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Older and more established ladies have married younger and upcoming hustling guys and they still respected the guys...the OP needs to be a man..marriage or not..like u are scared..damn!!!!..a woman will always be a woman if you like pick a 16year old,she will grow matured one day abi?..guy please man up...make her know you are the man..afterall do u plan remaining dependent on her for the rest of your life?..hmmmmm.

Tmunstopable and Wallade thumbs up for your analysis...what we need is just the conviction that the money will in turn be used judiciously not the way of the thievery that was Sure.P while the government equally rolls out some palliative some to cushion the immediate effect on the masses..these can be negotiated and immediately implemented to build trust..not forgetting with GMB,every penny might just count if he is still the same man I believe we all know.

GMB is a supposed honest and incorruptible man..yes he appears slow but in our own collective interest we had all better pray and work towards d best..he has a VP..he has ministers,i dont want to believe he is travelling at his old age for partying..yes people are suffering but it's ok if it will pay off later..check d price of oil,we MUST diversify and am sure he knows this,corruption is d MAIN problem of this country,no economic blueprint can function without a system that backs it up,the mentality of doing things must change for the better nd everybody will key in...Nigeria is like a beautiful bride despite its challenges so these foreign investors will always come,they didn't leave cos of boko haram and militancy..dont forget our salvation is in our own hands..am in support of whoever makes things better for Nigerians..if anyone was following trends u would know that we would have woken up one day with dry atm machines like Greece had d last administration continued..d dollar rate,fuel subsidy et al..i dont know d miracle but things just has to get better..January 2016 brings in a new budget,one drafted by d new govt and not a inherited one,lets remain positive, we got no choice cos dis is our country, forget d politicians be it APC or PDP as there must be leadership, GMB and not GEJ is on d seat now,life has to go on..Nigerians are strong people and we have all d resources it takes once we get just d minutest positive leadership.

The OP should clearly understand wuz happening here...however I might be wrong but if he pretends he doesn't know then his seeming indecision is his lot..people advising him to hit and run,he might even fall for her,dont underestimate the power of a female..stories abound on intended hit and runs that got stuck....just trivialise the lady and everything about her that might make u wanna commit except you want to though cos eventually its your life..we have had guys come back and marry females who did this to them...at least the chic was honest about not wanting to suffer with or for anyone,its her choice too...for people condemning her,issues between man and woman involve feelings that u can't decide for them..as this guy can still even be liking this chic.

It's his personal life but he should mature and take charge of his private family matters than always displaying same to the public..in between this recent marriage was quick..smh..human beings!!!

Blame all the past and present Governors of an oil rich state like Rivers who have massively looted the state's fund and should be rotting in jail...yet they are even being celebrated.

While I will still recommend that Oliseh improves on his managerial skills on how to deal with his team and not reminding them that he is coach, it's wrong of these guys to use social media to announce retirement..Emenike has been getting lots of playing time in d team yet he can't score,even his club football diminished he had to leave Europe..his frustration even shows on d pitch...if the team fails,it's Nigeria's loss as these players believe they will still be making their money over seas..too bad.

Did u say u met the psychology graduate during nysc?..u were also unemployed then but u became great friends..that silent voice is telling u the truth but men that we are..just free two of them for now to ease your situation..distract yourself...let me ask u even,do u think d new chic would have been your friend if not for your present status?..stop feeling inferior..guy enjoy your life,no time..life don't even have no guarntees.

Enyeama is mourning and should not have been invited for that game because he was not in the best frame of mind,it was just a friendly game...even like this whole beef was brewing up before now..let both coach and player resolve this thing personally with maturity as the country is bigger than both of them...the team or and country presently don't need all this negative energy.

OP..I hope you just discovered something you never imagined,which is the free love and wise counsel many people have given you here..eventually you got the decision to make and please don't fail all these guys and the many others out there who believe in you..your university admission slot blocked that of someone else who was more passionate about the profession..go see very rich and successful people in old age struggling to read law even after part time had been scrapped, some even appealing to the legal council to recognise Open University law programme..I won't judge you because of your imperfect approach to this but I bet you will be advising somebody else someday in the nearest future having 'arrived', of how you once felt and even quote this topic..the world is at your feet,discover it..see you at the top and even beyond.

lol...I feel for the guy..he must have endured it for a very long time...very funny.

And how come a condom came in so handy?...like it was a normal thing for him to always have one around cos I didn't read anywhere he said he dashed someplace to get a condom...discipline and control especially when u know u have more at stake...to lose...what would be d gal's motive to report a false rape accusation?..the lecturer will naturally appear exploitative..too bad..just too bad.

while criticisms are welcome to put a govt on its toes, wish it be rather constructive...Nigeria is still a country and we are so seen by the whole world...many of us in lagos are self made men,we didn't necessarily get help from our brother..a good thing is a good thing irrespective of who made u successful..a new govt is in charge,pray they offer us a better life....Nigeria has all it takes to reduce poverty cos we are rich..all these bickering are retrogressive...what has d empowered so called few from d niger delta done for their people...our people are first our problem before we start blaming others..life can b better, dont let no one use religion or tribe deceive you...it's a choice but remember people are succeeding everyday, u either join d train or u continue whinning.

So these are d representatives of d niger delta with all d educated and enlightened men we have..this same people GEJ enriched and empowered that still got him no where,d same people he embraced as his advisers and we lost our shot at d presidency..selfish driven criminals..while d poverty and unemployment in d niger delta plummeted..so these are d spoke persons for d niger delta..a people so blessed yet so disunited and blind cos of pride and greed...a northerner introduced amnesty..our brother couldn't even give us a road...i am for Nigeria..cos self independence with these people as pioneers is stateless entity.

the nigerian state has suffered..that any aggrieved person threatens her...so empowering militants other than d poor people of d niger delta is our gain whilst d former President held sway...u need to see how armed these guys are now...or is it the increased poverty in d niger delta?..whatever happens btw them and d govt,it is still d poor people that will bear the brunt as the region will be turned to a war zone...all these will not move this country forward and this I thought is supposed to be our focus...I might not have voted for buhari but he is d one there now...so let's pray he succeeds so we can have a better life irrespective of who is delivering that better life.

when it comes to issues between husband and wife,dont take a position based on only one side of the story...besides in my opinion bringing such an issue to the public domain?..whilst you were living in peace and fun,you didn't..moreso coming from a man..if either of them want to back out,am sure as adults and educated individuals they should know how the process goes..just my opinion.

Guy it is wisdom not to always demand your rights even when you know them...dont take sides in office politics but having issues with your Boss,even a female at that?..we all face these things,..make people laugh with you,not at you..hope you catch ma drift..be as unpredictable but still amiable.

my guy you can't trust anyone, even yourself...if and when you are ready to get married, pls stop testing people cos every one is got a price and perfection aint human...am not saying you should just accept anything but life has no manual, especially with people, man or woman.

Until the intelligence arm of our security apparatus is heavily improved so we can counter these bombings,am sorry we are not ready then.. .everything is politics,no professionalism and people are dieing...DSS..Military Intelligence, CID,the local vigilantes,neighbourhood watch,need I say more....if not these BH guys will always be a step ahead of us..they don't fear death so open combat might not solve this,so we need to prevent...Nigeria!!!!!!!!!

winnieberry:
I think the problem is from both sides,there are alot of materialistic lazy women out there ,who discourage such men you talked about.Another issue is if you look deeper such men may have had one woman in their life at one point or another but when money comes d'guys start misbehaving cos to them,they got d'money if d'lady likes let her stay or go,after all there are many fishes in d'river.And when they discover that d'women outside are only after d'money they start complaining.And what makes u think dat girls who are always indoors are decent or anti social .Trust me most of all those decent girls are bad deep down.So my advice is this guys if u have a good girl keep her,dont take her for granted and later come and start bitchin about.Most girls have stayed with a guy when there is no money only for the guy to leave them when there is money so Do u xpect such girls to go after broke struggling dudes?And most broke dudes sef no dey try be guy :u arent not fine,rich,caring or good in bed wat thre for d'girl to enjoy and such guys go still dey misbehave .when d'girl leaves them for a better dude they start screaming'those hoes arent loyal.

....Coming from a female..very impressive line of analysis.

Am scared for you in that neighbourhood...please apply yourself properly...if u must report,tell the father...pick the time,mood,place..hope the man is someone you understand is mature at heart if not kill the matter and cut off all links.

As per the OP...it's obvious you are very deep in this but listen to what most people have already written here...pardon their lashing but it's because they love you....get distracted with something more positive and make open friendships with ladies while you mature on how and when to handle the next level..learn from this experience too and many others that will come because aint no perfections in life especially when it comes to humans..male or female.

I thought we all route for positivity not minding the person who delivers it..some jokes are too expensive..i believe even foreigners read these kind off headlines..we can criticise but sure not be our own haters..

In life u take your opportunities once they come..he was below par and he knows it..he needs to mature fast because comedy has gone beyond what he did last night..look at your guest,prepare for your audience..research&update...he fluctuates in his performances but Bovi matured faster...even if he got paid it's more about establishing his brand so he can negotiate well..if he continues like last year his bargaining power might be low..i want him to succeed cos he has tried for himself knowing the kinda backgrounds these guys started from but he should be nailing d kind of chances he got last night..big time.

and where is d OP?..answer the questions people are asking you here..is either or both of you married because I might be wrong but you seem to kinda trying to deal with your conscience after you have already been in too deep..with the fun comes challenges..it's a decision.

Black beauty says she has already talked with the OP...Onega's comments are also very instructive...life threatening situations is good enough for her to leave..d man needs to be heard too...it might still be separation and not a divorce yet....i feel for the kids..reason why couples should consider their interest while enjoying the marriage so their anger and reactions will not be as far reaching...as per irresponsible fathers;..that you forgive him when you become an adult don't mean you have forgotten especially when you are a successful person..rather you grow to be a better father or parent because he had lived his own life already, as you could be miserable of you don't free the grudge..you don't have to be close but forgive and help him where you can after all GOD has already blessed you as a successful person..stay happy, life is too short but learn the lessons..women are however more wired for parenting except they intentionally want to be irresponsible.

what was the right thing Barth Nnaji did that power improved tremendously?..even d nepa workers were against him because he got them on their toes..Privatisation is good but the process was flawed..how can they rely on money from us to provide power for us..meaning they weren't serious people or companies with interests...if telecom could work,others can too..its a big opportunity for investors but the system is their scare...corruption..corruption..when u deal with a few..d others will fall in line..we are flaring gas..we have mamilla plateau etc..Barth Nnaji did it even without privatisation..things can and will work...we can't stop hoping cos life can sure be better.

Yes other countries borrow and are in debts too but the question is what did you do with the money you borrowed...you imagine yourself borrowing from a bank with such high interest after which you then begin to spend on having fun not remembering you will pay back...why can't we all just agree things are messed up..Obasanjo handed over savings..now this is handing over an empty treasury after selling oil at a record 114pb...forget d opposition, there was a President so he takes the flacks same way he enjoyed the pecks of office...a wake up call for personal responsibility for all instead of looking for who to blame.

GMB is still a private citizen..not sworn in yet so let's chill a bit..this is d same way he shunned the public debate because he had a right to,then...as President he becomes public property for criticisms which he must accept..enough of the comparisons as I thought we have all moved on so we can try another chance of rebuilding this country...it's not about GMB or GEJ..these guys are not trying to survive like you and me..i repeat again that where you come from aint the issue..just be seen to be doing the right things the best ways you can..Fashola is not a saint but we all know that his good will is favouring Ambode and TInubu in lagos..Nigerians are learning everyday despite the poverty in the land...APC fought to retain lagos while PDP lost some middle beltern states to their surprise but when the governor of benue refused to pay salaries?..change is the only constant thing,not just in government but in any other area of our private lives.

Can we all just pray hard for this new govt to succeed and stop attacking every thing with so much negativity...this is about Nigeria and not any political party..who would not want a better life irrespective of the political party that brings it?..our collective good and development should be the focus here..no sentiments.