing the damn button niccur.

Don't give up!

Nobody is ever ready to be ready, we just find ourselves in this game of survival.

And lemme tell you what? You are not alone. Tell that babe your pains, plan together and cook something.

Be a man and face your battle.

Your dream babe is right there with you, instead of you to dust your shit and get to work, you want to surrender? Weakling.

She wants you to appreciate her by putting in some work like a real man.

Even if the resultant is tiny, she'll commend you for your efforts.

Have you thought about why she fell for you initially?

Don't give your blessing away because of the financial insecurity.

Believe in yourself and don't bug.

Thanks bro...

Abfinest007:
here is my candy opinion .let her go without considering her feelings is selfishness
2)has any suitor come to ask for her hand in marriage
3)is she complaining

She has many suitors bro but what I don't know is if she has corresponding feelings for them. She is not complaining actually but she doesn't know my real value yet. I have been so smart with her

Slynation:
Just believe bro... God will see you through
I suggest u relate this things with her, u may be marveled with the kinda ideas she might come up with just so u can grow financially....

Thanks

Slynation:
Hmmm....So touching
Well most guys falls into this category, ain't easy losing a girl u love that loves you as well just because of circumstances....
But from your post, it seems you have given up on life already, well what you need is to focus, just a minute can turn things around for you....

Wetin i wan even type self....
Let me just wait for the elders to arrive.....

No sir, I have not given up but everything revolves around "HOPE" which has been my therapy since 6 years ago and still counting...

Ladylite:
Here is how to save your situation

1) Talk to her about how badly you both need to come out of this poverty life

2) start a business together.... That way you both can give your 100% and it will work

3) find a spiritualist (pastor/alfa/priest/priestess/prophet/prophetess) that will clean your life and aura spiritually...

4) pray together.... It works o

5) give a seed to you mother or some older people in your family and tell them to bless your life with prayers.

6) relocate, you need a new environment sometimes that's all it takes

7) go to the business section of nairaland and learn importation and other businesses for free.

attend business conferences like AYE conference in Akure where you can rub minds with others and get uplifted

9) repeat these processes again every three months and watch how fast your life will change.

Thanks sir

Lalastical pls help a brother by pushing this to front page...thanks


I am writing this with sadness of mind and a sense of worthlessness. Standing tall to see my self as a loving man that lacks capacity to take care of his lovely woman by averagely acceptable standard continues to tie me to perpetual tragedy that can only be wiped out only, as of now, if miracle happens. This decision I am about to take is like committing suicide but at this point in time, it is worth taking, in the spirit of selflessness. I have a very beautiful girlfriend, so charming, respectful, well mannered, God-faring, submissive, caring to me like my mother would, not money freaked and above all, consistently committed to Gods things. I can boldly say, she is fit into the dream woman of any sensible man alive. I do love her dearly and in her I found a cushy and scenery environment that persistently dispense a fragrance of love comfort.

As it is, I am 32 years old, dangling in the middle of hopelessness of everyday living and meagre finance that hardly accommodate my personal feeding and support my struggling activities to make fortunes. I have been struggling and trying hard to hit the jackpot and yet to no meaningful results. You know life can be so brutally funny especially for those who comes from the lower cadre of the societal strata.

I can hardly point to anything tangible I have brought to the table since the inception of the relationship which is running to a year and four months now. This sometimes calls me to shame and constantly configure me to think of not worth the girl at all. Till today, some of my friends still they tell me say ah get luck with my babe. How else should I describe a babe who is in the middle of many compelling and intimidating options and yet still firmly stand by me.

As I am writing, I am planning to breakup with her for a number of reasons which are summarily analysed into two;

1) I can not afford her to be the first to breakup with me when the time to do so presents itself. Though I am not sure of this but I once had a dream in this regard.

2) Even if she decides to stay and marry me, I can not afford watching her living a tattered life which i can only afford for now. And if care is not taking and I insistently decide to take her under my roof, I may be forced to engage in illegality to scoop money that can take care of her soft textured skin and at least propel our union to standard.

Some may call my decision a product of inferiority complex but I call it an act of selflessness.

If I post me and my babes pictures here, you may likely have a practical and nucleus understanding of my explanations so far, but I will not do this for safety of identity. I can not just withstand seeing her without adequate and proper care. I think she is too good and beautiful to share in my fate of economic koboko. Someone like her deserves the best hands and i can therefore make bold to recommend her for any upright and economically buoyant man alike. So, I better not waste her time further.

My plans after the breakup, is to find another babe that is compatible with my real value and with thick skin that is absorbent to the middle class suffering that I have to offer for now. Or better still, a ready made woman who does not even need me to live a life she so desire.

It is far from my wish and a sad one at it, to take this decision of alienating my self from someone after my heart, from someone that i think of almost at every idle moment and from someone who has seen my naked soul completely many times over. However, if I really do love her, then it is just doubtlessly and fundamentally worthwhile to take the decision to save someone I love and somebody's daughter from impending rough and emaciated household economy. I am not a pessimist though. I am just a realist. If ah eventually make ham and she is still available and I am still available as well, maybe we can still come back together, but if she is taken, then so be it, but I promise to stand firmly by her in any scheme outside her matrimonial relationship...

I LOVE MY OLUWATOSIN...

Pls how best can I breakup with her ?