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Meristem:
We don treat this issue before nah:

https://www.nairaland.com/1845732/traditional-marriage-complete-marriage/1#25339263

You are right based on the link you shared. Probably, that was from another nairalander but this is my own wahala. am sure it won't be bad to air it out and have lovely people like you help me out. how are you today? enjoy yourself today and don't allow anyone... i mean anyone steal your joy. chao!!

efonat:
Every marriage need Gods presence.

kk. but is it the church wedding that ensures God's presence in the marriage? hope you are cool? Great day ahead.

Wefiak1414:
nna men eh na women they drag men go this wedding of a stuff self o boy men do suffer from top to down.

Kpelle!!! sorry dear, all for love. what's up with you? hope you are good?

eldoradoxx:
Is it a crime if the church sponsors one of their committed member's wedding who is desirous of conducting a church wedding but is financially handicapped for now ? Churches of these days are hell bound going by how selfish and self centred they are. If a church should ask members for tithes and offering from their small earnings, shouldn't they also take care of these little responsibilities without embarrassing their members.

My dear if them see space chop the only one wey dey your house, trust me they will. their selfishness these days don dey wear face cap.

Ipledge:
dont fVCk d pastor oo

laff wan kill me here oh!!! abeg oh, i won't f**k the pastor oh! thanks dear.

lezz:
It is interesting to note that in the Bible, no wedding took place in the synagogue or church from Genesis to Revelation!!!

No prophet or apostle or Jesus Christ conducted or officiated a wedding ceremony!!!

All marriages in the bible were traditional in nature involving the parents of the bride and groom.

Africans, especially Nigerians are conquered people and they behave like one.

If any pastor conducts a wedding ceremony without a prior traditional one or without the consent of the parents or guardian of the Bride, he is an usurper and a thief.

I like that dearie. you are on point.

QuiverBox:
Church wedding does not mean he will spend money.

The Church elders did not say he must do church wedding with receptions.

Church wedding simply means - officially ordaining / recognizing your union in church.

He should simply pick a date , invite family and friend and be joined in holy matrimony.

It must not be on Saturday morning oh. It can be anytime approved by the church.

Celebration can come when he has money.

Thanks dear. but what if we don't want the church thing at all, whether marriage blessing or what ever the name could be, can't the church just respect our decision? how are you doing today? take charge of your day.

maylisa:
Stop wasting time; go to court register your marriage and impregnate her. But before you do this, you have to change where you worship.

Oboy, see hot temper!!! Na the impregnate her sweet me pass. You are good. thanks dearie, enjoy your day please.

Bonapart:
for your mind now you don make sense. Whereas you're far from common reasoning

No na, abeg no insults or abuses so that people will be comfortable to share their opinions. How are you doing today? Great day for you man.

Bonapart:
It doesn't how develop the world is today, always know that sex before marriage remains a sin.

Thanks dear, No one is disputing the fact of the act being a sin. The contention now is, after traditional and court marriage, will you still say we are living in sin because we have not done the church wedding?

Please quote to reply. I appriciate, nice day ahead.

boxer022:
Listen to me and listen good, what ever position he is occupying in his church should not hinder him from staying with you. I want him to make up his mind and move out of that church and focus on his relationship with God. As far as he has paid your dowry and celebrated traditionally, I don't see any reason why you should not move in with him. In the Bible it was recorded that Christ attended a wedding and turned water into wine. I am sure that wedding is a traditional wedding.

Thanks alot. you spoke to me. What matters is our relationship with God. thanks alot. Please have a pleasant day ahead.

Kingblingz:
Personally Me I don't intend doing white wedding,make e be say afta my traditional wedding wan YEYE pastor go come dey tell me say ah no fit live 2geda wit my wife till afta church wedding dat day d pastor go tell me weda na church offering I use do my traditional marriage or my money!

Nairalanders are so brilliant and you are one of them. Wetin? church offering ke! You are not serious walahi! Ah ah, so funny. Abeg, go enroll for comedy show. you won't kill me at all. your day is blessed.

Tashaamania:
OP, he is not buoyant enough to carry out church wedding?
Please when did the church start charging people for weddings

OMG! When i saw your post, i wan kill myself with lafff!!! Ah! ah!! Wetin you dey think? Your mind dey sharp shaa!!!
My dear i no fit shout oh!!

they did not charge per say oh, but you know the church formalities na.

Infact we were told that we must cook separately for pastors on that day. That their reception is usually different from that of others.

Seriously, i like that question. All these churches seff, their wahala no be here oh

pretydiva:
so many colors comes 2 mind

Like??
Am sure not lemon green!

Beamborla:
Rainbow things all the way!
No time!

It must be colorful

You wan kill me with laff... A very colourful wedding indeed! So it means all colours must answer present n that day. Na you biko!

[quote author=Shezhawt post=31745506]A little bit of both...

thanks dear, why do you think it should be in little? how are you today?

pretydiva:
Don't know 4 now. I will wait till den

I like your style jare! Make we no drink panadol today for tomorrow headache. that's good, you must be a very calm and easy going person. i admire you.
But what color do you like now? i mean at the moment
Nice evening!!!!

excellence44:
hi @ all, please I seriously need some tips on how to write a letter to notify my Church of my marriage intent. I strongly appreciate your help.

pls quote me for reply

Thanks for sharing with us here. first you must know that different churches have different approach to issues like this. What you should do is ask around your church to know what is obtainable there. Am sure there should be a marriage committee, they handle matters that concerns marriage.

You can also meet the senior pastor, who will in turn direct you to the marriage committee. i think you can start from there.

Kingblingz:
OP what's the name of the church,branch nd location? I think the pastor dey eye d bride coz I wonder y he wuld say u shuldnt live 2geda afta ur traditional wedding!

For eye brows not to raised, we rather let the church name be. Abi how you see am?
But i must confess, you are funny. Wetin make you feel that way? you funny shaa!!!

We live in a society where common among ladies are wonderfully sketched make ups, beautifully painted faces, updated fashions and trends. All of those are good but what baffles me is the illusion that comes with it in the minds of these ladies.

Illusion 1... that they are not beautiful without make ups. but is it your make up that actually defines your beauty or your character and the quality of the content of your heart?

Illusion 2... that if they don't do all those they won't be invoke or accepted in the society. any person who does not accept the real you without all the make overs and fashion, will that person truly appreciate you? Does he or she worth having you around?

Illusion 3... that they will not be attracted to men. Responsible men these days stay attracted to moderate looking girls and not the ones with wired makes overs
Annoyingly, you need to know what some of these girl do or go through just to stay on point. Isn't that funny?

The illusion counts on and you can add yours.

Conclusively, i believe a pretty lady needs no excessive make over to feel or look beautiful. If you are beautiful, you are beautiful and nobody can contend with that. If you feel less pretty and inferior, i suggest you work on your self esteem and boost your self worth.

What is your stand on this? Please no names calling, make this thread free and conducive for learning.

CounsellorWise:
Yeah, that's correct. Thanks and cheers!

You are welcome dearie. You know sometimes, instead of sitting and idling myself away with people who knows only gossip, i prefer coming in here, reading threads, laughing, catching fun and learning as well. With positive contributions like this, one won't make silly mistakes and this world will be a better place to live.
God bless this thread
God bless you all and other contributors
God bless Oluwa Seun
God bless Nairaland and God bless Nigeria now and always.


Say a very big Amen somebody!!!

My mum said, during her days who bordered about colors? That it was color combinations... No, infact color parade. What matters most then was the white funny looking gowns.
Just imagine what your mum days were... hilarious.

Her sister's own were red and silva

A friend here not a nairalander says hers will be Torques, baby pink and maroon.

HrtBrkSteve:
I'm here to read female comments so I know how they take care of their bosoms.

You are so funny you know! I expected guy like you here. That's nice, thanks for coming around and i hope you learnt something new. Nice day ahead. Chao!!!

People, please giving him all these advice, i want to know if there are any spiritual implications for him leaving his local church?

one of these mummies in his church was saying something like, "if he leaves, he might start facing some challenges"
i questioned her and said, is it that there are more to that local assembly than the ordinary human can comprehend or is it that there is no God in other assembly?

Make una help me oh!!!

CounsellorWise:
He might need to seriously mull over the option of leaving his local assembly sooner than later. It's spiritually and mentally unhelpful when you keep worshipping at a local assembly where you are in a disturbing strife with the church authority.
Let him move elsewhere if they won't accept that he is married. People suffer severe consequences for tussling with local assembly leadership. If he must depart for good in peace, then he must do it now. Shalom!

thanks dear, you make brain die.
thank authority tussle and hustle is what i want him to avoid because whether he likes it or not, God has placed them there.

While the color thing is still on, lets us also share some colors you think is or may not be good combinations, so we can also learn. thanks people.

Sanchez01:
I'm learning and I don't know about colours. Ammyluv2002, oya come here

I understand that feeling. but don't worry, with threads like this you can learn colour combinations. When it's time, just page me and you will be sure of getting something nice. Nice day ahead dear.

Also, doing all that is not bad. but one should be sure and certain that she is not doing all that ceremonies just because you want to show off, because your friend did same, make a point to people, relatives or friends. You know some times girls can be copy copy.

ammyluv2002:
Lol...Well, I'm not planning a big wedding (traditional) sha na to jst choose any fine mat I see for market sew, no decor & no aseobi that's why I'm not really bothered

You know i admire people like you alot. One doesn't need all that elaborate ceremonies before your wedding goes on well. What matters is the healthy going and well being of the union after the ceremony

Shollypopzz:
I clicked on this thread, praying and hoping the op isn't female............*Disappointed*

dearie, why are you disappointed?
We are here to learn, you don't know someone out there might get a hint on what to do or even how to plan better.

All the same, have a nice day.