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[quote author=Islandlady post=116298693]Whatever, as a woman I am entitled to have my personal money for upkeep and also to take care of my parents n siblings!

Case closed.
We know the type of lady the op is.
She wants to stalk up her own monies for herself, siblings and parent.(note, her kids not inclusive).

While use the husband's money to run the home-front. Like her husband doesn't have his own parents and siblings.

Pathetic!!!

HumanoidX:
Because they're earning much more than they ever will in their own countries.

Funny!
Isn't that the reason Nigerian jappa to their own country too?

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I actually happen to think that gambling can be quite a noble activity. But let me first explain myself.

If i place a wager on something that I believe will happen, or has a high chance of happening that is gambling, right? If I believe it will rain tomorrow and my friend says it won't rain and we wager money from our pockets to back up our beliefs then that is gambling. If it rains I gain extra money. If it doesn't rain I lose money.

What about if I believe that there will be a famine next year and I start to store up a lot of rice in my barn. I'm gambling there too. If there is famine true true, then I stand to gain. But if on the contrary there is a bumper harvest and the price of grain drops then I will lose.

So gambling is simply backing up what you believe will happen with your own money. Everybody that gambling believes that there is a good chance that what they are gambling on will happen.

But what is the source of the belief? Is it deluded? Or is it based on correct information and correct knowledge? If I make a wager that it will rain tomorrow because I have done some meteorological research and I know something that others don't know then is that Wrong?

But some people frown on gambling because they say it ruins lives. People gamble away the money that they could use to feed their families. But is it the gambling that is wrong or is it the fact that the gambler is gambling on deluded information. If a guy goes to a casino where things are rigged so that the casino always wins no matter what happens, then the guy is deluded to expect the windfall that he is expecting. But what about the guy who takes a risk with his family's security by investing in a new business that he believes will make him a lot of money.

The business might succeed, all good. But it might fail. Is he therefore different from the gambler? Capitalism, and western civilisation is built on the wager of entrepreneurs through the last 2 centuries or more. Many many many have put money on the wrong wager and brought financial disaster upon themselves and their families, but a few have backed the right horse and made a lot of money as well as provided a service to humanity.


But I said that gambling is Noble. That is extreme, no? No, it is not extreme!! There are too many people who like to open their mouths in this world and make all kinds of nonsense claims that I'm sure they will never make if there was a law requiring them to back up everything that came out of their mouths with money from their pockets.

President Bush would not have opened his mouth to claim that Iraq had WMD if he was required to stake his family fortune on it. If invading Iraq meant that he would lose all his family fortune if they got there and didn't find WMD then I'm sure he would have been more careful about making those claims.

Making Assertions without backup is ignoble, despicable and contemptible. Putting money from your pocket down to back your assertion on the other hand is a more noble gesture. If you think it is going to rain tomorrow and you are disturbing everybody shouting on and on about it, then put your hand in your pocket and put money down to back your claim. If it rains we'll double your money, if it doesn't you'll lose your money. Shikena!!

Believe me, if we all followed this policy then all the prophecies in 9ja will reduce exponentially. It is because people are allowed to open their mouths anyhow that we have so much prophecies.

This is one of the reasons why I can never send any money home to 9ja for people who preach tithes. With all the blessings that they claim come from tithes they shouldn't have to ask me a poor non-tithe payer to be sending money to them. That's having your cake and eating it. You've made a claim. If you claim that the tithe you pay will open for you . . .

the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you will not have room enough for it.

. . . then you must live by that. If you can't live by it then you must die by it. Simples.

In fact if people had to back up their words with their own personal resources then half of the preaching in 9ja will stop with such immediate effect that the silence will be deafening.


So to conclude. I see gambling as nothing more that backing what you believe will happen with money from your own pocket. The more research you do to firm up your conviction that something will happen the less likely you will be to lose your money.

Aladeope:
Dear Poster,
firstly, saying you are twenties doesn't justify your reason that you cant marry, you are old enough to get marry, please don't make mistake those in their thirties made when they were twenties an today they cant find a better man to marry, if you take you time to commit yourself in this relationship you will surely fall in love, this man you said is rich and an take care of you, though i don't know if he is handsome to your taste but my advise for you is, don't ignore a caring heart so that you wont regret it later in future, if becos you are twenties and you still want to explore that is why you don't want to accept him, my sister you are deceiving your self ,it will surely come back to you.

I wish you all the best in your decision.

let's leave the op and let her be.
looking for someone she would love and who wouldlove her in return is not asking too much na� except that she might have to wait forever.
On a serious note, I really don't blame her, I blame the poor guy. It beat my imagination how a serious minded and stable guy would be chasing after girls in their early twenties.

[quote author=StacyO post=99735819]I didn't really like him from the onset but,you know as you get to speak and spend time with someone,you might start getting attached to them.

The problem is that he is already way into the whole fairytale but,I'm not.

He might not want an end to this which I do. Worst off,I've tried before and it didn't work out.

I seriously dont want to continue leading him on since I don't like him at all.


Hmm.
you didn't like him at all....yet in another statement, you're already feeling a butterfly in the stomach. It's like you said you're still in early twenties, wait till you're in your thirties and you'll learn the hard way.

one thing undergrad never learn or learnt too late is that " a degree does not owes you a job".
proactivity leads to productivity.

she's the real slay queen.

it's bad enough if a woman does not have a job.
this woman has a job(work) but doesn't want her money to drop in supporting the family finances.
my brother, if ur wife cannot support you in assisting with the family finances, how else can she help you?

Jake19:
BBC were present at the venue and gave their report but anyone who watch the CNN report and still say there is no massacre at the lekki toll gate on that day is heartless.

It is a shame that we even have to rely on foreign journalists and TV stations to get a clearer view of what happened at the lekki toll gate.
Shame on Our journalists

It's like you want them to receive a letter bomb like Dele Giwa.

[quote author=virginprincess post=95761512]All this broke men creating nonsense tread self , haven't you people see real men that get married then ask their wives to sit at home, that is becoming full time housewives, those men do they have two heads? are they not the one taking the whole responsiblity? mtcheeeeew.[/]

my dear, aside the money you emphasized on, how do you hope to make an impact in the world if you sit at home all in the name of full housewife?
Kamala Harris the elected VP of America, was she picked from under her husband roof ? okonjo iweala is another example , Helen Johnson of Seria loane is also there.
It's not always about the money you earn as a wife, at times, it's about achieving your full potential. common drop this mentally.

Money.
There is something that we use to represent Value in most human societies. This is Money. While Money has almost no inherent value in and of itself yet it is accorded value by social agreement. The things that we really value are Food, Shelter, Status, Sex, Time, Labour etc etc etc...

However we can all agree to represent 3 hours of human labour with £100 of money. We can agree to represent the value of a delicious meal at a restaurant with £50. etc etc....

However there is a problem with Money as with all representations, there is also the danger that far from accurately representing value, it can actually distort value. Money allows for the distortion and misrepresentation and eventual demise of our Value system, whatever it may be for each of us.

A man works hard and adds value to his society and commensurate to that he makes a lot of Money.

Another man steals the same amount of money and adds no value to his society. Are they to be ranked the same? Do both men have the same value to society?

What about the man that sells Crack cocaine in his community? He is involved in an activity that actually destroys this community, that destroys value. Yet the monetary rewards for such a
destruction of Value are immense. Has Money not totally subverted the Values of that community?

It is very dangerous to hold money in any regard without thinking about what is real in terms of actual Values that we and our communities deem as Good. Just wanting to make money without any idea of how you want to create Value is a Toxicity to any community you are a part of.
Reference: *pastorAIO* nairaland.

personally, I believe the desperation is welcome as much as it makes them to become better person.
Guys also get desperate you know

Even the witches in Nigeria are not happy. Because they're not safe.

i think its very important to discover oneself before engaging in a lifetime commitment such as marraiage, imagine a grown u adult changing from proffession to proffession without making headway.
The problem i see, is not that she is lazy. Sh simply have not connect to her true self. That to me is the cause of her lethargy.
Once she connected, to her core, you do be amazed at the synergy she can excude.
Getting married this days involves alot of factors ooo,where self disvovery is very important.