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kabsun: lol @ anytime
I am a man for the records but I knw I cant get married at anytime. Thats not true.

You speak bout urself alone. Check your mates at graduation,how many males are married and how many females?

Males for many reasons don't get married fast like female... And there are more men that get married late.

What is the % of men that married after 40yrs to women.

You know you can't get married at anytime,induction! Look beyond.

Which sex get more threat to marry?

Ask friends who is really willing to marry asap, which sex get more?

The truth is we actually wants to get married asap but we can't due to reasons, and while we're still on the run our mates on the other sides get married(females).



#Reality....

tbaba1234: ^Not true, There are still more men than women in the world mainly due to female infanticide in places like china and India.

Psychologically, women wants guardian and protections, so they ll a wanna be under a man but man feels free and can marry anytime. Also there are more men in jail than women.

That one talks about it does not mean one ll actually do, its conditional.

The Prophet (Sallallähu alaihiwa sallam) narratedthat Allah said: “My love is incumbent for those who love one another forMy sake;
My love is incumbent forthose who sympathize with one another for My sake;
My love is incumbent forthose who meet one another for My sake;
My love is incumbent forthose who spend on one another for My sake. They
would be seated on pulpits of Nur (light); Prophets and Siddiqin (truthful followers) will envy them for their high ranks.

At this age,men is short in supply and husbands are scarce(wives too), on one on one basis,there ll still be more women left. Let's not give room for sodomy and likes issue.

If you can't manage more, marry one.

In reality, a female that reject/divorce a man base on polygamy could be rejected by more men(or ll she lie about it if asked?). A female that was married and later divorce her husband cos of polygamy issue,ll she later get married to a single?(reality). In the same sense is that of a single sister that reject proposal cos he might marry more, she ll later settle for what she rejected haven't known that her case in tantamount to that of a flower.

We talk bout love & share, but we seems to omit d theory wen it comes to d reality of man(polygamy), this reality we need to include in the love and share theory we want to teach our kids.

Polygamy is what can help our society from sodomy and extra-marital affairs.

Our fears in polygamy also exist in monogamy

As a realistic religion that legislates real solutions for humanity, Islam avoided any utopian doctrine. In many ofits laws, Islam keeps in mind d flexibility of d law & d realistic factors & circumstances. A law can not be 100% gud for every person, groups, culture, or country. However, Islam considers d over all values and gaining. If the advantages of a law overcome its disadvantages, then that law would be legislated and vise versa. This concept is driven from Quran:“They ask thee concerning wine and gambling. Say: "In them is great harm (sin) and some benefits for people; but the harm (sin) is greater than thebenefits(2:219).”
Polygamy, like any other law,has its disadvantages & advantages on both d husband and the wife. Is d demerit more than merit?

[quote author=Okija_juju]You wanna address me?!

Lol.. Maybe Muslims need non-muslims to point out the errors of their ways...

By Islamic laws, Blind Muslims whit seeing-eye Dogs look like Infidels..
Its this hardline extremist attitude of yours that has birth all the Terrorist groups associated with Islam today. [/quote]Errors of their ways?
We have our laws and you have yours, live by yours and leave us to ours. There are somethings that you and some other non-muslims think is morally right but is not right to we muslims. So lets accept our differences and respect each other. Wit that the nation ll integrate.
Comment
4 here, u can comment but in realworld u can't.
Extremist
Abiding does not mean one has gone beyond law. Search 4 truth

deols: She is allowed.

Sister, polygamy is man right. Its conditional!

As per the brother story....that's not omission. For we are not told if the person he married asked or not.

You said “important aspect of marriage“, neva knew polygamy is so important...smiles

Faith,wealth,background and beauty is all have known to be paramount, if other are low and the faith is high one can go ahead... And polygamy is permitted in faith.
We beta analyse the condition for polygamy instead of runaway from it.

Though a lady could reject proposal due to this but i see such person as the type that can't manage crisis. If the brother is conscious the sister need not to fear but be optimistic.

Complaining bout issue shows such can handle it.

[quote author=Okija_juju][b]Wow!! So Islam expressly forbids having a dog huh?!

Okay! here is where religion gets really funny. I'm sure the authors|editors|founders|originators of the Quran & Islam as at the time they wrote the scriptures only knew of two purposes for ...

@okija_juju- you try wit ur research but muslims don't need non-muslims to tell us how to live the islamic life... I don't know why you're so concerned bout islamic issues, OR CAN YOU CRY MORE THAN THE BEREAVED?

If only you actually know what “Laws and Punishmet“ entails, you won't come out here to make analysis of those that did not follow laws...


Why do Muslims turn to the non-Muslims to solve problems in the Muslim lands? This is d wrong approach.

Live ur lyf & leave us to our's.

deols: Why not focus on it?

If you dont explain yourself, I cannot possibly understand what you are implying.



If a brother is asked and he knows he would and LIES that he wouldnt. Would he be right according to Islam?

That is my question and it is straight forward enough.

Maturity that i quoted does not mean lies, replies should be base on the i.q of the enquirer.... And one shouldn't hesitate to enlighten those inquisitive on “coming into the folds of islam in totality“. No reservation on islamic laws, one has to bend to islam not amending the laws to ones taste.

deols: @showietee, should the man lie of his intention to marry more than one woman when asked?


He can only get away if he wasnt asked by the lady.
That is the reason the lady needs to ask all these questions

Why the focus on this? #Soq

Sister, most times it doesn't usually happen as an initial plan. It could arise due to unforeseen contigencies.... Its usually an offspring of current happenings.

But for he that has intend to do so from onset, he applys maturity when asked. “maturity“ (my view)

^^^Lovely, mashallah!

Question 18(polygamy)- a female which is not too religious(or spiritually sound) might see more harms in it than good. From an old lecture that i can't remember the source- the lecturer said “one of his rich student always tell every female he's talking to bout marriage that he ll go for more“ and for that reason he searched for long, but the moment he(lecturer) advise not to boast bout that, he got hooked up.

Question 64- physical exam

There is more to talk about that and intention matters. Scholars av talked alot about it. Allah created us and know all. Medical decisions by man is just a drive into delusion.

Question- 67,68(wealth and saving mode)
Alot of consciousness is required hindered by spiritualism-intention!

82,100??

ALHAMDULILLAHI...















Pray to ALLAH the household get beta and move higher in all good sphere.





JAZAKA LLAHU AIKHRAN.

This is indeed a very useful info.
I read the first page & jumped to the last afterwards, sorry i couldn't go thru all the pages... Did this get to the frontpage? Hmmm...

Logic is the science of pure reasoning, which deals wit the criteria for the evaluation of arguments. Argument should not be confused wit disputes. Argument here means- use of evidence to support a certain thesis.

LOGIC IS D PROCESS OF ARRIVIN @ A CONCLUSION THRU- METHODICAL REASONING AND SOUND REASONING, AS OPPOSE TO CROOKED REASONING.


THIS should be a turning point for alot... If some educated beings could be neutral and literate they are bound to see the light.

NOTE- despite signs, it is he that Allah wants that ll see the light.

Oh Allah, lead us not astray.

hello olu, guess my username shouldn't be new to you(from the family page)... Will inbox you on any other thing needed to be discussed.

nice one... As per the interior decor, am in the field, can i pm you?

That's just one of the ways, even if kids were taught well at home, we're not guaranteed that their peers in school can corrupt them...

Reason its not good to procastinate some issues weneva they inquire bout it. At this age, i don't seems to see any small child anywhere.

Most important thing is to be prayerful on them, to be very friendly & close to them. And we should make sure they grow spiritually from onset.

Parent should also alway check themselves regularly for their actions are easily copied and pasted on their offsprings... A boy that you see flaws in his solat and you correct him might say “that's how my daddy does it “ and his daddy happens to be not too lenient to him for him to ask, he plunge ahead in it.

Oh Allah av mercy on our parent.

hope dridowu has seen this thread?

maclatunji: I created a thread for him earlier. Sorry, I did not post the link https://www.nairaland.com/1414195/he-muslim-veterinarian-he-keep

I have so many things on my mind.

So many things? Easy bro... Bother less and alway have good rest. Salam.

dridowu: Salam to my brothers and sisters in Islam, i dont know if this is allow in this thread but pardon me. I am a Muslim (not religion conscious) Practising Veterinarian (3yrs to present), i will like to know if Islam permit keeping of pets esp Dogs and moreover most of the animals that i treat on daily basis 90% are dogs, and i still have in mind having my own personal dogs as time goes on. Pls advise me according to the religion.
Salam

Wa aleikum salam, good to hear you're a muslim, it amaze me. It's important you're religious conscious... Wish you the best.

I thinks u can search islam for muslims forum, or create a new thread on the topic if its not found there. The talk inShaaAllah, it ll be talked bout there.

olawalebabs: I still have the opportunity to go 'masna' wa 'sulasa' or 'arubawa'. (some people will be furious now). Deols, when last do you contact her?

Really?




#Smile.....

busar: No offline nikkah oh. Na korokoro nikkah dem go do.

InShaaAllah wen the time comes the spiritual rite shall be done in serenity and lesser wealth ll be spent. I might post it and request for your prayers.

olawalebabs: deols, tbaba, sisse, wizeboy, busar, showietee. Una do well. Make one of do quick invite me to Offline nikkah.

Are you taken? If no, then you shouldn't be left out.... Even if you're already married to two, you can keep it up and invite us for the third.

All the best.

when dealing wit issues like this, one has to be very careful, its like black market.
Have once checked on one of the office address posted by a dealer on google trade and i discover the address was null. Months later while ransacking my stuffs i noticed the same address on one of my old receipt.

If i had proceed wit such dealing without the address confirmation, i might end up been swinedled....

Afterwards, i remember that invoice booklet is been sold at alaba int' market wit company name on it to a different person....imagine company of A issuing receipt wit name of D on it.

deols: It would be interesting to hear of nikkah(s) from among us.

Is everyone here sooo young? Abi what is the matter sef??

Qadar, written.



Young? Funny, finance i think is the major hindrance for brother(goals)... And some brother also think they're young(environmental effect)... Someone said “am just 26“!

When someone of his mate is about to start thinking about family planning in another part of the world.

"Allah has already written the names of your spouses for you. What you need to work on is your relationship with Allah. He will send her/him to you when you’re ready. It is only a matter of time."(Sheikh Mamdouh)

deols: Wa alaykum salam.

It is alright. May Allah forgive us all.

Jazaka llahu aikhran...
Haven't seen that, i heave a heavy sigh.

If my intention was on d odd side, then my appraisal and appreciation of females in the post afterwards ll be of another side which does not correlate wit the earlier one, logically off point.

If i wish beliving females Allah's mercy, then the best mercy is to admit them in paradise, so i can't be on two lanes at one.

About 80% of family is female & i cherish them well, so i can't drive such way(the chaotic avenue).

"Oh Allah, teach me to love others just like I love myself. And if I have wronged anyone,give me d courage to apologize, and if anyone wronged me, give me the courage to forgive because you have taught me that forgiveness is d highest level of strength nd revenge is d highest level of weakness.

Oh Allah, do not 4get me in ur forgiveness.

salam aleikum brother and sister,
Morning, hope your weekend was lovely?

^^^my intention on the trivial issue could be drawn from the post, the hadith brother lanre posted afterwards is also a footnote in the same part of the source but i wasn't heading that direction, reason i didn't include it.
To me, the post was a lesson for brothers on “consciousness and carefulness while relation wit females“ (our sisters, aunts, wives and mothers)....am wholeheartedly sorry it was misinterpreted... Am human prone to err(sisters pls forgive and forget my err).

Haven't known that “the best of man is he that see good in others“ belief me i wouldn't wanna talk ill of anyone.

I belief my sisters must have cleared it now,thanks.

Wish all al the best.
Maa‘salam.

maclatunji: Even with all of these, I have not seen a woman that is "completely" unproductive as an housewife.

Those works aforementioned are avenues of productivity. Having those qualities is beta than d highest certificate on earth...

Females re blessings but alot of them do not know how important they are. Rather, they leave reality and live in appearance.

Oh Allah, increase Ur mercy on our mothers(females).


I ended the msg wit “we might conclude on her taking other easy work from the comfort of the home“

Reason i usually encourage female on being multi-tasking(having vocational knowledge asides of the degrees)

Since we all know that they ll settle wit WEEK(women education ends in kitchen)- joke.

A heart touching message..... by a woman..."
Some one asked her.......
Are you a working woman or a house-wife ??
She replied : Yes I am a full time working house-wife.
I work 24 hours a day.....
I'm a "mum",
I'm a wife,
I'm a daughter,
I'm a daughter-in-law.....
I'm an Alarm clock,
I'm a Cook,
I'm a Maid,
I'm a Teacher,
I'm a waiter,
I'm a nanny,
I'm a nurse,
I'm a handyman,
I'm a Security officer,
I'm a Counsellor,
I'm a comforter,
I don't get holidays,
I don't get sick leave,
I don't get day off......
I work through day and night.....
I'm on call......
all hours and get paid with asentence.....
"what do you do all day"


She's already got enough to do, we might just conclude that she engage in easy works from the comfort of the house...

busar: Mac oh! Sissie was just pulling your leg . Wallahi, you dey make me dey laugh big time

As you de laugh, just make sure you hold something and don't laugh too much.

Remember- Pranks not allowed and if joking, make it moderate...

maclatunji: I don't get? You want me to apologise to her?

Someone said earlier that guys here ain't romantic, so i was expecting a beta one, garnished....

maclatunji: #Feisty, I am sure this retort makes you feel much better. Lupe Fiasco? Let me borrow from him...

Why is it that a barely literate goon who tags himself an "artiste" will have a video shoot, request for 5 ladies to come and dance and be humiliated in the most demeaning of ways in front of a global audience for N0 and he will see like 200 women?

My dear sister, once again it is not about me, it is about what is real in this world. Sorry, if my words upset you but it is what it is.

Kai, you've got Lupe ringing in my head. #Grinning

Lupe ringing on your head? Hmmm.....


I thought the sorry ll be flavoured!