₦airaland Forum

byvan03:
Lol, I always think of the one that benefits me first. Let someone else teach her ooo. I hardly notice what people are wearing except it's conspicuous or unusual . That's why it baffles me when you see ladies analysing others like is there project work.

abokibuhari:
use less man of a President!!!

byvan03:
The last story is lovely, that's the way it should be. I took the shoes because it was everything I pictured in my mind's eye. I chose to please myself even if the seller is full of shi*t.

Onegai:
Mindfulness and co, please come and take your partner off my mentions. Thanks.

Respect everyone that comes to you. Even when you know they don't have. One of my brothers (a truly great guy) takes the time to thank service people. He made me realise that in Nigeria, we feel saying thank you to the driver or gateman reduces our level. Like we think why should I notice this person?". He said it was because once he met a silly girl, who talked down a lot to him (stuff like "oh you speak so well" blah blah) and he dressed constantly in t-shirts. So he told her he was the janitor at his company. She kept condescending to him until she found out what his position was. Very awkward.

Sambarry, a plain tee shirt is the uniform of most white (American) guys and techie or engineers abroad. I sent a few friends a picture of a.group of female bankers here and they assumed these babes were all investment bankers (just our regular customer service babes o). Even when I went to a friend's wedding I felt overdressed (I did Naija style dressing) because everyone there was in light summer-y dresses. My sibling came to Nigeria and comfortably rode LAGBUS and was surprised that people were sneering at them. Meanwhile how many of us won't act like taking a yellow cab is an insult yet will land in London and look for the Tube map?

ifyalways:
I agree with Onegai and Sambarry. Dressing simple is almost a crime in Nigeria; people would judge and address you based on what you wear (clothing, jewellery, footwear, perfume on you, hair down to make up) and type of car you drive.

Meanwhile, old serious money makes no noise. And funny enough, it's actually the broke but highly vain souls who are opportuned to see a few coins in their bank account that are the major culprits.

Ranchhoddas:
Davido's profession requires him to 'flash'. You do not expect a hip-pop artiste to put on shirt and trousers, neither do you expect Dangote to put on 'bling bling'...Even American artistes dress like that why should ours be different.? About the customers; I cannot disagree though I don't think it's a Nigerian thing as I remember clearly that Oprah had the same experience in Switzerland when she went for Tina Turner's wedding. The salesperson offered her a cheaper bag I think when she looked at Oprah and concluded that she would not be able to afford the one she requested for. Now this is one of the most popular faces on the planet. So you see...

Onegai:
No-one is saying dress this way or that, please dress freely and decently. But in Nigeria, if you don't look a certain way, people treat you somehow. Which is wrong. Why am I deploying a fake accent, why am I carrying fake designer bags proudly (almost all the Hermes in Nigeria is fake. Trust me, like 90% of them are fake). It happens everywhere around the world but it's worse in Nigeria.

Ranchhoddas:
Larry Page and Sergey Brin(Not brothers though), Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg have an appearance of simplicity that stem from from their NATURE- they are techies/nerds. They will always appear 'simple' no matter how rich or poor they are. You should do a search of these people and see the kind of 'inanities' that these 'simple dressers' spend their money on. People derive their pleasures differently. My overall point is that we should not attack people who derive their own pleasures from 'dressing extravagantly' because a microscopic number of billionaires have decided to do otherwise; it has been the trend for the past few days and Nigerian celebrities are taking the most flak. I don't know much about Kate Middleton and I know that the Windsor family are not a billionaire family; they are millionaires at best. Dangote is always either on suit or that Hausa kind of dressing and there is nothing simple about any of that. You want make him wear chain?

Onegai:
That's why I like NL! what you don't know, you can come and argue wella. Soludo is a poor man, so are Sanusi and NOI, infact they are hoping Buhari offers them a job soon so they can afford schoolfees money. Please send them credit, that's why we don't hear from NOI she can't afford Airtel N1000 to browse and be posting on Twitter. Be believing everything you read in papers, eh.

Sambarry, one last one: my aunt's driver, tall big, goodlooking fellow who used to buy nice shirts and have his suit fitted to his body. Plus some ties her hubby gave him, he was set. He used to carry her jeep and go to Unilag to pick babes it was so wrong but once the girl sees fine boy and jeep and hears he works for a big company (technically true but...), na to spread legs be that. Chop and clean mouth fellow.

Onegai:
The borrow-borrow people in Balogun are too many. It's the old mamas who started selling lace there, the big ones (SAS, Kubbis). Like I told a friend "is she bleaching, did she speak more Yoruba to you than English, did she wear slippers and it was a big shop? She's rich".

The day we went to order wedding cards from a Wedding store and 2 mamas came in. One dressed all corporate and flaunting Micheal Kors bag (biko Naija ladies, who told you MK is the SI unit of Designer handbag?? Why the shakara on top something you can buy from Macy's or even in sale from Ross/TJ Maxx, not even Bergdorf or Bloomies?!", the other in flowing bubu, headscarf and white bathroom slippers. The corporate one was the hanger-on, the other mama proceeded to order 2000 of the most expensive IVs with a bill of over N200,000 (just for wedding IVs). It was one of the BellaNaija society weddings.

Ranchhoddas:
Make we here word abeg. Once something has become the prevailing narrative everyone starts to echo it not minding whether it is true or false. How many billionaires do you know that ''dress like they are broke''. What does it even mean to ''dress like they are broke''?

Onegai:
One month ago, Faded polo shirt, plain cotton trousers and leather flat slippers. He was a former CBN governor. Or all the Balogun lace Madams who have spent more money ithan the average overdressed office worker in his entire lifetime but wear nothing showy. Or the billionaire aunt who is always wearing Ankara till the day the driver went to pick me up and started asking if it was a Governor's house (all he saw was the garage). Or one of the quietest girls I know whose family lives in such a big house in Ikoyi that there is enough space for a football match. Or Himself who sounds like he went to Umuokoro Grammar School. Old money, big money doesn't make noise. Everyone I know with foreign citizenship who spent years abroad talk normally, people on visas will be killing you with some weird amalgamation of UK, US and Naija accent to form posh. Its upper middle class people and middle class people who do their best to dorm, wealthy people don't. I can tell you how some billionaire's kids sound like and trust me, no unnecessary accent or flashy dressing (infact one girl saw one and yabbed him as "irresponsible-looking", then found out his father was on the list of top richest men in West Africa, high up that list too).

babyme1:
This happened to my elder sister few years ago. She booked to have her braided on a weekend, but bc of some things she went a lil late. D hair dresser had called n told her dt she will be attended to once she comes, though there were others.

When she finally reached n the lady started her hair, one girl finished my sis with insult. Even when d owner of the salon explained to her, she no gree o. It wasnt as if she wasnt attended to, she just felt that my sis just walked in n was given attention.

She even asked my sis who knows her in Uyo, a small rat like her. My sis nearly slapped her but others told her to ignore d chick. Na so monday reach, my sis went to work early bc she was the head of a team to conduct an interview that morning. Guess who waltz in for dt interview? Miss Saucy from d salon .

I heard she couldnt even answer any question. She later wents to the salon to ask the lady to apologize to my sis on her behalf. Me sef follow learn lesson from that.

byvan03:
She was no sales girl ooo, probably she is used to seeing thick madams or pregnant women buying baby things . Also consider that it was 7years ago.

Bisjosh:
First of all, u dress the way u wanna be addressed.

I have never been in that situation before.
though I dress good but many don't know how wealthy I am.

Modesty I guess...

byvan03:
I don't know about wealthy but I went to buy kids' shoes and socks, I entered a certain kind of shop my friend recommended . She told me that they sell quality stuffs but quite pricey. When I picked a pair and I inquired about the price, the shop owner took a glance and responded " it's expensive ". I repeated " madam how much is it? ", she responded with " that shoe is 3k last ". I gave her a piece of my mind, dropped 3k on her table and threw the tiny shoes into my hand bag. I didn't bother checking out her socks. She was gushing out apology but I was already on my way.

I was a student and looked like one, so she assumed that I won't know the value of original kid's shoes or be able to pay for one.

aflyingbird:
werey ni mi

KanwuliaExtra:
I don taya to shout BUHARI o!
Time to blame SAMBARRRRY else oooooo

5minsmadness:
No they saw it. They just enjoy arguing.

aflyingbird:
dis is TERRIBLE advice . travel for a yr without her knowing , wah kinda marriage is dat ? dey r married !!! da wife is clearly not happy with something in da house or with her husband, there's always a reason 4 anger . do u respect her , op ? ru cheating ? hv u cheated b4 ? when last did u argue, wat was it abt ? ibet u know y she gets angry , it's not rocket science . communicate , work it out !! ignoring her sure will only make u a terrible hubby , will make things worse too

KanwuliaExtra:
Thanks o!
Make we see if bread go come down from 150 Naira by Zukky Boy!

KanwuliaExtra:
Well!
We shall see.
Make we dey look the drama ke.

Dyt:
E consain you?

KanwuliaExtra:
Hey gurl!
Welcome back to DRYYYYYYYY NL!
My sentiments exactly!

Most deaths in AFRICA provide eternal rest for the weary.

KanwuliaExtra:
Hmmmmmmm!
The era of Super Mod-Hoes!

I was wondering where I saw that Psycho-Duo!

Sheeeeeesh