₦airaland Forum

Afam:
You have touched on a very important point here - marriage, responsibilities and needs. This is where a lot of us get it wrong. You see someone who manages to finish NYSC and once he gets his first appointment letter he gets married, no planning for the future and sometimes people do this because others are doing it.

I know friends who got married just because Shell or Mobil gave them jobs (whether contract or regular) because they felt they had arrived.

I know married people that keep breeding children like rabbits and yet cannot feed them. Most of these financial pressures are self inflicted.

Let me not divert into other issues so as not to derail this thread but the point is that we can live better lives if we can plan and more importantly if we are contented with what we have without needing to live false lives where in the bid to show off we over borrow and use things we may never be able to repay.

Yes, you may now be looking at it, at a more broader perspective, but I still insist, that this Police man might have plan for his life, by gathering some cash and maybe opening a small scale biz, just to cater for his wedding, and something to keep the family going for sometime. But when demand begins to exceed supply, and the resources now dries up, or may be I should say, resources cannot march demand, and he is faced with the earlier illustrated example of needing N650,000 to treat his only son, what happens to his principle, when he faces N1m bribe?

Afam:
I guess I should have stated this before now, I said bye bye to paid employment because I could not stand the hypocrisy, double standards and even back stabbing by colleagues and I am a very blunt person who is not afraid to defend what he knows regardless of the position of the people in question.

Luckily for me most of my working experience had to do with foreigners from Americans to Scots and Britons e[b]ven though the issues I highlighted were still there but not as pronounced as what obtained with our own people (Nigerians)[/b]. I have lived and worked in places like PH, Onne, Eket, Lagos and Bonny Island. If you throw in the Special Intensive Training Program by RGU Aberdeen in Warri then you will know the industry I worked in before kissing paid employment goodbye.

One, I appreciate your courage to be very outspoken, and secondly, I admit your strength to defend your course, by even insisting that, it exist even amongst the foreigners. If it then exist amongst these people, then, you will see why a typical Nigerian will never resist such offers. Thank GOD you went confessed too that, your former colleagues even did same. That is the plight of a typical Nigerian worker.

Let me say here that, when I was in school, there used to be a Police man living in the same compound with me. Later, I discovered that he was a very religious man. He never collected bribes, and this fact was confirmed by his colleagues. To me, how long will he continue to act this way, knowing the characters we have in the Nigerian Police force? People like this try to live a good life, but will the society allow them? How long will they stay glued to their principle? When he gets married and the demand for more money comes, will he not be tempted?

Afam:
Sorry for the confusion, I never meant you were insulting me, I merely stated that I am consistent in whatever I do. My apologies for not being too clear. That part had nothing to do with your own comments thus far.

I just hope your strength will not wear out, because even the most holiest amongst the wolves, later wine and dine with the wolves. I am not encouraging giving and taking of bribes, but what I am saying here is that, if you are the holiest amongst these people, is either you partake in it and remain in the office, or you refuse to partake in it or be kicked out (that is, you will set up and be finally sacked, or be demoted).

Beaf:
Don't worry, I don forgive una.
What of my friend, otobroto? I see all of you guy's representing from time to time, but no otobroto.

Otobroto dey. Work dey deal with that guy seriously.

Afam:
There is nothing in the world that will change me. I am way to consistent in all I do (including responding to insults in kind on this forum and out there in the real world because that is the language a lot of us understand) because I made the choice a long time ago.

I don't do anything to please people and no amount of money would make me change, those that know me well will tell you that including my enemies.

At least, if I can walk away from N6Billion project because I refused to grease the hands of the person responsible for the signing of the contract even when the other 2 companies that were included were asked to go since none of them demonstrated relevant knowledge on what the project was about then I can assure you that not many people can offer such amount of money.

No please, do not see it as insult. We are making individual contributions here, on how to better our nation. Why I am saying all these is because, I work and live in Asokoro, here in Abuja. So, my contributions are not tales by moonlight. I see these things on daily basis, hence the emphasis.

Beaf:
Don't worry, I don forgive una.
What of my friend, otobroto? I see all of you guy's representing from time to time, but no otobroto.

Thanks jare. We dont need all those stuffs. We are all one, representing one nation!.

Beaf:
I knew it had to be in Delta State. I just knew it!
Where others are stealing money, one of ours is spending from her own pocket on public projects!

That state is an example for the rest of the country. I keep stressing something that is a miracle in Nigeria. . . Yes, our governor (Emmanuel Uduaghan) is from a minority ethnic group in the state. His ethnic group forms just 4% of Delta states population, yet he is our governor and you can be sure he will serve a second term.

[size=14pt]Up Delta!!! Up Deborah Ogaga[/size]

@ Beaf, you don come again. Abeg no make me laugh!.

Afam:
Whether extremists or not there are people that will reject such offers.

I cut off a few friends who believed that every rich man in Nigeria cannot claim to have made money without doing something illegal. This they repeatedly told me when I relate to them some of my encounters with people who propose all manner of businesses to me.

I have severally been asked by scammers to replicate bank websites and even though I can do this under 4 hours from start to finish (including everything on the original website) and you have on the average N200,000.00 on the table I tell them I won't do that.

Now, people tell me I am being too rigid for not making N200,000.00 for just 4 hours work on my laptop but they seem not to understand the issue of right or wrong.

This is just a matter of hours not to talk about hundreds of millions worth of projects that one is being begged to handle by banks.

There are indeed honest men and women in Nigeria who will not be moved at all by any amount of money based on principles, integrity and credibility.

I must confess here, that I covet your kind of person, but I must still add here too, how long will your kind of person stand out, amongst these wolves. You may have such principle, but will it withstand the test of time to the end? I will still say it, that, in Nigeria today, it will take an extremist to walk from such money on the table, even without any need, talkless of that earlier narrated. If I say, you might just be one of those that will walk away, does that, mean you may not cave in to it some day?

Afam:
There are people that will not collect the N1M bribe regardless of the pressing needs they may have.

We must stop justifying wrong things because some people are not disciplined enough to reject illegality.

Some of us have turned our backs on projects running into hundreds of millions of naira and even billions based on principles so it is not an impossible thing to do.

Sorry for jumping into this, but it will take an extremist to reject such an offer, minding his/her current situation. We may say some may not collect such offers, but in the real sense of it, will they reject it, and in Nigeria?

Well in Nigeria, anything can happen. I hope, this is not another paid publicity?

Fashola: Drama in Lagos Assembly as bailiff serves court injunction
Written by Adewale Ajayi, Kunle Awosiyan and Sarah Ogburogho, Lagos

THERE was a mild drama at the Lagos State House of Assembly, on Thursday, when the bailiff of the state high court came to serve members of the House a copy of the court injunction restraining the legislators from continuing with the probe into allegation of financial impropriety against the state governor, Mr Babatunde Fashola.

The Lagos High Court, Ikorodu Division, had, on Wednesday, restrained the state House of Assembly from probing Fashola over allegations of financial misappropriation, following a motion filed by one human rights activist, Dr Richard Akinola.

Reacting to the court injunction, the Speaker of the House, Honourable Adeyemi Ikuforiji, said “as a law-abiding House, it would abide by the court injunction,” adding that since the injunction would last only seven days before the court give its final ruling, they would comply with the ruling.”

When the bailiff wanted to serve the House with the court order on Thursday morning, the security men frustrated him from gaining entrance.

The bailiff, frustrated, had to go back to inform the counsel for the complainant, Mr Bamidele Aturu, who eventually accompanied the bailiff and Mr Akinnola.

The security men at the House maintained their stand, ensuring that the bailiff could not gain entrance into the House.

One of the security men told the sheriff that he could not receive the court order because he had been warned by the clerk not to do so, adding that the secretary to the clerk was not around to receive it.

While the drama lasted, some journalists who wanted to capture the scene were manhandled, including the correspondent of ThisDay, Mr Gboyega Akinsanmi.

The tape of the Channels Television camera man was equally seized, but was given back to him when the Chief Press Secretary to the Speaker, Mr Lanre Odubote, intervened.

The court bailiff was eventually able to serve the injunction when Honourable Bayo Osinowo and former Deputy Speaker of the House, Honourable Funmi Tejuosho, a member of the investigating panel, intervened.

The copy of the injunction was received at the reception of the speaker.

Honourable Tejuosho apologised to the bailiff for the unruly behaviour of the security men.

Reacting to the development, Aturu said he was disappointed at the behaviour of the security men of the House, adding that “I was a little bit scandalised with what we saw here in the morning and this afternoon until some of the very highly respectable and responsible members of the House intervened in the matter.”

http://www.tribune.com.ng/index.php/news/1258-fashola-drama-in-lagos-assembly-as-bailiff-serves-court-injunction.html

Na wah oh!. Na so dem dey marry? This so called new wife of Ibori is spoiling so many things, everywhere. Her own is too much. Everybody hates her, and she will not change, and at least be a bit friendly. Very rude and insulting, to all.

Ibori blocks D’banj from touching ‘Kokolet’
By Nonye Ben-Nwankwo, Published: Saturday, 13 Feb 2010


D‘banj was the only Nigerian that performed at the recently held Face of Africa show which took place at the Eko Hotel, Lagos.The event, as we gathered, attracted the bigwigs in the country, including international fashionistas.

Life and Beat gathered that the Koko Master was in his elements that night as he made sure all the guests had fun with his strong vibes.
His second performance, ‘Fall in Love‘ was wonderful as the songs was appreciated by many people.

D’Banj, who has made it a tradition to touch ‘kokolets‘ at every performance, touched the wrong one this time.
As he sang ‘Touch the Kokolet‘, he touched any female his hands could reach and the ladies were quite appreciative and routing for the great singer.

But when he wanted to touch James Ibori‘s woman, the former governor of Delta State quickly blocked D‘banj with his hands and used the other hand to hold his latest wife, Kiki Sosu, tight. It was as if he was telling the singer to ‘keep off, this babe is mine‘.

D‘banj may not have noticed as he quickly moved on to the next ‘kokolet‘ who gleefully extended her hand for the Koko master’s touch.




http://www.punchng.com/Articl.aspx?theartic=Art201002130425023

Trust Nigerians, some useless girls will use the opportunity, sharp-sharp!.

Abdulmutallab: Senate appeals to US to exercise restraint.
By Agency Reporter, Published: Thursday, 11 Feb 2010


The President of the Senate, Mr. David Mark has appealed to the United States to exercise restraint in the treatment mated out to Nigerians.
Mark said it would be unfair for the US to treat Nigeria as an unfriendly country on account of the failed December 25th 2009 suicide bomb attempt by a Nigerian, Farouk Abdulmuttalab.

He made the appeal while receiving in audience the American Assistant Secretary of State for African Affairs, Ambassador Jonnie Carson, in his office on Thursday.

The Senate President described Abdulmutallab’s actions as condemnable and unfortunate.
He urged the Americans to reconsider the listing of Nigeria and see it as a friendly one opposed to terrorism and acts of terror under any guise.
According to him, “Nigeria is a great nation and a friendly one at that. What happened on December 25, 2009 was unfortunate.

“Nigerians are not violent people and we do not support the action of AbdulMutallab. We abhor it and condemn it in its entirety.
“All our actions and policies are opposed to terrorism. AbdulMutallab’s case is a one -off thing and should be treated as such.
“I hope the (American) Congress will understand our position and exercise restraint on Nigeria.”


http://www.punchng.com/Articl.aspx?theartic=Art2010021118141165

Enjoyment1:
Thanks to all.

Who you?

Enjoyment1:
I wish you well Dear.

How far anyway?

I wondered what a 60 year old man still wants? Besides, he still had strength to rape 3 minors. Na wah oh!.

I want to see what INEC will do in this situation. There are no elections in so many wards, and this is totally unacceptable. People will riot.

elewedu:
If you think juju doesnt exist just because u dnt biliv in it, then just provide me with the name of your mother and your own first name, I mean lagbaja the son of tamedu. Three days is too long to prove my point, there is no time and distance in the spiritual world.

Abeg oh!. Do not deal with someone, just becos he decided to be stupid. Leave them alone, with their unbelieve. I can assure you, no one will make those names available.

Major Players in Anambra elections

Even now, there are people caught thumb-printing papers, within PDP areas. I know, the heavy Police presence, is to aid them in achieving this.

Hardtalk:
Just an ordinary state election and it is like these!, then 2011 elections will make or mare Nigeria.

Anambra state's election is not just an ordinary election. It is that of so many intellects trying to reshape the fortune of that state. I can say here, that the state stands ahead of so many states in Nigeria, and even amongst other Igbo states. Whatever happens there, will be a major concern to the whole federation.

I am very happy to say here that, I finally met the babe that has been keeping me waiting, on Nairaland. The little I can say here is that, she is a Nigerian/American and currently a student in one of our universities. I am trying not to let the cat off the bag. I really want to appreciate all the people that contributed to this thread, one way or the other. I must say here again, I received over 50 mails; Most were really interested, some gave advice as not to rush into it in a short time, and others offered to help connect me to friends, and loved ones. It was a very difficult time for me, I must say. GOD saw me through.

Now I will caution here, even though it worked for me, others should be very careful. I met the good, the bad, and the ugly. Some postings are genuine, but due to some bad guys and babes, and unnecessary threads, people tend not to take issues here seriously.

As for me, I achieved my aim. Thanks to you all.

Madam, sorry oh!. I am not the one oh. I ma surprised too to see it, but come to think of it, it is a welcome development, don't you think so?

mekuszyx:
Rigging, violence and false claims are not unexpected in Anambra election. Not when Anambra is still part of Nigeria. The only situation where I will be worried is if people are killed or gravely maimed, taking Anambra to the level of Yoruba states where people are traditionally killed at the slightest political imbroglio.

Haba! Mr. Mekuszyx, why are you always against these Yoruba people? Why?

Wonders shall never end. I watched it too on AIT. I never really heard what happened, and the interview. The voice recording was very poor, but I know something will happen in this election. GOD save Anambra! GOD save Nigeria!!.

There is no point here. If we had whites in Nigeria even as late as in the 80's, Nigeria would have been better for it. The little we had, is what a few is enjoying in VI and Ikoyi. Nigeria would have been well planned too. Nothing makes SA better than Nigeria, except for the fact that, those whites there came with their own technology and really developed that place, before whites took over. Check out what they did in Namibia, Botswana, and even Zimbabwe. They are all there for one to see. What did Britain really do here, or maybe, what is it that we allowed Britain do here, even though they were very greedy?