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Family / Re: I Messed Up. by Secondly: 2:19pm On Aug 19, 2022
Troubledman:
So this night. I did a horrible thing. I stuck my wife thrice on her back. Yes, I know it's horrible and I should be burnt at the stake. And I am truly sorry for it but... There's always s back story.

I went through university without ever getting into a fight. I swore of physical violence since 2005. I havent raised my hands at anyone ever. Not to defend myself. Not to fight. In those years. I don't even let people fight aroujd me. I am known everywhere as the peace keeper. Which is why I feel very horrible about my action tonight.

Since we got married. I have noticed this trait of aggression in the person I married. Always quick to anger and insults everytime. In the last couple of days. We've had course to stay with my mum.

Earlier in the day. We were arguing about something (not so important to be honest) and my mum remarked that we should do better that were a new couple and we shouldn't be arguing like this all the time. She even joked that she was going to buy a cane for both of us.

Barely 2 mins later another discussion came up and this lady started raising her voice again. This time in full view of my mum. I just kept telling her please take it easy, take it easy. I even mentioned to her that this was what mummy was just telling us about. She would not bulge. Eventually my mum chipped in and said to me to keep quiet. So I did. When she finished shouting she stood up and left for the room.

After a while , my mother went into the room to talk to her. Even asked her not to be annoyed. Invited her to eat. She brought the food to me but I was too annoyed to eat. How is my wife shouting at me in front of my mum ? So I walked away, went out for a stroll. When I came back. She was in the room, she I stayed back in the living room. She came to me, started telling me that I should not let her be angry at me, changing the story that I was shouting at her earlier and she didn't say a word, I was livid but this didn't tip me. I just told her off and went back to do my work. She came back again started off another tirade in the middle of the night btw and ended it with saying "your mother is responsible for this"

Now, that's what made me mad. From the start I have warned my family not to interfere in mine. Not my dad or my mum have ever told me or directed me on how to do in my marriage to her. I imagine that because her display was in public today that's why my mum commented. Even on Wednesday she was talking to me harshly in the car and my mum was there and she never talked.

So anyway I stood up from where I was went to meet her and struck her about 3 times in the back warning her never to involve My mother in our talk again.

Then she shouted screaming at 2 am. Cursing me. Mt mum came out to even try to calm her down. She turned to my mum as well. Saying she knows what she'll say. That she supports me etc. Even when the poor woman didnt say anything. She's gone off now. Milking it. Saying I beat her. Should I add that she came back slapped me square on the face, hit my chest. Even dragged my mother to the floor

But everyone is on me. I'm the woman beater. Domestic violence.

Honestly, I'm just tired of this marriage. I married for peace this woman gives me trouble everyday. I chose to stay in the living room for peace tonight. She brought her madness to meet me.

I agree I messed up. I perhaps shouldn't have hit her. I regret it. It's going to go with me. But I was too pushed. She continues to do this knowing I wouldn't talk and st the time I believed that's the only thing she'd respond too. I know this could probably get me a lot of hate but I'm also hoping someone could see reason in what's happening

Im sorry it's so long. I didn't think about it. I just created this account and started writing. Apologies for likely typos too

TroubledMan

This is some bullshit_
Celebrities / Re: BBNaija’s Erica Abandons Her Car, Boards Okada To Beat Lagos Traffic To Airport by Secondly: 11:51am On Aug 19, 2022
Why didn't she drink her usual supa komando energy drink?
Education / Re: Why We Rejected Federal Government’s Salary Structure – ASUU by Secondly: 6:48am On Aug 19, 2022
I am completely tired of both ASUU and FG.

In fact, both of them can go on strike forever.

I don't care anymore.

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Education / Re: Students To Sue Minister Of Education After He Asked Them To Sue ASUU by Secondly: 10:50pm On Aug 18, 2022
elder1002:
Na MUMU dae go school.

5yrs +2 yrs ASUU ( ENTER SCHOOL AT 20 FINISH 28YRS)

Nysc 1year

Job application below 27yrs with minimum of second class upper, 8yrs experience For 80k job

NIGERIA


Too bad.
Politics / Re: Adamu Adamu Tells Students To Take ASUU to court For Damages by Secondly: 4:15pm On Aug 18, 2022
But wait o...

So this is the final result of the two weeks ultimatum the general ordered.

I thought they said Ngige is not a good negotiator.

It seems like this Minister even worse pass the Ngige man sef. grin grin grin

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Politics / Re: Adamu Adamu Tells Students To Take ASUU to court For Damages by Secondly: 4:04pm On Aug 18, 2022
This one na operation fire for fire.

Oya, ASUU time for una to faya back.
Politics / Re: Rev Gbejoro: Shettima Re-Built Churches Destroyed By Enemies Of Christianity by Secondly: 3:13pm On Aug 18, 2022
Story for the gods
Politics / Re: Zulum Approves Implementation Of N30,000 Minimum Wage To Teachers In Borno by Secondly: 12:00pm On Aug 18, 2022
BeanmanX:
30k is still small,,,with the current inflation,,30k is very useless,,,he should make it 60k-100k and I will take him serious,,

Maybe, the standard of living in Bornu may not be that high?
Romance / Re: Men Are Becoming More Lonely Because Women Are Not Settling For Less (photos) by Secondly: 11:55am On Aug 18, 2022
The writer of this article is living under such a great delusion.

A man's life is much more better structured and focussed when he doesn't have to deal with the distraction and drama that comes with women.

Maybe the writer is trying to use this warped logic to change the narrative on why so many women will die single and lonely.

Between men and women, who is even settling for less?

Settling for less my arse!

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TV/Movies / Re: BBNaija: Moment Diana Asked Big Brother To Go To Market & Buy Salt For Housemate by Secondly: 11:27am On Aug 18, 2022
This babe na weyrey o grin

I can only imagine Big Brother sending Ebuka to rush to the market to buy salt for the housemates.
Politics / Re: Bode George: Everything About Tinubu Bundle Of Lies by Secondly: 11:23am On Aug 18, 2022
You don't need to say it, Sir.

We already know.

That's why we are going to reject him at the polls wotoworiously come February 2023.

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Autos / Re: Do You Still Have This 1982 Mercedes Benz. Is It Worth N1m As Vintage? by Secondly: 10:08am On Aug 18, 2022
naijapikin2:
Mercedes benz with high fuel consumption...
What I need is hurricane lantern 555... And grandfather clock with mercury inside... I'll pay any amount

So una still dey hustle for this mercury of a thing?

Na wa for una o.
Autos / Re: Do You Still Have This 1982 Mercedes Benz. Is It Worth N1m As Vintage? by Secondly: 10:07am On Aug 18, 2022
SisterAnn:
I don't know what he means by prestige honestly. grin

Some people are roasting me because I suggested it could be converted to a truck that carries goods to earn money. I have seen a lot of it even the old Volvos.

Probably his brain is stuck in the prestige of 1982?

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Politics / Re: 2023: Kwankwaso Appoints Jibrin, Ladipo As Campaign Spokespersons by Secondly: 9:50am On Aug 18, 2022
Is that the Jibrin from Sudan abi?
TV/Movies / Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Secondly: 4:33pm On Aug 17, 2022
majamajic:
Sheggz is not contributing anything to level one guys , his own is just eat, hold woman and sleep , wait for hermes , adekunle and eloswags to get him into a fresh week in biggie's house .

I don't even think he is professional footballer from the way he tackle tasks

Sheggz is a complete waste of space.

The guy started falling my hands that day he wanted to challenge Eloswag for getting mad at those girls who were making fun of him.

I knew as from day that Sheggz is headed for doom inside a woman's pussy.

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Politics / Re: How Atiku, Tinubu, Obidients Reacted To Kenyan Presidential Election Results by Secondly: 3:51pm On Aug 17, 2022
God1000:
It was a bombshell and thunderbolt that sent Tinubu and Atiku into panic mode.

Mr Obi will trounce Tinubu and Atiku next year and I will jubilate.

Click like for Peter Obi and share for Tinubu

By the grace of God, our victory over Tinubu and Atiku will be a FLAWless victory.

Say Amen.

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Politics / Re: Shekarau Will Decide On Defection This Week –spokesperson by Secondly: 2:06pm On Aug 17, 2022
When I saw the name Shekau, I though it was the Boko Haram guy.
Education / Re: ASUU Strike: Moment Soldiers Were Sent Away By Protesting OAU Students (Video) by Secondly: 1:12pm On Aug 17, 2022
Students should just package all these anger very well and use it to vote out anything that looks like APC or PDP in the coming national elections

As for me, I am eternally obidient.
TV/Movies / Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Secondly: 1:06pm On Aug 17, 2022
Rosalinda1988:
Honestly this loud mouthed Sheggz is the first London guy I'll dislike in the history of the show, the guy too dey cap

Mike Edwards I like & respect
Khaffi I like & respect
Kiddwaya I like & respect

Where did big brother see this failed footballer this season?

Sheggz is a SIMP.

How can you even contemplate on liking a SIMP?

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Phones / Re: Pictures From TECNO CAMON 19 Mondrian Edition Exhibition In Lagos by Secondly: 12:35pm On Aug 17, 2022
Yubuas:
Tinubu is a PLACE HOLDER for gov Shettima, the earlier you people realize this the better oo.

Most of this people pushing this Drug Lord doesn't know there's an agenda to just install him by fire by force and when he is tired and sick before 2 years, Shettima will be swear in as president and more kabiru sokoto will be hiding in his house.

Even Yaradua was way stronger than him before he became president

Affliction shall not rise the second time

Na serious place holder im be.
Education / Re: Strike: Anxiety As ASUU, FG Teams Meet Secretly by Secondly: 12:31pm On Aug 17, 2022
So what's the anxiety all about?

It's either the call off the shit or not.

If they call it off, good.

If they don't, life goes on...
Family / Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by Secondly: 12:30pm On Aug 17, 2022
Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

Are you sure the baby is really yours?

Wait until the baby is delivered, then do a DNA paternity test on the baby.

If the baby is not yours, boot her out one time.

If the baby is yours, then you can start making plans on how to let bygones be bygones and move ahead with life, that is, if you can do that.
Autos / Re: Do You Still Have This 1982 Mercedes Benz. Is It Worth N1m As Vintage? by Secondly: 12:09pm On Aug 17, 2022
ArchiLimited:
My former landlord's son had one left for him by his late Dad, and sincerely I won't mind buying that one for N1m. It was so neat and well maintained that the guy parks his own 2012 Camry to drive this Benz to work and sincerely it gave him more prestige than the Camry


How much is the prestige worth?

How much is the prestige bringin' in for him?

Prestige my arse!
TV/Movies / Re: BBNaija: Sheggz And Adekunle Fight. Bella And Diana Clash by Secondly: 8:42am On Aug 17, 2022
I only enjoy Big Brother shows when there is vawulence.

What would this life be like if not Vawulence.

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Celebrities / Re: Real Reason Behind Kim Kardashian's Shock Split From Toyboy Boyfriend, Pete by Secondly: 11:43pm On Aug 16, 2022
verybadman:
Obi is the way

Abeg take am easy o.

Peter Obi no talk dis one o.

Make you no forget say na like dis one man promise us last time say im go make One Naira equal to One Dollar.

We still dey settle the matter since 2015

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Sports / Re: Cristiano Ronaldo Branded 'Selfish And Damaging' By Man Utd Team-mates (Photos) by Secondly: 10:52pm On Aug 16, 2022
Kingcalls:
Manchester have been having problems since Ferguson left... below is the list of players that were paid for to join Manchester...not those that came free ooo...

Mourinho said finishing 2nd with Manchester was his biggest challenge in his career .... Great players had joined that team and suddenly became useless... blaming Ronaldo like Manchester united was playing and achieving like city , Liverpool or Chelsea b4 he came ... they said they finished second b4 he joined them , but failed to mention that they lost to Liverpool 4.2 at home and another 6.1 at home to spurs... that team that finished 2nd in 2021 wudnt have made top 8 last season without Ronaldo.... The Glaziers have destroyed Manchester...hiring bankers to do the work of seasoned professionals...

Below is the lost amazing list of signed players in the past 9yrs

Manchester utd is a burial ground for players and coaches.... Ronaldo is the only player to have scored unto 20 goals or more in open play in a season since they started signing players in 2013 when Ferguson left

Brotherly, why you so mean? grin
Health / Re: Beautiful Lady Drops Suicide Note On Facebook (Photos) by Secondly: 7:44pm On Aug 16, 2022
Acidbath:
Cure your 1mp0tency first.

Mumu.

You won't understand na... until it happens to you, that is, if it is not happening to you already.

I wish I could say sorry to you but unfortunately, all Evening Newspaper wahala is a self-made problem.
Health / Re: Beautiful Lady Drops Suicide Note On Facebook (Photos) by Secondly: 7:39pm On Aug 16, 2022
This is why being an Evening Newspaper is never a good thing.

She's now depressed over watching all her mates playing with their kids now while her life seems stuck in the mud with no help in sight.

Wahala.
TV/Movies / Re: Abuja Female Carpenter Adaeze Oforma Dazzles in New Photo, Joins Reality TV show by Secondly: 5:55pm On Aug 16, 2022
Wow!

Her boobs are outstanding.
Politics / Re: Isaac Fayose: Tinubu Has The Structure, Peter Obi Needs ₦50 Billion To Win by Secondly: 3:22pm On Aug 16, 2022
Bugie16:
Shi shi we won't give and peter obi will win

This truth was revealed to you by my father in Heaven.
Education / Re: Strike: Federal Government, ASUU Meets Today by Secondly: 3:07pm On Aug 16, 2022
SATANlSTMINION:
another lazy Nigerian youth

That's your business although I own it with my full chest.

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