sleekman:
To Me This Matter Is Pretty Easy. Tell Him U'll Marry On 2 Conditions. He Should Get A Job And Get A Self-Con. Once He Does That Then Uve Given Him A Reason 2 Live. U Must Pray 1st And Ask God 4 Signs

Thanks alot dearie, God's direction matter too.

mimicious:
Op I hope d person in question is not ur man to be

Someone has asked me that too. No, he his not. Don't worry, you will soon hear mine.

I am a very realistic person, if he was mine, i will tell you, after all nairalanders no go beat me abi?

hope you are doing great?

gatiano:
My father has a house or two, my mother probably has more, my grand parents on bot sides have at least one each, if i have 20 more houses for myself, we won't be living in them, because they were built to bring incomes, so i still stay in my father's house with my wife and child, if she so needs a house which she needs, she better get herself one.
This is why we are poor in Africa, That mentality that i must have my own place, when your families have loads of them is useless. do something else with your time and money.That is the only reason why GOD blessed your mum or dad or parents with their house(mansion), so that you may do something else.

Am sure you put in lots of hard work to get what your got for yourself. but this one is not doing anything. He can sit beside his mum for hours doing nothing.

He younger brother - Second to the last born - a boy has two landed properties for himself.

Great evening ahead.

Akposkool:
There is only one reason she wants to stick with him. I sense he is a sex Marshall. This is all that matters to some girls. They just love the diick. I believe the op is not telling the full story

My dear am not hiding anything. The guy said he has not had sex before, that he is even scared to go close to ladies. She on the other hand, doesn't want to take that for granted, when she now accepts she finds out it's actually true. She said she won't forgive herself.

Phantomstranger:


This has got to be the funniest quote, Iv read on tis forum

So funny my deae, i no fit laff.

nnafather:


Akpa amu gi tipia there...Okuko igbo. What do you know about marriage? Go and wash plates for dinner. Mama is calling u. Anu.

Please, please and please, no need for all that. We are lovely and matured people, let's make this thread conducive and free of abuses so other people can come in and feel good. please.

Kai!!! but you funny shaa. How you take know sey him na igbo, if you sef no be igbo or understand igbo? You are really funny abeg, laff wan kill me as i dey read your own.

Ah ah, you get hot temper shaa.

Thanks dear and stay positive. happy weekend.

Billyonaire:
If he is the only son, then marry him.

For where? he has 5younger siblings. Infact the younger ones are do well for themselves. From my client's story the second to the last born who is a boy has two lands he bought from the money he gets from his business center or cafe center in portharcourt.

Adyrin:
@apoint He (Jesus) came to die for you... Then he came to work and as a result the Father (God) created an appartment (RHS) for Him(Jesus) as His reward for a job well done!
Now where is the job well done of this 36 years old Mammon?

I feel the mother is wicked to still let this happen!

You are right dear, i also think it's the mother's fault. Some women can pamper their kids that it affects the children even when they grow up.

ferdimako:

Ignore and continue waiting for other men. You said the men may stop coming...hahaha...you just get a job first or make it. See adviser!

Thanks, i am working but my client is not yet and hope to get something soon.
Thanks all the same.

ferdimako:

True true...the guy doesn't need ur advice. Concentrate on ur client. Ask her to get or make a job! Pple attract their ilk.

Strong point. I guess she she needs to start doing something for herself.

ferdimako:

OK..ur client isn't a virgin after all? Chineke mee!

Chineke what? She is not and it should not be a news or surprise to you or anyone. Should it?


am sure you are good.

nkkystel:

Mistake, you should know I meant BURGUNDY. QWERTY- typed U for Y!

My dear mistake or no mistake, i don't know that color. And am sure there are people who don't know too.

Enjoy your weekend please. chao!!!

bukatyne:


Hi

Can't find a picture without my face showing fully

See my trad attire

Shows the champagne, sunshine yellow and royal blue.

Will remove it soon

Kk, thanks.

joseph1832:
Funny how people use the Holy Spirit to tell all sort of lies these days.

Lemme understand your friend here. She wants to depend (marry) on someone who depends on someone else. What sort of thing is this dependency theory?.

A man who can't take responsibility at age 36 will not be a good father and husband!. And she's also have to play slave to the mother in law because she provides and pay all the bills.

My advice to your friend OP, she should look for another man immediately!!!.

Thanks alot friend, she is following this thread too, and am sure she is learning.

Happy weekend and please do stay positive. Enjoy.

roaringlamb01:



the saddest part is the religious angle to all this... religious people r so so lazy... I'm sure the lady would be scared to "disobey" God... mostly because she too is trying to form religious... why would God set u up with a lazy person. don't be foolish. remove the religious cap from your head and kindly decline the stupid offer. Tis deception of the highest order. my sister once dated a guy who wanted to give the first car of their marriage to his pastor... be careful and flee from this dude...

Thanks dear. Some people tend to be religious and heavenly conscious that they unknowingly get earthly useless.
At 36, he should start giving back to his parents and not depending on them.

Skoopy:


I'm sure it's followers you need.

Thanks for your observation but it's totally your opinion which is always welcomed. But the truth is far from that. When you ask me, i will tell you.

How are you doing this weekend? Please do enjoy yourself and take charge, don't let anyone steal your joy.

akinademayowa:


So,someone who goes to church regularly and is effective in the church may not (or can not ) be romantic and good in bed,right? that's a new theory that I'm hearing o....when does being effective in church have to do with how romantic one is?

Oh please, i did not say that. Church activeness has totally nothing to do with sexual performance. But the guy in question say he has not made love to any girl before and that he is even scared touching or ki*sing women. For sure, my friend on the other hand is so much on the vibrant side based on her confession. I have known her for some time now, and she usually say she can divorce for the sake of poor sexual performance if the man won't improve.

I guess she does not want to take that area for granted, step in just to find out that what he told her was actually true. You will agree with me that most marriages are suffering from that.

sparko1:

yes she can marry him, if she so in need of a prayer project.

Abi oh!! Hope youb are good.

FemiAdenekan:
What other answer does your client need? No. The whole thing would be a disaster.

You know sometimes when there are more than two witnesses over a matter, the matter dey sweet pass. That was why i asked her to bring it here.

Happy weekend nd election in advance.

evea:
if the mother will support ur decision to help him, tk dis advice. plan with the Mother 2 cut off any form of support for him. He should be on his own. If it is 2 denial him 4 months 2 help him get 2 his feet den do

My dear will it be possible? That will be learning how to use your left hand at old age.

Well that is for my friend to decide, i only gave my advice but for me, it should be someone trying to do all that extra wahala for me and not me for anybody. After all these suffer head wey i don do from childhood to now. I should better fix myself than fix someone else's mess up

What was his mum thinking? She dey fine who wan help her nany her son for him age?

My dear i fitn't shout!!!

Happy weekend and election in advance.

sule5727:
all dis ajebo's dats d way d behave well jst shine ur eye may be is because of d money dats y u still keep him,wat if d mum is not alive wat ll happen...he ll spent all d wealth uselessly nd dat ll be d beginning of ur suffering with him shine ur eye!!

You can't imagine how i like your comment.

You brought out one of my points. A man of 36 who's mum does everything for, when she eventually there is no possibility for him to manage what his parents left behind because it will be a case of learning how to use your left hand at old age when you are used to your right from childhood.

God bless you jare and happy weekend. How are you preparing for the election?

ferdimako:

She just graduated...others are submitted CVs...she is waiting for marriage...una...see am? The only reason some ladies attend a university.

My dear it's well oh!! How are you dear?

pbs4real:
very unserious fella,depending on popsy 2 win a case wit d govt so he cn swim in money,OP SOWIE TO SAY DIS D GUY IN QUESTN IS DUMB BT UR FWEND IS DUMBER. . No offence

Yeah! sure no offense. I like being realistic when it comes to practical issues like this. thanks dearie.

How are you doing this weekend? Happy election in advance.

MRMICKMEN:


you gave so much insight to the guy and his family so i think u are the person in question,stop hiding it.

Oh no dear, am not butdon't worry i will soon post something about me, just watch out.

Am not the person involve, i am only handling a counseling section with her and on her permission, i brought this topic here and she is also following the account.

How are today? Happy weekend in advance.

mannyiyke:
Op,there's sth u're not telling us here. You said in one of ur posts here dat he's a teacher in the Ministry of Education, if that's d case then he's not lazy at all. Ur friend wants a rich guy. You also said he's a graduate. Dat guy is not lazy at all. His problem which is not a problem if ur friend tells herself d truth is dat he's not financially buoyant. I believe dat when things get well for him, he can then rent a house and start living alone. One problem with girls of nowadays is dat they're impatient and are always looking for rich guys. That guy is hardworking meen! Is it because he's a teacher and churchy. She doesn't know what she wants. She hates unreasonably. Pls tell ur friend to make amends. U lied earlier dat he doesn't work only to later tell us dat he works as a govt sch teacher. This is pre-meditated hatred from ur friend.

If you will agree with me, not working is not an issue. There are graduates who don't have work but are doing something for themselves, or are self employed. Secondly the guy is not poor. His parents are rich. they are ok.
Or are you saying it is ok to stay at home doing nothing for 3 years until you are given a gov't work? Then why is NYSC training corp members on skills? it is called "Skills And Enterprenueral Development SAED with over 20 skills to be learnt. Abi him no do anyone?
Let's be realistic here. The guy always says he can't do anything outside white collar jobs... what happens when that fails? No be poverty the guy dey represent? You now see my point?

All the same, hope you are doing very well? Happy weekend dear.

drimpeccable:


The guy should follow @LekeAlder on Twitter and read yesterday's edition of #Letr2Jack. If that doesn't help, the problem is bigger than we think.

Thanks dear... noted.

stagger:


The same Holy Spirit said that "for this reason (marriage), a man shall LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER and shall cleave to his wife and they shall become one flesh".

The Holy Spirit cannot contradict His Word. The Holy Spirit did not minister jack to that guy. He should leave his parents and get engaged in an income activity and stand on his own before talking of marriage.

Are you now saying there is nothing wrong with him being with his parents till 36 or what. I don't disagree with the scripture, but we should be on a more realistic side.

The same bible say "A man who cannot take care of his family is worse than an infidel and should not be given leadership post in church" He had his parent cater for him and his siblings. can take care of his new family responsibilities when at 36 his parent still decide his for him his left from his right.

happy weekend and a peaceful election in advance.

Dheartless:

I thought you said he doesn't have a job and doesn't want to work?
how come three years after he left school,he could able to hold on to a job he got (even though its a teaching job)?
or are you just trying to accuse him of being lazy because he doesn't have a well paid job?

all he needs is the ambition of getting rich, so if one way fails, he certainly will find another as long as he hate being poor.

however if truly he his lazy as u claimed.... she/your friend should get herself a life and stop looking for who to depend on, she is just 26 and also a new graduate, she has a life to build rather than worry about marriage and searching for the financial capabilities of others.

Am not trying to paint him black in any way dearie.

Not having a job is one thing, not having a well paid job is another but the worse of it all, is not having the self will and motivation to do anything when the job hasn't come.

For god sake when i was still in school, i did lots of positive things to make ends meet. To mention a few:
1. I made hair in the hostel and sometimes went out for home services. Trust me, prostitution of any level while in school is not an option.

2. I made different beads designs and bangles for sale to students and people around, i even go to some shops to sample them.

3. I sold pure water in bags and retail... with that i sold 1000 bags in four days. Making it a total of 2000 bags in one week and one day.

I had a few other things i did then but if it were just to be these 3, you will agree with me that i was making something for myself. i did not wait for my parents all the time. infact before theirs came, i had sorted myself out.

Being in the house for 3years is not the issues or a crime but he lacks the self will and strength to anything for himself. We have lots of graduates without job around and some of them are self employed or doing some sort of positive hustling.

Don't you think that such a person will make his wife and kids suffers in future if white collar job fails? You see, that's my point.

How are you doing today and preparing for the election? Happy weekend.

Onegai:


Pop's this poster a bottle of chilled Orijin and serves it with a plate of hot nkwobi for this comment.

She is just one greedy girl whose eye is chooking her. So the marriage will end up in disaster and you will be back here with Part 2 of the movie to play for us.

A smart, calculating, cunning woman would have weighed her chances of controlling him (diplomatically), managing his mum and sucking up to her and confirming his wealth, so that at the end of the day, she laughs last. It is not every woman who has that kind of mind, your friend clearly doesn't. If she did, she won't be asking you for advise, she would have brought her asoebi for you. That's how some girls end up marrying regular guys whilst some others end up marrying Prince William

You mind is on point dear.

Happy week end and election in advance.

bukatyne:
Used Royal blue and Sunshine yellow

Hubby and I used Royal blue + Champagne for trad.

Ahh!!!, i don die for colour names.

Sunshine yellow... and champagne... What do they look like?

Pllllleasse post a pick of your deco. I am really learning colours Pppppplease.

How are you?

bukkylois:
Hmmm I think I would love champagne and red.....small wedding so no asoebi...Just the court wedding and the trad wedding with less that 50people.. finally pastor to bless the marriage jare....no time to stress myself.

I gbadu your pattern jare! No time for long things.

Nice weekend ahead dear.

diamondinyang:
mine will be, by God's grace:
purple, lilac, baby pink and milky
shikina

Wow another name of colour again! Which one is shikina na. I like that though, it sounds beautiful.