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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nobody: 4:44pm On Dec 15, 2019
I can't wait to hear from the husband before passing any judgment. And leaving the house without consulting the family members if possible including your church leaders to settle you both for the sake of the kids. And running away with his kids will cause more damages don't allow social media to push you. Consult the elders in both families, report him, if you know who he respects most report him to that person let them settle and teach him how to be a man. Unless you have another plan where you are going too.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Fxwarrior: 4:45pm On Dec 15, 2019
Cutehector:
How do people even end up marrying demons. It really beats my imagination. The matter tire person

In throes of passion and feelings, caution is thrown overboard.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by ibechris(m): 4:46pm On Dec 15, 2019
This is really touching,how can a man be comparing his salary with that of his wife...that is obviously bad thereby creating a kind of distrust in the family.

I mean,I don't know why some men can be this foolish to always make their wife live in sorrow and pains.

Sincerely speaking,I trust my wife with everything I have got,all my earnings I make sure I pay it into her acct except that of my children monthly savings. She earns more than me by our salary but I earn more in my business more than hers yet we have no qualms as to who earn more.

My dear,pls I don't know if there is away out to this, I hate separation and divorce because of its consequence just don't put ur parents in suspense and heartbreak.
May God help u out of this trouble.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Goldenheart(m): 4:46pm On Dec 15, 2019
Hmmm
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by easyzworld: 4:47pm On Dec 15, 2019
Now he wants to do what you do? He’s a bully, full of pride,jealous and I can tell he’s an ingrate too. May God show you the best way to go and give you strength in the face of challenges.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by mechanics(m): 4:47pm On Dec 15, 2019
You might have seen this trait of is before finally saying I do, but maybe you didn't pay attention to it, if at all you did courtship, you might have seen this attitude in him also, i don't support your leaving him but since your mind is made up, no problem, where there will problem is when you eventually remarry and he's still alive, God won't be happy with that choice. This is just an eye opener for those still single, that they should take their time before getting married, marriage is for life.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by golddust6000(m): 4:49pm On Dec 15, 2019
You are moving out with someone’s kids you guys brought to this life together?
What will you tell the kids when they ask you about their father?
You are really putting your self in a future big shit.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Fxwarrior: 4:49pm On Dec 15, 2019
Goodbloke:
God help us wey be single guys o.

How can a man behave like this?

The matter weak me self. I would naturally even want her to blossom because las las they will say I am taking good care of my wife.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by udemzyudex(m): 4:51pm On Dec 15, 2019
2special:
Why not you guys hear from the other party before condemning him... My advice is for you to file for a divorce if you're legally marry to him.... See a lawyer.

She should leave for now and file for divorce later,with what she wrote that man can do something stupid to her.


Sometimes I wonder how some men/women find it very easy to insult their partner.

Na wa oooo.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by slimanyd: 4:51pm On Dec 15, 2019
Op ,sorry to say, but you once did it to several guys who seek your hands in marriage back then. Flash back to those days when you said you will never marry someone below your cadre but you're always after flashy lifestyle of men . you asked for it and you got it, now ure blaming urself. Assuming you settled for the humble guy who you never see a future with ,maybe ur story won't have been like these. But all the way , I wish you the best in the journey of new beginning you embarked upon. Now to a other ladies. All that glitters is not gold.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by uruba23: 4:52pm On Dec 15, 2019
In tuface words "I cannot ask you to go and I cannot ask you to stay". ..you are probably hunting,running away should be a temporary things at least to help both of you to rethink the purpose of your union....you have to consider your kids in your equation... As for been celibate for life ...I can't help but laugh. ...body no be firewood o...and you have a husband.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by CallMeDrino: 4:53pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!


Good luck ma'am

Please I need work o... Come hire me
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Irore: 4:55pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

Identify areas you have wronged him in the past-list them and plead with him that you are sorry; apology, as to err is human before you move. I write this because the man can't be all wrong.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by olenime(m): 4:55pm On Dec 15, 2019
So sorry, guess this use to be a sparkling love at the beginning.

So sad.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by dairykidd(m): 4:56pm On Dec 15, 2019
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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by amaks: 4:56pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

Don't make it about him. like, saying teaching him a lesson or sending him a message or all that etc. Don't make it about him. Make it about you, your happiness, your well being and your kids. Don't let him be your motivation and drive, for doing what you want to do. You are striving for a better life for yourself and your kids. And your better mental health. He's not deserving of your thoughts and attention and time anymore. Don't waste any ayyenriiand emotions on him or thinking of him anymore. Delete him and give yourself time to heal. Learn all the lessons you need to learn, which i believe you've done, then move on.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Fxwarrior: 4:57pm On Dec 15, 2019
cococandy:
You can leave without denying him access to his kids.

If both of you make as much money as you claim, I’m sure you can afford a lawyer/mediator to smooth things out in that direction. That will be the best and most peaceful resolution for you.

Don’t take the kids and go hide. You will be kidnapping them and that won’t favor you in custody claims in the near future.

Your family won’t let you leave? You’re not a child!
Do it anyway


My fear is that the matter can drag for years in court.

Nevertheless kindheartedd this advise looks good but why does something in me still wish he would change?

Divorce is not a good thing o.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Rhema14(m): 4:57pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

Madam it's sorry to know u go thru such pain in ur marriage...but calling it quit won't make it better.

Every marriage have its own unique problem, some couples just cover it up and give the smiling faces in public.

The most important thing u should think about now is ur kids....ur decision right now would definitely affect them. They are too young and innocent to experience single parenthood with their mother, knowing their father is somewhere else. They also need the love of their father..pls consider them.

For you to create a thread to write about ur family matter really shows u want a solution.

I will advice why not continue to go on ur knees in prayers as am sure u have been doing...God has a way of turning negative situation for good.



Don't make d hole wider for the devil to come in...

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by lefulefu(m): 4:59pm On Dec 15, 2019
thats why its not good to rush into marriage but study the person u want to marry.and as for the issue of saying if u want to marry u should marry a strict christian just forget that one.being a bible thumper does not guarantee someone will make a better partner.its better to marry someone with a humane heart that someone who is a bible thumper.after all there are bible thumpers who cheat on their partners.need i mention church dedicated ladies who are married and still have affairs with their pastors or those pastors who keep side chics.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nobody: 5:00pm On Dec 15, 2019
Triniti:
chai, I didn’t see anywhere she mentioned that her life is under threat. You should put your emotions in check and give pragmatic advice

U better dont mind that awkaetitibabe of a girl. The other one is that pocohontas abi wetin b their name? And that useless onyi22(f)

These expired feminists are w*tches in human form and their frustrations in life stinks from my monitor screen right up to my face. They form advisors online to their fellow women but if you read their writeups well, they can't hide their delight when a woman is going through marital stress and pains. They are so happy to welcome a woman into their kingdom of pains and trauma in the guise of 'many women stay in their homes until their husband commits homicide' bla bla bla.


Yet at the same time, they make so many comments online from Monday to Sunday, usually on front page, that one has to wonder if they have jobs or other forms of engagement. My guess is theyre advertising themselves online to have a false sense of appreciation in order to alleviate their plummeting depression, and at the same time, hope to find hookups from the same gender they bash day and night. I know their ploy.

No mind them jare.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Roski1(m): 5:01pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!
The man is not here to defend himself oh. What if she also contributed to the problem. When you stood before God and made an oath in the presence of many witnesses to stay with your hubby for better for worse, were you dreaming? For the mere fact that you will make an oath and break it, I think something is fishy about your complaint. Have you committed your family problems to God in prayer and no result?

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nweike1: 5:01pm On Dec 15, 2019
catwalq:
Leave if you need to but let it be for your peace of mind and not an act of vengeance. If you're leaving to teach him a lesson,it might not be wholesome for you and the kids especially.


I wish you peace
You are too much. God bless you

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by ednut1(m): 5:02pm On Dec 15, 2019
mechanics:
You might have seen this trait of is before finally saying I do, but maybe you didn't pay attention to it, if at all you did courtship, you might have seen this attitude in him also, i don't support your leaving him but since your mind is made up, no problem, where there will problem is when you eventually remarry and he's still alive, God won't be happy with that choice. This is just an eye opener for those still single, that they should take their time before getting married, marriage is for life.
if monkey had money woman for still marry am

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by holuwajobar(m): 5:02pm On Dec 15, 2019
What if the husband is on nairaland nko?

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by openmine(m): 5:02pm On Dec 15, 2019
catwalq:
Leave if you need to but let it be for your peace of mind and not an act of vengeance. If you're leaving to teach him a lesson,it might not be wholesome for you and the kids especially.


I wish you peace
True
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by luminouz(m): 5:02pm On Dec 15, 2019
Cutehector:
How do people even end up marrying demons. It really beats my imagination. The matter tire person

I feel her story but I'm reserving judgement till I hear the man's side of the story...


The devil also wears Prada,I'm told.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by OLAJADON: 5:03pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!
be strong ma, the Lord is your strength. some men don't know what they have till dey loss it.
I pray he still come back to his sense and show you the beautiful side of love.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by TemmyT002(m): 5:04pm On Dec 15, 2019
Tell us his name so that our female friends will not jam him.
Also, why are you telling us you want to leave him? It's really none of our business.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Toks2008(m): 5:05pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

Lalasticlala can you see why I create certain threads?

https://www.nairaland.com/5492915/present-day-woman-misplaced-priority-marriage

I just don't write for writing sake.

OP please visit that thread. I hope it helps.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by samifet: 5:06pm On Dec 15, 2019
From your narratives i heard you mentioned God, Prayers and Christianity, don't you think your decision can be a failure faith in God, Why don't you go on your knees praying to that God you believe can change him? I almost took your same decision when my wife's attitude was like a tick on my skin but when i remembered there's power in prayers and prayed, God did a wonderful work in my family, now i am happy in my home. Finally sister God/ scripture does not support divorce, If you are truly a believer think about this, Just try God in prayer (Matt: 11 vs 28-29 Luke 11 vs 20). May the Lord grant you peace of mind.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Gim2001ym(m): 5:07pm On Dec 15, 2019
My advice for you is very simple. Don't listen to those guys on naira land that does not know what marriages is all about.
I understand your pain. I will first fault you on this. Most of you when you are dating a man, instead of you people to focus on the main thing that will come up in marriage, you will focus on buying me a phone, clothe, taking my to restaurants etc. There is a need for saying this . it is because of the young ladies that are not married yet so they can learn. I am a man. When you are dating a guy and you notice any character you don't like, tell him and don't overlook it because the guy is giving you something.
Then to solution
If his behaviour is truly a threat to your life, give him a break for now. Some men brain come to normal when you leave then for sometimes.
If he begs you and you come back and he does not change for some months , then you know that the man is not ready to change. Did you think raising kids as a single mother is easy?
Then as you take a break, prayerfully ask for God to touch him. There is nothing God can not do.
Don't rush into final decision. You are now emotionally beclouded. You can't think straight. take a break.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by swedbase(m): 5:08pm On Dec 15, 2019
Swissheart:
Sis,
Going by what you v written up there pls leave him. His jealousy is unhealthy and toxic. Now, he wants to start your kinda business because you are doing better than he is doing when he would have clearly come back at you if you failed.

Your husband is dangerous. He is capable of murder.
The Lord is yours Sis. Save yourself

Have you heard from the man? There are always two side of any story. Some people are very good in playing the victim card. I wish her the best anyway

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