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postpartum depression is a serious thing, i'd suggest you take her to counselling or see a psychiatrist for proper help.

Cure:
Train your child in the way of the LORD.

we already know that anything else

chaircover:
Actually it is a crime - copyright laws etc. You won't get any reputable department store selling fake designer hadbags on their shelves. One can only buy these items from back street sellers, internet etc

Some of these handbags are not as expensive as one thinks. I got my latest Gucci handbag from Heathrow duty free for only £270. It is an everyday work bag and when I am fed up of it I can always sell it on on ebay.

it is only a crime if you get caught.

meat butcher

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=249630.msg3763662#msg3763662 date=1240375461]If she has any tangible reason not to tell him, then I'd suggest she talk to a close family member. If she can't, she can always anonymously talk to a person on the HOTLINE.

But during that process, she should get herself checked for STDs.
No matter how one tries to hide it, a psychological disorder (from rape or childhood trauma or etc) will always show up when least expected. He(her husband) will soon find out from the way she reacts to his touch and sexual moves.[/quote]yea, you r right.

Outstrip:
Looking at the picture though I am wondering if she is just wearing a camisole. Did they make her take off anymore clothes than she needed to take off. You can see she is trying to cover her body with her hands. If he face was all that was needed for the mug shot then her shoulders need not be exposed. I hate to see her get away with it but this is America. I hope the police don't blow this one too because they got too emotional

i think with the look of her dressing, would probably mean that she has to remove the whole thing, at least another woman was in there so it wasnt like they were doing some fishy things. i hope really so too, i see nothing wrong with this. it is the normal procedure, i wonder what would happen if everyone started bringing up their cultural/religion bs in cases like this, then i dont think the law would still stand

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=249630.msg3763624#msg3763624 date=1240372486]I think it's perfectly his right to know what's going on and the dangers he's prolly in (or getting into).
Only a selfish woman would think only of herself in this situation, inconsiderate of who it'll also affect.
Yes yes, she loves him and doesn't want to lose him. But what kinda love is that.
If she can't tell the closest person to her, what is the possibility of her telling an outsider (criminologist/police)?

A boyfriend tht's  infected with HIV from a girl that knew she could have possibly contacted the virus, has all rights to sue her.
It's like she intentionally gave it to him.  It doesn't have to be cruel to be a crime  [/quote]this a tough one. here why i think so. lets assume the woman let off all the self blames and finally tells her partner, the man might not be sympathetic towards her (some men are disgusted at the idea of their gf being raped) and she might she lose him which will even add to the guilt. and lets assume again she didn't tell him( due to some personal reasons) and maybe she gave him std or worst, in some pple might consider it betrayal.

really confusing, it just seem like the woman have to bear all the things

OgidiBoy:
All I'm saying ladies is that if the ACLU  get into this case, they will find loop holes to get this lady acquitted, I've seem some very obvious murder cases dismissed just on very simple technicalities like that.

maybe the AcLU will get involved if her civil right were violated during the trial but at this early stage, i think they will definitely steer clear at least till the trial starts

OgidiBoy:
In the article it says a matron was with her all the time her picture was taken so the police knew it was against her culture to have her picture taken without the covering thing, so they should never have released her picture to the news media.

but mug shot can be obtained by anyone through the Freedom of Information Act unless in sealed document which wasnt the case in her own and i still don't see anything wrong with her taking her things off. did you even see how she covered every bit of her face in the pic, how can she be identified with such dress code.

use another one

yea, kinda like it

ThiefOfHearts:
For shows like this, you have to claim to be open to whatever.

No one tells the damn truth. She didnt wanna win.

yea you kinda right, but she is ultra conservative, so i guess it was hard for her to cover up.

but do you think it was right for perez you know to kinda bring up this controversial issue, knowing how some pple emotions get heated up in this issue? and not everyone will have the perfect neutral answer

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=249630.msg3763590#msg3763590 date=1240371126]Yea, that's another thing.
I'm not saying what she feared her husband would do is justified, but I don't blame him too.
He'd have the face the possibility of her contacting some kind of STD, the victim's newly acquired fear which can result in nightmares and abnormal reactions when he (husband) sexually touches her etc.

There are many logical reasons why women keep quiet, I cannot blame them.
But they need to understand that the longer they keep silence, then longer we have lunatics on the loose. Which in turn, results in more rape victims and possibly dead ones too.

Yes, I am Going for the March of Dimes walk? [/quote]wouldnt it be more deadly lets say, she have it and out of fear hides it from her husband and her hubby eventually gets it and who knows it could be transmitted to the future kids? if she also have hiv. So do you think it is okay or good for a rape victim to tell her hubby, or bf?

Nah. . . prolly going to donate some money to them in the store

OgidiBoy:
It's her  civil right to have her face covered, the police should have respected that, wait till the ACLU gets on this case.

how is it her civil right to be covered while the main purpose of mug shots are for identification purposes? how can police be able to identify her while she is covered up? this is a normal procedures with all defendants that police usual follow. so why should she get special treatment?

lawd have mercy

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=249630.msg3763564#msg3763564 date=1240369610]The part of comforting her is also to let her know that it wasn't her fault.
Revenge, revenge is very sweet, you know.
In this case, her revenge would be to get the serial rapist where he belongs, in jail.
Let her know that feeling embarrassed and ashamed is not the most important thing right then, but making sure that another female does not become a victim is.

I would not only encourage her, I'd insist she make the report and give the police a sketch (if possible) of the rapist or give any evidence that can incriminate him in court.[/quote]interesting!

the other day, i was listening to the news and i heard about this man convicted of raping i think 22 or 24 Chinese women and some of her victims couldn't testify against him because  one of them says if her husband ( she also has 2 kids) finds out that she was raped he would divorce her like seriously? i guess that kinda explains why some women crawl up in their shell after rape due to the stigma society has a whole as attached to it.

B.T.W are you participating in the denim day thing tomorrow in your sch.

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=264388.msg3763546#msg3763546 date=1240369120]Is she for real?

Are the courts going to take this serious? [/quote]for where? doubt it. the judge prolly will be more concerned about finding justice of the poor gal rather than listening to some BS complains

[quote author=St☆rStruck link=topic=263901.msg3760960#msg3760960 date=1240326687]When someone constantly talks about killing someone else, that's a strong sign. Seun, you might want to save her IP address just in case. . .[/quote]hahahaaa

@ poster

u have to let go of the past no matter how hard it might seem in order for you to enjoy the future. thoughts like this does nothing to help you but only draws you back. let go. lesson learned.

never heard of that one oo

but how will she know the man loves her more?

any test or measurement?

makeup

my lips like sugar

beautiful

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tope2000:
OMG GOD
Yet another thread . . . .abeg sissy tell ur employee to stop posting threads na

our contract hasn't expired so expect more of this threads.

pele oo

isnt funny how when someone opposes "gayism" they are labeled as "closed minded" and bigots.

must everyone bleeping support gay marriage or be neutral in it?

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=1230.msg3763368#msg3763368 date=1240362121]Are you and Treetop saying no naija man has ALL those qualifications?

Don't worry, one dey, he's just waiting for me to find him [/quote]i'm still yet to see one oo, so thats why i'm telling you to please inform me when u find one so that i can photocopy him

But if the unfortunate happens, the first and foremost thing you should do is try to help the abused understand that it wasn't their fault. . . .That they did nothing wrong. [/b]Try to comfort her into telling you what actually happened.

Next, call the cops and tell them what happened. . . .take her to the cops and let her tell them who did it (if she can) and how it happened.

If talking to her won't work, then take her to whatchamacallit . . . .a rehab center or to therapy.

Rape is a very serious matter, can endanger the child's trust in men and her reaction to them can be detrimental.
I hope such thing does not happen to any mother.

i definitely agree with you on this one 100%. i mean it is really hard to find a woman who has been raped that didn't blame themselves. oh maybe if i wasn't wearing this kinda cloth it wouldn't have happened. if i didn't do this or that it wouldn't have happened. too many "[b]IF's" start occupying their whole mind. So i think, the first step to healing is to let go of the [b]IF's [/b]and self blame.

me sef, i think the next thing i would do is to get her tested for pregnancy, stds etc.

what if she says she doesn't want to report it to the cops, maybe out of embarrassment and/or self blame, would you still encourage her to do so?

how pathetic!

aren't mug shots public property sef?

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=1230.msg3763355#msg3763355 date=1240361666] [/quote]ah now, y the wrinkled face

rofl

i'm totally with you oo just tell me when you are going create him, so i will duplicate him

[quote author=$osisi link=topic=264305.msg3763117#msg3763117 date=1240357425]look at all these liberated women that refuse to be disciplined.
how dare you question the "great command "?[/quote]now this very funny

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=264305.msg3763107#msg3763107 date=1240357274]Well, thank God I know about poison and how they work.

Just let him try it!

Self defense is never far from my lips [/quote]yes oo, rat poison and arsenic are very important