Thanks

Thanks so much everyone for your advice, suggesting, prayers. Gone through the whole post and I learnt a lot.
God bless you all for sharing your ideas, life experience, suggestions.
Am grateful

udysweet:

Great. Glad you have people around who would help out.
Hmmmmm I pray mine comes soon too, I have friends waiting for me to drop the good news, then watch them swing into action

yes dear. My very good friend whom I also supported during her wedding last December. She's ever ready to help me out on this.

divinelove:


D budget on photograph is too much 28k reduce it to 15k, buy memory card n give d photographer n u can wash d pic at a later date at ur pace.

Must u buy new shoes use d one u already ve

No budget for best man suit n chief brides maid wear?

Invest in good MC n DJ say 15k each, they can make d difference.

D wedding ring at 2k is OK nobody will even notice

Use ur camera phone to take d pre wedding pic dnt spend on dt except it matters to u.

Food is expensive nw ooo 70k will nt do ooo make it 100k, u will ve at least 150 to 200 guests invited n uninvited

thanks for reminding me on best man suit and the chief brides maid wear.
For food budget, for now it's going to be that way pls. Thanks

udysweet:
honestly it will be stressful

yes a friend will handle that

Juliearth:
Op,you are wise. Its better to invest more in the marriage than the wedding. I appreciate your simplicity. However,I think you should cut down on the cost of decoration,the money you budgeted for your wedding gown/suit may not be sufficient,you mentioned getting better rings later,hence your resolve to buy a 2k ring...I think its not a wise move- invest in a durable ring now so you dont have to buy another later. You can channel the extra cash saved from decoration to getting better wedding rings. I wish you all the best. You marriage shall withstand the test of time,the blessings and breakthroughs associated with being married shall be made manifest in your lives,you shall raise godly children that will make you proud...Amen!

I will take note. My decoration has been shifted to warfare department in church. I will just appreciate them with 5k.
Thanks so much

uche13:
Dear Op,

Pls what's your size? Let me know if I can send you my gown so you won't bother spending money on renting.

Also, how many people do you intend inviting? With the food budget, i rather have a small number of guests to have a cozy quality wedding

God bless your home and cause you to smile everyday.

You truly are an inspiration

wao. Thanks so much.
My budget Is for 150 people.
My full length size is 61. And am a slim person. Thanks

MissIndependent:
You can't get a suit for sale less than 15k unless you wanna give a tailor to sew coat for you and wedding gown too 5k rent? Unless u wanna wear all this deeper life satin gown. As for the food won't u pay the caterer? Or your siblings will do the cooking? Will comment when I think of something else.

lol @coat. Coat for where? That got me really laughing.

MissIndependent:
where is your location let me see if I can help you out with some things eg my tiara and wedding earring I got for a high price is now useless after the wedding. Even the silicone bra used for wedding gowns I got for 2,000 sold for 3k in some places is @home I'm serious not kidding

thanks sis. Dont worry I will sort that out.
Thanks so much

Thanks @all. I will will take note of on all your suggestions. Thanks so much

Agbaletu:
It is well. I can tell you that you will soon smile. Don't be pushed by anyone. Don't listen to anyone except your man.
A little about my wedding -
I borrowed my brother's suit, wore my old clean shoe, only the shirt and hand gloves were new. 700 naira rings for both of us. Only my woman wore new gown.
We drove in our neighbour's old Peugeot 504. The car stopped and we have to come down to push and we were mocked by neighbours.

Today, I say thank you Lord for where we are now.

wao.

@sisisioga. Thanks will take note

Partnerbiz:
That's so touching. I wish I could add some money to that..

Luv u..

thanks

mrsfavour:
I love ur simplicity sis, God will perfect ur plans .as u did not hyper for a multimillion wedding, God will make ur anniversary richer than now, I wish u goodness in ur new home.

thanks sis

hemartins:
Yes you can. If both of you save 10k each in 7 months. That's 140k. It is possible.

its ok. Thanks

mygeeZ:
A way to go!!! better invest in the marriage than the wedding that is a day thing!!!
Plan for transportation
Kolanuts/Garden egg
Dj
Wine for toast
etc.

oh. I forgot. Thanks

Negotiate:
15k may not be enough for gown and suit.
Let's put that at 20.

If you can, please get good rings. Get gold. It's going to be one of the main things because it stays on after everything has ended. 30 - 40k should do, and you won't bother again. Buy from abokis. It's cheap.

Your decoration seems high. If you're using your church, just appreciate the welfare unit with a crate of malt and 5k in an envelope.

Budget #150/person for souvenir. Buy in bulk.

What about plates for serving? Are you renting extra seats?

wao thanks so much. I forgot my church welfare can handle that. Thanks for reminding me.
Ok. Wedding gown/suit - 20k. Taken

The wedding ring of 30 - 40k. Oh my God.
On souvenirs. Taken.
Plates, am renting. No renting of extra chairs. Church seat will do.
Thanks

Bobbyjay001:
It is very ok. May God bless your marriage.

thanks

hemartins:
Try save extra 150K to your proposed budget. I know how difficult things can be but it's your wedding day, one of the happiest day of your life. Get a better cake, a well organized reception, good photo album, get a wedding gown and Make it worth it.

Happy marriage in Advance.

extra 150k? Ah

Emmaesty:
You want to bake your cake yourself and do your makeup? Isn't that stressful

no. A friend will handle that. Just that I know what it takes.

Paruz1015:
Hmm Are you guys buying second hand shoe or Wat

lol. There are good shoes for #2500.

Happy sunday lovely people. Pls your suggestions/ advice is welcome here.

Am getting married. The days of heart break and all that are over. It's time to smile, love and trust again.
He's been my best friend for a long time. We shared all our secrets with each other. He finally asked me to marry him and I said yes.

Our budget for white wedding is 250k. We want a small wedding besides things are difficult now and he's not financially buoyant now , but I love him like that.

These is the list I came up with :

1. Wedding gown & groom suit -- 15k
I will rent my gown
2. Shoes (bride & groom) - 5k
3. Wedding ring - 2k
We'll buy more better one later
4. Bridal hair/make up - 3k
I don't need a make up artists. Most people already know I look more beautiful without too much painting.
5. Cake (2 tiers of cake) 15k
I know how to bake so na weh weh. Noone can cheat me on that.
6. Reception venue (church premises) tables, canopies, decoration - 25k
7. Photograph (coverage, one photo book, pre wedding) 28k.
We are taking 5 pics for pre wedding in a very standard studio. That will be #500 multiply by 5
8. MC. We'll look for a friend maybe from youth department in church. - 5k
9. Souvenirs - 20k.
10. Food(fried rice, jollof rice, semo, fish) 70k
11. Drinks (soft drinks and 15 bags of sachet water? 25k.

I think everything above is 200k already.


These are the things I can remember. Pls any suggestions or advice? If your suggestions will reduce my above budget, pls its very welcome
Any wedding planner in the House? Pls help me adjust my list above.

Thanks

Thanks @all. I've forgiven her. Just that the way I take her before, everything has changed now.

Thanks @All. I will just try to forgive her

LLSAINT:
I know how hurt you may feel but if you donot forgive, you will do yourself more harm than good. Your maturity lies in your ability to forgive since you already know how she is and if she does not change, marriage would teach her better. For your fiancee, , you need God to hold him oooo

hold him? No. I quit. I don't even have his number in my phone.

I was just thinking on something that can ease up the Pain.. Its so sad.

This thought has been springing out of me since morning and I think, if I do this it may make me feel better.
The very first time my cousin was coming to stay with us after her NYSC , my mom never wanted her to come, but I talked her into allowing her to stay.
When she came, she stays in my room, we do everything together. I loved her. We discussed our relationship with men and all the girls kind of gossip.
Few months, she got one small job to manage. We were fine.
I had an ex boyfriend, we didnt really broke up, we lost contact and we got in touch again and everything was working well again. We were preparing to get married. The truth Is, I loved him so much. He was the only man in my life then. we met when we were entering the University, the first man I ever has sex with. I thought we were going to get married until everything change.
On my cousin 's birthday, I used her pics on my dp. My fiance asked who she was and I told him, so he requested for her number to wish her happy birthday too.
One fateful Day, I collected her phone to brows something on aliexpress as my phone was misbehaving, a message enters her BBM chat so I opened it. I was surprise that I almost smashed her phone. It was so hurting. They've been chating for a long time. From the chat, she was the one initiating the chat, but letter, he stated flowing. She even sent him nude pics of herself. They even plan to meet in a hotel..
I returned her phone and went to the room in tears. I called my fiance and asked him.. He begged me to forgive him but I still quit. He called her and told her but she kept pretending as if nothing happened. I was sick for over one week, but she never asked me what was wrong with me. I was expecting her to even say sorry but she didnt.
Now she wants to get married to someone this April and I feel like asking her to apologies to me on her Facebook wall. For seducing my fiance, for sending him nude pics, for destroying the only true love memory I had and for making me look like a fool.
I am not regretting breaking the relationship. But for my cousin I feel I need her to apologies to me on her Facebook.
Am I that wicked? I just cant forgive her.

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@mod, why did you take my post to front page? no need for front page jor.