CYBERWEAVER: I am currently planning to get married. I’ve been with my babe for about a year now.
After several consultations, we agreed on a wedding budget of about 3 million Naira.
But I keep asking myself one very honest question: how do I commit that kind of money to someone who hasn’t really shown the same level of effort back, even in something as small as 5k, despite earning a little?
Asin, I never smell her 5k since we started dating.
At this point, it’s not even about the money anymore. It’s about intention, balance, and simple acts of kindness.
Even on my birthday, I didn’t receive a gift from her, and that stayed with me more than I expected.
I’ve never had to deliberately test her money, because genuine care and small acts of giving usually show themselves naturally over time.
To be clear, I’ve been carrying most of the financial weight in this relationship, and there’s hardly anything tangible she has ever done for herself without at least my 50% contribution since we met.
I don’t complain, but I also don’t want to ignore what I’m seeing.
As a responsible man, I’m trying to be honest with myself before I take a step I can’t easily undo.
So I want to ask people who are married or have real experience: if I go ahead and marry in a relationship where this is the current dynamic, what should I realistically expect in marriage?
I’m not trying to assume the worst, but I also believe experience speaks louder than hope.
Bro... Anything you can't take, don't hide it in the name of love. Did you say you've been together for just a year?? Like you've never known each other before you guys met in that last one year?
Time frame is too small, in my opinion. If you have the time, date her more, about 2-3 years before you take that decision.
illicit: Do you go for girls that kind of have advantages over u?
Like richer than u or lets just say u are not richer than them
Or in appearance, they are attractive than you or you dont look better than them
You know what I mean?
Then i will advise you to date lower than yourself
There is a reason why u will see a handsome man and a ugly wife...
In as far a this advise is so top notch, I'm pretty sure he's going to mix it up or misunderstand it with emotions.
Bro, date your class! Truth is, perhaps you're a fine boy, and can perform in the other room, but not looking classy as them, that's why you're kept in that position
Onetechnews: Let me start with this: Not all food belongs in the fridge. And not all food should stay soaked or exposed for long.
Because the truth is, many of us are trying to eat well, but small food storage mistakes are silently stealing nutrients from our food.
This isn’t about “don’t eat this” or “don’t cook that.” It’s about how we store food at home, those little habits we don’t think twice about.
If you’ve ever kept onions in the fridge, soaked rice overnight, or stored vegetables anyhow, this is for you. Some of the things, we do feel convenient but nutritionally? They’re not helping us.
Let’s break it down. 1. Storing Raw Onions in the Fridge ❌
This one is very common.
Many Nigerian homes put raw onions straight into the fridge, thinking it will “preserve” them.
Here’s the problem Cold temperature turns the starch in onions into sugar, making them:
Soft and mushy
Prone to mold
Less nutritious over time
Also, onions absorb moisture easily. Once they get damp in the fridge, they spoil faster. What to do instead ✔️
Store raw onions in a cool, dry, well-ventilated place
Keep them away from potatoes (they make each other spoil faster)
Only refrigerate cut onions, and even then, seal them properly and use within 1–2 days
2. Soaking Rice in Water and Refrigerating It ❌
This one is popular, especially for people who want to “save time” or soften rice before cooking.
Yes, soaking rice can help reduce cooking time. But leaving rice soaked in water for too long, especially inside the fridge, is another story.
What happens?
Water-soluble nutrients like B vitamins leach into the water
The rice can start fermenting
Taste and nutritional quality reduce
And if that water is thrown away? That’s nutrients gone with it. Better option ✔️
If you must soak rice, limit it to 20–30 minutes
Do not refrigerate soaked rice for long hours
If soaking overnight, drain and cook early the next morning
3. Washing Vegetables Before Storing Them ❌
This one looks hygienic but causes damage.
Washing vegetables like ugu, spinach, or scent leaf before storage introduces moisture. Moisture = faster spoilage + nutrient loss.
You’ll notice:
Slimy leaves
Bad smell
Loss of vitamin C
Do this instead ✔️
Store vegetables unwashed
Wash only when you’re ready to cook
Wrap leafy vegetables in paper towel or clean cloth before refrigerating
4. Overcooking and Then Storing Food for Too Long ❌
We like to cook in bulk. It saves gas, time, and stress, no judgment here.
But cooking food and storing it for 3–5 days reduces its nutritional value, especially:
Vitamin C
B vitamins
Antioxidants
Each reheating round breaks nutrients further. Smart storage tip ✔️
Cook what you can finish in 1–2 days
Reheat only the portion you need
Avoid reheating the same food multiple times
5. Leaving Palm Oil Exposed to Light ❌
Palm oil is rich in antioxidants (yes, it is). But light and heat destroy those nutrients fast.
Leaving palm oil:
In transparent bottles
Close to heat or sunlight
…reduces its vitamin A content. What works better ✔️
Store palm oil in dark containers
Keep it away from heat and sunlight
Cover properly after use
6. Storing Tomatoes at the Wrong Temperature ❌
Fresh tomatoes don’t like extreme cold.
Putting them in the fridge:
Reduces flavor
Slows nutrient activity
Makes them watery
Best practice ✔️
Store fresh tomatoes at room temperature
Refrigerate only when they’re already overripe and you want to slow spoilage
The Truth Nigerians Don’t Hear Enough
Healthy eating is not just:
What you buy
What you cook
It’s also how you store your food.
You can spend money on good food and still lose nutrients just by storing it wrongly. Small changes, like where you keep onions, how long you soak rice, or how you store vegetables—make a big difference over time. Final Thought
You don’t need expensive supplements or foreign diets to eat better. Sometimes, it’s just about handling the food you already have the right way.
If this opened your eyes even a little, then it’s worth it Because good nutrition starts from your kitchen, not the pharmacy.
Good nutrition starts from your kitchen, not the pharmacy. Very apt!!
Tenses: Where there's no investment there's no risk. That's why it easy for her to walk away. If she was expected to make financial contributions towards the marriage ceremony she would have open up to the man that the marriage will not work so no need to waste money.
hrm93: I’ve just completed my first semester in the MBA program at the Ahmadu Bello University Distance Learning (ABUDLC), and here’s an honest review for anyone considering the program.
Onboarding & Welcome Experience The program started fairly, but students were expected to figure out key things (like WhatsApp groups and tutor access) by checking forums on the learning management system. This information should have been clearly communicated in a welcome email. Score: 5/10
Lecturers & Teaching The lecturers in the first semester (they tried sha but my 2nd semester proved it was a set u) were generally fair and reasonably active. Engagement was frequent enough, and the teaching quality was decent overall. Score: 6/10
Examinations (First Semester) I wrote my exams on the Lagos mainland at JKK Building, Anthony. Day 1 was very disorganized, although things improved on Day 2. However, when you factor in the emotional and mental stress (especially for working professionals) the experience was far from ideal. Institutions of this caliber should be proactive, not reactive, particularly when they claim to be shaping Africa’s future business leaders. Score: 4/10
Examinations (Second Semester – Current Situation) As I prepare for second-semester exams, I received an email just two days before the papers informing us that the Lagos center has been moved from Anthony to Abule Egba. For working students, this last-minute change is extremely disruptive. Score: 1/10
Grading System Some lecturers still operate with the “5/5 is for God” mentality, even in 2025, in an era where AI and modern learning tools are redefining education. This approach feels outdated and discouraging. Score: 6/10
Final Thoughts If you’re considering this program and have a high tolerance for stress and surprise changes, then this might work for you. At times, it honestly feels like a toxic relationship, you praise them twice for enabling remote learning, then spend eight times dealing with avoidable frustration just to enjoy that privilege.
Won’t recommend to anyone I love.
I don't know about MBA and your Liaison office. I did MPH and it was all a beautiful and easy going one for me, using all the headers you listed. Lectures via LMS was seamless and when they is a glitch, we immediately switch to Google meet. Platforms for assignment, quize, gradings, course allocation and lecturers, amongst others were all easy going.
Kunlebayo12: I’m on the verge of being rusticated in school
October when I was writing my final exams, something happened just 1 day to end the exam. So me and my friend wrote on our question paper and we exchanged it between ourselves. When I was writing this initiator started searching everyone he got to me and he search me there was nothing on me, he search my booklet yet nothing, he ask me where is my question paper and I showed him just the front because it was the back we wrote on, when he saw it he flipped the back and saw the question paper and ask me who wrote this and what is all this I told him I wrote it with all the back and font he told me to sit down
Minute later he went outside and bought exam malpractice form and gave me and others those who were using chukuli, phones, book and other material to write.
I beg him that I wrote it, all pleading fell to deaf ear, when I saw he was yielding and time was going and no time to beg I just had to fill the paper. I filled it so I can beg him later so I would be able to write something
To get the long story short, 3 days later I was invigated to the student disciplinary board to explain what happened Which I did, I pleaded and beg that it won’t happen again, thry told me I will be punished but not expelled In my school examination malpractice is straight expulsion no matter who you may know.
2 days later I got I call from my classrep that I was given 2years rustication. I called the Hod and course adviser and they said it true, I check the name of student expelled my name wasn’t there, I confirm from the student discplinary board and truly I was recommended 2 years suspension but the result will be out on February 17th this year, and when it out my student portal will be shutdown immediately
Even since then I have been sad, depressed and lonely and I can’t even tell my parents because they will be disappointed in me, I have been carrying a burden since early November and now it January, I have been thinking none stop, I have been contemplating suicide to be honest, I don’t pray this kind of situation for my worst enemies and those who haven’t been will never truly knows the pain it cause till you’re in the situation
Please i need help and words of encouragement Even if you blame me, the dead has already been done, I Bleep up and I accepted my mistake
Please guys I’m dying In silence, I can’t even wait till February 17th, it killing me knowing few days to graduation I was rusticated, what will I tell my parent, or people that have help me one way or another in school. I’m devastated to be honest
I might be ending it any moment from now because this pain is unbearable for me, I just want it to end so I can live a normal life again but I can’t keep living like this. Ignore my typo error
Please someone should help me push it to front page
It's a natural phenomenon to feel that way, I feel your pain. But trust me, two years is nothing Just use it to learn a skill and better your life. However, reach out to the comment that demanded your details. Let's keep hope alive!
dettolgel: I am sorry you are just wasting your advice on the mannerless guy. Even out here, if someone hits me whether older or younger than me, I can't hit the person back "na to call olopa na court go settle us" I can't stoop to that level.
In Africa if my uncle acted that way I will ignore him and report him to the umunna let them deal with it. There are procedures for handling such, but of course the arrogant and naive youngman doesn't know. He thinks he is tough until his village people takes sides with his uncle and deal with him. Maybe that will teach him how to handle conflict appropriately.
Dpsychologist: You Can Touch Everything… Except the Phone?
Let’s be serious for a moment.
You can touch each other’s private parts without blinking. You can see each other naked. You can sleep on the same bed, share saliva, sweat, and body heat.
But once phone enter the matter… Suddenly it’s “respect my privacy”
Ah ah.
So the same hand wey dey enter everywhere is now too holy to hold a phone? The same eyes wey don see everything are now not “authorised” to see WhatsApp?
Let’s not deceive ourselves.
Privacy is important, yes. But this selective privacy is funny. Very funny.
If someone can access your body but not your phone, then the phone is hiding more than the body. Simple.
Because phones don’t just carry pictures. They carry: • hidden conversations • emotional affairs • exes that “don’t mean anything” • backups of lies
That’s why the phone is guarded like national treasure.
Truth is, many people don’t fear losing privacy. They fear exposure.
If you truly have nothing to hide, a phone should not cause panic attack. You may not give full access 24/7, but the moment your partner touches your phone and your spirit leaves your body… something is wrong.
You can’t be naked with someone and still be living double lives.
Either you’re in a relationship or you’re in a performance.
Choose one.
Class dismissed.
That thing you de find inside the phone, e de inside. Lol
They're different school of thoughts on this. However, they're some data that are highly classified (don't get me wrong). A Bossom friend's privacy he entrusted you with, could be in there via chats or other channels. It could be health related, family related, his or her past, etc.
Don't compare sexuality with equipment or device like a phone!
Lexzeey: In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.
first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.
A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.
Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.
Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.
I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?
I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.
this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.
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First off, that's your uncle. You didn't need to slap him, that wasn't needed bro. This is Africa, you don't slap your uncle. Better way was to walk away and keep his distance for good, as I would perceive you have always done.
bigpicture001: It happened in my church in redeem.... The pastor started giving excuse that network wouldn't allow him transfer back..... After going back ND forth for two weeks.... The church lady called police on the pastor
Police ke! If I no remove that pastor teeth, make I know why!
Super Eagles striker Victor Osimhen marked his 26th birthday on Sunday and it seems the red-hot Galatasaray man got himself a birthday present, a green Lamborghini Urus, which was also blessed for former Super Eagles striker Obafemi Martins, PUNCH Sports Extra reports.
In a video that surfaced on Sunday, Martins was seen praying for Osimhen in front of the vehicle and the former Inter Milan man took a shot from a sipping glass before passing it to Osimhen who also consumed what was left in the sipping glass.
Sipping over a newly acquired car or property is a common tradition in Nigeria.
The Lamborghini Urus is said to be the first super sport utility vehicle in the world and it sells between $237,848 and $269,885 which is between N371,994,272 and N422m as at Sunday’s exchange rate
Osimhen 26?? Maybe it's a thing of 'The more the money, the lower the age' I can't be older than Osimhen
SweetBuns: Good day nairalanders. Merry Xmas and a happy new year in advance.
I'll try to make this short and sweet. So I met this guy at my favorite foodspot not too long ago. He was tall, dark, handsome and jacked.... Basically the type of guy I like so I was obviously attracted to him.
He then approached and talked to me. Whilst we were at it, I remember him cracking some very bad jokes (not bad in like an offensive way, but a bit too dry), but for the sake of being polite I went along with it.
We exchanged contacts and met up for a first date not too long after. And to keep things short, he wasn't funny whenever he tried. At all. He did look a bit nervous, but It was still so bad to the extent that I felt uncomfortable watching him try and even guilty if I failed to laugh.
He's also very arkward when it comes to intimacy, the first kiss was really, really arkward and I could tell he was trying his best but......
He also has this habit of sending me some really unfunny memes
Besides that, he is truly loving, warm and sweet. We have a whole lot in common between us and I'm sure I'm attracted to him
Initially I thought it was something related to his initial nervousness and would resolve on its own with time, but things are still the same
I'm a really funny person and Ive realized that I bond best with the people I laugh and play around with.
Is this going to get better with time, or is this just who he is?
So I got a job in Saudi Arabia as a heavy duty equipment electrician 2years contract but renewable but am very scared to make the move cox of the fear of the unknown...
Firstly I work with a reputable company here in Nigeria in the maritime sector as a FTE and I get approximately 400k monthly and I am being offered a salary of 3500sr(1.3m) for the Saudi Arabia job. I will only visit my country once in a year, am not married and am 33, n pressure of marriage dey my neck.
Though accomodation and flight expenses will be catered for by the company but I don't know if it's really worth taking the move though I don't know the cost of living in saudi Arabia.... I don't know if you have a saudi Arabia experience.. please I need your inputs...
Thank you very much
You just de waste talk! Be on your way already bro Fear of Which dirty unknown
EreluRoz: I dislike men that eats publicly, especially those ones that never reject foods. From these small small things you can detect a responsible and serious minded man who is careful and conscious.
atoliman: They visit the brothel like it is a normal thing and sleep with oloshos like it is nothing and they want a loyal girlfriend. Who is decieving who? That relationship cannot work, neither the marriage will work.
A lady was telling me how her ex boyfriend got another girl pregnant while they were dating. The dude keep begging her to come back.
Bad boys should date promicious women and oloshos- that is a balanced equation, leave the good women alone so serious minded good guy can date them.
Health › Re: Pharmacists Are Quietly Preventing Medical Disasters Every Single Day by skedy1(m): 1:45pm On Jun 05
