williams85:
She is always 35..

Honestly, last year she was 35, next year she'll still be 35.

Barrywilly:
That's not 100% correct. Bypass is only possible with the old phcn prepaid metres. Modern metres have sensors installed in them making it impossible to bypass as it will trigger an alarm that is very high and disturbing immediately it is tampered with.

Talk just dey hungry u to talk.
***Whistle away***

Nice one

Klass99:


3k to cook food for a man, a woman and their two children, abi? Poverty of the mind and financial poverty will not depart from some of you sha, with the way you reason and open your mouths waaa to talk.

And who asked you about your elder sister? It is interesting how the women in your families are always virtuous and good on this forum, but every other woman is not.

For the fact that "she knows" the elder sister usually add her own money says alot.
Perhaps the "good" elder sister comes back home to brag about adding her money. Ordinarily no third party is meant to know what the elder sister does.

pocohantas:
I love that girl.



I hope other ladies can read and learn. The reason some men claim they don't want marriage or they have more to lose is because women carry it for head. Always fighting tooth and nail for (registry) marriage. So they sit back and allow you do all the work while acting like they did you a favour marrying you. Have you ever considered the fact that you would be the one needing to escape from an evil man in record time? Breaking head over a man's property even at the expense of your life.

This OP claims it favours women more but he is restless because he met a woman who has mastered her emotions. He wishes she were chasing him upandan for a legal wedding and flying to catch ring. He is bothered because he doesn't hold all the ACES.

Isn't this the kinda arrangement they claim to want online? #TEAMBABYMAMA? Why is OP worried and why the responses from his fellow men above?

Men want this marriage as much as you do if not more. If they hated marriage so much, they wouldn't be open to polygamy or rushing to marry another wife after a divorce or death of the first wife. No man keeps two (polygamy), even four of what he doesn't benefit from. They benefit heavily from marriage. In fact, after tasting marriage, they find it hard to stay alone again. Unlike women who would rather enjoy companionship without commitment.

Stop fighting these men over registry. Tell him you don't want. Let him be the one to create thread and beg you to sign those lines. Stop begging them to see the usefulness in marriage. Stop answering stupid NL questions like "what can you offer a man?" He has the option of remaining single or marrying a fellow man or new yam.

You are the prize.
If he isn't giving you same energy, disembark.

I used to think u were smart, but what u just typed now proves otherwise.

A man going into court marriage has more to gain than a lady

Marriage GENERALLY is pure scam, the man has nothing to benefit from it other than having kids which he can easily get outside from random people.

Abifarin16:
Give other Nigerians and Africans over there a bad name una hear. Block your opportunity and that of others.

You will tell me that it is Tinubu that started it, but you so called obedient's will end it.

Keep It Up, let's all suffer the blow back.

What opportunity r u talking about? Opportunity to go to where exactly?
If Nigeria were to be good people wouldn't bother going to anywhere.

Wodu89:



Don't downgrade 6M. I'm sure you can't gift it out. With investment of 6M in ordinary polythene (nylon) retailing, after a year one would have made 300-500% ROI. The issues is people with capacity think some businesses are too dirty and do not think in the direction at all


6M can establish multiple pos centres


6M will setup multiple viewing centres


Drink depot's


Wholesale distributorship


Food joints or canteens


Pepper soup relaxation joint


Convenient stores

Etc

You absolutely have no idea of what u r talking about.
From what u put up there you have never done a business in Nigeria before.
Today's 6mill is like 600k of yesterday.
Leave Nigeria as soon as u have the opportunity to leave bro, run away.

EMMARNUEL:
Na wa o... I had this friend that was so rich, i asked him to put me along make i de like am even if its in the long run... Nigga would rather send me 50k for upkeep than show me how to fish, i begged him on several occasion but it was futile, then i new he was a frienemy..

Bruf, it is best not knowing some things times. People do real crazy things these days days and they know you'll never indulge in whatever thing they r into

Be hard and mean on inlaws otherwise they'll take u for granted.
I personally keep mine at bay, I rarely call nor visit, this method has kept my home moving.

SOLUTION: Call ur wife as regularly as u can, gist, laugh and play with her, then you always remind her that whenever she's done holidaying in her family house she shouldn't forget to bring u........

Always let them (daughter and father) know that you are happy and doing fine alone, (I don't mean u rub it on their faces oo), this way you'll see ur wife trying to come back home to cement her position in the house.

KEY WORDS: Never u beg her to come back.
If her father tells u to go call ur people tell him that you've both settled and that his daughter will come back home when she's done holidaying in his house

Typing:


You support the fact that, an innocent Policeman was killed?

Is there any innocent policeman in Nigeria

Clown.

Even for 600k you'll struggle to see a buyer

Vicky324:

Boss I experience all this weight loss night sweet weakness loss of appetite

Sorry boss, I'm just seeing this. Are your lymph nodes swollen

Mrwhite09:
i sent u a mail

I've replied you sir

Mrwhite09:
I am living like i dont have a working immune system, i fall sick regularly like every week. last week i was on malaria drugs and antibiotic, i havent finished it then again yesterday i fall sick again nd they inject me with another malaria drug and give me another antibiotic.

i am tired of taking these poisons i feel like they hv started affecting my liver, i am very vulnerable to viruses and bacterias whenever a person cough to my face the following day i will fall sick.

i dont have hiv as i did the test several times all negative, but i suspect i have cancer cux of the presence of a swollen lymph node on my neck. guys im truly tired and depressed i cant hustle normally because of my condition please if you know anything that can boost my immunity tell me. because of my condition i know a lots of antibiotics like cipro,amoxyl,doxycline,clarithromycin,azithromycin e.t.c i dont know why these doctors never get tired of prescribing these drugs to me. i live constanly with a stomach discomfort, fever, flu, colds nd catarh there is no any known ulcer meds that i hvnt take in my life but i am still thesame. its depressing me nd making me suicidal. i dont need money from anyone i just need help from people that went through thesame situation or people that know of a solution.

There was a time someone cough on me i spent complete 2weeks sick.

With a Swollen lymph nodes it cld be anything,HIV, Hepatitis B, TB, etc

Do you experience these
Weight loss, fever, night sweat, weakness, loss of appetite

If you do, reach me urgently or u drop ur contact, there's a test you need to go for before it takes ur life.

Emmanuel909090:


Invest in yourself first, women are naturally selfish Nd self-centred.
Once you have made it, care for them and bring them over.

Don't come here wailing in 6 months like the latest victim is currently doing on Nairaland

I promise to take all of the advice I'm getting here. I'm going to put them to good use.

FairlyUSEDpussy:


Would have said there isn't anything bad with that........

But my own blood big brother moved his wife from......naija to Dubai then again moved her from Dubai to Germany for further studies.........

Inshort sha........his wife has moved with her life already while my brother had to remarry again and still trying to reorganize his life........

Btw.........this was same woman that birthed a kid for him........

Jesus Christ!

deltateam:


Your mumu never do. Just prepare your mind she will divorce you there.

Kingdollar28:



My gee

I won't advice you to train a woman abroad

Baba ur marriage may scatter if she sees better life out there..

Especially freedom of speech for women.


If you really want her to further anything, let it be here in Nigeria..

And make sure you give am another Belle immediately she gets admitted!


I may sound stupid but believe me, women can be very evil

You can never predict them

You are not sounding stupid at all bro, I really intend getting her pregnant again oo before leaving. I don't want stories that touch.

Shokoloko:

If you were my brother I would say no, you go train yourself.
She can join you and get a open work permit.

Thank u sis, ur input is highly valid.

Tenrack:
if you know wetin good for you, you go put yourself first in all that you do. People change. You can't even vouch for yourself let alone a female.

Words from elders, I'm really happy I came on here seeking u guys advice.

WrriterNig:


As a man, you should NEVER take advice from women. They'll ALWAYS talk in favor of the woman involved. Seek advice from your fellow men who have been in your shoes.

My advice for you: Sponsor yourself there first, when you're financially ready, your family would join you then..

Or else you'll serve as a bitter lesson for other young men on this forum. Don't say you weren't warned!

I'm totally in love with this piece sir.

decatalyst:


I thought you said you are financially okay. Besides, the proof of funds is sorted.


Anyways, put this at the back of your HEAD/mind/earth "women are only loyal to their feelings, not your sacrifices.

You would do something for her and she will blame you for it! Think well before sending her over there:

1. Alone(anyone can take your place)
2. Your marriage is young and you should be together.

My salary is " just there" earns slightly above 270k, hence my considering staying back in Nigeria till she balances herself.

But then again, I dey fear women.

kenn4rill:
A lot of we men can never learn. I believe your inner man is telling you not to do it. You have been hearing a lot of stories about it but you just want to try your luck. It's your marriage and your life so do what ever pleases you.

Yeah, my inner mind has been talking to me for some months now, I'm just trying to see if I could maneuver.

But deep down, I know my inner mind ain't making no mistake.

labake1:
I no dey put mouth for husband and wife matter.
Follow your heart but she should go with her baby. Don't mind all you read on internet, everyone is not the same

her baby?
How does she intend coping with studies

I'm just tired and confused.

MrBrownJay1:


you guys are married, if you want to leave, then LEAVE TOGETHER WITH THE WHOLE FAMILY! if the whole family cannot leave together, then you should ALL stay back until you are ALL ready to leave together. sending your wife (or yourself) abroad while you/she stay back is not only wrong, its very DANGEROUS.

Thank you boss, I really do appreciate ur input. I believe in ur years of experience.

UnusualEmissary:


Well, if you have such strong feelings, not going ahead with such plan is what translates as you staying on a safer side.

So maybe you should find a better, safer, less problematic way to help and support her.

Good luck.

I might just go for the masters program myself, though things might be difficult because there will be no funding from nowhere.

duduade:
Just you both be prayerful

Rightfully a family is suppose to stay together as a UNIT but as money no too dey too much ....

You can send her to go study while you and daughter gather momentum and you both join her later .. or rather your daughter joins her while you do the back and forth

Just discuss with her and you both agree on which way forward

Don't listen to some quacks who will come here and tell you rubbish

Okay bro, I've really tried hard not to listen to negative people.

Like my cousin told me to always remain (on top) if his wife gets a job, he'll personally stop her from working.

decatalyst:
The question is, what are your plans to level up!


Also, don't you think it would make more sense if you travel as a family?

As a family with which fund? Where is the money for that?

UnusualEmissary:
There's basically nothing bad in it but as you have said, what if she changes?

So if you do not trust that process, why not take another route/measure?

Or is taking her to Canada the only way you can support her and help her get out of idleness?

No bro, that ain't the only way. Thing is I've come to realize that Nigeria is crap, so many of my colleagues have relocated.

I personally know who I married, I feel she might change when she starts having the bigger box.

And he was ignored

Now, I've been confused for a while on this travelling abroad issue. The thing is, I've been working for over 10 year's in a fed govt parastatal, the pay ain't bad at all.
Got married 2 years ago and we've got an extremely beautiful daughter. Now, the ish is my wife has been totally idle. The Real me wants to send my wife abroad (Canada) for studies because she read microbiology in her first degree and I feel she's got the passion for the course. Also she is still relatively young (28 years) while I'm 37.
I'm not doing badly in my current place of work at all. My honest take on this is letting her go first while I stay back and make more money to fund her studies then maybe when she gets settled I and our daughter might join her.

My pop man had encouraged me to travel out, promised to give me the Proof of fund of 25 million whenever I need it.

MY FEARS:What if she changes mid way? I do not have a problem of me going to further mine, but I'm just being realistic in that she's way younger(9 years younger) and her course is one of the most sort after courses they've got abroad currently. I want the best for her but what if she changes midway.

I stumbled on this today on twitter and my fears increased.

ManirBK:
Good.
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