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Opinions are cheap. The greatest skill anyone can have is minding their own business.

I feel that empathy is a big sign of one's involvement and willingness to stick around and build a relationship. Once I sense a lack of Empathy or a general carelessness, I know there is a problem.

I like your confidence and I pray you find him here or anywhere else. We never know where we'll find that special someone.

The irony of it all is that many ladies today want to live the fast life but expect to get married to a patient man. It doesn't work that way. Until you learn to stay calm, to be patient, to bring clarity to your life and relationships, you'll ALWAYS make the wrong choice.

This is actually a very good question. Let me think....

Advice: Life's good, [color=#000000]Love's better[/color]. Let's enjoy it while it last.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Things can still go wrong. I'm sure you've heard news of good Samaritan lovers that end up heartbroken because all they could offer was assistance.

A lot can happen between 16 and 18 years and she can end up not having that connection.

Remember he's 26, what happened to the women in the market that are 20+ already. They haven't vanished now.

You don't disturb nature. Que sera sera. Him nurturing her is not to get anything in return. He is just doing humanitarian work. He is being a friend. If she isn't smart enough to know someone who [color=#000000]genuinely loves her[/color], then it's her loss.

She was so disorganized, noisy and lousy. I am a quiet person who loves peace and I try to stay calm and organized every time. I found it hard getting to know her movements and her haphazard behavior made it difficult for me to trust her. I guess without trust [color=#000000]there is no relationship[/color].

Akinpresident:
Hello guys

There's this girl that I love.
I believe I love her because she's respectful, well reserved, intelligent and hard-working.

We just got talking and trying to get along.

But she's much younger than me.
She's 16, I'm 26.

She likes me but not with any emotional attachment.

I haven't asked her out yet but I know she'll agree if I do.

I am established running my own business and would love to settle down anytime soon.

Is it a good idea to date her and allow her to come up with age and marry her or should I keep our relationship platonic?

Honestly I wouldn't want to lose her.

It's not as if I don't know what I want.
But the truth is that, I'd love to learn from the wisdom of you all about my situation.

Kindly advice me.

Be her friend. Advice her, guide her. Be close to her family. Get them to trust you. Get her to be free with you and to trust you. But don't propose love yet. Help her grow and make right choices whenever possible. Help her become the kind of woman you would want her to be. When she is 18, you know what to do. Good luck.

FahBuLous:
Thank u so much sir, I will follow this advice..

Nice one. To start your JS journey, go to Google PlayStore and download the Grasshopper App by Google. You can start coding with your phone and have fun!

InGodshand:
To avoid covid test and quarantine. Road is the next available option now.

Nice one. What's the plan?

FahBuLous:
I love computers... And a biq fan of graphic desiqninq.. What do you think?

Since you like graphic designing, then you can do front end development, aka UI design. Kindly learn HTML, CSS and JavaScript. If you are proficient in these 3, there is almost nothing you cannot build. And you will be paid very well.

Learn programming. You can start with Javascript and then master more JS libraries. I bet in 6 months time you would start earning something, no matter how small.

You worry too much about nothing. This is because you are unaware of the great existence that you are. You are unaware of the million dollar ideas and skillset that you possess. You just have to stop comparing yourself with others and stop exposing yourself to the toxicity of this world. Guard your heart and mind. Calm down and be aware of the greatness inside of you...of the greatness all around you.

You simply become aware of that urge. Then watch it. Then move your attention to your breath. Then take a deep breath, in and out, slowly.... Take the breath again, this time appreciating the fact that you are able to breathe...The air is a gift, a free gift of nature to you. Accept it, inhale slowly...exhale slowly. Then close your eyes slowly. Then, go zen for just 5 minutes. Now, you are in control of your emotions.

She knowingly spoilt her phone, went on a sexcapade tour, came back and was asking me why I didn't ask her mom and siblings of her whereabouts. I said nothing. Simply activated ghostmode.