₦airaland Forum

Hungry youths, I don't blame them, they must make their pay.

Blessing kor, blessed in.....yeye dey smell

mployer: It depends on your reason for getting married. If you are looking for a ticket out of poverty, then he is probably not the right choice.
If you want peace, companionship and compatibility without minding some inconveniences, then you stay with him

I will advice you stay with him. There is a reason he looked 'promising' to you. You may not be able to explain it but just believe it.

ENDORSED!!!

delishpot: Hmn, if you guys marry and decide to put off having kids till you are financially stable then go ahead but if you desire to have kids asap biko just wait o. Hang in there and try to find better jobs and improve on finances before the big leap.
my dear. Money is important in any union. I am not saying he should have millions o. But at least have enough to avoid begging people for money to buy cow and gate or diapers. Or to look for rent cos you spent last month salary treating malaria.
To be frank, 25k is small to plan to start a family on.

One of the joys and blessing of marriage is fruit of the womb (child/ren). My point: let them have one child first and then like you noted, more can come when they have an improved income, who knows? that child could even bring them unimaginable favours, you never can tell, you need to look at the positives too.

Godmystrength: I can't even be friends with such person not to talk of marriage things.

The ops case is that of a domineering partner of a fiancee, good enough she is exhibiting this negative trait from the onset, more than enough time for the op to decide if he wants to ignore the warning signs and flee or if he wants to jump into the fire despite having a god view of the red fleg.

Either way, I honestly wish him the best.

***claps for the op**

what business do two adults have together if either of them can't express him/herself freely let alone as spouse?

Red flag!

lmao

very good ideas!

Well done op.

aisha2: My sister, me I was even thinking I was over reacting but I put myself in the guys shoe just imagine.

Poster, I said it before work on yourself, the more I read the more I notice:

1. You feel entitled to certain things not caring how the other person feels. (Why wouldnt he acknowledge me even though I was unsupportive but still he should have acknowledged me)

2. You feel justified ( He must have seen something good in me to come back)

3. You dont seem to understand clearly when you are wrong and keep pushing other peoples buttons even when they say stop (I felt it was business as usual till he stopped picking my calls)

We all learn and grow, but one cannot learn till they open their minds and hearts to the wants and needs of others.

Am sorry if you think you are justified in getting upset over something you clearly didnt earn then you still havent learned.

You are NOT entitled to benefits, You EARN them, this you didnt earn, work hard next time and earn an acknowledgement, its not automatic

Op that's all I have to say to you verbatim @bolded

aisha please feel free to charge me for plagiarism

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madamoringo: JanjaPDPweeds are losers! Nigerians know that they tried hard to steal the elections but it was impossible!

fool! the striked out is an exclusive reserve for the one and only supporter of APC party in Nigeria, the apeesh1t. try again.

Eranko!

good gesture

Cuche: Sycophancy is a major challenge to the unity of Ibos. APGA has been relegated to a tiny empire with many selfish individuals. In the city of the blinds one eyed man is a hero

stop talking nonsense! Tell me which sycophancy you talk about, is it the apc or PDP that has no sycophants and full of selfish individuals?

My friend go and sit down, don't have time to argue with your likes, you are obviously deluded.

priscaoge: Who is Dino

Dino is a fool

calebo101: Seriously That would be surprising cos Obiagelli sometimes strikes across as someone that reasons unlike the other shallow minded one. Anyway Nairaland is a place of miracle . I viewed a topic where one supposedly female handle that's really critical of PDP was unmasked as a male, a full grown man!!! Maybe all these ones na men too wen dey form women

are you afraid of mentioning names? the fool you are talking about is ngene ekwensu aka nwaniba, his original moniker is cleverly the fool, a senseless iddiott posing as a female, such is the level of their frustration and stewpidity they display

calebo101: Taa shut up your mouth there, because i never answer u since? See this one, people dey talk u wan still talk, dustbin.

don't be deceived! she is the same person, bereft and obiageli

My president I strongly disagree with you on this. 40yrs age limit for the office of the president is very very okay, any other thing will be counter productive. Don't forget that Gowon was a military stooge and not a civilian elected president. For any other elective position, yes! but not that of the presidemt

I say nay to this.

op you are a very big fool for saying APGA has no ideology. May be you and your family are sinking but not APGA, it is only an idiot like your will not see the developmental strides of the governor under the party. APGA is a legacy party that cannot go extinct

NgeneUkwenu: Thunder Fire APGA!

Thunder fire your entire family. Bar.stard

Good move Mr governor, always a good idea to give people a sense of belonging

Well said Mr President.

The oppositions leadership should take a cue from this and accept defeat whenever it confronts them rather than embark on baseless slander and blackmail

And Omisere wins!

To God be the glory!!!

fine girl no pimple

ochendo is the biggest clown in office in alaigbo, such a huge embarrassment

^and the loud mouthed fool just arrived

lwkmd

aisha2: Sadly its the elites who even shy away from checking. When free tests are done you find women trekking from AYA to Millenuim park while even when hospitals partner with cooperate organizations to bring testing to the door steps of workers turn out is low.

Sadly indeed! and when it creeps into its advanced stage they start running helter-skelter in the usual naija fire-brigade-approach style, sometimes unsuccessfully .

aisha2: Cervical Cancer has the second highest mortality rate for African Women.
Brea-st cancer has more awareness because we can do self examination every month and the hospital tests are less invasive, for cervical cancer the test is VERY invasive and so so many women are put off, also you cant do self examination. Its also a little uncomfortable and for cutural purposes women in the North due to early debut of sex-ual activity and child birth are more prone coupled with the fact that they would NOT voluntarily go for a pap smear and have their vag-ina examined and exposed unless they are in extreme pain which in most cases would have been too late for treatment or cure.
Also for brea-st cancer the lump will be prominent if you do self examination, for cervical cancer women normally mistake the symptoms for period pains or common toilet infections and self medicate which will most times alleviate the syptoms but leave the disease to fester

Wow! i never knew. Very good points and analysis you have here aisha. Self examination has made early bweast cancer detection very possible virtually effortlessly and at no cost.

Most women are apprehensive about going for cervical cancer test because of their discomfort of doc/nurses invading their private, but enlightened women like yourself who know the importance will not under estimate the risks involved in neglecting the examination.

I believe the awareness for cervical cancer is low in this part of the world and i think its one of the reasons for the high rate of death like you rightly pointed above. Even in the southern part where people are more enlightened, they are discouraged for obvious reasons coupled with the fact that it comes at a cost, (we love cheap/free things in naija no thanks to austere economic hardship.)

Agrika: Been trying to...the size of the pic is too big..lol

your yansh big, your picture big....everything big....chai... this lie ure sharing.......

[don't start what you cannot Finnish. nuff said!