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HealthRe: Abandoned And Forgotten: The Plight Of Itori General Hospital* by Rubyjade: 10:39am On Jul 29, 2025
Emma09:
Ogun State is one of the most notorious State to relocate to. Despite the fact that it's very close to Lagos, I personally have vowed never to even buy a Land or even built a house there. The level of infrastructural decay on the state is too worrisome. From Bad roads, to now this! A whole General hospital gone to the dogs! What a State!
While it's valid to feel frustrated by the infrastructural challenges in parts of Ogun State, it's important to view the state from a more holistic and balanced perspective. Like many Nigerian states, Ogun is a mix of both challenges and potential.

Yes, some roads and public facilities like hospitals may be in disrepair, but that doesn't reflect the entire picture. Ogun State has recorded considerable growth in key sectors. It is home to some of Nigeria’s top educational institutions like Covenant University and Babcock University, and has one of the fastest-growing industrial corridors in the country. Major companies and factories are setting up operations there due to its proximity to Lagos, more affordable land, and less congestion.

Furthermore, not all areas of Ogun State are underdeveloped. Places like Abeokuta, Ota, and Sagamu are rapidly developing with growing residential estates, schools, and infrastructure improvements. Real estate investment in many parts of Ogun is actually on the rise because of the high return potential, especially for those priced out of Lagos.

Rather than writing off an entire state, it might be more productive to push for accountability and better governance. With proper leadership and public participation, improvements are not only possible—they're already happening in pockets across the state.
SportsRe: Nigeria Vs Morocco: 2024 WAFCON Finals (3 - 2) On 26th July 2025 by Rubyjade: 9:46pm On Jul 26, 2025
dydx2020:
Nigeria is Winning
You dey watch back of TV. Nigeria has cknce
SportsRe: Nigeria Vs Morocco: 2024 WAFCON Finals (3 - 2) On 26th July 2025 by Rubyjade: 9:42pm On Jul 26, 2025
otokx:
What formation are they even playing?
2-3-2-4-1
SportsRe: Nigeria Vs Morocco: 2024 WAFCON Finals (3 - 2) On 26th July 2025 by Rubyjade: 9:42pm On Jul 26, 2025
jetguy:
Is like you guys are not seeing the laser light this people are constantly flashing on our players eyes....I didn't blame them abeg.
Shut up! Stop giving excuses. They are far better than super falcon
FamilyRe: At What Age Did You/will You Write Your WILL? by Rubyjade: 8:53pm On Jul 26, 2025
mosicola:
I have a bicycle and 10 palm trees as my life savings. Can I still write my will?
Yes you can.
RomanceRe: Man Cancels Wedding After Finding Out Bride Was Sleeping With Rev Father. by Rubyjade: 8:47pm On Jul 26, 2025
EmekaA125:
A business man, Mr Chibuike Nwandu has cancelled his wedding slated to hold on August 2nd, 2025 after a shocking revelation which dealt a big blow to him. He discovered that his wife to be, Miss Chidimma from Ukpor, Nnewi South LGA of Anambra State has been having affair with a Catholic Priest even after introduction. He called off the wedding and equally cut ties with the lady.
Mr. Chibuike Nwandu's decision to cancel his wedding after discovering his fiancée, Miss Chidimma, was having an affair with a Catholic Priest is totally understandable. This shocking revelation must have been a huge betrayal of trust, making it impossible for him to proceed with the marriage 😔.

A supporting argument for his decision is that trust is foundational in any marriage. If Miss Chidimma was already engaging in an affair, especially with someone as spiritually significant as a Catholic Priest, it raises serious questions about her commitment and integrity. This breach of trust would likely create an unhealthy dynamic in their marriage.

Also, emotional well-being is crucial. Mr. Nwandu deserves to be in a relationship where he feels valued and respected. Given the circumstances, calling off the wedding and cutting ties might be the best decision for his emotional health 🌈. This situation highlights the importance of choosing a partner wisely and ensuring that both parties share mutual respect and trust .
FamilyRe: Who Brings More To The Table: Men Or Women? by Rubyjade: 7:47pm On Jul 26, 2025
bukatyne:
I did not mention women are 'superior' or 'inferior'.

Marriage, in its essence was designed for a man's benefit.

Will women (if married to good/right men) benefit? Will some of them have better lives? Yes.

Does it negate that it is for a man's benefit? No.

All through the Bible, the benefit of marriage to men was stated... 'He who marries a wife has found a good thing and has obtained favour from the Lord'; ' A righteous woman is her husband's crown'; 'It is not good for a man to be alone'.... etc. If you want to explore Solomon's take, marriage/ wife was seen as a man's reward/cushion in this hard life. NO Bible verse talks about the benefit of marriage to women. None.

Protection.... from what? Men. Enough said!

Even Proverbs 31 talks about the virtuous wife; what was her benefit? Her husband and her children 'praise' her.

Are the praises enough return on the investment she makes in about 20 verses to make their lives easy? Who knows.
You've presented a perspective on marriage based on biblical references, highlighting its benefits for men 🌟.
However, I disagree strongly
Marriage Benefits
1. Mutual Benefits: While the Bible does emphasize benefits for men, marriage can also be seen as a mutual partnership where both parties can benefit emotionally, financially, and spiritually.
2. Women's Benefits in Scripture: Although you noted no direct verses about women's benefits, passages like *Proverbs 18:22* can be interpreted to suggest that finding a spouse is a blessing, potentially implying mutual benefit.
3. Proverbs 31 Context: The virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 is indeed praised by her family, but her value is also depicted through her contributions and agency within the household, suggesting her life has purpose and fulfillment.
4. Modern Perspective: In contemporary contexts, marriage is often viewed as a partnership of equals, where both men and women can find support, companionship, and mutual growth.

While historical and biblical texts may highlight men's benefits, marriage can be seen as a mutual arrangement where both partners can experience positive outcomes .
SportsRe: As A Footballer Who Are You Passing This Too? by Rubyjade: 9:06am On Jul 26, 2025
While it may seem like giving B the ball through a pass puts him one-on-one with the goalkeeper, that assumes perfect timing, acceleration, and no defensive pressure — which isn’t always guaranteed.

1. Distance to Goal & Defender Pressure
Player B is marked and positioned closer to the right-back defender.
According to FIFA’s 2022 player tracking data, average sprint speed for defenders is 32 km/h, while attackers average 33–35 km/h. The margin is small, so a through pass to B risks a 50-50 sprint race, especially if the defender anticipates it early.

2. Offside Risk
B is near the defensive line. Any slightly mistimed pass will result in an offside. Statistically, offside traps are successful 63% of the time when executed near the halfway line (Opta, 2021). If the pass is slightly delayed, B may be caught offside or lose momentum adjusting to stay onside.

3. C’s Advantage: Facing the Play
C is behind the defenders, facing forward, and can run onto the ball in stride. Studies show that players making diagonal runs behind the line score in 17% more 1v1 situations than those receiving straight-line through balls (UEFA Tactical Study, 2020). Since C has a better angle, he can also square the ball to B if needed — giving a 2v1 scenario against the goalkeeper.

4. Passing Angle
The passing angle to C is clearer with less risk of interception. In high-level matches, passes through central defenders (like to B) have a 32% chance of interception, while passes to wide or trailing attackers (like C) are intercepted only 19% of the time (StatsBomb, 2023).
Passing to C might delay the shot slightly, but it gives:

- More control
- Higher pass success rate
-Option to pass to B again
- Less risk of offside or interception

Passing to B depends too much on speed and precision timing, making it a riskier choice in practice — especially if the defenders read the play well.
helinues:
Giving C the ball, it would be hard for him to score the ball as the defenders must have closed in.. Giving it to B, as long as the player has pace, the through pass will be one on one with the goal keeper
FamilyTips For Mothers On How To Survive This Harsh Nigerian Economy by Rubyjade(op): 7:42pm On Jul 25, 2025
With the rising cost of food and household items, many mothers are finding it increasingly difficult to manage their homes. Here are a few practical tips to help stretch your budget and ease the pressure:

1. Plan with a Budget: Always create a clear budget and shopping list before heading to the market. This helps avoid impulse buying and ensures you only buy what’s truly needed.

2. Buy in Bulk: Purchase staple items like rice, beans, and tomatoes in larger quantities when possible. Buying in bulk can save money and reduce frequent trips to the market.

3. Choose Affordable Alternatives: Opt for less expensive but nutritious substitutes—like potatoes instead of yams, or cloth nappies instead of disposable diapers when appropriate.

4. Explore Additional Income Sources: Consider learning a small skill or starting a side hustle to support your main source of income. Even a little extra can make a big difference.

5. Avoid Unhealthy Comparisons: Focus on your family’s needs and avoid comparing your meals or lifestyle with others. Everyone’s journey is different.

Add yours
FamilyRe: The Harsh Truth About Moving Back To Nigeria! by Rubyjade:
Here’s a harsh truth about moving back to Nigeria that many returning Nigerians (especially from the diaspora) often realize too late: "You may be overqualified, underconnected, and mentally unprepared for the chaos."

Let’s break it down

1. Overqualified but underutilized
Your foreign degree or experience might not give you the edge you think it will. Many companies still prioritize "who you know" over "what you know." You could be competing with local candidates who understand the system and are willing to be paid less.

2. Your mindset may clash with the system
If you've lived in a structured, rule-based society, adapting to Nigeria's “anything-goes” approach can be jarring.

Bribery, power outages, internet issues, and poor customer service may become everyday frustrations. Expect delays, inefficiencies, and a culture where speaking up may be viewed as arrogance, not assertiveness.

3. Old connections fade fast
Many of the friends, family, and contacts you once had might have moved on. You may face envy, suspicion, or resentment, especially if people think you’re coming back "to show off."

Rebuilding a reliable circle takes time, and loneliness can hit hard.

4. The cost of living isn't as cheap as you think
Imported goods, secure housing, and quality healthcare/schools can be very expensive. Trying to maintain a "foreign standard" of living in Nigeria can burn through your savings quickly.

5. Your safety and sanity are not guaranteed
Security is a real concern — kidnappings, fraud, and police harassment happen more than they should. You may constantly have to "watch your back" in ways you never did abroad.

The brutal reality: “Nigeria can humble you, frustrate you, and teach you resilience — all in one week.”

It’s not all bad — many who return thrive. But it takes strategy, adaptability, strong connections, and a clear WHY for coming back.
EducationRe: Minimum Age Requirement For JSS 1 Admission is 10 Yrs - FG insists by Rubyjade: 7:29pm On Jul 25, 2025
While the Federal Government has reaffirmed that the minimum age for admission into Junior Secondary School 1 (JSS1) remains 10 years, there are several compelling arguments—supported by global trends, child development research, and comparative education systems—that suggest this policy may warrant a reassessment or review.

1. Cognitive and Emotional Maturity:
According to developmental psychologists like Jean Piaget, children between the ages of 7 to 11 are in the “concrete operational stage”, where they begin to develop logical thinking but still struggle with abstract concepts. Many experts argue that 12 years is a more developmentally appropriate age to begin secondary-level education where subjects become more abstract and challenging.

UNESCO and OECD studies recommend that secondary education should ideally start at 11 to 12 years in most developing contexts to align with optimal cognitive readiness.

Children under 10 often struggle with abstract concepts in math, science, and social studies—leading to higher dropout rates or poor performance in JSS1 and JSS2.


2. Global Comparisons:
In many countries, children begin lower secondary school (equivalent to JSS1) at an older age than Nigeria’s current policy.

United Kingdom: Secondary school starts at 11 years (Year 7).

Finland: Lower secondary starts around 12 years.

United States: Middle school (similar to JSS1) typically begins at 11–12 years.

South Africa: Grade 7 (start of secondary school) is for 12–13-year-olds.

Nigeria’s policy of admitting 10-year-olds into JSS1 is among the youngest globally and raises concerns about educational outcomes and stress levels in young learners.

3. Learning Retention and Long-Term Performance:
Early transition to JSS1 has not consistently led to improved academic performance in national assessments.

According to WAEC and NECO statistics, there is a noticeable drop in performance in core subjects such as Mathematics and English among students who entered JSS1 early. Many teachers report that younger JSS1 students often lag in emotional regulation, peer interaction, and academic discipline. This trend suggests a mismatch between chronological age and academic expectations.

4. Parental Pressure and Over-Ambitious Timelines:
Maintaining a minimum entry age of 10 has not deterred:

The rising number of underage university students, with some as young as 14–15 years entering higher education—below the prescribed 16-year minimum. Private school systems increasingly accelerate children through basic education to gain a competitive advantage, often at the expense of depth and maturity.

Raising the minimum JSS1 age to 12 could naturally help curb these issues by realigning educational progression with emotional and psychological development.

5. Rural and Underserved Areas:
In many rural parts of Nigeria, children start school late due to limited access or cultural practices. Enforcing a 12-year minimum could help standardize entry age across regions and reduce the stigma for older children entering JSS1. It also provides a buffer for those who start school later due to factors beyond their control, helping improve equity in education.

While the government is right to prevent misinformation, there is strong justification to reassess the JSS1 minimum age policy. A revised benchmark of 11–12 years could promote better cognitive alignment, reduce dropout rates, and enhance long-term academic performance.

Rather than dismissing the idea entirely, the Federal Ministry of Education could consider commissioning a national study on the impact of early secondary school entry and use the findings to make data-driven adjustments to policy in line with the Renewed Hope Agenda.
SportsRe: As A Footballer Who Are You Passing This Too? by Rubyjade: 7:27pm On Jul 25, 2025
crusufixo:
This na confirmed true pass to C. A & B have the opponent behind them and can easily dispossess them if the ball is passed to them. But C is behind the opponent and can easily take the true pass ( of course he would have to have speed)
C is in the best position to receive the pass and launch an attack:

1. Positional Advantage: C is behind the defender, meaning the opponent is facing the ball and not directly marking him. This gives C a momentary edge, especially if he times his run well.

2. Vision and Passing Lane: The player in possession has a clear sightline to C. There's less risk of interception compared to A and B who have defenders right on their backs.

3. Momentum and Speed: If C is fast (which is key here), he's already facing forward and can burst into space. A well-weighted through pass allows him to take it in stride without breaking momentum.

4. Element of Surprise: Most defenders are watching A and B more closely because they’re visibly in the passing lanes. A sudden pass to C, who's off their radar momentarily, could catch them off-guard.

5. Reduced Risk of Losing Possession: Passing to A or B risks an immediate tackle or interception since the defenders are close and ready to pounce. C, on the other hand, only needs a split-second gap to capitalize.

So yes, if the passer has good vision and timing — and C is fast and alert — this is a classic through ball situation that can break the line and lead to a goal-scoring chance.
PoliticsRe: No African Country Made The IMF Top 20 Economies In 2025 by Rubyjade: 7:25pm On Jul 25, 2025
brain54:
You seem to have quoted me just for argument sake...

And to make a point by countering what I said mainly. I see you outlined every single point I made and made a counter.

I never blamed France or colonialism for the current situation of Africa being underdeveloped.

I only mentioned France having developed their country by exploitation of Africa's resources. Both in the past through colonialism and presently till date by getting raw resources from Africa at dirt cheap rate.

Havards wealth is theirs under whatever condition it is under. Is it not? They have more money than some African countries is that so or not?

What ever reason Russia has been able to attain that position should it have been with uncarefull or reckless planning?

France may be industrialised I didn't miss that fact and no nation can truly develop without industrialisation but how did they attain industrialisation in the first place?

Your comment sounds funny to me. But I take it you just felt like talking because I didn't see any reason for your quoting me!
You're right to call it out if it felt like nitpicking. However, quoting isn't always meant to "counter" for sport. It's to clarify the points being addressed — especially in a nuanced debate like Africa’s development. Let’s now respond with balance, not just opposition.

Yes, France — like many colonial powers — built wealth off Africa’s raw materials during colonization and still benefits today through unfair trade structures. But blaming colonialism alone doesn’t explain why Africa still lags behind.

India, Malaysia, and Vietnam were colonized too — today, they have diversified industries and growing economies.

In 1960, Ghana and South Korea had similar GDP per capita. Today, South Korea’s is over $36,000, Ghana’s is around $2,200. The difference? Industrial strategy and leadership — not historical injustice alone.


Meanwhile:

Harvard’s endowment is $50B+, bigger than some African countries' GDP — but Africa loses $88B yearly through illicit financial flows.

Russia, despite sanctions, still ranks high economically because it leverages energy exports and geopolitical strategy — not reckless planning.

France is industrialized today not just because of colonial wealth, but because it invested in technology, manufacturing, and education. Africa must do the same.


Until African leaders prioritize industrialization, value addition, and accountable governance, the continent will remain dependent and underpaid — not because of the past, but because of today's choices.
SportsRe: As A Footballer Who Are You Passing This Too? by Rubyjade: 7:11pm On Jul 25, 2025
success1smyn:
I am a good passer and I am definitely passing to 'B' but not through the arrow, if 'B' is a good striker with a lot of pace, that a goal. I am going to pass through where your arrow towards 'C' is facing.
While your intention to pass to B via the route towards C may seem like a clever disguise, it's risky and inefficient. That route is longer, more indirect, and gives defenders extra time to reposition or intercept.

A direct pass to B, even if not exactly through the arrow shown, gives him a better chance to exploit the space behind the defender—especially if he's fast. Delaying or curving the pass through C's angle sacrifices momentum and surprises no one, particularly against a high-pressing or disciplined backline.

If B has pace, you exploit it with a quick, sharp through ball—not a scenic route.
SportsRe: As A Footballer Who Are You Passing This Too? by Rubyjade: 7:09pm On Jul 25, 2025
While B looks like the better option at first glance, the through pass to him may not be as effective due to a few tactical risks:

1. Passing Lane Risk: The "control angle" to B might be too narrow. The pass requires precision and timing — a slight miscalculation and the defender next to B can easily intercept or shoulder him off.

2. Offside Trap Risk: Even though B appears onside now, a delay of even half a second could result in him drifting offside — especially if the defensive line steps up.

3. Limited Time to React: B is facing sideways and may not be in the best body position to receive and immediately control a fast through ball under pressure.

4. C as a Better Link-up: Although C has two defenders nearby, receiving the ball to feet allows C to act as a pivot. He can hold up play or quickly square to B in space, drawing defenders out of shape in the process.

5. Higher Goal Probability: The play through C may slow things down briefly but could increase the quality of the final ball to B, who can then strike with better positioning and less pressure.

In summary, while B looks attractive for a killer pass, C might be the smarter, safer route for building a more decisive final move.
helinues:
Na control angle. Through pass to B. Ps station. Lol

C might be a bad option as there are 2 players on him. But B is just with a man. By the time C get the ball, the defenders might have closed up with him

The B is onside, he can make a run to score the goal
SportsRe: As A Footballer Who Are You Passing This Too? by Rubyjade: 7:07pm On Jul 25, 2025
Amotolongbo:
I could have passed to B but I don’t trust the referee, he could intercept the killer pass. The ref looks like Howard Webb and the opponent’s jersey looks like that of Manchester United.

I will pass to C so that he can drive and square play to B.
Avoiding a pass to B due to the referee's position may be too cautious. Referees are trained to stay out of play, and the killer pass could have broken the opponent’s (Man United-style) defense instantly. Passing to C adds delay, allowing defenders to recover and pressure both C and B. In fast-paced attacking situations, bold, instinctive decisions often create the best chanc
SportsRe: As A Footballer Who Are You Passing This Too? by Rubyjade: 7:03pm On Jul 25, 2025
Great question — and an excellent scenario to break down! This is a classic transitional moment in football, and decision-making here can determine the outcome of an attack. Let's analyze each option:

Player A:

Pros: Close to the ball carrier and in a good central position. A short, safe pass.

Cons: He’s marked closely and running in the same lane. Receiving the ball might slow down the attack, and he might not have space to turn or drive forward. Risk of getting caught in midfield.

Verdict: Low to medium success — only useful for recycling possession, not progressing the attack quickly.


Player B:
Pros: Positioned centrally between defenders and in half-space. A through ball to B could open up a 2v2 situation. He’s also facing forward with fewer obstacles between him and the goal.

Cons: Requires perfect timing to avoid interception by the nearby defender. Slightly riskier pass, but high reward.

Verdict: Best option if the pass is well-timed and accurate — opens up the game and could lead to a goal.

Player C:
Pros: Has space on the wing, and the full-back is out of position. A simple lateral pass would stretch the defense and create a wide 1v1.

Cons: Less direct — allows the opposition to recover and regroup. Also pushes the attack away from the goal.

Verdict: Safe option — useful if the team wants to switch play, but not the most dangerous.

Final Decision: Player B is the best option. He’s in a position that breaks the lines. Has space behind defenders. Could link up quickly with C or go for goal himself.

A successful pass to B puts the defense on the back foot instantly.

Football Insight:

A lot of fans overlook how timing, positioning, and pressure influence passing choices. This image shows how transitional attacks require quick scanning, weight of pass, and intelligent movement. Knowing theory is one thing — but reading a real play like this? That’s the next level. 🔥
obembet:
I believe we have alot of football lovers in this great forum, expecially people who can easily Predict football outcome base on The club strength. All though, many care argues but never been on the field before to understand how it works.

Now, let us see if you really understand football very well, Can you guess who of this A,B,C play can make use of this pass successfully?

Source: obembet
PoliticsRe: No African Country Made The IMF Top 20 Economies In 2025 by Rubyjade: 7:00pm On Jul 25, 2025
DeLaRue:
What is surprising is that the UK is only a few hundred billion from catching up with Japan, and is around $600 billion ahead of France.

I have always wondered how the UK has such high GDP.

These days, you can hardly find anything anywhere that is is 'Made in England' or 'Made in the UK',yet its GDPis nearly 20% more than France. It is quite an achievement.

However, despite a high GDP, it has the most complaining people on planet earth smiley

If you check you tube, you would think it is worse than Somalia the way people there whinge non stop.
The UK's high GDP comes mainly from its service-based economy, not manufacturing. It leads globally in finance, education, media, and legal services, which don’t carry "Made in UK" labels but generate massive income. The country also benefits from global influence and strong intellectual exports.

As for the constant complaining, it's less about suffering and more about a culture of free speech and high expectations — signs of a functioning democracy, not a failing nation.
PoliticsRe: No African Country Made The IMF Top 20 Economies In 2025 by Rubyjade: 6:57pm On Jul 25, 2025
brain54:
Not surprised about African countries not making the list...


Harvard University in the US alone generates or has more money than some African countries.

It's a pity African countries aren't tapping fully into their potentials.

That aside I am surprised Russia with a the economic and other sanctions was able to make the list and in a strong position too.

As for France the first thing that crossed my mind seeing her name there was how they must have used stolen wealth from African resources to develop their country.

Stolen resources and rare earth minerals from their so called assimilation policies from bukinafaso, Niger etc.

Africa/ns really needs to wake up!
While Africa has been historically exploited, blaming colonialism alone ignores decades of poor governance, corruption, and underutilization of local potential. Harvard's wealth, though large, operates under different rules and isn't directly comparable to a national economy.

Russia’s economic strength despite sanctions is due to strategic planning, energy exports, and alternative trade routes. France’s modern wealth comes more from industrialization and innovation than just past colonial gains.

Ultimately, Africa needs to focus on building strong institutions, investing in education and innovation, and holding leaders accountable to truly unlock its potential.
FamilyRe: Who Brings More To The Table: Men Or Women? by Rubyjade: 6:54pm On Jul 25, 2025
That's a bold claim — that marriage was designed primarily for the benefit of men, and therefore women bring more to the table — but it doesn’t hold up fully under historical, biological, and social scrutiny. Biblical Interpretation Is Often Misused

Yes, Genesis 2:18 says “It is not good for man to be alone; I will make a helper suitable for him.”
But that "helper" (Hebrew: ezer kenegdo) is not a sidekick — it’s a powerful term used to describe God Himself in other scriptures (e.g., Psalm 33:20).

So the woman was not created as less than, but as a complementary equal — not proof that she brings "more" or that marriage is for men’s exclusive benefit. The Bible doesn't suggest women are superior in value — but equal partners.

Historically, marriage benefited both genders, often protecting women.

Modern data shows men may gain more in health and stability, while women often carry more emotional and mental load — which is why they leave more often.

Marriage is not about who brings more, but how both partners contribute fully and fairly.
bukatyne:
Marriage was designed for the benefit of men.

According to the Bible, God said it is not good for a man to be alone & created a woman. So naturally, women bring more to the 'table' ( to mirror the OP).

The ask is that men bring something commensurate; 40% will do.
FamilyRe: Who Brings More To The Table: Men Or Women? by Rubyjade: 6:51pm On Jul 25, 2025
The "Table" in Question

Are we talking about:

Relationships (romantic or marital)?

Business or career?

Family or social structure?

Community or leadership?


Each context has different expectations, strengths, and needs.
Merry100:
In my opinion, Nigerian women bring more to the table
Who brings more to the table — a man or a woman? It depends on the individual, not the gender. Value is based on character, mindset, skills, and what each person contributes in a given context (relationship, business, family, etc.). The real focus should be on complementary strengths, not competition. Gender alone doesn’t determine value — actions do.
RomanceRe: Will You Like To Marry A Partner That Behaves Like Your Parents? by Rubyjade: 6:45pm On Jul 25, 2025
Parents shape us in many ways — through their love, sacrifices, values, and even their flaws. Some people look at their parents and think, “If I find someone just like my mom or dad, I’ll be blessed.” Others quietly promise themselves, “I want something very different.”

So, ask yourself honestly:

- Do my parents’ behaviors represent the kind of love, communication, and respect I want in a partner?
- Would I feel emotionally safe and fulfilled if my spouse acted exactly like my mom or dad?

It’s not about judging them, but about choosing consciously. You’re not just marrying a person — you’re choosing the energy and environment you want to build a life in.

So… Would you marry someone like your parent?
If yes, that's beautiful.
If no, that's a cue to grow in a new direction.
ebubeson:
Parents are very important to us and good parents make it beautiful.

Now, with the way your Parents behave, will you marry a partner that behaves like any or both of your parent?
HealthRe: Why Does My Baby’s Head Look Swollen After Delivery? Is That Normal? by Rubyjade: 6:44pm On Jul 25, 2025
giftson102:
Mama, let’s talk about something many new parents notice right after birth. A soft swelling or bump on their baby’s head. It can look scary, but in most cases, it’s harmless and temporary.

There are two common types of newborn head swelling after delivery:

1. Caput Succedaneum
2. Cephalhematoma

And yes, they’re different.

Let me break it down for you:

Caput Succedaneum
This is a soft, puffy swelling of the scalp that crosses the midline, meaning it’s spread across both sides of the head. It happens when pressure from the birth canal or the bag of waters pushes on the baby’s head.
It’s more common with long labors or when the water breaks early.
It’s usually harmless and goes away on its own within a few days.

Cephalhematoma
This one is a collection of blood between the baby’s skull and scalp. Unlike caput, it is firm and does not cross the midline. It stays on one side.
It can appear a few hours after birth and may get bigger before it gets better.
It also clears on its own, but it can take weeks to months.
In rare cases, it may lead to jaundice or calcify, so your doctor will keep an eye on it.

What should you do?
Watch it. Don’t press or massage it.
Keep your baby’s head protected.
Follow up with your doctor, especially if you notice yellowing of the eyes or skin, or the swelling seems to be growing.

The good news is both conditions usually resolve without treatment, and your baby will be just fine.

Mama, don’t panic when you see that bump. Knowing the difference can help you feel more confident and calm in those first few days of motherhood.

NB

Quick Note on Cephalhematoma:
Yes, in most cases, cephalhematoma resolves on its own as the baby’s body slowly reabsorbs the blood over several weeks or months. But it should still be monitored by a doctor. If it leads to jaundice, hardening, or signs of infection, your healthcare provider may need to step in. So while it’s usually nothing to worry about, keeping an eye on it is key.

Appreciation: Midwife Chiamaka
While caput succedaneum and cephalhematoma are usually harmless, they shouldn't be dismissed too quickly. Complications like skull fractures, jaundice, infection, or calcification can occur, especially with cephalhematoma. Telling parents to "just watch it" may lead to missed warning signs, as not all new parents know what to look for. The safest approach is reassurance combined with regular medical checkups and proper monitoring to ensure any swelling is truly harmless.
HealthRe: One Fact About These People(photo) by Rubyjade: 6:37pm On Jul 25, 2025
They are selling both up and down
Freshtruth:
One Fact About These People (photo)

Omogggggghhh
They are mobile fuel vendors, often selling petrol, diesel, or engine oil in reused bottles on the streets—especially in areas with fuel scarcity or no filling stations nearby.

Omogggghhh, na real street hustle be this—risking heat, fire, and stress just to survive.🔥💔 Respect to her grind!
Music/RadioRe: Chinwe Ike By Resonance: Who Remembers This Music? by Rubyjade: 1:13pm On Jul 25, 2025
Chinwe Ike” by Resonance is a beloved Nigerian gospel song released in 2006. Sung in a mix of Igbo and English, it encourages listeners to trust in God's strength, even when others forget or abandon them. The phrase “Cheta na Chinwe Ike” means “Remember the God of strength.” The song emphasizes daily prayer and God's faithfulness.

It was part of Resonance’s breakout album and produced by Dekumzy, marking his first major hit. Today, the song remains a gospel classic in Nigeria, especially among Igbo-speaking audiences.
SportsRe: A Look At South Africa's F1 Grand Prix Bid Venues - PICTURES by Rubyjade: 1:06pm On Jul 25, 2025
ruggedtimi:
I wonder where abuja want use host F1..the hotels and security for VIPs.
They obviously would displaced most people to build the track with billions of $
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Introverts, How Do You Cope At Your Work Place? by Rubyjade: 10:58am On Jul 25, 2025
wink
AntiChristian:
I just mind my business and talk when needed!
PoliticsRe: Nigeria Now Spends Less Than 50% Of Revenue On Debt From 97% by Rubyjade: 7:59pm On Jul 24, 2025
lionshare:
In same order:

Can you provide proof of this?

Net reserves grew from $4B to $23B. Are you implying we borrowed $19B? From where?

Most businesses listed on the NGX have been declaring record revenues and profits since 2024, which is a testament to an improving economy, as the stock market is also a lagging indicator.

Fair, but needed.

This is not true, according to Fitch Ratings — and to be honest, security has improved across the board comparatively.

We were Zimbabwe-bound, though I agree it would have taken maybe 5–7 years.
She has responded. I am patiently waiting for your response to her with facts and figures.
FamilyRe: Man Shares His Ungrateful Friend's Response After Sending Him ₦20k For His Baby by Rubyjade: 7:55pm On Jul 24, 2025
Chilipepper:
Man shares his ungrateful friend's response after sending him ₦20,000 for his newborn
1. Don’t Take It Personally – Their lack of gratitude reflects on them, not you. Don’t let it rob you of your peace.

2. Limit Your Giving – Stop overextending yourself. Ingrates often take more when they know you’ll keep giving.

3. Set Boundaries – Be clear about what you will and won’t tolerate. Protect your time, energy, and resources.

4. Don’t Expect Appreciation – Give only when it’s from the heart, not for applause. That way, you’re not disappointed.

5. Let Actions Speak – Sometimes, the best response is to quietly withdraw your support and let them feel the difference.

6. Learn and Adjust – Treat their ingratitude as feedback. Adjust your future interactions based on how they value (or devalue) you.

7. Keep Your Integrity – Stay kind, but wise. Don’t let ingratitude turn you bitter or make you stoop to their level.

Be helpful, not a doormat. Give smart. Love yourself enough to walk away when your kindness is being wasted.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Post What You Do On This Thread, Someone May Hire You. by Rubyjade: 10:54am On Jun 11, 2025
Has anyone been hired?
Foreign AffairsRe: Elon Musk Apologises To Donald Trump by Rubyjade: 10:52am On Jun 11, 2025
grin

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