If you are married, what were your wedding colours?
If you are yet to, what will be your colour combinations on that memorable day?


let me start first...

My will be White and Red and a touch of royal blue.





what's yours? please don't stop the fun....

CounsellorWise:


They are officially married! But why did it take him this long to know the marriage rules of his local church? He will be a fool to end his marriage for some personal church doctrines. Church thanksgiving and priestly prayers are sufficient in the eyes of GOD when the bride price has been fully paid.

He knew his church rules, but the white wedding thing is something he doesn't much like. but why can't the church respect people's view on issues like this? not minding the fact that they attended his trad and court wedding.

CounsellorWise:


They are officially married! But why did it take him this long to know the marriage rules of his local church? He will be a fool to end his marriage for some personal church doctrines. Church thanksgiving and priestly prayers are sufficient in the eyes of GOD when the bride price has been fully paid.

thnaks, he must look for a way out.

CounsellorWise:
Marriage is officially recognised in Heaven after the bride price has been fully paid to the parents (or anyone in the guardian capacity) of the bride. What happens is church is like requesting a preacher to offer a prayer of blessing on your new car. It is as good as what people derogatorily label blessing of marriage.
I think most people are embracing it more for its pageantry and glamour than its spiritual benefits (yes, spiritual benefits). Since he is a worker and he loves to stick around, let him do it moderately if he has the bread. Otherwise, Sunday thanksgiving and prayers will suffice.

thanks, you are right.

i know he loves his wife but what i don't know is if he loves his church more than his wife.
Should the wife stay put until they do the church wedding or quit the marriage?

Thanks people, your comments are encouraging. The court marriage has been done. The big deal for him is that he holds a position in his church. They are threatening to suspend him if he goes against their rules.
One alternative is to leave the church and their rules then join another church but he said his hearts and conscience won't let him.

She she had been in this relationship for one year, he proposed, everything followed to their traditional marriage last months. But his church says they can't live together until the white wedding is done. He is not buoyant or ready for a white wedding now but has carried out all rights both legal and traditional as they both agreed. what should they do?
The question now is, at what point is marriage recognized and honoured?
Is it at the point of...
(A) agreement between both spouse?
(B) Introduction (both families meeting and knowing each other)?
(C) Traditional Marriage?
(D) Court Marriage? Or the mighty
(E) White Wedding?




For me i think these churches complicates issues.
please i need sincere judgments and opinion, no insults or name calling.
We are all here to learn.

I open a thread days back, on "the disadvantages of dating married men". I opened that thread for the person in question to learn from other opinions outside that of the people she knew like me. she went through them and it made some sense to her because the insults she got and i got on her behalf told her, she has no option but to change and make a positive decision.

Dating a married man has little or no advantage as the disadvantages outweighs the advantage.

If i must point out, the only said advantage it has, is that it makes the lady more richer as the man pumps her with lots of money and that also differ from man to man as it depends solely on the financial capacity of the man. Should you for the sake of the now sale your future and the fulfillment it brings?

Are you the "other woman?" If you're involved with a married man, and you're waiting for your turn (want to get married to your prince charming), it's time to re-evaluate your situation i strongly advice.


It's time to move forward.
If you're putting your life on hold for a married man, he's not only stolen your heart — he's stolen your brain! That can ruin your future and plans of settling down


No matter how you justify it, you are attacking his family unit.
Even if he is separated from his wife, that is their business, and you are a threat to their marriage. You aren't welcome, and you don't belong.


You may feel that he's your soul mate but think again.
A real soul mate would not set you on the sidelines. He wouldn't allow it, let alone entice it.

Keep in mind that you only know what he tells you.
You already know that he's a liar, because he's living a lie with his wife and children. How can you be sure whether you're the only "other woman" he has? Entertain the possibility that he is lying to you, and you are being used.

Think of his wife.
Is it fair to her? She's been married to him for however many years, cleaned up after him when he's sick, raised children with him, sacrificed with him, dealt with the "damn dailies," then you come in at the 11th hour and provide a contrast to that that's new, and exciting and fun. You are intruding upon her turf. You are a trespasser. It is no different than being a thief in the night. It is no different than breaking into their house and stealing their things.

Even if your married man decided to leave his wife and family for you, that doesn't guarantee success.
Relationships born out of affairs survive less than 5 percent of the time. If he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you. If he's living this deception with you today, how could you ever trust him if you did get into a legitimate relationship with him?

Break off this relationship today.
You'll hurt, you'll feel broken-hearted, but you'll be better off. Take some time to get really clear with yourself about who you are and what you want. The most important relationship you'll ever have in this world is the one you have with yourself. And eventually, you'll fall in love again — with someone who's willing to make you first in his life!

NWAOCHIEBO:
I will search for my ManHood to make sure my Girlfriend have not used it for Money ritual.

laff wan kill me. e be like sey your babe na igbo girl from anambra wey like money too much. kai!!! you are so funny.

redcliff:


Lol. She is forgiven.

sorry dear, i don't need to be forgiven because i did nothing wrong and you don't have any right to judge, condemn, talk down, not to talk of forgiving the person in this situation. Are you God? if you were to be in her shoe, who knows, maybe by now your brain for don knock.

goodmorning40:
Yeye op, Yeye question. Just carry big head for nothing completely empty

Am sure what you have on top of your will be far less than a head.
if were to be a head or even a good head for that matter, you should at least list one disadvantage or advantage. Am sure you did not pass English when you were in school.
you no just think of anything with your dull brain na just to open your gutter, close am you sabi.

ghost1718:
I'LL SET UP COMMITTEE TO LOOK INTO HIS MATTER

waiting!!!!

kaorama:
Are u sure u are not the one? U can't get a gud advice by proxy

Thanks for your question. No, am not the one. and if i am, you go beat me? abi i dey fear you? or sey you carry masquerade for head?
From your question, am sorry to say, e be like sey na your business line be that. We know hypocrites by the kind of questions they ask sometimes.

another reason why i opened this thread is for people to learn from other people's story. mind you there are guests on this site who read through to learn one or two things from threads and comments. shame no dey catch una if they see the nonsense wey una dey post? all the same thanks for all your opinions.

redcliff:


You for asking if there are disadvantages, you need to get your head cheked. Then for your friend, she need s to get her head checked to..in india. Then the girl dating the amrried man needs to be hospitalized in a psych ward in syria

If there is anyone who needs examining, i honestly think it should be you. Are you in any way educated? am sure not because if you were, you will be more reasonable. mtcheeeeeeeew!!!

come to think of it, none of you could say one tangible thing over the issue or even an advice apart from CHM11 who sounded encouraging to an extent, all you could think of was pouring insults on yourselves not me or my friend's sis.
I thought people should be decent, polite, thoughtful, helpful and encouraging on sites like this but the truth is am not disappointed at all. Even though i expected more from you, am still not disappointed because we all have right to our opinions.

first, thanks every one for your comments and contributions.
When i initiated this thread, i didn't do it because i did not know dating married men was a wrong thing to do, neither am i the one dating the man in question. I did it so that the lady in question can see other views outside that of the people she knows.
i told her i will create i thread over her issue so she can hear people's opinion.

I have a friend, name withheld whose younger sister is 25years of age. We both are in the know of her two years relationship with this guy but we never knew he was married until last week.
Lately, my friend's younger sister had been having suitors so she decided to make a choice. Story cut short, this guy she's been dating is seriously fighting back, saying she can't marry any body else but him. it was at this verge we now knew the said guy is married with two kids of 9 and 5 year of age respectively.
He wants to marry her but the question is "as a second wife or what"? For God's sake you are married, don't want a divorce and even if you do, you can't as a christian. Me i don talk tire and i need some advice because the whole thing is affecting her new relationship and the new guy is planning to quit as the threat from the old guy is getting out of hand.
secondly, apart from scenarios as this, what are some other disadvantages of dating married men as it concerns both the men and the ladies and are there any advantages what so ever?

If this guy grows up, he will be so brilliant. He's also got skills... see as he handle the thing!

Welcome to this thread. I believe this will help most girls
in here.
Being around some ladies, i have come to observe that
most of them don't pay attention on issues concerning
this topic. Some don't even know there is need to take
special care it.
You should know it is your asset and should be
appreciated, cherished, protected and taken care of like
any other asset one posses.
Join me as we learn how to take care of our bosom.
A beautiful bust is partly a gift of nature and partly a result
of the care you take. Tending to your girls is not a difficult
task, the only thing is that you have to make a routine and
work on it regularly. Remember, they are your assets.
Here are a few pointers that might help you.
1. Weight watch. Make sure you look after your weight
and keep it stable .This is because the bosom are
essentially made up of fatty tissues, gaining or loosing
weight very quickly has an awfully damaging affect it. It
makes them sag. Therefore, proper health program should
be followed and crash weight loss programs should be
avoided or be done with caution.
2. Appropriate Bra type and size. Wearing an appropriate
bra is very important. 80% women wear wrong bras,
mainly because they don’t know how to choose the right
one. For this matter, you can find an expert in any
departmental store who can assist you in finding the bra
of the right size and fitting. During exercise, don't wear
regulars, make sure you are wear a sports bra which
gives extra support to your bosoms.
3. Good body posture. Another thing that needs to be kept
in mind is your posture. Bad posture not only affects our
health, it also makes our bosoms look shapeless. Crooked
and lowered shoulders make bosoms look very
unattractive. Hence it’s extremely important to have a
good posture. Any type of sport which makes your arms
move and create tension of the thorax muscles will help
you in improving that. Pushing your shoulders slightly
forward and head high helps too.
4. Palpation and massage. Every woman should be
bosom-aware. They should be performing a bosom self-
examination monthly to check for consistency, nodules,
tenderness and masses. A palpation of the can detect all
of these abnormalities early on – maximizing your chance
of early detection and survival from bosom cancer. A
palpation refers to a method of examination in which the
examiner feels for the size, shape, firmness and location
of something. In this case – for inconsistencies and
abnormalities within the bosom.
Another way of nursing your bosoms is through proper
massage. Remember, you cannot increase the size of
your boobs but you can make them firm. Massage also
improves the elasticity of the skin around that area.
It is important to take special care of the skin of this area
because it is tremendously prone to dryness and
premature wrinkling. Incorporate a routine of cleaning
exfoliating and moisturizing the bust area on regular
basis.
Frequent examination of bosom is very important. After
the age of 20, every woman should do a monthly bosom
self examination and should go for a clinical bosom exam
annually. Anything unusual obervation must be reported
to the doctor. Remember, “A stitch in time saves nine”.
5. Exercise. This also plays a vital role in keeping the
bosoms beautiful, as it strengthens the muscles that
support them. There are some simple exercises which
help in toning these muscles. Moreover, working out
stimulates the bosom tissues and helps them to drain
excess fluids out to the arm pits. You may feel that the
size has decreased but they look more youthful.
6. Eat the right meals and supplements. In addition to
your meals, you can add these items to your meals as well
make more list for yourself. 1. Walnut 2. beans 3.olive oil
4.coffee 5.salmons 6.plums and peaches.
In all, no matter what the shape or size your bosom is, if
you want them to keep looking young and healthy, you will
have to start taking good care of them at the earliest.

...

yes it really works.

Welcome to this thread. I believe this will help most girls in here.

Being around some ladies, i have come to observe that most of them don't pay attention on issues concerning this topic. Some don't even know there is need to take special care it.

You should know it is your asset and should be appreciated, cherished, protected and taken care of like any other asset one posses.

Join me as we learn how to take care of our bosom.

A beautiful bust is partly a gift of nature and partly a result of the care you take. Tending to your girls is not a difficult task, the only thing is that you have to make a routine and work on it regularly. Remember, they are your assets. Here are a few pointers that might help you.

1. Weight watch. Make sure you look after your weight and keep it stable .This is because the bosom are essentially made up of fatty tissues, gaining or loosing weight very quickly has an awfully damaging affect it. It makes them sag. Therefore, proper health program should be followed and crash weight loss programs should be avoided or be done with caution.

2. Appropriate Bra type and size. Wearing an appropriate bra is very important. 80% women wear wrong bras, mainly because they don’t know how to choose the right one. For this matter, you can find an expert in any departmental store who can assist you in finding the bra of the right size and fitting. During exercise, don't wear regulars, make sure you are wear a sports bra which gives extra support to your breasts.

3. Good body posture. Another thing that needs to be kept in mind is your posture. Bad posture not only affects our health, it also makes our breasts look shapeless. Crooked and lowered shoulders make breasts look very unattractive. Hence it’s extremely important to have a good posture. Any type of sport which makes your arms move and create tension of the thorax muscles will help you in improving that. Pushing your shoulders slightly forward and head high helps too.

4. Palpation and massage. Every woman should be bosom-aware. They should be performing a bosom self-examination monthly to check for consistency, nodules, tenderness and masses. A palpation of the can detect all of these abnormalities early on – maximizing your chance of early detection and survival from breast cancer. A palpation refers to a method of examination in which the examiner feels for the size, shape, firmness and location of something. In this case – for inconsistencies and abnormalities within the bosom.

Another way of nursing your breasts is through proper massage. Remember, you cannot increase the size of your boobs but you can make them firm. Massage also improves the elasticity of the skin around that area.
It is important to take special care of the skin of this area because it is tremendously prone to dryness and premature wrinkling. Incorporate a routine of cleaning exfoliating and moisturizing the bust area on regular basis.

Frequent examination of bosom is very important. After the age of 20, every woman should do a monthly bosom self examination and should go for a clinical breast exam annually. Anything unusual obervation must be reported to the doctor. Remember, “A stitch in time saves nine”.

5. Exercise. This also plays a vital role in keeping the bosoms beautiful, as it strengthens the muscles that support them. There are some simple exercises which help in toning these muscles. Moreover, working out stimulates the breast tissues and helps them to drain excess fluids out to the arm pits. You may feel that the size has decreased but they look more youthful.

6. Eat the right meals and supplements. In addition to your meals, you can add these items to your meals as well make more list for yourself. 1. Walnut 2. beans 3.olive oil 4.coffee 5.salmons 6.plums and peaches.

In all, no matter what the shape or size your bosom is, if you want them to keep looking young and healthy, you will have to start taking good care of them at the earliest.

No 2. so interesting for me. it makes my system boots better.

Come oh, that dog no dey chop shit? If the dog dey chop shit from dustbin or gutter, na only God go help that girl. Mtcheeeeeeew.

The marriage thing has alot to do with God's timing and purpose for an individual's life. i have lot of female friends who got into marriage like in their early 20s or even late teens, but the question now is "how body dey them for inside the marriage?" if what they are experiencing is all there is in marriage, i bet you, you and i will want to remain single for only God knows how long.
Don't go in because your friends are in, just understand when it God's timing for you. Every unfolding year, i always thank God for not getting married the previous year with the person involved.
i am into youth empowerment, an author and the likes of it, any man who comes into my life, i tell them who i am now, what am doing and what i hope to become in life by God's grace. if you like it you stay, if not waka pass. I rejected a suitor at a time, 4years after, he saw me and said "if i had married him, the truth was that he would have killed my dreams because his jealous nature won't allow me do all that" and he meant it.
it seriously has nothing to do with age, maturity nor size but the timing of God in one's life. and trust me, it differs for individuals.

Dearie, I feel you pain and thought. But you must know and get it registered in your mind that things are not extremely bad like you think. May be it's in your nature- what I mean is that some women have their bosoms down after child birth. Also it could be that you didn't use good bra type during child birth and winning process. Another reason could be mal - nourishment or not eating the right food for the period.
You can improve it by massaging your bosom with slightly hot water and wearing your bra immediately after , Applying sher butter and wearing a very good bra of the right cup with your br***t, advisably push ups. Daily if possible or weekly work outs will be helpful. These are the basics I can share with you here. You can call me on 08065951405, for some professional tips.
And for your husband, don't let his attitudes put you off. All you need do is work on your self esteem and self confidence. Prayer is helpful but when he sees your confidence and packaging, you will see him dancing shoki around you. Men like it when women are confident not minding their weaknesses, flaws or shortcomings.

dustmalik:
Keep spreading lies. I live in Abuja, and such things never happen over here.

i believe the more reason we all are on this site is to learn, learn, learn. that you live in Abuja as i do does not leave you on the know of everything that happens within. ok, if that be the case, what occasion took place in my church today? am sure you don't know that, do you?
secondly, no enlighten person will should lie on site as this, especially when a personal experience is involved.
Assuming it's a rape case in some part of Abuja, will it be fair of you to tell the victim that she is lieing only because it did not happen at your junction, your street or at the primary school beside your house?
all the same, you are entitled to your opinion and i appreciate it. thanks a lot dearie, enjoy the rest of your evening and happy new month.

dkronicle:
I have one pdp shirt, i only wear it when am indoor.

somebody gave me one APC cap. (this northern cap worn hausa natives) I wonder if i can ever wear that cap whether in the house or outside. with what i experience yesterday.
they did not even think of the risk of what they were doing on the lives of other passengers. infact, i asked one what if that vehicle had hit us and we died? You can imagine his answer- "that they are fighting for what ALLAH wants" At this point, i asked myself "what concerns ALLAH and politics?" People's mentality!!!.

macpetrus:
Thank God for your life... U just have to be careful... Hungry Lion everywhere.. Some APC members are POLITICAL THUG!!!

NoGoingBack Say No to POLITICAL THUGRREY

Thanks dear. The violence thing is what puts me off with some of these APC people, especially those of them from the north. i understand hausa to a point, fair in complexion. when i am in their midst, i act as though i don't understand the language but sometimes, i Marvell at some things they say.
i will be careful too. thanks alot.

not4sure:
chai you can lie. i have seen similar story here too

i am not disappointed in your comment at all because everyone has the right to self opinions. but "why should i lie" was the first question that ran through my mind at seeing your post. you called it " similar story" but not this same one and definitely not same sender. all the same, thanks for your opinion, i appreciate. chao!!!