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hamzeiy:
and they are mostly cowards.
i came all d way from kaduna to lagos for an interview invite at lekki phase U, considering i wasnt a lagosian it wasnt funny getting help for directions.
every one i approached male or female, young or old seem to be scared of responding to me or even pay attention to my request for help and direction . though i know it has alot to do with previous experience but common have some balls lagos, have some balls..
...the experience was as irritating as it was annoying ..

learn to dress well next time u visit Lagos bros. U were the problem not lagosians dat refused to answer u. U dnt come to lagos wit ur kaduna dress sense and expect pipo to take u seriously. Abi nor be dose aboki suit wey dem dey use different colour patch d shoulder ankle u wear? Talk true? because na mad men dey wear such for here o

adeoba2008:
you should live closer to your office. .

very key. I spend 120 daily on tfare n that's less than 4k monthly.
Rent close to ur office to spend less on tfare n avoid stress. I can still save 100k monthly n live well

I know saraki ordered the military to invade peaceful ipob
He also made the reckless 5% statement.
Useless APC

uzobaby:
In one breath you call Sarki's emergence as senate president fraudulent ,on the other hand you clap for Adeosun who forged NYSC certificate, and you think you are still normal. ..your SAN SHIP and professorship is a disgrace to the legal bench...NBA should do the needful

this administration is fraught wit so much hypocrisy

gasparpisciotta:
These guys should be on their way to financial breakthrough if they can obtain these pictures. Clear case of abuse, they need a human rights lawyer ASAP.

it is only an unwise person that passes judgement based on a sided story. get wisdom my friend

Ayodejioak:
Casted!
See ya life

abeg swerve and get the fcck off my mention

if u dnt have a car, money and friends, u wont like it there

Acidosis:
Sha don't allow her money drive you insane and don't date her because of her money.. If you must marry, be ready to be responsible for your family.

u can not dciv us, u'r a woman using a male moniker

spiceadole:
Lol... Exactly what I typed earlier.
Nigerian men only see ladies who made it via sugar daddies..
They hardly recognize the legit ones.

Btw, I am a medical doctor.
I work in a federal teaching hospital.
Hence, its only normal that I pay my bills without depending on any man.

I remember when I relocated to a new state to start my new job.
After months of squatting with colleague, I decided to rent my own apartment.
The landlord upon realizing that I could afford to pay for a 1 bedroom flat, said " Abeg ooo.. I no want ashewo for my compound ".

To him... Only a prostitute could have money to afford such apartment.
I didn't blame him. As I quietly walked away, the agent who happens to be an old school mate admonished him and told him what I did for a living.
Landlord immediately changed his mind and called me back.

What I am saying is : Nigerian men do not like independent women. For obvious reasons :Either, you are a wh.o.r.e or you are "proud" and won't be easy to manipulate, hence no feeding of male ego.
I have gotten to the stage that I meet a guy and pretend I don't have a job.

That's what they appreciate.

My dear, it has little or nothing to do with the mentality of Nigerian men, it is more of reality.
Take SARS harassment issue for example, many flashy looking guys get harassed by the police due to the excesses of Yaboo+ boys.
In the same vein, many ladies are termed prostitutes due to obvious reasons.
In summary, all of these are consequences of a morally bankrupt society.

my friend in the same office also traveled to austria recently.
i am not finding any joy living in naija anymore.
i must leave dis country ijn

this is how the govt discriminate against ordinary nigerians, u can never see such govt structure on the island.

spiceadole:
That's the mentality of the average Nigerian man.
You can't blame him.
Traditionally, men were meant to be providers and women receivers.
A lot of men DO NOT LIKE women who can provide.
The same way, women DO NOT LIKE men who are receivers.

u'r very sincere as a person. i like

spiceadole:
My financial status depends on who I am dealing with.

To my parents and siblings, I am independent.
To the "average,typical Nigerian man",I rather act dependent.
I once picked my bill on a date.. Dude sent me an SMS saying "You insulted me today. I asked you out on a date,you ordered an expensive wine and paid for it, to show me you don't give a damn about me. ".
That was how it ended before it even started.
My friends blamed me.

My ex left me because according to him, I was too independent. I earned only 10K less than him. My salary was more regular.
I could afford to do things for myself (shop for groceries, change my hair, buy airtime, clothes, etc) without asking him for money. And that was quite "UNFEMININE"..It made him feel he was dating a fellow man. Women were not created/meant to be independent else what would they need men for?
He later got married to an OND holder who was teaching in a private nursery school.

She became a full time housewife after the marriage.
The funny thing is :On social media, he is part of those guys who abhor dependent women but encourage women to be financially stable... Meanwhile, he dumped an independent for a dependent one who needs him for everything including drinking water.

i am a man and i say dat ur ex is a big time hypocrite! as a successful man, i love and respect successful women. no intimidation at all, respect is reciprocal, i dnt need anyone respecting me because of my money. thats a no no

Acidosis:
Funny thing is I've never dated a woman without a job or at least a degree The only difference between you and I is that unlike you, I'm not fanatically obsessed in how much she brings to the table, I don't care

Her financial contributions is a privilege, not your right.

keep contradicting urself.
and u go like argument well well.
the op advised her fellow females to work hard and become financially independent not me oh.
mumu man

Rooneyboy:
Your last statement "men eyes being in ladies money" has put alot of ladies in deep shitt lately.
I have a colleague that makes such statement all the time, now she's almost 50yrs looking for the perfect man.
Just don't be deceived by your married friends that comes out in public to paint an imaginary picture of them having it all in their marriages .
Truth is they go the extra mile to make their marriages work, including contributing their own quota.
My advise, "if you like someone, you guys should talk things over before walking down the aisle ".
FINANCES IS A BIG FACTOR IN MARRIAGE.

too big to be downplayed on or underestimated

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
How many "rich" guys date Broke Girls? Don't mistake average with rich please. You can get a rich girl if you exude confidence

u cant speak for rich girls except u r one of them

spiceadole:
I don't understand why this topic is still an issue.

Social media and reality are 2 different situations.

On social media, Nigerian men claim to love /prefer working class, independent women who do not have to depend on them for anything.
They say they prefer women who can pay their bills on a date.

In reality, Nigerian men prefer to marry dependent women.

Many jobless broke dependent ladies are married while the working class independent well to do, financially stable ones are single and avoided because they are seen as too "proud".
They are tagged "ashewo, olosho " and other unprintable names because the Nigerian man doesn't believe that a woman can be financially sufficient without selling her body to men.
In Nigeria, every financially successful woman must have been involved in some form of prostitution before she made it.

Even married women are seen this way, how much more a single lady??

As a lady, try taking up your bill on a date... That man will never want to have anything to do with you any more. In his mind, "what kind of lady pays her bills? If she can afford to eat without my money, then what can I offer her? "

That's the reason why some of us are advised not to show that we have money so that "men will not run away from us".
Society advises us "Do not buy a car while you are single"...

It's very easy to type and argue gibberish on social media but we all know that in reality...
If you put Miss A, probably an undergraduate or a jobless graduate or low-income salary earner
And Miss B, a working class well paid, business owner, financially stable lady...

90% of All Nigerian men would rush and go for Miss A.

A dependent woman is the Nigerian man's ideal woman. Nothing feeds a man's ego than woman who depends on him for "survival".

Such woman is easy to manipulate, use, disuse, abuse, maltreat and she won't bait an eyelid.

The smarter and more independent you are, the less attractive you are to men in reality.

if u r a successful lady then lets connect, i can only be motivated by ur success, cant be intimidated at all. but make sure u r legitimately successful tho, dnt come n be braggin wit sugar daddy money cos dats wat we see on a daily

Pataricatering:
Same men who insist on submission, same men who are intimidated by successful women ? Shior ! You can’t make a successful woman submit to your bs , I hope you guys know that ! Goodluck in eating your cake and having it ! Lol !

swt hrt, if u r a successful lady, who worked hard to attain success tru non dubious means, pls lets connect, i am equally successful too and u r guaranteed of mutual respect cos i knw wat it means to be successful tru diligence and hard work

EmpresFIDEL:
what about the guys that can't with for you to finish school b4 marriage

u shud have a say as wen to get married to any man, in fact u alone hav d final say young lady, dnt ever allow anyone pressure u to marry. u nor be zombie na

Acidosis:
All sane men love dependent women (work or no work), don't be carried away by the nonsense you read online. A wife is supposed to rely on her husband on many grounds (money inclusive).

If your wife don't rely on you, then check yourself, you're useless.

this is the kind of man that will become jealous wen his wife is gettin money. may God help u bro.
u can never marry a success driven lady wit dis mindset, na so so failures go dey attract u

Elder001:
You don't know where is paining you like seriously.

I don't just know why you feel angry when women are advised to make money or provide /contribute finances to move a marriage or relationship forward.

You'll suddenly start saying men are waiting for women's money or gold digging.

I'm asking you again, which person's money were you expecting to spend? since you don't want to make your own money.

wen they have no achievement its very easy to tell. they get angry!

Suzan: I loved her wit all my hrt as an innocent lover, we did virtually everytin couples do togeda, even got her pregnant twice until she said I and my family poor like church rat though tins don change now as am now a landlord at 30 without her.
Aghogho1: Nags like hell
Aghogho 2: plenty ass, hips, lips n bobbi but she broke my hrt.
Judith: very loyal wife material but distance separated us.
Sophia: fccks like she will die the next day. Dnt knw who do her.
Esther: current bae n lies alot. Dnt see a future

a 17 yr old having a bf.
a 28 yr old datin a 17 yr old
smh

babasolution:
stupid weak guy

a disgruntled female attack dog.
I think i know who dis is.
useless girl wit zero achievement in life. thats y i stopped communicating wit u hahahaha

Many of the ladies arguing on this thread are close to 30 and above 30 with zero achievement in life hence they r not happy with such blunt talk from a fellow female.
Dnt argue wit me. Argue wit ur screen

Wtf

Who wan marry ashawo as housewife?

False news.
NL shud not grace it's front page with such all because of clicks

Wen in public, dnt give and dnt take.
It will be very hard for scammers to dupe anyone who lives by this principle.

U want validation for oloshoism abi

BeingFrank:
Blaming Saraki alone, isn't heavy enough. I think they should rope in GEJ. Useless party of lies and propaganda.

hahahha they have turned their blame game to saraki since.
GEJ is now free from their wahala
this APC pipo sha