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FXKing2012: There is nothing bad in taking a girl out and spoiling her a little by treating her to a very lovely evening; there is nothing like maga in that.

Only poor dudes refer spending for a girl as being a maga - that's poverty mentality and that's why I dont mingle with poor dudes cos our thinking is always worlds apart.

Like minds flock together.

See meat seller is talking sha,
We know pple like u.

kesx: After reading about success stories of Dangote & other successful entrepreneurs ,my grandfather
cut short is stay in lagos to pursue is agriculture business in our home town ,highly motivated, he believes he can still make it
big as Dangote .... nothing would change his mind now .

Now , is there a peak age for entrepreneurship ? what do you think

Jonny just suddenly woke up , what was he doing when he was much younger with a lot of energy and strength

Guess he was Fuk.ng all the ladies that crossed his path.....

Now he suddenly wants to be amongst the richest men in the world .

Very ambitious "young man"

bukatyne: Have you read the thread?

who's this one

Chinom: Over 35% of child molesters are women. We only get to hear about the men because the society does not want to accept, nor see women as pedophiles. Many women are known to abuse young girls in particular. That's why we have the lesbian explosion in Nigeria.

Mad Cow: Bury that teacher alive.... #Simple

Indeed !!!

U are madder than mad

cyara: It is not possible for the little girl to accuse her teacher just like that. I think the matter should be investigated properly but for the mean time the teacher should be suspended from school

Are u kidding me, just suspension

Abi u want make I use the annoyance wey dey my body break that ya head

GeJ79: ONLY GOD KNOWS HOW MANY STUDENTS SHE HAS DONE THAT TO.......LESBIAN SCHOOL TEACHER

Even if she's a lesbian , what was she enjoying while doing it to the kid

Oh, blood of God

bukatyne: Don't be too sure. Read one 'A thread for Housewives' and you will be surprised.

ferhyntorlah: Rooneyboy, Passionate88 is a guy and not a lady.

madridsta007: Been following this post since it started, but I haven't had the chance to comment as I would have because of work. I've had watery eyes at the stories (will I say testimonies of ladies) here, and I wonder, are men so callous? But I know men could be callous, but not all men are callous.

A piece of my advice:

1. Once you have crossed that age of 18, ladies please be aware that legally, you are responsible for whatever happens to you. It's the cold truth. If you walk into a relationship and the guy beats you, the law sees it as your fault. If he molests you, cheats on you, if he goes out with you 10 years and dumps you, the law sees it as your fault. Be guided.

2. Many ladies are too eager and quick to jump into a relationship. Sometimes I wonder if it is a competition somewhere or some bet they made with a third-party. Please realise, the primary person who suffers or enjoys the relationship is you and not the third party. Use your head and brain to go into a relationship and not your heart. Relationship is about handling emotions, more often than not. Your heart can be broken, your head can not.

3. What is the best time to go into a relationship? Hmmm... When you feel you are ready. Physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, materially too. Don't jump into it. While you are waiting, do something to improve yourself. Concentrate on your education. Learn a craft. Join educational and social societies and improve your leadership and interpersonal skills. Travel the world. Enjoy your career. Improve your personality. Focus on impacting your family and your generation. The guy will come, this time around he is rarely attracted to the body, but to the real you.

4. When he comes, first thing first ensure you both set your goals. Time's short, don't give your 5 years to a time waster. Please, please, no sex. A guy that ask for sex, isn't worth your time, he will never change. Once he gets it, he'll hop away to the next available girl.

5. Girls please be aware that we guys are very cunning. They'll do what they can to get you. Ensure you stay as 'Miss Independent' to them- never depend on guys, at least not now. The time will come for that. I tell ladies that whatever character or trait a guy displays now, be aware that its been his behaviour since childhood. A guy that disrespects his mum and beats up his sister, will end up beating you. Don't ignore the warning signs, run away. A guy from a dysfunctional home background will molest you at one point. Don't give him 'time', please run. A guy that sleeps around, and when you catch him, he begs you and says 'baby I won't do it again'- please run.

6. Sorry if I sound harsh guys, I have to be truthful. Ladies, know what his goals are. I know ladies are driven by material things, but please in order not to become a victim along the line, please stop looking for 'material guys'. Material guys never make material husbands. Quit the search for rich, tall, handsome, sexy, well-travelled and connected guy, he would use you as a material, a dispensable material. Instead your concern should be his character, his life vision, his passion for The Lord, his motivation, his potential. I am not saying that you should look for an 'ugly' guy, but do not make handsomeness a focus.

7. I respect ladies that are virgins, I respect guys who are too. When people say, there are no virgins, I laugh at them, as there are. I am one too ( lol, I like boasting about it). For ladies that are virgins, please on NO condition should you open your legs to a guy or get intimate with a man unless he is your husband. Ladies that are not, the same advice applies. If he loves you, he'll wait, if he wants it badly, he'll put a ring on that finger.

8. When the relationship starts, never ever ignore and abandon close friends and families. You'll need them always.

9. Let your relationship be defined. I don't think anyone should be in a relationship unless it leads to the altar. If it doesn't lead to it, then you are wasting your time my sister. He should tell you his goals. And you guys should have a goal-fit. He should lead you to know his close friends, families, wider friends and associates. He draws you inside his internal circle. Show you are dependable, show you are a good adviser. Warning, do not show disdain or petulance for anyone he calls a 'Childhood friend' or a 'Family'- to him those ones are indispensable, while at the moment you are dispensable. Always remember that.

I think I have said a lot. Would come back much later.

ferhyntorlah: Ah, dahonestboss speak for yourself alone oh. You've never jammed some men with poverty thinking about a career oriented lady.

Some will reason that if such a woman becomes successful in her chosen profession, she won't respect, honour, "submit" or obey them. So they try to kill that ambition spirit of such a lady with negative words.

I don't know oh, I could be wrong oh but I think "most" African men don't want their wives to be great; they want them to always be beneath them in all things. Like I said, I could be wrong.

DailyNews: Oh Rooney, you just made me understood what special was talking about before...you are right, there are thousands of single guys out there...so much good guys, I know many, but....

But what

Truth is u'll never see a virgin guy brag about his status like girls do else the society would tag them as not man enough, gays etc.

passionate88: hope u know that there are men out there that are impotent or have erectile dysfunction i.e they can't maintain an erection for a couple of mins and if they do get 1 it wil b flaccid?... Nw hw do ur so called virginity till after marriage gals do if they are OPPORTUNED to marry such men?... Remember divorce is very much frowned upon by Christianity..

specialguest: You are welcome.. Dailynews id like to know if there is ever such a thing like ' single guy' .. A friend said something during our conversation this evening. She said there is no such thing as a single guy, its either you are share someone's boyfriend with her or you snatch another's boyfriend.

carmelion: Now there is one secret,I want to let the guys into.Ladies are we good?.I call it a secret because from their posts,especially those complaining of the ladies being desperados.Ok here we go.
Guys,no mata how close you feel you re to a girl,no matter,how many times you call her on the phone in a day,no matter the places you guys have have been together,as long as you ve not taken her to that place you your house,even if it is a one room apartment she won't feel connected to you or even think of you as a potential life partner.what am I trying to say?Once you invite any lady to your house,we the ladies see as a silent way of saying "baby,i ve been observing you all this while we were hanging out,you impressed me,oya let's move to the next level".Yes thats how women see your invitation.But its so unfortunate that guys don't see it that way so they go ahead and invite every girl they know to their house.Then when all of them starts vying for the first ladys seat,he gets confused.I also want to tell you that any lady who agrees to come to your house likes you and is comfortable with you.If you re a working class guy who is old enough can and can afford to get married but still single,hmmm,then you need to be careful with bringing ladies to your house if you re not interested in her.I am saying this because majority of we ladies would starting adding your surname to their name(in their mind o!) once they like what they see.Sorry o if it sounds silly to you but thats the way majority of us think.That was why I advised one of our brothers here KENGAli to be sure of what he wants before he invites her over to his house.I hope this helps some dudes who need such advise in the house.

ItsModella: In the first half, all I heard was "Emenike, Moses, Idehe"...now, all I'm hearing is "Drogba, Toure, Eboue, Tiote"...na wa o...

young lady, what do u know about football Pls go to the romance section, they need u there.

بوكو حرام: [size=18pt]NIGERIANS = HYPOCRITES![/size]

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Who's this mad man ??

edelweiss: Good morning dolls, edeldoll so excited to be here!its nice 2 be able to talk with ladies. Am single and I think I have a problem, I don't know if its a problem per se. I came out of a 7yr relationship, intense relationship I meant, we were like Siamese, we knew each other's parents and siblings and my Ex was a man who spoils a woman with money!he believed in taking 100 percent care of his woman,but 5yrs in d relationship, I became miserable, I discussed it with him that I wasn't happy. He felt money answereth all things, cos he was taking care of me financialy so I shld be hapi, but its not TRUE. I lost my self esteem, I lost my life in d rltshp, I mean I didn't have a life outside my relationship,at a point I was almost suicidal! I mean I lovED(lol)dis guy and I know he loves me,like seriously he won't let me be, he won't let me go yet he was cheating like mad! When I couldn't even look at another man all those 7yrs how much more kiss another! Choi na wa for men love sha! No matter the love the wil still cheat! Me I took a bow ooo, I walked out with no man beside oo, I just walked straight out.He let me be 4 d 1st time in 7yrs, but 23month later he came begging till now, but am over him! My problem now is I see a lot, I mean a lot of guys I cld date, but I have just lost interest totally, I leave my life open, I just say anyone who cld make me have Butterflies in my tummy I would date, but so far none, and 2ndly this is d first time am single in d last 12 yrs I have bin dating, I took my time 2 look at relationships, attitude to it and things suppose couple do, am not impressed, am a totally different kind of person,I see what guys do, I see what dolls do and I just to o good to settle for less, I feel like any guy doesn't deserve me, I mean my true self, no can is worthy of the love I can give, now that is my problems!I know a lot of guys, but I have bin nothing but civil, friendly with them, I don't like clubng, I hang out briefly with some,but I have no interest in a relationship, am not a child any more am 31, and I really need to date and marry, what do I do pls!

edelweiss: Good morning dolls, edeldoll so excited to be here!its nice 2 be able to talk with ladies. Am single and I think I have a problem, I don't know if its a problem per se. I came out of a 7yr relationship, intense relationship I meant, we were like Siamese, we knew each other's parents and siblings and my Ex was a man who spoils a woman with money!he believed in taking 100 percent care of his woman,but 5yrs in d relationship, I became miserable, I discussed it with him that I wasn't happy. He felt money answereth all things, cos he was taking care of me financialy so I shld be hapi, but its not TRUE. I lost my self esteem, I lost my life in d rltshp, I mean I didn't have a life outside my relationship,at a point I was almost suicidal! I mean I lovED(lol)dis guy and I know he loves me,like seriously he won't let me be, he won't let me go yet he was cheating like mad! When I couldn't even look at another man all those 7yrs how much more kiss another! Choi na wa for men love sha! No matter the love the wil still cheat! Me I took a bow ooo, I walked out with no man beside oo, I just walked straight out.He let me be 4 d 1st time in 7yrs, but 23month later he came begging till now, but am over him! My problem now is I see a lot, I mean a lot of guys I cld date, but I have just lost interest totally, I leave my life open, I just say anyone who cld make me have Butterflies in my tummy I would date, but so far none, and 2ndly this is d first time am single in d last 12 yrs I have bin dating, I took my time 2 look at relationships, attitude to it and things suppose couple do, am not impressed, am a totally different kind of person,I see what guys do, I see what dolls do and I just to o good to settle for less, I feel like any guy doesn't deserve me, I mean my true self, no can is worthy of the love I can give, now that is my problems!I know a lot of guys, but I have bin nothing but civil, friendly with them, I don't like clubng, I hang out briefly with some,but I have no interest in a relationship, am not a child any more am 31, and I really need to date and marry, what do I do pls!

anitank: A little something from me....

Ladies u shouldn't sit around waiting for that "perfect" guy to come becos truth is, they never might until u make it happen. U should also not wait for that guy that has no girlfrnd at all because the reason they have more than 5 of them is because he wants to choose the best that suits him most.

You want to standout from other girls and win ur man over? The first thing to do is give him as much freedom as u can. Men do not want ladies that are too clingy, calling them eveery second to know where they are. Giving him enough room allows him to miss u and want to spend more time with u.

You cannot come from nowhere and expect ur man to change overnight because of u. The only thing he'd change is his phone number cos he'd likely flee from u. A man wants u to accept him for who he is without judging or critisizing. Cook that meal he likes even if u think its crap, watch his favorite sports with him without complaining(personally I love football so this one is pretty easy for me), laugh at his jokes no matter boring they are

Pay attention. As much as he's a man, he's still vulnerable. He doesn't want to sit down all day and listen to u talk about ur endless problems, he also needs u to listen to his. U don't have to know what to do to solve the problem, but showing him how much u're by his side at those trying times gives him that sense of belongingness. He'd feel drawn to u with this single act trust me

Independence is one thing EVERY man wants to see in his woman. He wants to know that u can survive without him even if the relationship doesn't work out(very bitter truth). A man who knows how much strong you'd be and move on real fast after a heartbreak would never want to leave you. That is the kind of woman he'd want to hand over his affairs to without having doubt because he knows that no matter what, u'd be strong enough to handle anything that comes ur way.

Jeez! My thumbs are aching. These are the basic things I can remember. Will add more later. But no matter how little u think things are, they go a long way in making that guy just do nothing but think of u

Young lady, u've said it all , what more can I say

KenGali: Apologies, let me correct myself.
[size=16pt]Your mum and sisters are seniors to Goats only by one day. Kindly say yes if I decoded you correctly! [/size]

They are well disciplined now, I bet u.

KenGali: Hi CarmeDoll, seriously the observation thing never works for me. I have never fallen for a girl just because she is beautiful. I like the intelligent, focused and ambitious lady. Its after this that beauty follows in my value system not that I will touch an "unbeautiful lady" with a long stick. Grew up in a family of very bold women. From experience it always takes me some close interaction to confirm that a lady is my type. So they always get to know am interested for sure. But then they become impatient for me to make them official, sometimes I try to drive the Relationship to the friendship zone in order not to start a relationship that will hurt them (cause I do not believe in keeping what I do not like or something that stresses me) but it usually fails, then comes their angry phase. Bottom line, I often do not get to effectively check the girl out as much as I would like without starting up a formal relationship. How can I get to interact with a lady without her seeing me as the most eligible bachelor, even if it means entering their famous friendship zone cause I can always find my way out of it? I need some answers cause the only logical strategy I have come up with is to catch a young one, but I relly prefer ladies that are 5 years within my age, any thing below feels like a kid to me. Ladies closer to my age do not seem to have any friendship zone at all.

Very impressive, how many brains do u have installed in ur head my broda