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NLchikeeto:
The op's keep deceiving themselves in d name of marketing.............

Ella0:
u are d best

NLchikeeto:
Must u tell us dat u use an itel s31..................all these itel marketers sef...............keep on using different strategies..........,

softwerk:
Your profile confirms you are an Akure mad man without a single topic contribution to NL but with 27 idiotic and lunatic comments!

Alondra:
The question is : For how long do you think you should be appreciated? Gratefulness isn't a gender thing and its longevity is relative too. Some can feel appreciative for a long period of time while some can't. Not that Ladies forget good deeds but when a lady remains appreciative for too long , it is possible for misconceptions to occur. Some ladies have been misjudged, misunderstood and named for this. Some think such lady has seen a nice pooh to perch on .



Do you help to Gain?. Only a Man who wants something in return of his favour will expect either friendship or thanksgiving calls from the lady he helped. Whatever happens to thank you, a call or two and everything ends there.

Help without expectations

stephano008:
Was in a cab today and the passengers were arguing seriously. They were of the motion that Instead of helping a girl, help a guy. That ladies forget good things once it stop coming. The only lady in our midst was against it
I have heard many insinuations like that.
But, they may not be far from the truth.
I will tell why.

2014, I met a lady on Facebook. A graduate looking for job. We became friends. I do give her some cash for her cream and hair (Na dat one dey be ha problem). Finally spoke with a church member on her behave. She got a job in NNPC. Salary 150k for a start. After some time, I no see her call again. The last time way she call me, she asked me to help her get the price of DSTV( Messenger)
Last year January, I was in a cab heading to Choba. I saw a girl walking by the road side. I perceived she was heading to Choba so I asked her to join me. While in the cab, I sensed she was ill. I took her to a pharmacy and got drugs for her. She said she is hungry. I took her to a restaurant and bought food for her, they brought her sachet water, but she boldly told me that she doesn't drink sachet but bottle water . Just Negodu.
Finally, we exchange contact. I boarded a cab that took her home.
Later in the evening, I called her to know how she was feeling, she asked me, Pls who is this, I explained myself. The next day I did call again. She never called until a month. We jammed at Choba and she was like she lost my no. I gave her contact. One hour later she called, asked me to Pls call ha back. I did and guess what, she asked me for Airtime. I told her am not sending any airtime , I ended up the call. That was the end till September last year, I saw her discussing with a friend. Her friend greeted me, but she looked away.

Due to my engagement, I hardly sleep in my apartment at night during school session . So, I have given accommodation to some freshers.
The guys tend to keep in touch, but the ladies, I will only see their calls when they need something from me.

Last two years post UME, I was with a friend around ULH, a Babe approached us with a guy and asked us to help hold their bags. (fear catch me). The guy is always loyal when we get to see, but the Babe, I swear, she don forget me.

I can go on and on to recount.

I think the problem is most ladies demand too much from guys and whatever they get is not always enough for them. Most girls get close to guys cos of what they will gain from them , once your goodies stop gravitating towards them, they are off.

Now, here lies the bigger problem. Guys have discovered this attitude from ladies, that's why you see most guys bent on bedding a lady after lending a hand cos they feel that's where lies their rewards. Even person way buy woman pure water go wan bed am. ( Too bad).

Am not saying you become friend to everyone that show kindness to you. Friendship is a choice, not an obligation. But appreciation is a necessity . It shows how humble and glad you are to be helped. Mind you, there are thousands out there with your same kind of problem. But God chose to favor you. Even God gets angry when we don't appreciate him, not to talk of humans.

We can change a whole lot of things if we change our attitude. Giving is an act, showing love is a commandment. Rewards come from God. But appreciation is a virtue. Learn to show appreciation towards an act of kindness. It takes nothing from you, rather, it gets you more kind deeds and favor.

To the guys, your reward is from God not on the bed. Thank you

Hopefulman:
At least she was bold enough to confess.


I deflowered a lady and dated her 5 years, she was with me all through the struggle when I had absolutely nothing, 5 years on thank God things changed, I could die for this girl cos I make sure she lacks absolutely nothing at all. Guess what?

Just recently I caught her cheating cos she wasn't smart about it, as a matter of fact I knew before she went to spend the weekend with the guy but I didn't stop it cos I wanted to give her a benefit of doubt cos of my trust and believe in her that has waxed on for 5 years, I thought she would just visit and leave cos having the opposite sex as friends mean nothing as long as you know your boundaries.


Behold she slept at this guy's place for two nights and avoided talking to me, calls and barely could read my messages. I let her be too so she enjoys herself..

Note : I had taken her home and made my parents know this is the one I want to marry and they have blessed us, as a matter of fact she's in contact with my parents and I made them like her.


Another thing is sexually I was the monster and sex Frick between us and she complains alot about my undying sex appetite, she rarely satisfies me cos she's weak in bed, but I learnt to be patient with her, teach her all she knows and manage the sex like that, so if there's someone who should cheat it would be me, but I had loved this babe too much to cheat, so me not satisfying her wasn't the issue..


Now let me blow your mind like Al Queda, guess who she went to Bleep for two days while I was up all night and couldn't sleep for desame two days knowing my supposed to be wife I shower all the love, care, money on with tears wondering how confused these women can be, it was a fukkkking 19 year old boy, meanwhile she's 25 and I will be 30 by May


After I gave her a face to face confrontation with the scope of having a spy app on her phone and knowing all she does, she confessed she bleeped him twice but it's her first time ever, "Babe what is your reason for this stupidity ?, ", she's like I am sorry I just wanted to explore. imagine such bullshittt


You can never please a woman.

clarklord:
I'm dating a gal tho she has a bf b4 I met her so tins where going cool we even had sex BT right now tinz are bad Dan ever she's in d same hostel wit her 1st guy cuz she's double dating plus she said d reason she accepted mi as her date 2 was cuz she luv mi bt right now i feel sumtin left d relationship wen i call her she act strange lyk she no longer want mi through d way she speak sumtimes tho its a longer distance relationship she stay d same town wit mi BT wen she gos to school its a long tin she's always with dat guy BT she act lyk she's not I'm confuse I don't feel luv from her I do d calling almost d tym

Lucy001:
did anyone watch Kemen dis morning? Wen he was about to stand up frm bed, he was nude, and camera man has to take dat seen away, his d**k was almost shown

ndidibabe:
Smelling gay.

ndidibabe:
She messed everything up. No shame! I am extremely disappointed in her. A mother of one for that matter. Does she know the guy is married?

ammyluv2002:
Those two dey fall my hands sha...TTT is a married man for crying out loud

thornapple:
whose response?.

Preca:
Lol...the man's thing though @the pack of the boxers

thornapple:
It's exactly a year now since i had my most embarrassing moment out there in the streets and in the full view of passersby.

There's this friend of my brother's. Being his close friend gave him relatively better access to our home than others.
I soon realized he always kept me under close observation whenever he came round. He would comment on everything i said or did and laughs even when nothing was funny. Always unnecessarily excited.
At a point i started withdrawing to my room whenever he came round even if it meant staring at the ceiling all day. To my relief the frequency of his visits dropped drastically to a point he stopped coming.
Sometime in January, 2016 i was preparing something in the kitchen and noticed there wasn't enough palm oil left so i quickly rushed to a nearby shop to get some.
On my way back i met this guy with my brother hanging around doing exactly nothing. His friend waved to me. I reciprocated but quickened my steps on realizing he was walking towards me.
The slippers i wore failed me making him catch up with me with my brother strolling right behind him. As he approached, a car pulled up in front of a gate and horned.
Seconds later the gate swung open and as the car drove in, a huge dog emerged. The overly excited boy screamed playfully on sighting the dog, telling me to take a look as if i hadn't seen it first. This drew the beast's attention and it made for us.
The stupid boy took off and i ran as fast as i my legs could carry me.
The chase lasted just few seconds as the dog was restrained by it's owners. Within that short time, i lost one of my ear rings with palm oil all over my body.
Several days later my brother came home with a pair of ear rings and one nice shirt. He said it was from his friend in apology for what he caused days earlier.
I didn't want anything from that boy but after much persuasion i decided to keep them.
Now there's one boy i had known for quite sometime through my brother. We've seen little of each other since graduation but had kept in touch via Instant messages.
He made a comment he was going to come visiting on Valentine. I understood this to be a joke so i equally asked him to dare and get lost. He hadn't any idea where we lived.
It came as a huge surprise however when on Val day our bell rang and it turned out to be him. It happened he got our address from my brother.
To cut a long story short, i and my brother entertained him the best we could. Along the line i wanted to have a change of clothes. I had so many wears but decided to get something i hadn't worn before. It was that boy's T-shirt.
At the end of the day, our quest was ready to leave but wanted me to see him off. At first i decline but eventually felt there was no harm walking just a few yards down the street.
On our way, we were accosted by the guy whose shirt i was wearing!.
One thing led to the other and an argument started. If i ever disliked this guy now was the time to show it. I screamed at him but his response and the look he gave me(in his shirt), was something i can never forget for the rest of my life.
The argument escalated and before i knew it i was caught up in the middle of a fight between the two of them.
It was so embarrassing and my quest had both his shirt and singlet torn.
All these on Valentine day?.

Lesson i learnt from that experience was to never accept anything from guys and never state things you really never meant because you never know what that joke could give birth to.

I have shared mine, Lets have yours!

enuk80:
even if she does show remorse, u can never ever trust her again..when she goes out and come in, u will think she has gone out to goof around because she broke d trust.d trust is dead...I have been through this b4.. a cheater will always lie and she will accused u of cheating when she knows she is cheating on u..a cheater is always manipulative..she knows how to decieve and I kept asking myself why is it that most girls are never satisfy...no matter d love, commitment and cared u show to them, they will still cheat behind your back with different guys...in conclusion, a girl that cheat shows she is loose and a LovePeddler......when u asked her why did she cheat, she can't give a definite reason why she did that..no matter how u hit hard hard as long as she is loose, she will always cheat...when a guy cheat, his conscience always judge him but when a girl cheat as long as she is not caught, she will never feel any conscience...too bad...pls can someone tell me how I can stop being too emotional because girls take advantage of it...

zabson:
what if she does show remorse?

zabson:
She told me everything from A-Z. Even things i didn't ask.

Europija:
Helllo nairalanders my.boyfriend that i been with almost an 1 year is stil.in contact with his ex that he has been with for 9 years...I talked to.him.about it he is denying it..he still didnt stop it..Should I contact her??anyway i live with him n we have plans for future..He is Nigerian n his ex stays far from.him

Benita27:
The i.diot is fucking annoying.

Nicolax, please so far i envy the likes of Michelle Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Gabrielle Union, Serena Williams, Beyoncé, name it.

Who is this new girl?.

rikkyH:
Guys,how long do u think long distance relationship can last before something goes wrong?

Benita27:
Yes!, God created both light and darkness. Go read your bible.

If you must asslick a new moniker, do so wisely, creating a thread for her is demeaning to your person...you just won't know.

Some of you should atleast pretend, it gives you an edge you may not have.

#rubbish!.

Jessicaseth:
I never thought about it this way. I see things better now. Thanks

Jessicaseth:
We use protection and other contraceptive cream. I don't feel comfortable talking about my sexual life online but you get my drift