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pweetychyka:
It's fyn boss.... Guess I didn't mention that we were actually dating!

But I am doing very fine now! D best is yet to come

pweetychyka:
Not in any way justifying my actions boss

The worst of it all was that it was a long distance relationship n d job I got engaged with along the line wasn't giving me weekend off n I was still shuffling work n study.. so I can't travel d way I used to while wit me previous job

And there is dis general saying that 'a man is moved by wat he sees than wat he hears'

pweetychyka:
Yes I do.... but God knows best

Actually I never snubbed him... work made us drifted a little bit apart plus he never genuinely loved me! If he had, he would have employed extra efforts instead of getting married to his elder sister's friend who he claims to be his ex

It's a pity he wasn't patient enough with me

Cindy222:
Domestic Violence Distributor (DVD).

MizzD:
Hahaha. Ryab!

I’m good o.. just seeing this.

jakandeola:
d problem is DAT some of u take rubbish in relationship in d name of I love u I love u. u refuse to discipline her wen she do bad. a girl Neva cook for u or wash for u as girlfrine u expect she wash as a wife.wat stop u from doing d rite thing. I beat my ex cos she refuse to wash for my mum she dump me. am in pain but I know is for d best cos wat I cant take now I will Neva take in marriage. am happily married now my wife too dicipline her cos of dis issue of lazy.she did not dump me.she stay and change her way.I still deal wit her wwn she do wrong and I sware she is a beta person before as I meet her.

Octopusssy:
Hahahaha! Which research?

You know why I like you ehn?

I like you because you remind me so much of my sibling. He never takes advice or sound counsel, and when the repercussions of his stubbornness come back to bite him in the ass, he is very quick to give every one in the family fat portions of the blame but leaves none for himself. Very selfless somborri

UjuJoan2:
What are you rambling about?

It's so easy for people to make grand statements and assumptions, when they've never been in a bad situation.

Anyway, go back and read my posts, then maybe you'll understand my point.

TooNoisy:
Oga, don't let these women judge you - I wouldn't. You only opened a thread seeking advise. You can let us know what some of these "new attitudes" are and we can discuss it. They have all just agreed it was your fault. You never said you treated her badly or you cheated on her.

TooNoisy:
Oh how I miss the Nairaland Family section. I read some of these posts and I just wonder how some of the people behind these monikers reason. This is not about supporting whatever a woman does because you are a woman but it's simply about being reasonable.

Please read the bolded again. So, if a man is treating a woman badly in a relationship, to the extent that resentment starts building in and the woman now hates the man, you are proposing that she goes ahead to marry that same man that she hates? Did you marry some you hate? So let me summarise your post:

1. A young lady with a bright future should continue dating a man who obviously doesn't love or value her.
2. It gets so bad that she gets fed-up and begins to resents the man and even hates him
3. So with 1 & 2 above, you propose she goes ahead and tries her best to marry the man because of societal pressure or virginity
4. When she gets married, she now begins to act crazy in revenge

What you typed is a joke. Young ladies, if a man is treating you like trash in a relationship, it wouldn't get better in marriage. Marriage is for a lifetime and you don't want to be unhappy in your marriage. Just walk out of the relationship and you will find a better man. There are good men out there who will surely locate you.

crackhaus:
You might actually be going about this all wrong, no pun intended.

Shouldn't you be counselling women to grow some cojonés and self-confidence along with a healthy dose of self-esteem, which will stop them from marrying jerks, only to turn around and pay the jerk back after getting married to him?

You're making a case for and glorifying emotional/psychological disorders without knowing it. What else would make a human being choose to stay with another just because they are nursing a plan to hurt them back? This is classic psychopath behavior.

It's like telling a faithful man to forgive and marry his fiancée who has been round the block & back, and when he begins cheating on her after marriage, you probably gonna say 'she had it coming'.
Really?

UjuJoan2:
I'm honestly not bothered about them, I know how difficult it is for MEN to accept the truth that their actions have direct consequences in the long run. Nigerian men are laden with this 'God complex' and most times it's difficult for them to realize that they will have to be held accountable for their mistakes, just like use mere mortals (women).

Let's take for instance a man who dated a woman for 10 years, probably even dis-virgined her . . at the point when he becomes finally stable he realizes she's not his 'type' and begins to mess around with other women. The will act like they are doing her a favor. . . . The woman, who thinks the odds are already against her will stay and hope he comes around eventually. But it doesn't stop the resentment from building. It doesn't stop the hatred from brewing . . . Eventually when he marries her after dangling marriage around like a carrot, and she realizes the burden of raising his family is actually on her, she sees the enormity of the sacrifices she has to make and realizes he's just not worth it and never earned her, she begins to act up. . . . Actions = Reactions!!! I'm a marriage counselor of sorts and I know what I see/hear on a regular basis.

Same goes for a cheating man . . . Many women will never walk out of a cheating spouse. But if a woman is aware of her husband's indiscretions, there's noting stopping her from doing same. I know the men will want to have my neck for this too, but it's just the truth. Any woman who gladly accepts a cheating husband is definitely cheating herself. I just pity these men who cheat and flaunt it thinking their wives have no option. She may play the docile wife, but who knows what she's also up to.

Untill men learn to respect and treasure women, there will always be dysfunctional marriages.

Goldencheese:
You are funny, man.

You don't know me either but I will allow this pass. I am not here to reel out my accomplishments, but I will definitely make way for you to win this argument and every other argument we may get into on this platform.

You win!

Just30:
soon as you mind your own business and stop talking about Ghana as if we were the once who voted for your politicians who keep making you one of the poorest people on earth.

criminal entities

fatymore:
And the wife stood by him...

If it was a man now, the family would have given him a secret wife in the village

subtlemee:
How will she cope with all these endorsements and still have time to breath? Greed won't let her say no to some

MizzD:
Aww.. no problem at all.

I should be able work around any new proposed date around that period.

Cheers

bluefilm:
I guess so.

Besides, I don't really go out there looking for some white women _shit.

I dig ebony full time!

Black bitches with huge _boobs and giant _booties are still the best!!!

bluefilm:
Surprisingly, for a connoisseur of porn like me, I have never watched any of her videos.

stonegarden:
i grieve with you and am sorry for your loss. we must be one people if not we are gone forever

stonegarden:
your creation Next Level has not even started and your towns and villages are already surrounded, from the look of things you people will have alot of business to be minding

it's still our business, not yours. Why are you so bothered? I never see this kain obsession before

stonegarden:
cowardice and betrayal is your known national identity. Even your Fulani masters know that. From Afonja, awolowo, abiola and jagaga. So wise and yet so foolish

stonegarden:
what has happened to your afenifere daughter? Enjoy your next level, sophisticated voters

enjoy your python dance too and leave us alone. As if you're doing any better

stonegarden:
without igbos u would hv been suya long ago

Zanas:
The joke is on you bro, in case you haven't noticed, your region is under siege by buhari's kinsmen. Continue joking until it gets to your turn

eyeview:
Those that voted buhari to spite igbos will be the ones to regret it.

spite? You severely overestimate your importance. What a joke

Chimaokigwe:
I wanted to reply you but I looked at your dp. I won't add to your problems.

With your eyes like that of someone having nightmare in broad daylight