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Family / Re: How Do I Calculate My Prepaid Meter by Setursight(m): 10:52pm On Jan 23
[quote author=Nazgul post=128084556]
Lol...I used to load 6k before, then upgraded to 20k.

6k was giving me about 96 units. Now 20k is giving me about 309 units.

This means that 1k would give you a little over 15 units. And for the records I use IE (Ikeja electric)

Yours is obviously different.

In Abakaliki EEDC gives 10 units for 1k. Prices differ. Which Disco are you using?[but IE gives me 20 units for 1k.]
Family / Re: My Wife Calls Her Family For Everything by Setursight(m): 6:34pm On Oct 18, 2023
A case of new money marries an old money…

Not even sure if OP is new money set.
Guy brace up for u go suffer a lot .

None of your efforts will never be appreciated. Either by your wife or her family.
Family / Re: Why Do Women Knowingly Marry Deadbeats? by Setursight(m): 9:02pm On Aug 04, 2023
Thanks Kobo.
That's another angle I didn't consider.

Kobojunkie:
Low self-worth has nothing to do with being a deadbeat. For one, there are many narcissistic deadbeats out there to prove this to you. Low self-worth is mostly due to what I still consider a kind of mental illness since it comes mostly from being preprogrammed to believe one has no real worth or value to offer apart from that which life and condition shove at one. The good news is that once those underlying issues are resolved, people who formerly struggled with low self-worth are able to live confidently. However, you cannot say the same of a narcissistic deadbeat undecided
Family / Re: Why Do Women Knowingly Marry Deadbeats? by Setursight(m): 8:43pm On Aug 04, 2023
Kobo
I like your intelligence. You actually got it right with that terms.
It's impossible to have a low self worth, and wanna hook an high value partner. The lady herself is guilty of being a deadbeat.

Kobojunkie:
Low self-worth. I am afraid a lot of our Nigerian women fall under that classification and it has a lot to do with upbringing. Low self-worth is not to be confused with low-selfesteem which plagues the depressed. undecided
Family / Re: Why Do Women Knowingly Marry Deadbeats? by Setursight(m): 8:37pm On Aug 04, 2023
As much as you're right, buy do you honestly think the well-to-do guy, will look in the direction of uneducated, unskilled, unambitious , in short a lady that has nothing going for her?

Don't you think it's a case of deadbeat hooks a deadbeat. Women being hypergamous, I'm sure she wouldn't have choosed the guy if she has a more economic value.

In conclusion, I feel the lady is even beneath the guy in the order of food chain. Therefore. I won't absolve her of any blame.
Sixfeetbelle:


I know why this post is paining you.

Because the lady has not learnt that sticking to a struggling guy is not worth it. Don't do it, ladies, no matter how much they wall online. Always, wait for them at the finishing end.

If she had left the guy for a well to do guy, this issue would not be happening and the mama's boy would be there carrying ashawo of 500 naira to ease konji, instead of hitting someone's daughter.

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Family / Re: Why Do Women Knowingly Marry Deadbeats? by Setursight(m): 8:21pm On Aug 04, 2023
Well, you could be right. No serious responsible guy will ask a jobless, uneducated, unskilled,unambitious, broke lady out. So she settled for her type.
For me, I wouldn't blme the guy alone, the lady too is no different
Sixfeetbelle:


Stop spewing this bullshit about her rejecting responsible men. Do you honestly in your heart of hearts believe responsible men are more than the number of deadbeats? Do you know the hurdle women pass through to fish out deadbeats from actual responsible men?

For this case, don't you know that for her to settle for a deadbeat, that it was only deadbeats that asked her out?
Romance / Re: What Advice Do You Have For A 35 Year Old With No Job, No Skill, No Wife . by Setursight(m): 10:41pm On Jul 29, 2023
Grace is making your own possible efforts while the universe do the rest.
You'll agree there are others who're more hard working, more focused, more business oriented than you. People who in fact had their lives mapped out, but suddenly everything went South.
That u achieved that feets quite early, doesn't means others are lazy. I rest my case!
okoroemeka:
I don't know about grace and luck but what I know is that when I was a student in the college of agriculture, I was working part time in a palm oil processing mill a tough hot sweaty job that is not for the faint hearted,I managed to save #100k and bought 10 drums red oil by April that year,that I stored and sold it for #250k by September same year,this was around 2000-2001,I used the #250k and went to ibadan to buy 100 pig weaners at #2500 per weaners to rear in my small farm in imo state,after 6 months i sold all at #15k flat rate and made my first one million naira,so you see my friend if you sit down to wait for God's grace and glory you may wait forever,fortune favours the bold and those that have the ability to see opportunity were there is none and take their destiny in their own hands

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Romance / Re: What Advice Do You Have For A 35 Year Old With No Job, No Skill, No Wife . by Setursight(m): 9:02pm On Jul 29, 2023
Oga, ur life contains elements of Grace.
Not everyone is that lucky to achieve such feets at such a tender age. It doesn't means others are not making efforts or contended in living a mediocre life. Let's all pray for Grace. They're whole lots of physical and spiritual factors that obfuscate man's efforts.

okoroemeka:
sometimes I wonder how some men can relax so much and reach such years with nothing,is it laziness,lack of seeing opportunities,lack of proactive thinking,procrastination ,or simply accepting mediocre living standards?before I was 25 yrs I already have a car,wife,two children and a small two bedroom bungalow,it is sad that not everyone can pull him or herself out of poverty and that reinforced my belief that success is tied to state of mind,there is a proverb in igboland that says,e ejigi mkpacha nsi egbe agba adaka ozo,which means you cannot use scrap leftover gunpowder to shot a gorilla.
Family / Re: Am I Doing The Right Thing Or I Will Regret It by Setursight(m): 8:25pm On Jul 05, 2023
Boss, you're too wise. I wonder how some guys manage to plung themselves into financial potpourri because of kag of sense, foresight and especially in the name of marriage.

Op should wait till more realities set in before he understand how he has shortchange himself.

quote author=franchasofficia post=124219932]The number one reason poor or struggling guys in Nigeria remain poor or become poorer is because they marry anyhow, mostly out of pity and emotion claiming its love.



When making critical life decisions like marriage, you must take pity out of it.



Royal families that have all the wealth to carry any amount of load will never allow their Prince or sons to marry into poor family or ordinary family, but poor guys born into poor families will cheerfully go and marry poorer girls born into poorer family and hoping on luck to shine on them to survive the tsunami they started in the name of love. This is why we have too many poor families and hundreds of millions of poor Nigerians today.



As a struggling young man, when you want to marry, marry a help mate, marry a lady doing something that will support you financially. Marriage decisions are not made based on big breast, big buttocks and hot pussy alone, you must consider the financial future and implications. Marry a help mate not a baggage because both of you will end up crashing. At the end, both of you end up not helping the other's situation but rather complicated it. That is why in Igbo dialect, there is an adage that says: "onye akwo n'azu anaghi akwo onye ozo", meaning someone that is being backed cannot back another person or someone that is being carried cannot carry another person. Don't try to save a poor girl out of pity through marriage when you as a guy is still looking for who to help you or how to come out of your own financial and life mess. Always use your wisdom in this life if not, you will end up at the bottom of the ladder of life struggling to survive.





You guys will see mature ladies that are gainfully employed, that will support you in marriage and you will abandon them in the name of she is an evening newspaper and you go and marry small girls that have no financial or career or skill bearing and tomorrow when things become difficult for you guys, you now carry the wahala to Church to disturb God that gave you wisdom and common sense to use to maneuver through life.



Go and read the book of Proverbs on how Bible described a wife, that should give most of you an idea of the kind of ladies to marry.



And to every single lady reading this, try and equip yourself for marriage, get a skill learn a trade, take away pride and learn something and also get a small job and save. Prepare for marriage, don't wait until you marry a rich guy, rich guys are scarce now and the competition to get them is very high. Prepare your mind to support any man you would be getting married to.



To all men reading, help your daughters, sisters, nieces and cousins to have something doing in preparation for marriage. Don't let your single female wards to be empty without any skill or career or something to go into marriage please[/quote]

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Religion / Re: "You May Kiss The Bride" Should Be For Only Virgins. by Setursight(m): 7:17pm On Jun 18, 2023
[The simple solution should be that the church should not conduit white wedding for non- virgin. Once u start having sex, the altar should be a scared place for pretence, fraud and other shenanigans.
The couple, should simply settle for traditional marriage das all😁 .
That way, we can easily get to know the real virgins or non.
But our God being an a merciful God, he understands.


quote author=jesusjnr2020 post=123874531]Agreed, but how does he prove who is virgin and who is not?
You obviously don't because I sincerely agree with the idea, because if the couple have been having kissing and having sex prior to that, why the pretense, as if it's the first time they're doing such a thing?

But then I thought about how a pastor could know who's a virgin and who's not because it's not written on the fore-head, and many who claim to be virgins have turn out to be otherwise. It just complicates things otherwise that would be a welcomed idea.[/quote]
Romance / Re: My Fiancee Is Good In Terms Of Character But She Isn't Resourceful by Setursight(m): 8:21am On Jun 15, 2023
Op, wanting a "push" doesn't makes one a bad person not at all. Not everyone is born a self starter. That's how God make the world. We sometimes need a push from others to move forward or grow big. So she's perfectly understandable.

However, a situations where someone plainly lack the drive, enthusiasm, ambition for growth, regardless of how much she is being "pushed" is dangerous to you as you're both not in sync in that aspects.

I wouldn't say you abort mission, but if you continue and eventually get married, you might end up despising her. Tho, not due to her own fault, but due to her psychic make-up.

At the end , you're the sole decider whether or not you can live with her that way.

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Romance / Re: You Are Single Untill You Married - Double Date by Setursight(m): 10:16pm On Jun 03, 2023
Wordsfrombimpe:

Bittered souls with long epistle

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

If e sure for you and you get mind

Drop pics and handle

Usually, I don't engage people like you. But I'll simply indulge you this time only.

Two things are always wrong with most of your thread.

- the content
- your personality.

Sometimes, you've the right message, but your choice of words and articulation always sound off-key to the hears of your readers. Perhaps it's the way you think or whatnot! Which brings us to your personality.

Your reactions to criticism on here, tells alit about ur personality, all the vibes you put up on here so far, potraty you simply as a narcissist to say the least.

To wrap it up, I'll advice that if truly you intended to be a good journalist, coach, marker, or whatever you choice to label yourself, you need a sound education, and I'll advice you return to school to be properly train both in academics,inter and interpersonal skills. Because serious, you wreck of ignorance to say the least.


Pls, don't bother to reply, because I won't be indulging you on this thread further.

Thank you!!!

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Romance / Re: You Are Single Untill You Married - Double Date by Setursight(m): 9:32pm On Jun 03, 2023
You the OP,is a lousy clown, an uncouth and very rigid person.

You're nothing but an attention and validation seeker! In your attempt to sound woke and current, you came off as a touth, uninformed and bitter person. Going personal with anyone and everyone holding contrary to your view... So much for a so called "content creator" . I only pity those unfortunate people under your tetulage .

you guys should stop engaging her, as she's using your engagements to practise English, she'll craw back under the rock she came from.

Est finito








!

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Romance / Re: Setting Up A lady After Marriage. by Setursight(m): 11:08am On Apr 03, 2023
Dating and marriage has been turned to a poverty alleviation scheme where a man sees him self as some human messiah coming to rescue the woman from her problems and poverty including the poverty of her family. THAT IS NOT MARRIAGE or Dating either.

Op don't set yourself up. She's thinking about her future and u are thinking about her future, her looks or body and her problem.

Men are not looking for wives to marry they are looking for problems to marry at best packaged problems. undecided

And women are looking for solutions to marry.


Just this morning, I've to carried by two young ladies, one driving korope, the other mawa. Both are within 25-28, inside of me, I was thinking these are ladies hustling to make a living for themselves, rather than waiting for a guy to empower them. And if both are lucky to marry a guy who's sensible enough, they can both combine income to enlarge the business or create some others.

But no, guys will leave those ladies and Chase after slay queens , lazy and entitled girls .

SMH

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Romance / Re: Setting Up A lady After Marriage. by Setursight(m): 10:57am On Apr 03, 2023
Dating and marriage has been turned to a poverty alleviation scheme where a man sees him self as some human messiah coming to rescue the woman from her problems and poverty including the poverty of her family. THAT IS NOT MARRIAGE or Dating either.

Op don't set yourself up. She's thinking about her future and u are thinking about her future, her looks or body and her problem.

Men are not looking for wives to marry they are looking for problems to marry at best packaged problems. undecided

And women are looking for solutions to marry.

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Health / Re: AS Genotype Couples, Please I Need Your Advise by Setursight(m): 7:07pm On Apr 02, 2023
[quote author=bixton post=122244158

If the bolded is true.....then put your faith in God and you don't have to depend on any technically medical advancement...
God is way better than any technically medical advancement.[/quote].

There's difference between faith and common sense ooo, this is no faith, it's presumption.
Health / Re: AS Genotype Couples, Please I Need Your Advise by Setursight(m): 6:58pm On Apr 02, 2023
chiboycue:




Acting foolishly and trusting God to bail you out when things go wrong is not faith, it's presumption.

There is nothing God cannot do. He can change the genetype of the SS feotus to AS or AA. May God help both of you to make the right decisions
Health / Re: AS Genotype Couples, Please I Need Your Advise by Setursight(m): 6:32pm On Apr 02, 2023
akube34:
did u read what he said? He isn’t not planning to birth as kids. He is taking the necessary precaution to avoid what you r thinking


So they will keep knacking without interested in having kids... This is Africa ooo where every couple pray for kid(s). Me think the op is in denial.
Health / Re: AS Genotype Couples, Please I Need Your Advise by Setursight(m): 6:28pm On Apr 02, 2023
[aside the financial part, the emotional stress that comes with such arrangements cost more than money.
Op should face reality, it's a dangerous mission. In street perlance, dey say *una eyes go soon clear*].

You should have asked the Doctor the possible cost of such procedure that's where you would have started with

Then you can compare it with your income

Alternatively, you guys will can adopt a child pending when you can afford the cost of that medical procedure including all expenses and drugs

Meanwhile enjoy your relationship till you find your way out [/quote]
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: How Neo Life Guys Frustrated My Life Today by Setursight(m): 2:08pm On Mar 21, 2023
Those guys at BISI OGABI STR ikeja eh eh.

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Romance / Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Setursight(m): 5:56pm On Mar 12, 2023
[quote author=EriMma1 post=121645415]

I think you should ask yourself that question because I never envisaged such. I don't entertain negative thoughts so the issue of misfortune is overruled here but since you believe in such, what will you do?

Now back to the matter. When I say a man that can take care of you, I mean... a very rich man. I'm talking about a man with landed properties and companies or businesses that can keep him financially afloat for as long he lives and of course with such, he can establish the wife to a point where she can conviniently chest any financial responsibilities in his absence. However my sis, if you choose to go with a struggling man because of that mentality of yours, your choice. please do. Since it's better to be with a struggling man than being with one you fear will have misfortune. Being with a struggling man is kukuma natural misfortune and disaster. so be with him.

I don't know why people always foresee evil around good things. Always trying to pamper and romance poverty na wa o! Since that's how you perceive life, Biko, hold the struggling one tight to avoid misfortune according to you.

Your methodology really suits you o.


what would you do if some years into your marriage to a wildly successful man the economy changed drastically in such a manner that in a very short time a man's entire resource base is wiped out? Would your man still be self-sufficient? What would you do then?

Such things can and do happen, I assure you. You don't have to look far to find them happening. War can wipe out whole resource bases and you cannot always get out in time or even stop the war yourself. Fast innovations wipe out whole professions and render skills very surprisingly obsolete. Natural disasters and unforeseeable accidents destroy resource bases too. People can be riding a wave of great success one minute and the next they're on a beach so hot and dry and at such low tide that you'd think you're in a desert which you very well might be anyway. What would you do then?


To your second paragraph, let me ask you first, is your Dad such a type of man you described?

In as much as you're trying to be on the look out for yourself, do you think you're worth such calibers of men? Probably ,you're thinking that your beauty is enough to land you such men. what you're doing is a plain *GOLD DIGGIN* .
Romance / Re: Men Should Equally Start Setting Standards For Themselves by Setursight(m): 8:56pm On Jan 14, 2023
ednut1:
As a man at that age. There is not guarantee you will be able to do 4 rounds when you consider your work schedule. The young girl cannot offer financial or business advice. Cannot offer different perspectives so as not to offend you. If you want to live long as a man and prosper financially. Ladies 1-4 years younger than you are the ideal
You're very correct.
Men often times are their own problems.
Some are so myopic ,deluded and are simply looking for ladies to Lord over in thaname of I have *money*.

Laslas, standard or not, we all make a compromise to get married
Family / Re: Upgrading Your Woman, A Threat Or A Fortune? by Setursight(m): 10:44am On Jan 14, 2023
Often times, the steps we teach some people, they will use it to dance with another person.

So it's a two way things.

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Romance / Re: How I Dealt With An Entitled Lady by Setursight(m): 7:25pm On Nov 16, 2022
These generation of WOKE ladies that cannot put their money where their mouth is, are those ones modern women!

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Business / Re: Cooking Gas Price Increases By 61% by Setursight(m): 9:05am On Oct 27, 2022
kevwemike:
Who so ever that survive Bubu Era is going to heaven straight.


He/she has definitely passed through hell. So heaven straight!!!

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Family / Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Setursight(m): 7:32pm On Oct 26, 2022
Was it not yesterday or what , that a guy was here telling us his wife was a former runs girl.

Today, another is here telling us his wife carried him handicap!
What marriage is turning to these days, is really pathetic!!! And unfortunately, men are the ones on the receiving end.
Romance / Re: He Found Out His Wife Was A Former Runs Girl by Setursight(m): 9:36pm On Oct 25, 2022
Personally, I think we guys are simply the problem.

Allow females to do whatever they want with their bodies after all, it's theirs.
We should stop pedestalizing them.

We should rather raise our bar so high that any women that couldn't meet up, should be dump. Be it introduction or marriage.
Romance / Re: As A Young Lady, Would You Rather Build With A Man Or Marry An Already Made Man? by Setursight(m): 3:42pm On Oct 13, 2022
Sladotun:
Some dey find ready made o.
cool cool cool


Wahala for them..
Honestly IMO, finding a ready-made man, doesn't makes them a bad person, or gold diggers . No!

But if a woman finds a man who has a clear, and sensible vision that he is pursuing and he is giving everything he's got to it and taking every help within reason that he can get and she is just afraid that it is delaying so much so that she abandons him, then she does not deserve to have any hardworking man commit to life with her at all. And any such man who loses her has lost nothing of value. But if she sticks and insists on working it out, pushing him even when he is exhausted and discouraged as life is often capable of rendering even the hardiest of men, she's a diamond and deserves every bit of investment that such a man can put into her.

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Romance / Re: As A Young Lady, Would You Rather Build With A Man Or Marry An Already Made Man? by Setursight(m): 3:33pm On Oct 13, 2022
awakmfon03:
If every woman waits for an already made man for marriage as it seems to be the right cos they don't want to suffer nor their unborn children.
*What if every man also wait for an already made woman*

cos they need someone who can support them.

See, life revolves around those who work hard to become who there really want to be and not those who wait for others to drive them to their ecstasy.


I think we guys should get a new fixation, raise our bar so high that any ladies that doesn't measure up to your standards,would also be jelted .

That way, ladies will have no choice than to level up. Even the lazy/entitled ones will know no guys will accept them.
Romance / Re: As A Young Lady, Would You Rather Build With A Man Or Marry An Already Made Man? by Setursight(m): 3:24pm On Oct 13, 2022
To the guys, the onus lies on you to *find your feet* before looking for love.
We can't honestly blame the ladies.
Who likes to suffer?

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Romance / Re: As A Young Lady, Would You Rather Build With A Man Or Marry An Already Made Man? by Setursight(m): 3:12pm On Oct 13, 2022
Tenrack:
lol. Haba. Let's say a guy working on his craft, already making a bit of money, but barely enough for his rent and feeding and sustenance. He has a huge dream and is making small small progress. Don't be mean please. I'm trying to understand you better.

Potential is a possibility that somethings might/might not occur. An inherent possibility.
And just about everyone have it.

That being said, if a man is heading somewhere, and he's only coming along slowly but his babe/crush couldn't wait so she left, It doesn't makes her to be a bad person, it simply makes her not to be the type of lady a man can trust when the storms blow.

I kid you not, to be a professional say a Doctor, Accountant et Al is quite easy than to be say an entrepreneur. The former can become the latter and probably a bit more easily than for one to head directly into it. But the direct path is by far more discouraging , tasking and tortous.

So if a woman is gonna judge potential, she should be looking at where the guy is headed and what it cost to get there and decide wether she's up to it or not.

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Romance / Re: Why Do Some Men Lie About Their Incomes & Salaries? (Screenshot) by Setursight(m): 10:44am On Sep 26, 2022
[quote author=Islandlady post=116298693] Whatever, as a woman I am entitled to have my personal money for upkeep and also to take care of my parents n siblings!

Case closed.
We know the type of lady the op is.
She wants to stalk up her own monies for herself, siblings and parent.(note, her kids not inclusive).

While use the husband's money to run the home-front. Like her husband doesn't have his own parents and siblings.

Pathetic!!!

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