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Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

The man is not here to defend himself oh. What if she also contributed to the problem. When you stood before God and made an oath in the presence of many witnesses to stay with your hubby for better for worse, were you dreaming? For the mere fact that you will make an oath and break it, I think something is fishy about your complaint. Have you committed your family problems to God in prayer and no result?

HarunaWest:
lol...DSS civilian ke...If soldier go DSS training make I hear say he no confirm.....A DSS that is trained to take a bullet whereas army is taught to return fire...Except recent recruitments into the service, in terms of intellects and tactics, you shud compare the DSS to NIA or EFCC and not NA

You cannot compare any armed organization with the Army. For example, when the president moves, he also has armed soldiers from Guards Brigade who are expected to take the outer heat while DSS only stay close to him. You also have men of military intelligence interfacing with DSS to provide close body protection, because no one wants to take chances and end up telling stories that touch. A soldier is trained to pay the supreme price. Let's also talk about serious counter insurgency operations, where only the army is actively involved, while other organizations are no where to be found.

Success1020:
Prof. Emmanuel Ezugwu, Provost of the Nigerian Air Force, NAF, Institute of Technology. He is responsible for conceptualization, design and supervision of military hardware at the Nigerian Air Force, NAF, Institute of Technology. He has led several indigenous Nigerian military hardwares such as drones

http://www.afit.edu.ng/provost.php
https://www.nairaland.com/1171920/young-officers-design-build-drone

Before you write something, always know your facts. The MRAP is named after the DG DICON Maj Gen Victor Ezugwu under whose Command the MRAP was designed. Because of his efforts, he was directed by the Army to name the MRAP after his name.

ItsMeAboki:
Don't mind him, he is merely begging for relevance; having already backed the wrong party (PDP) and the wrong faction (Markafi) and lost; he is now seeking for another platform he can ride to politically re-launch himself.
In any case. the core north is not afraid of division; anyone knows his father's house and can waka alone when the time comes.
Besides, the Kaduna Declaration was by a coalition of northern youths, including the so called Middle Belt - he must obviously be out of touch with the youths of they were representing .

By the time plateau, Benue, southern Kebbi, Taraba, southern kaduna(Gurara), kogi, southern Borno, parts of nassarawa, adamawa, southern Baluchi and Gombe become properly organized as middle belt, the few states in the north will understand that no region has the power to oppress anyone. How I wish we can return to regional system of government so that the middle belt can fend for itself from its resources as well as other regions. Too bad for what will remain of the north. Maybe wuna go sell ur cows pay salaries.

lofty900:
They're on punishment. If you've ever lived in the army barracks you'll know what I'm talking about. When soldiers commits an offense, they're locked up in a guard room for some weeks or months depending on the gravity of the offense. Sometimes they'll bring them out of the guardroom and given some chores by senior officers as punishment. The chores varies, it could be sweeping, washing officers cars, mowing lawns, cutting grass after which they'll return to the guardroom. I saw these things while living in the army barracks. Forget about the banner you see there, there's no way officers will come out for sanitation when there're able bodied offenders in the guardroom. NO WAY

Before do u want them to take orders from u or to refuse the orders? That's why they are soldiers and that's why they are disciplined. Only a disciplined force can ensure u have peace to seat in ur comfort and type rubbish. I guess u are blind that u cannot see the banner signifying that the soldiers are carrying out CIMIC acts to celebrate Nigerian army day. God bless our great soldiers.

Mosespaul:
Ur stayed in the barrack was a waste of time cos u learned nothing about the military that's why u cannot differentiate between NADCEL and punishment.

The guy na real mumu.

This is part civil military cooperation. The cleaning exercise is part of activities to mark the up coming Nigerian army day celebrations.

This is CIMIC activity as part of NADCEL celebrations. The offenders u are talking about would normally be given punishment inside the barracks and not outside the barracks. Don't say what u don't know. U know the truth but u just want to be mischievous.

Ladies are so emotional. Whenever you help them, especially when every one has failed, they will tend to become emotional at least to show appreciation.Even if its just one stand, they won't mind.

Onijagidijagan:
Thank God to chadian soldiers

you must be a fool to make that comment. D u know the amount of blood that was shed by Nigerian troops to reclaim that town. D u know they made 4 deadly attempts b4 the town was captured.

let face it..our military are very incompetent ..they are just looking for scapegoat to take the pressure off them. Can you elaborate or u just want to be noticed.

This fool was among the persons who deceived Jonathan with fake negotiations. At the end of the day, the govt compelled the military to cease fire in the north east, despite objections from the military chiefs. They went ahead to declare cease fire, making the bokoharam who were being dealt deadly blows and surrendering at the time to regroup and return more deadly, carrying out killings that have never been witnessed by any terrorist group in the history of man kind. Now that the group is facing serious crisis, the same fool is beginning to surface with negotiation terms from bokoharam.

First of all, those girls have either died in the forest or have been married off. This request by the terrorist, is only a plot to divert attention so they can plot other moves. This was the same tactics they used during Jonathan's regime to divert attention of the gov't and the military and carryout their most deadly attacks. In my opinion, all the so called negotiators should be severely sanctioned by the govt.

In as much as this is commendable I think this is the constitutional duty of the Nigeria Police. Someone should feel free to correct me if I am wrong.

The constitutional role of the Nigerian military is to prevent internal threat and external aggression. What ever goes beyond the capacity of the police is internal threat. In the US, there is the National Guard (army, navy, air force), which is immediately mobilized in times of emergency. So, the involvement of the NAF is not out of place, especially as the police are beginning to prove incapable. I recall that the Book Haram leader was arrested by the military and was kept in safe custody. He was then constitutionally handed over to police for investigation and they chose to delete him. Today, a lot of soldiers have paid heavily for the police stupidity.

I believe the police man is his aide. It is normal for aides or orderlies to do such. After all thats part of their job and they are being paid. Let's not start comparing Nigeria with other countries.

Mr Grema, pls it is not in your power to judge the govt. You are an NGO worker and not a politician. These people are being rescued from BHT in various villages almost on a daily basis already malnourished. And as a supposed health worker, u should knw that malnutrition requires treatment and not just food. Try and face ur humanitarian work and leave politics for politicians.