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MrKnowitall:
Best governor in Nigeria: Babatunde Fashola

[s]Worst governor in Nigeria's history: Peter Obi. AKA POS.[/s]

you are a very big FOOL

Yorubas taking panadol for Igbos head ache, do yorubas love Igbos more than Igbos love themselves? Igbos choose to surpport GEJ deal with it. Jonathans administration may not have given us all, but it is definitely better and preferable to what past administrations have given us. To hell with APC. Anything, just anything to take away the grip of the 'born-to-rule-mentality' feudals from power is okay by me.

Yorubas with their 'top-notch' hypocrisy and delusion, the RRR promised by Gowon after the civil war, how did it fare? what about the numerous other promises made down the years. You all are crying because Jonathan has balanced a lot of lopsidedness in the MDA, and it is no longer business as usual for you and your northern lords.


uch12 isee ya

Kamsified:
@peppyluv02 see what you've caused
Now our brother is crying

@shizzle11 don't worry, she's just kidding

lol...i hope so

peppyluv02:
Happy sunday dear...
I'm not kitchen friendly o! Except you want to eat concotion

Dear cocoberry, it is to the glory of GOD that October 5 has always been a good day in your life, may the good LORD in his infinite kindness, extend his goodness in your life to every day you live to witness and may HE grant you the privilege to give more testimonies of rewarding days in your life...IJN, AMEN!

tsolz400:
HIV patient. How are you?

Ebola patient, i am finer than you

winniz:
Odiegwu

Just exit the thread for them

hmmmm....its rowdy in here

Dear kamsified, may the good LORD in his infinite mercy hearken to your sincere petition and increase his benefits in your life in abundance. As you devote your time and effort to spiritual growth, may the LORD also strengthen you morally, financially, socially and otherwise, IJN...AMEN!

moca: Good and sensitive topic really.

I will prefer a premature dude to a guy who stays up to one hr.
At least in premature, u still crave for the thing but in the later,u dread and recoil anytime its that time.
D friction on d toto is no longer pleasurable and u r in pain always. Heaven help u if its like a horse. Na obituary straight

I recently encountered a lady whose hubby is everyday nacking dude.
What!
Is it water? On some cases one can even do without water d whole day.

And also pray its not that type facing angle 45

abeg which one be angle 45 again? una no go kee pesin for NL

lwkmd.. someones hubby has been smashing her coochie while on some potent steroid

beeevan: You are too generous .

Thanks.

I love to share the benevolence in me with women, my pleasure

beeevan: Do you mind if I take two 'okwas'+ smirnoff ice?

At your behest, nothing can be too much for a woman who says the truth as it is.
The liquor will follow in a jiffy

You spoke the truth, relish the reward of the moment that truth brings. Here, a spicy African delicacy and a chilled bottle of Smirnoff vodka

beeevan: Asking the aim of a relationship from first date even get as e be, i assumed people should get into a relationship because they liked the person a lot. Sometimes relationship can start off as unserious but end up becoming quite intense.

beevan, when last did you have a taste of a very sumptious 'okwa' of nkwobi? i wanna offer you one on my bill.

Truth is, i cant even see a woman today and ask her hand in marriage immediately, NEVER! I must date you first even before courtship, i am not one to rush into marriage only to realise that i shouldnt have rushed into it. At least a degree of 'blending' should be ascertained first to see if truly you two really have any thing in common or can realy be one.

alutacontinua: If actually you explained things to her early enough and she choose to stay, then, she has no right to whine later.

and when is early enough aluta? cant two consenting adults start a relationship mutually without any 'buzz' about where it will lead? i ask again must every relationship end in marriage? If marriage issue comes up at some point in a relationship, fine it will be discussed. Not like it 'has' to be discussed from the onset, common!

lmao...coogar,

alutacontinua: You should have told her this and let her decide if she wanted to stay!
It's totally not fair of you to just assume she wanted the relationship for fun, and when she brought the marriage issue up, you could have just explained to her nicely that she ain't your type.

I did give her a very cogent reason why she cant get what she wanted. I wasnt stable and was seeking for financial independence then, and like i said earlier, i gave her other fair reasons why marriage wasnt my priority as at that material time, these i did in a very subtle and understandable manner, not like i told her off.

and FYI, the relation didnt end immediately, it was actually the beginning of the end...lol

crackhaus:
Okay since you say she's clearly stated that she isn't one, I take your word for it.

Touché @emboldened

Yeah bruv, being like 3months or so we had the convo where she said that, otherwise i would easily dig it up for emphasis.

Quite touche

coogar: you must be very intelligent!
i dunno why our women cannot get this. they want every relationship to lead to marriage & I cannot just understand that bit.



perhaps because you had been playing the role of a "husband material" especially in the bedroom.

You right bruv!

I was actually a boss when we started off during the service year, i remeber giving her my monthly alawi on two ocassions when she said she needed to send some money to a sibling back home. I didnt care much cos i made little extra cash while serving, and i had a bro who transfers some change into my account then

Chick was in my room like 24/7 during PPA, my crib was a mini movie theatre and conference center as my colleagues converged and had plenty of fun at day time, and i donated fluid every night and morning on regular basis.

i had a good time with her though, but like every thing with a beginning, must have an end

Phema: You are not serious! What were you doing with a lady in her late 20s when you knew you were jobless and were no where near settling down? So, you expected her to keep dating you while her eggs dry off?

lwkmd...

this is one problem with women, quickly getting defensive without clearly understanding whats being talked about. Where did i insinuate the bolded? Did i ask her to marry me? or wait for me? She asked for what i wasnt readyto give nor willing to give even if i was ready. I didnt expect her to keep dating me cos i wasnt even ready to keep dating her.

And FYI, i wasnt jobless per-se, yes i didnt have a job then but as a guyman, i was hussling and making some little change

coogar: it's quite different when i was in school. every girl i spoke to wanted the relationship to lead somewhere otherwise......no deal! what if a man likes a girl initially but then changed his mind after few years?

is there a crime in that?

They need to understand that the relationship doesnt have to necessarily lead to 'somewhere'. Sometimes we need these relationships so that we can make mistakes and learn from them, so we can know how to handle ourselves when we are ready or getting 'somewhere'

she's not serious!
she wanted to bully you into marriage seeing that you are younger......she nearly manipulated you. marriage in mid-20s ke?

lol @ bully there was no way she could bully or manipulate me, cos i am a bully myself and can be as sturbbon as a mule. Besides i was ahead of her in thought. From the onset i knew she wasnt my type 'marriage wise' cos we bickered a lot. It actually baffled me that she could come up with that when other way more important things like getting a good jab and making some cool dough pre-occupied my mind, i realy felt disgusted.

crackhaus: Sounds like one, types like one, aggressive like one, never accepting her wrong even when it's clear - like one...and most of all, supports the eradication of gender roles.
I'm sorry but I'd rather she say she isn't one herself...you know, for posterity sake

carefreewannabe has admitted she does not support doing away with 'traditional' gender roles, I typed this again for posterity sake.

cococandy and bukatyne don't know what wave of feminism they belong to...typed again for posterity sake.

lol....i get you bruv, not like i'm trying to defend her thou. In one of our conversations, i asked if she was a feminist and she clearly told me she isnt one. I agree on her aggressiveness thou, sometimes way too unnecessary, its in womens nature whenever they are on the defensive, they could be so verbally belligerent. I consider her views a little more liberal than the official nairaland feminists, i need to reaffirm her position on this, i truly hope she isnt one thou

coogar: the issue here is - must every relationship lead to marriage? why can't a man & a woman be together for some time and enjoy each other?

Truth is, there are certain ages that when women attain, the thought/idea of marriage fills their head. If they are in a relationship at that material time, they'll hope it leads to marriage (that is if they truly like the guy), and if they arent in a relationship, they'll hope the next guy that comes along will talk and discuss marriage with them(again thats if its a guy they like) Thats the simple logic

As per my ex i talked about, she was heading to her late 20's while i was still rocking my mid 20's, plenty of time to still play around

coogar: very selfish woman
yet, if you had gone ahead with her crooked plan, she would leave you without warning when the marriage starts having financial difficulties.

Exactl! I believe she felt her clock was ticking faster, (but who cares? not like i had any thoughts of marrying her anyway) but then i was too smart for her. I politely rubbished the idea and threw it to the waste bin. A man has to be clever and mentally strong in resisting the evil in women

chaircover: First of all I dont have to open all threads talk less of commenting on all of them . . .Do you know how many threads are on NL?
Secondly I am not joined at the hip to anyone here, so that someone saying/not saying something doesnt mean I endorse it or disagree with it. . . . I can think for my self

There are quite a number of threads on NL, lets both agree you didnt open the thread. Secondly i know you've always had an independent mind on NL.

As for gender wars, feminism or menimism, or whatever count me out cos I dont have time for it.
Of the people I love most in my life, I worked out that there are more men than women. . . I guess that tells you something
I have a father, brothers, uncles, brothers, biological and non biological . .they are all men. I have male friends too.
When I go to bed at night I sleep with a man

I know you are not a feminist and i have never mistaken you to be one, i only made reference to 'them' with regards to the thread i talked about, cos i noticed feminists had a swell day on the thread and surprisingly even non-feminists joined them in their dance of shame all in a bid to defend a 'shameless' woman who cannot cook.

All this femmenism and menenism (I cant even spell it sef) is just internet mouth braggado to me . .. . Many of you go home to wifes, husbands, mums, dads, sisters, brothers, nephews and neices so I dont really understand what all the gender war is about.

I say it as I see it, from my own eyes; If the man is wrong I say it and if the woman is wrong I say it too.
Funny; yesterday I was accused albeit in jest, of setting the femininst movement back by years with a statement that I made & today its the opposite LOL[/b]

May God increase your blessings for the bolded, most of them are mere loud-mouthed internet noise-makers although many of them in their delusion would still argue it. For the records, i am not gender-biased and will never be. I am very logical when it comes to gender-based issues and tackle them individually rather than go on needless offensive/defensive in support of the male gender

Its a shame you are so into this gender war thing that you were unable to read between the lines of my post. I was in actual fact talking to both men and women In my second post which has not been modified and I was subtly pointing out to women not to look at a mans pocket alone as the only means of picking the right man but look at the man as a whole so they dont end up telling stories that touch.

It is well sha.
As for me I love men . . and women too

I re-iterate, i am not into that gender bashing nonsense. Anti-feminism-YES! Death to any such movement/idea that will tell me men and women are equal....God punish devil as per reading between the lines, i read and understood the comment and wasnt oblivious of the points you made which i concur with, alas it was more balanced and fair compared to your first comment that was more like taking a swipe at men .

Glad to hear you re-affirm your stand on feminism, 'those' women need to understand that there are some laws of nature that cannot be up-turned no matter how much they tried. It is indeed well

TWEETFELLA: What exactly do you mean by liking them BIG?

LWKMD... My man

swagloverss: A guy and a girl have been dating for years and everything seems to be going well. However, five or six years down the line, the girl has never met the guy’s parents. Furthermore, she doesn’t know where their relationship is heading to.

Is it therefore morally right for a woman to pressurise her man into proposing to her? Or better still, is it ethically okay for a woman to ask to know her fate in a relationship?

It is very wrong! it will depict despair and that is a huge turn-off

I once dated a girl (she was two years older than me) in a relationship that began during our service year Just a few months after passing out she was already talking marriage, at a time i was still flipping through the pages of newspaper, spending a good percentage of the little i had then surfing the net for job openings etc, i almost resented her for her irrationality, cos getting married would barely make a list of my top 5 priorities at that time

Op again you made a good point, but like i said in the other thread that it is not only a womans inability to cook that can be termed 'irresponsible', a woman can be irresponsible in the kitchen but useful in other areas (even thou i also stated clearly that i cant and will never a marry a woman who doesn't know how to cook), same logic applies here. A man can still be 'irresponsible' even if he provides sufficiently for his family.

chaircover: There are a lot of other things that can make a man irresponsible and many irresponsible men actually hide under the guise of "I am provinding everything my family needs"

The men who sit in bars and beer parlours after work and sharing lewd jokes with his friends and his kids are in bed asleep before he comes back the early hours of the morning is iresponsible.

A man who abuses his wife verbally, physically, emotionaly, financialy etc just becasue he is the breadwinner is irresponsible

A man who has affairs all over the place and no Corper, new starter, student, trainnee is safe under his management is irresponsible

Responsibility comprises of a lot of things. Even men who talk too much, drink too much, spend unwisely and cant do anything without involving outsiders etc is irresponsible.

We don hear, we know and we agree to an extent.

I see how quick you are to jump on this thread to comment and outline numerous other ways a man can be termed 'irresponsible'. However the op again made valid points here, just like he did in his penultimate thread and like you rightly observed, it is not only the inability of a man to provide for his family that amounts to 'irresponsibility', in other words i agree with you to a large extent on the above. Need i remind you that this is a counter thread by the op, on his earlier thread to create a more balanced and unbiased view.
https://www.nairaland.com/1927330/woman-cant-cook-highly-irresponsible

While 'some' of your fellow women were blabbing all over the thread and some feminists at some point hijacked the thread with their inane outbursts, you were no where to be found to highlight to us other numerous ways a woman can be regarded as 'irresponsible'. (tell me you didnt see the thread). I sense the hypocrisy not mindinding the fact that i consider your above points valid.

My point is, you attacked this thread with so much energy and passion which we didnt see in the earlier thread by the same op.

She served under obasanjos admin.

RIP to her.

So what do you intend to gain by continuing with the argument? look to engage yourself in something productive my friend