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hedonistic:
I suggest you take a long, hard, inward look at yourself to unearth the kind of provocative vibes you emit that bring out the beast in all the men that come your way.

You have said so much but do you know when you are fed up and you just need to say something because you are done being treated like a fool, and you just need to bring the words out and you guys always just take it the wrong way? Why can't you guys search yourself and start respecting your partner's feelings and decisions, so no one would erupt like a volcano? It has to do with both sexes, no one is better than the other, something would always cause an argument.

fagin1982:
Its completely wrong for any of the partners to raise their finger on the other no matter what is at stake , Guys sometimes find it hard to control their emotions when provoked .

My advice

In as much as you do not want to be used as a punch bag , always guard you tongue and equally control your emotions when provoked

Ladies can be naughty with words

Yh, I have learnt that since, thanks jawee.

wildchild1:
Aunty, you can't continue like this oo
BTW how many bfs you don get now?

lol, must I have a bf, dem dey use bf collect momey from bank, shey you will be my next bf?

amuokuko:
I am sure u ve heard of Social media fake lives, keep faking it afterall nah small sh1t dey spoil yansh..

what am I faking now biko, I say something, na fake I fake am, no vex brother

amuokuko:
With the above, I better hope u re beauriful else stop lying...

lol, being beautiful has to do with lies, even the ugliest and most beautiful tell lies, I didn't say it for you to believe me, do I even know you? Nah, so that's me not giving a Bleep.

hedonistic:
I suggest you take a long, hard, inward look at yourself to unearth the kind of provocative vibes you emit that bring out the beast in all the men that come your way.

Arguement is a normal thing in relationships, so why should one feel inferior or less whenever we are having an arguement. If you know me, I am the cool type, I don't look for your trouble, don't look for mine, they are just too hot tempered, simple.

alexialin:
Lol am a lady ooooooo for goodness sakes * rolls eyes * AM NOT A GUYYYYY!!!!!!!! Please?

its not bad, I am a guy anyways, just acting like a girl, lol but you girls, una too dey cheat, kilode?

I had a boyfriend when I was in school who made an attempt, that was the end, even when we broke up, he still gives that "I will slap you" whenever he's mad, I knew this one would never change. Fastforward to my NYSC days, my bf will say you always make me feel inferior and then he raised his hand that day, tho, he apologised but lailai, I will never go back. I will rather remain single than to be someone's punching bag.

alexialin:
It's over mehn! She should bounce off! and keep her lies to herself.. Devil my foot! Smhhhhh.. Cheating is one thing I can never condone.. Dare not cheat on me boo.. He knows that already.. No cheating and I won't on him.
Try move on.. I understand how it is.. But u just need to move on.. It's well

Lol, guy, you just said it, its over, obviously, alcohol won't do shit, you will just end up worse than ever, pick up a book, a bible or an inspirational book and read. I know girls are cheat but I just believe when you are getting to a certain age, you should not even think of double dating. You will be fine.

baralatie:
that you feel betrayed is a different thing all together!
there is a lot of things that are involved in this particular case but the first step is to forgive her and yourself totally and move on.
if not this case will hinder other cases which breeds a circle.
so shake this chapter off

sure, forgiveness is the first step

sguy0:
What pains me most is the fact that I feel betrayed, truly! after everything I did to make her happy and comfortable.

Shossie what else will she say, how I wish I can post the long sms she sent alongside that of her friend, you'll be amazed.

ToriBlue, I wish I can just forget her, I even invited a female friend over, but I cannot just get her out of my head, I wish I could not have loved her this much.

Loveswollenpussy, I don't understand your statement.

Harunawest, I just wish I could find another, but getting her out of my head is one huge herculean task or if I could just trying to forget the whole issue with her and continue with her; totally impossible.

Blessme2019, I understand your point, but I am not that desperate, I have to get clear of this firstly.

it takes time, you will definitely get over it, devout you to something else.

sguy0:
Good afternoon guys, I am an ardent reader of this section of Nairaland but I've always been on "ghost mode" according to our beloved brother from the East; Phyno. I have a very serious situation going on in my life right now and will need your advice, hence I created this account.

Not to discourage you, but this might be a long write-up, firstly let me introduce myself, I am from the South-South, I work with a service of the government which reports only to the President. I'll be 29 years by Jan 28th next year. I have a girlfriend(Hope) who's also about my age and we have been dating for about two years now. I decided to move the relationship to another level (marriage) with her consent and I intended proposing to her on her dad's birthday which is on the 28th of March 2017. To assist me with the proposal, I needed the assistance of her only friend(Peace) which I know of. Due to the friendship they shared I collected Peace's phone number during one of my trips to Abuja to see my girlfriend, while we where at the mall watching a movie when I requested for Peace's number in front for of my girlfriend, promising to help assist Peace with a job search whenever my service was recruiting.

Fast-forward to Valentine's day, I requested Peace to assist me get the ring size, so I don't go buying a wrong size, she gladly oblige, how she did it, I don't know, but I know she achieved it and sent the correct ring size number to me in Port-Harcourt. I was happy with the way things were going, occasionally, I send Peace some little change, knowing that she doesn't have a good job and I am sending her errands which might cost money.

Friday 10/03/2017 the day Buhari returned, I came to Abuja to submit my report, after doing so I wanted going to my Abuja flat, but I forgot my house keys in Port-Harcourt n my girlfriend who has a spare was very busy(according to her) since the Honorable who she's a Legislative Aide to was having a committee meeting. I decided to call the friend, Peace so we could figure out and finalize plans towards the proposal. I took a cab to Drumstix by AYA, Peace met me there in company of a guy.

Now this is where the problem starts. Peace ran up to me n gave me a hug(should my girlfriend was around would have frown at). She proceeded to kiss me in the mouth, but I stylish avoided, she whispered "just act as my boyfriend" I was perplexed, but just decided to act as she requested being that she's done a lot for me already n might eventually be the chief bridesmaid to my lovely Hope(my girlfriend). After exchanging pleasantries, she order for food for herself n the guy, but the guy wasn't interested in the food, rather he was busy chatting with whomsoever that he was chatting with. Peace at short intervals will console the guy with statements like "don't worry, I'll talk to her" "don't worry about what happened yesterday night, she was drunk" at such times, I'll just continue with my phone, probably reading Nairaland.com or something similar.

I was disappointed, first for the act Peace put up, and for not being able to conclude plans for my engagement, which comes up within 3 weeks. As I finished these thoughts, the guy's cell rang out same time I decided to call my girlfriend n check up on her and also inform her that I am at Drumstix so she could drive up there when she's closed. But I got a busy tone, I redialed, but this time, got a user-on-another-call response, by this time the guy was already talking to whomsoever made him angry the previous night. I kept my peace listening to the guys conversation. How my instincts made me turn my head to the TV screen and showed me the word "recorded" I don't know, but I immediately turned on my recorder (a pen look-alike which I got on my trip to Israel) and pointed the mic towards the guy.

After the guy's call which ended with him saying "I am sorry too and I love you too baby". My phone rang and lo twas my girlfriend, I got up n walked towards the restroom, since I was acting as Peace's boyfriend, my girlfriend was sounding not too coordinated, rather like one who's suffering from hangover n emotional distress. I asked if she drank last night, she replied negative. I told her how I forgot my keys n she asked for my location so as to come give me the car n house keys, immediately I told her that I was at Drumstix, she stopped momentarily, I said hello more than three times before I could get a reply. I was like hurry up ooo, I want to tell you something, especially what your friend Peace did as she is here, she shouted the loudest "JESUS CHRIST" I had ever heard and terminated the calls, I redialled about 3 times before the she picked up again. This time she said that she's feeling weak and she won't be able to come around. But if I'll be able to come to National Assembly car park that she'll come down n give me both the my flats keys n car key as she took my car out last night, but forgot to return the keys. I replied no, that I'll stay here n wait for her till she closes from work.

I went back to the table n sat down, feeling a bit uneasy though. After some minutes the guy's cell rang again, and I heard him say things like "car-park", "when", "I'm coming". Two to three minutes later the guy got up and told Peace and I that he is going out, but to be back soon as he is heading to National Assembly. I contemplated asking him to get something from someone for me on his way back, but I decided against it. When he drove out of the premises, Peace got up n went to the bathroom, and returned about 5 minutes later, I ordered for food since I was very hungry.

When she came back, she started by telling me that she's sorry for trying to kiss me, but she just wanted me to witness the event that just unfolded, and she has a feeling to share with me, she wants to open up, she's tired of hiding it, she was holding my hand while talking n tears were forming in her eyes, I just allowed her for a while(I was taught it heals the soul), because I was feeling confused and at the same time developing migraine, which happens whenever I get confused. Years of training have made me always take a position where I can see the entry an exit of a building in which I am seated, I saw my girlfriend drive in, I told Peace, my girlfriend is here asking her to hold on, so she can explain herself to my girlfriend and I all that happened. She tried telling me not to mention anything to my girlfriend, but I laughed n walked outside. I opened the car door for my girlfriend Hope hugged and kiss her. As we were about going into Drumstix the other guy pulled up, I turned, so did Hope my girlfriend, immediately she saw him, she shouted 'Jesus' again. I tried to calm her down, by this time, the security had opened the door, she quickly walked in an I took her to our table. The guy hurriedly parked n came in as he was approaching the table, he said "Baby, why didn't you tell me you are coming, I just saw your car by and made a u turn". Immediately, it dawned on me that my girlfriend Hope was the same person he was quarreling with on phone n ended with "I love you too baby" also same girl Peace said, "she was drunk".

I got up wishing the ground will open up n swallow me. I asked Peace, why? I looked at my girlfriend, she was crying n the guy was asking me what happened, I just looked at him n wished I was allowed to travel with a weapon from my command in Port-Harcourt. I picked my girlfriend's car (one of mine) keys, knowing that my spare key will be in the pigeon hole. I walked out, the security man approached me saying I had not paid for all the food. I asked him to follow me.

Getting outside, I got my flat key out, locked the door and gave the securityman some money I knew will cover all expenses and also requested that he hands over the car key to the girl that just drove in. I stopped a cab and asked him to take me to Wuse II, to any club or beer parlor that is opened since the day was Friday.

I got drunk and woke up in a hotel the next day before connecting a cab to Kaduna for my onward journey back to Port-Harcourt Pardon my grammatical errors as I wrote this while in the club in Friday.

Ps : she has sent long sms(s) blaming the amazing Devil. I just can't believe all what happened.
I doubt if any advice one gives me here will stick, nevertheless I still believe I should be advised.

I just know that we girls are never satisfied, really, I think you should listen to what she has to say, I am not saying you should still go ahead as planned, if you don't trust her, you can't marry her and above all, pray about her, know what God's will for your life is, spending a life time with her or someone else.

dannybomb:
lol ok so can I send you a pm

just drop your no, I would holla at you

dannybomb:
sorry if it offended you,

lol, I am not angry at all, me nke, dannybomb

dannybomb:
hmm you sound like a sex addict

So, now because I said I will means I am a sex addict, do you know the meaning of a sex addict, I doubt it, anyways, na you sabi

dannybomb:
you wanna spoil me, is it food that I will be doing it each morning

I will be, I am not spoiling you oo

dannybomb:
so you have sex every morning with your bobo?

I don't have a bobo for now, so I don't have early morning sex

Try it Op, Good morning sex is the best, prepares you for the day and makes you glow, that toto wey you Bleep no be original toto, something dey toto

Now, you will come and say pre marital sex is not good, why don't you guys go local? Maybe the man has done something or probably your sister. Say Yes to Premarital Sex

scantee:
lol exactly

Still waiting, don't make me wait hopelessly and endlessly, you understand dear?

lordreigneth:
Good morning nairalanders this is the second time this is happening my wife knows all my secrets and my password.
She knows all my social media password and bank account ATM etc
She even have the code to unlock my phone because of how close we are and we share the same room
She always stare at me and grab all my passwords and codes whenever am surfing the internet

In the midnight she will take my phone look at my whatsapp to see my chats with my girlfriends
So one day she transferred 5k out of my money using my bank Mobile App in the midnight while I was asleep
Immediately she deleted the credit alert SMS so that I won't know because then I was having 608k in my account.... Little did she know that I have an app on my phone that tells me where money is sent to
In the morning I asked her who transferred 5k from my account she denied it until I show her my bank statement from the app her name and account number was written there she begged me and I forgave her and she returned the money and promised never to do such again.

So yesterday I woke up in the midnight and discovered that someone transferred 10k again from my account but her name was not written there and her account number I woke her up from bed to show her she denied and I threatened to kill who ever is involved with Ayilala when I wake up in the morning she started crying and confessed that she is the one that she transferred it to her friend account number so that I would not know she begged me and was crying that she wanted to use the money to settle debt...
I felt sad but i didn't fight with her I only ask her why she didn't tell me she needed the money and the night before the incident was her birthday and I took her out..
She does take money from my purse on many occasions and am not happy about that am planning to divorce her because of this attitude pls unneeded advice from matured mind what can I do?

. I am so glad you even confessed about having girlfriends outside your marriage which is wrong, work on that. Is she working and do you give her enough money, I disagree with people telling you that you are stingy, you might be but that doesn't justify her actions, you need to sit her down, she should learn to trust you, she needs to tell you before she will buy this and that to know if you can afford it. I don't appreciate her transferring money from your phone, its a bad thing, its a trait and if you didn't know, she would continue and would withdraw all your money. Her attitude has to be checked and also, show her more love and attention, it will be fine.

kaziblake:
Thank you Bride where is our groom?

Scantee is busy making arrangements.

kaziblake:
Just seeing this now
Lol

Welcome bridesmaid

She will come at the right time, besides, check yourself, your environment, there will be a girl that is attracted to you but you don't know, don't force it, the girl will come at the proposed time.
NB: Most girls love bad boys, just a tip. You know what to do with the information

kkkp:
I caught her on the phone speaking with another guy.. She lied that he was disturbing her that's why she gave him her phone number and she was trying to tell him that she is getting married soon.. I think I am fed up with all this lies and crocodile tears.. I just cancelled my wedding plans. though not easy

You caught her on the phone speaking with another guy, what was her conversation with the guy all about? She has been lying to you before for you to say you are tired of the lies. I hope you made a good decision tho, love, trust, forgiveness and communication are very important in a relationship leading to marriage. You can call her and sit her down, see if she changes, but if not, you know what to do.

zeezeegal:
He Dy Sell Chips?

he paid for my chicken and chips the day I met him

Chickenchips yinka

babyfaceafrica:
build her up financially abi,and she will latter dump him for someone richer and younger.it is better he forgets your advise!!

It is just an advice, he's up to him to decide if he wants to listen to it. Bye