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jamesharryson:
My dear, the earlier you start thinking we are in Nigeria, the better for you. Stop mentioning some of these ambiguous names when we are talking about our Nigerian issues. Do you really know that what is obtainable in the countries where all these names you mentioned came from cannot be obtainable here we call Nigeria? One applies a formula that works well for him. You cannot keep using a formula just because someone somewhere used it and it worked for him.
You cannot tell the barber to cut your hair the same style he cut Emma's hair without reasoning if you have the same shape of face with Emma

SAme thing applies in Nigeria. Raped victims aren't stigma.the only people stigmatized are petty robbers,ritualists and ex convicts

jamesharryson:
I am not defending anything. But I am just trying to weigh the situation properly. I have never had sex with any underaged person and I pray never to have such ugly experience. But we have to advise after weighing the situation at hand. Those people calling for the head of the husband will still be the ones to say you ran away from your husband's home without even talking about the reason you did. Save your home! Save your children from the embarrassment! Save yourself from the shame.

Come to think of it, do you know that a great number of people will blame you for that happening? Some will say that you don't do your duties as a woman, while some will say you expose the child to the act! But in everything, the name that will be in circulation will be urs and not even your husband's.

But if you think announcing it to the whole world is the only solution to the problem, go ahead and do it. Pay for jingles in the radio if u wish. Buy TV airtime So that it with be aired in the television, that is your own business anyway. But all I know is that inasmuch as your husband will suffer for the act, you are directly or indirectly suffering with him.

Besides, there is no one who will say he has no faeces in his/her anus

hiv is real,aids is real,gonorrhea is REAL,syphilis is REAL.all these excuses you are giving to justify why a rapist should be covered up is nothing compared to catching any of these diseases that gulps MONEY.

Your solution is akin to a burning house.instead of opening the doors and Windows to draw attention and help so that people will help you quench the fire from escalating and razing down the building,you cover the Windows and lock the door because you don't want anyone to know,the smoke will still find its way to the door and draw attention and suspicion unfortunately before things can be salvaged you will have been engulfed in the fire and the situation will have been irredeemable.speak up now before its too late

If you keep silent the emotional torture and guilty conscience anytime you see the girl will not make you rest

jamesharryson:
Of course! The whole family really joined in raping the child. If that is how you think of it.

When the head aches, the feet trembles or weakens.
When the hand is wounded, the neck stiffens and the mouths sours! That is natural law. So indeed, the whole family participated in the stigma. When a finger touches the oil, it drips to the rest of the four

story for the gods.the world has moved passed victimizing rape victims.ask Oprah winfrey,Joyce mayer,Tyler perry etc

jamesharryson:
My dear, I am used to insults more than the one you have just given me. But I will always tell you what will help you and your generation. Some wars are better won by making peace. Now if I may ask you a question, if you care to answer, who will be jailed for this act? Your husband! Who will suffer the pains for this act most? You and your children! Who will move around with the stigma? You, your children and of course your husband! Who will the stigma affect most? Your sister that was used! I didn't use the word 'raped' for a reason and the reason is because if you didn't catch term red handed, would she has told you that it has been happening? No! Who will be left with much burdens of raising the children alon? You! Believe it or not, no matter how strong you think you are as a lady, you MST definitely feel it more. In conclusion, remember that the mad man does not get ashamed as his family does because of his madness. Cool down, digest my reasons and then thank me later. Leave sentiments and leave insults behind. He that wears the shoes knows where it itches. You might be rich and gainfully employed, but do you know the situation of the writer? Do you know if the husband that you are calling for the head is the bread winner? Use your senses

I quoted bible verses that was written before you were born.I am not the author of the bible so they are no insults

Secondly a man raped a child,it's the person that raped the child that Will suffer it the most followed by his parents and siblings.it's people that will be pointing behind the mother that see the mother of the rapist and if he has brothers women will think twice before entering that family.more so did the wife and children follow the man to rape? .NA the owner of the load go carry him load

Thirdly which one is better in being a single mother or spending thousands of Maura weekly or monthly to treat stds or using expensive retroviral drugs for hiv because sexual diseases aren't always far from rapists and wayward men.

All these petty excuses you're giving is part of what is making the world unsafe for little girls.the culture of silence is what is giving rapist and pedophiles boldness .

When there is blood shed,injustice,covered up wickedness and iniquity in a land,that land can never prosper even if they pray till THEY loose their voice.I'm not the one that wrote it,check your bible.stop using fear tactics and emotional manipulation to encourage women to cover up wickedness as if you don't have a daughter or your son will not marry a woman.
Fifty,What's the stigma of saying a woman was raped?did Oprah not say it,Joyce Meyer etc?was it their fault? The world has moved past rape stigmitization except you are living in a cave with no access to tv radio or internet

jamesharryson:
I won't insult you, just as you have insulted me. But when a mosquito perches at the scrotal sac, no one tells a man that one needs to calculate well before taking certain actions. I am still standing on my point. Take care of your sister and keep the secret. Solve your problem without creating scene. Broadcasting the story is the same as tarnishing the image of your children, your sister and even you, that think you are doing a great thing for others. Just heed to my advice and thank me later.

nice epistle.so the whole family joined in raping the child? Ok na

jimcaddy:
See ehn. There is no one response that will make everything perfect. Everyone with ideas and opinions that we have to respect. We can't all have the same opinions. Well I think she should take the sister out of the house. Seek counselling with her husband. Pray with him and for him. If you leave because of this, you won't be wrong. But it sucks leaving your matrimonial home. No one will open their homes for you to come in. Make your marriage work... No one will make it work for you. If you leave marriage, you may end up very frustrated.

shebi it's still his 11 year old sister inlaw he raped?you think a rapist stops raping by just prayer and counselling.if he can rape his little sister in law he has already desecrated the family and there is nothing that will stop him from raping his own daughter WHEN the opportunity AND situation arises.he is a reprobate and it is unfortunate that the little girl who he was meant to protect is his victim.tell her to pray well well you hear?hiv and stds are around the corner.in the process of chookiing it in every hole he will still catch a sexual.diseases that he will transfer to the ignorant and deluded wife.as if you don't read the bible verse THAT says God gives up on.reprobate and make them have fullness of their lust,till the lust consumes them.

11 year old? 11? No breast,no hips or ass and that one is making you unable to control yourself?tuehhhh.Continue with the prayers. After finishing with your prayers read what happened to the sons of eli for raping females in the church

TEYA:
Lol you are the one I see as a sorry excuse of a human being! If you had no bad experience of an older male relative raping little girls while you were growing up you will not be pushed to generalise.

pig stop derailing this thread.your distraction ploy will not work.you even look and sound like a person they cannot leave a child with.low down dirty depraved rapist.don't worry,one by one God will keep exposing and disgracing you as the ife lecturer was disgraced.tuehhhhhh

If you're a closet child rapist change before its too late

omoiyalayi:
She asked d admin to hid her identity & d admin did

But admin could not hide d identity of those horrible adviser

the world needs to see their name and faces and the good thing is that the internet never forgets.they need to be ashamed of themselves for representing Christianity and the Christian woman poorly.tuehhhhhh.

Daeylar:
Loool,

Nice that you know you're not dealing with someone sane. the way you worded the post I felt I had to let you know.
Enjoy

people like him have already flooded the thread,justifying why pedophilia should be covered up and why there is no need for justice except prayer.I need to educate THEM.they need to stop basterdizing Christianity.

jamesharryson:
My dear, there is no advice better than the one given by the first two speakers who said he should protect her home, cover her husband and the little sister. It is the best thing to do. If you go the way you are saying, know that you are creating a bad name for your own family and children and also you ate keeping a stigma that may mar your little sister in the future. Remember that such gossips cannot be easily forgotten. My candid advice is for her to let go and bury the secrets. Pray for God's grace

see another rape enabler.do you ever learn?

You said pray? You didn't read the verse that says the prayer of the wicked (rape enablers like you giving pedophiles a conducive atmosphere to keep on perpetrating their wicked crimes) is an abomination in the sight of God.other translation says God ignores the prayer of the wicked and DID you also read the bible verse in proverbs that says God will make the ways of the wicked dark and slippery.there are curses in the bible just as there are blessings.it also said he who covers his sin shall not prosper (including his accomplice)

Continue praying as if God is not seeing the tears of the little girl.if you are a rape enabler you are not a Christian.you are wicked,ungodly,a reprobate and an enemy of God.you're not better than herds men who rape,kill,steal and destroy.it is not only witches that are agents of darkness.anyone who is an accomplice to every form of wickedness is an instrument in the hands of the devil

JoannaSedley:
Please do not quote to type this rubbish again? I didn't see any where you blamed the animal only to tell me that an 11 year old seduced him. What sort of warped mentality is that? If the poor girl is your sister this is what you will say as an elder brother? Is this how you will protect your younger siblings ? Instead of hounding for the animal to be thrown in jail you are blaming the innocent victim. God punish you and your likes...Imagine defending thus atrocity. God have mercy
Even if he did not deflower the girl what right has he to defile an immature young girl.

amennnnnnn


For every rapist,pro rapist,rape enabler,May these curses manifest in your lives till you learn

Daeylar:
You tried, but you're speaking to him as if you're speaking to someone who is sane. Which if he were, he wouldn't have written that trash in the first place.
Not to talk of being so shameless as to post it on a public forum.

Won't be surprised if he comes back to argue with you.

I am.expecting him.to.I have met several twisted,low down dirty and depraved men like him on nl so it's nothing new

walex2:
Some ignorant mofos who are not married are condemning the advice given to the wife. so deliberately the woman will expose her Husband to ridicule and end up embarrassing herself as well. the best advice is treat the girl and let her leave her house to avoid future occurrence and maybe take her husband for counselling, so if the husband is the bread winner, the wife will put him in jail and end up destroying her own family.
funny enough all these guys are sleeping with secondary school students as well. God will judge you All

if you know it will lead to ridicule and embarrassment why rape a child in the first PLACE? Is the phenese that hard to control? A child's mental health and psychology is messed up because OF an adult that has no control of his phenese.if you don't want to be ridiculed don't do shameful,wicked and disgusting things.

The way you sound it seems you really don't know that rape is bad.it is evil,ungodly,wicked unchristlike,animalistic to rape anybody talk more of a child.rape means forcing your pjenese into a vagyna that is still growing.maybe I need to splash vaginal pictures of children that have been raped so you will understand the severity and beastly act.

Hope you have been educated.maybe your mom,pastors or imams didn't tell you rape is brutish.I am educating you now.it is one of the most heartless things an adult can do to a child

If you say she should send her back to her parents what about her sanity,education,future,body,her marriage in future,child pregnancy.those are the consequences of raping a child.if you Cannot control your penis you need to see a therapist

TEYA:
Thanks for the answer. I knew you were speaking from experience. Too bad your dad was a bad influence.

see how this weakling and sorry excuse of a man is jumping into conclusion.Do you think at all? Are you capable of reasoning? Or is your phenese the only functional part of your body

walex2:
Some ignorant mofos who are not married are condemning the advice given to the wife. so deliberately the woman will expose her Husband to ridicule and end up embarrassing herself as well. the best advice is treat the girl and let her leave her house to avoid future occurrence and maybe take her husband for counselling, so if the husband is the bread winner, the wife will put him in jail and end up destroying her own family.
funny enough all these guys are sleeping with secondary school students as well. God will judge you All

see another one justifying rape

Tuehhhhh.a man incapable of controlling his phenese will have a difficult time controlling his life

TEYA:
Does the bolded include your dad?

anything that has a deek.anything you like interprete it to

Blonchilli:
Charity begins at home. Most people undermine the importance of raising kids right

exactly

Nollywood suwegbe.nollywood mummy boy,nollywood didirin .I won't be surprised if he is going to the market for his wife

Mindfulness:
One of them was even telling her to beat up the girl. In the name of God again.

smh.it's just sick.no wonder rapists and pedophiles are getting bolder and multiplying.Even when they're caught,they have no remorse.what a sorry excuse for Christian women.disgusting

THEY all ought to be ashamed of themselves for that asinine post they put up there and apparently the internet never forgets,I have screen grabbed some.of their pictures and comments so that none of my female.loved ones will have any relationship with them

Who.wants to have a rape enabler as an inlaw.tuehhhh

abike12:
Have several seats

joor koshilo joor if you have nothing else to proffer or suggests.pretending to know when she's actually very ignorant and clueless

Blonchilli:
You deserve a medal. The home is responsible for any social ills. What kind of moral principles will they teach? A lot of broken kids are in the society because the home failed to protect them. Divorce is there, rape is there and these happens not because the society is bad but because people can't protect their homes from challenges that can be tackled within and without

in a generation where father and daughter are having sex and the dad doesn't see anything wrong with it,a generation where mothers are helping or supporting their sons for rape,what remains again.the society is just a reflection of what goes on in homes.forget our religious cloax,that one is just make belief

Just ENTER any public bus and you will be perceiving putrid odour and even lousiness,obnoxious behaviors and lack of regard for other road users and commuters.such behaviors didn't start on the streets,it's what they are used to doing at home they are exhibiting outside,hence a culmination of frustrated,repressed,angry ,dysfunctional and abused people which make up a society we see at work,on the road,in.religious institutions,banks and other social gathering

Blonchilli:
More broken people in the society

look NO further.the brokenness starts from home.this is an example.if these ones have kids you can imagine the values they will be passing on their kids

abike12:
Abeg park. Train your children and stop looking for role model to do your job.

abike shut up if you Cannot be reasonable.


Even if you are a successful parent to your kids and they know it,they will still be attracted to people they see on tv on.so many grounds Or so many reasons
1. For some the way they dress
2.their grace and eloquence
Charisma etc

When YOU have teenage children,you will understand so go and sit down

georgee:
I share same thoughts with u bro. I fear for my kids too. All these 21st century/Big brother watching parents.. I really do fear for my kids who might bring home the daughters and sons of these kinda parents as spouse.. Smh

some parents watch big brother and even x rated Ghanaian movies in the presence of their children.this generation is basterdized and breaking moral limits that shouldn't even be crossed

I know of a woman that sends her 8 year old daughter to go and pack bottles that prostitutes drank and you know what these prostitutes do in their brothel,exposing your kids to what an 8 year old kid shouldn't see.I told her the day one of these prostitutes customers rape your daughter your head will be correct.they don't write pedophile on any man's head,if an evil.wind blows one of these men and say they don't want to fok olosho poosy,it's an 8 year old girl they want to fok that day you will know the value of your child

Mindfulness:
Thank you!
Imagine the cold-heartedness. It's impossible. Selfishness and co-dependency have clouded their brains so much, they think protecting their marriage is more important than protecting an innocent child. And to think that they do it in the name of Jesus is nauseating. Inhuman witches hiding their shortcomings behind the Bible. Pray for the abuser? Not for the child who has been wounded for a lifetime? Co-dependent sickos. But hey, they get to be called Mrs.

a lot of naija women are masochistic.They have been used to being sexually,emotionally and physically abused that they don't see it as abuse again.a lot of twisted value system even coming from the pulpit is very repulsive.Even the so called Christian mothers are good at defending these nonsense and hiding under protecting your marriage the Christian way.tuehhhhh


My daughters cannot be born here.this society is sick with a lot of misogynist culture and rape enablers even by women.I can't even Imagine I will be blood related with a rape enabler or pedophile.the thought of it is even causing me abdominal pain tueehhhhh

Smh.what's THE difference between you and a single mother really.your husband is emotionally and financially unavailable except when he WANTS to fok or get you pregnant,while the rest of the outcome is your problem.

ARE you seeing the handwriting on the wall at all?

Everything is almost coming to a halt to the extent that after pouring and pouring out everything your own tank is almost empty.the English language of what I'm saying is called "parasitic relationship".your feelings,needs and even wants and looks have become secondary at the expense of carrying a burden meant for 2 people.I know such men and I see them around

The surprising thing is that the are the ones always obsessed about their looks.they CAN wear 3 piece suit to work,use designer perfume or cologne and change shoes and phones almost every 3 months but when you see their wife you will see stress,hidden and suppresed pain stamped all over their face.they're not even conversant with their own bodies and appearance talk less of their external environment and social happenings because they married a faworaja.pele dear

2 dysfunctional people getting married.husband sexual deviant and rapeest,wife violent.what a combination.tuehhhhh

Cutehector:
Its only when you are married that you will understand why these women advise such....

they're victims of abuse and toxic marriages themselves they're used to sexual and emotional abuse hence they think it's normal THAT they don't even know they're abused again.Stockholm syndrome in African marriages justified by culture is very real

Rukkydelta:
Paedophile alert
I weep for my gender. We are really ourselves problem. Women disgracing women. This got me really speechless.
That man deserves to rot in hell. And for the woman how will you feel if what happened to your sister happened to you at such a tender age. Victims of sexual assaults rarely heals, I just pity the little girl I hope God will send an angel to her path soon.
The right thing the woman should do is to arrest that rapist and paedophilia husband of her's. What's the happiness in being married to a man that is a paedophile and can go as far as raping his wife's blood. This is the type that will rapes his future children in the future.

LEAVE her.shebi it's her little sister he raped ,she should follow their advice until he rapes her grandma.a man that can rape an 11 year old,if he mistakenly sees the breez of her grandma or he sees the old woman sleeping naked,the thing that made his deek stand at the sight of 11 year old girl,is the same thing that will move him to ram his deek inside an 80 something year old grandma

I.am.sorry for those women still thinking men don't think with their deek,or the deek is not their brain.have you seen a castrated man before?they're almost like an slowpoke.that is where the brain is.so if you are married and YOU have anything that has a vagyna in.your house and you still sleeping with your 2 eyes closed I am.sorry for you.even if they cover the vajyna in rags ,it will not stop it o

Blonchilli:
This woman will be a buffoon if she keeps that marriage, a paedophile for Pete sakes. That's how a family I know forgave a paedophile who was sleeping with their daughter just because he was married to the man's niece.
If the woman follows these advice she'll not only ruin her sister Life but other girls who will fall victim. No wonder they're many damaged young girls in the society and there's no structure to help them. Nothing worse for a young girl to be defiled by a family member and being blamed for it by her loved one.

honestly.these days no where for anyone to run to.not even church or mosque.justice in Nigeria is very twisted,our value system ,very irritating and obnoxious.tuehhhh

Some so called Christian illiterate women make me sick to my bones.they're the ones always in the habit of giving unsolicited advice like they're wiser than.Solomon yet they entrench marital and sexual abuse.imagine the animal saying "cover his unclothedness" so she should cover up a pedophile.no wonder pedophiles now have liver these days.with the way our mother's are always protecting and justifying the anti social tendencies of men and their sons,it will soon reach a time when sons and son in-laws will be raping their mothers and impregnating them

We just keep on breaking absurd boundaries.tuehhhhh

Serves us right

If we don't respect ourselves no one will