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Finally! After reading through the comments, i was just hoping to read something as sensible as your statement from a lady. Men are not rocks. In my opinion, it will be extremely difficult to still be friends. Personally, i would rather avoid the friendship because am not a fan of revenge. And my feelings for the lady in question may just be growing deeper. I might just find myself getting jealous when she finds her dream man. It's best to let go, but if you can still be friends, keep your distance.

Although i agree with your overall point on how a man should be less emotional and more rational, in the end we are all humans. Every human has emotions and even men can go out of control too. Been immature might seem foolish, but that is not always the case. The person that posted the question never gave us more details. we cannot safely assume that it was just because of the rejection. What about other factors? Do you know how far their relationship went? Do you know how many secrets were shared in the hope that the lady was the right one? When it comes to emotions, men may not be as unpredictable as women, but we have our weaknesses too. And any man that is reluctant to accept that he has a weak spot is not really strong, is he? The point is, whoever acts immaturely in such circumstances cannot be blamed completely. Although if the person went ahead to organize an engagement party without talking to the lady, then he acted foolishly! lol. But it all depends on the facts, what really happened!

Girls are taking a piss but most of these things are true. We put up with a lot of BS. Relationships in the 20th century are almost always about making the girl happy. One sided i would say. And yet girls claim "l want my man to be himself around me". Really?

Your generalizing based on the opinions of a few. Most "black dark" girls tend not to take good care of their bodies, that's why they are down the preference list. It doesn't really have much to do with the color.

I respect you for this comment. It sums up everything. The way people reason is just somehow. You see girls typing CHEATERS BEWARE! Are they tacitly saying the woman was right? If we want to condemn or criticize, we should do so justly and in all fairness. Am not picking on girls by the way. I just happen to read most of those kind comments from ladies on similar post. Life is precious, please let's all value it. Love isn't by force. It's not a do or die affair. The penalty for murder in Nigeria is death. What will this vengeful woman do now?

I quite agree with you that proving adultery is a difficult matter. However, in the eyes of the law, it is not a crime be it civil or criminal.

The poster seems to be angry at Nigerian men. Well before i comment on that, lemme offer my advice on the key issue at hand. Revenge isn't as sweet as people think it is. You in particular should focus more on helping your friend get out of this dilemma. In the process of revenge, complications may arise which may just be out of your control. Your friend may be better of rekindling her love with the supposed ex that wants to marry her. That should be her main problem now. Or she can choose revenge and risk having a turbulent marriage in future.

With that been said, Nigeria isn't anything like hell. I saw one of your comments above in that regard. If you have a problem with Nigerian men, don't use your anger on that issue to defame the country they are from. You even sound like a Nigerian yourself(not saying you are).In as much as i sympathize with both of you for the deception, there are so many Nigerian men on earth. An unfair generalization like that is absolute gibberish. Granted, the fact that she didn't know he was married will feel or feels bad. But that doesn't make his crime any worse than people who know and still do it. He is no worse than Kristen Stewart. So please save your resentment of Nigerian men. There are too many good Nigerian men to warrant such conclusions.

Peace.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Even the tough guy sometimes have to wait terribly long to find the right girl[/quote]I agree with you. So i guess it all depends on peoples characters and who suits them.

Saying the very first thing is prayer would be a lie. It comes sometimes but not always. Probably what i was scheduled to do the said morning or what i was thinking about the previous night

I think the statement that "behind every successful man, there is a woman" is not a "cased-closed" situation. You cannot conclusively say that men cannot achieve big without women at their side. If that is the case, why are women of the 21st century always looking for successful guys to get married to? Why aren't they marrying guys that are just getting started and helping them to the top? And citing the example of Adam would have made more sense if you had not added that man could not survive!!! Says who? Survival is something else. The manner in which man would have survived is another. You cannot conclusively say that man would not survive because there is no mention of a critical situation in that context. There are many ways in which a woman is important in a man's life; attention to detail, cautious nature, advisers(women are great in this regard), etc. Women are truly important and i acknowledge that but you don't need exaggerations to drive home your point.

Interesting write up. Am inclined to agree with most of your points. Except number 7. But been a nice guy aint totally bad. If your unlucky, Your just gonna have to wait for a terribly long time to find the right girl for u.

Whats up people?! Am new here and wanna know how things are done!