₦airaland Forum

EgunMogaji:
Yes, building is stressful, at least in the Nigerian context. So why not reduce the amount of stress?

EfeEj:
I second the motion. Look for where you can get really good blocks around you. No when you mould and buy, the cost difference is not too much so just save yourself the stress.

SPEEDEPITOME:
You are one of the few who think this way.
The thing is, girls are not wired to handle rejection like guys. You people are used to the snubbing and ish that comes from talking to a lady. A lady musters the courage and faces rejection, it's not easy. I got that attitude from someone I just wanted to be friends with, imagine how killing it must have been.

SPEEDEPITOME:
A while back, I saw a guy on here that I thought I could be friends with because from his posts he stays in an area I just moved to. I sent him a PM, his reply was 'I don't do Nairaland girls'. I told him I just wanted to be friends. He asked how I got to know he stayed around that area, I told him I read his posts.
Guess what he said next? 'Quit stalking me, idiot'. I've never been more embarrassed my whole life.
so don't blame me if I don't send any guy PM on here or any platform for that matter.

zameena:
Nice thread you have here toks, a lot of factor comes into play when choosing a spouse, sadly religion has taken the front seat. Am in a place where majority of men I meet are christians and I can't settle for anytin less than a muslim man which seems like a big task. May God guide our step.

TonieLee:
U nailed it. If u try it just wait for ur chat screenshot on nairaland.

SPEEDEPITOME:
You call it 'Forming', I call it conforming to the society's standard. Some guys think it is bad for a lady to put herself out there, she's just supposed to wait, make no move until she's 'found'.

And most ladies cannot handle rejection the way guys can, so we'll rather not walk down that path because you don't know if your target (guy) is one who'll make a big news out of the fact that you made the first move on them.
Forget what these guys say online, the whole 'I don't mind a lady talking to me first' thing is a lie. A Lady sends them a PM, they already have thoughts in the head.
Until guys learn to handle this part correctly, more ladies will keep to themselves.

kingd612:
bros 10/12mm can still be used depending on the topography.

kingd612:
You should have made your own suggestions its an open question instead of quoting people's post. FOOL.

Toks2008:
Hope I'm safe...

Alero3Arubi:
Yeah.
When he lost his job a few months back she left him.
And to think I never liked the girl even.

Alero3Arubi:
Abeg my own is that there is a friend who needs a job badly right now.
He is depressed and has lost his fiance because he lost his job.
Please help him get his life back.
Don't let him get discouraged.
Please he is a graduate of Nnamdi Azikwe university Awka and has a B.Sc. in English language and Literature.
Please help him find his feet again.

babake79:
Yes o... THis is the daily prayer ooo! Good women are not so easy to find nowadays, although they are out there!

THe most important decision a man can make in his life is who he chooses to marry! This must be someone who can take him to the next level of greatness, unfortunately, most girls are just looking for a guy they can leech from and live a comfortable life

One day one day sha, we shall find this girl!

Another painful thing I see regularly is a good girl marrying an a$$hole

Toks2008:
Behold the child of my brain...the product of my endeveaur and the materialization of my infective genius.

You are amazingly sweet and irresistibly beautiful

RuggedArab:
Hehehe..... This guy has no chill!

Indirectly you are making these Nl guys weak as per asking a girl out.

I envisage something ahead and let it no be what I am thinking please. Don't ask me what I am thinking.

kingd612:
just as we have different qualities of cars, for instance Lexus 300 can never be Lexus 350, so do we have it in houses too. So Oga I advice you to move around a little bit with an experienced engineer before you start quoting my post with rubbish.

kingd612:
If there's no good engineer in your village, you can simply walk up to a 400 level civil Engineering student in any higher institution close to you.
its a poor practice to "lock blocks at the edges in place of columns". I know that's how you build in your village but sorry to disappoint you, its not up to standard. Thanks!

CzarChris:
I came very late to this thread ooo!

Well, I concentrated so much on building my career, that I was mostly having flings. Now I'm seriously thinking of getting married now and to be honest it is hard. Ladies are just too complex these days and my mum ain't even making things easy with the constant pressure.

BTW I'm 31.

slydog:
Nice thread. I'll be 29 later this year with a prayer to settle down on or before I clock 30.
I think I made a mistake couple of years back by not settling down when I had the chance with a girl; I just got a job she just finished nysc and was all over me to settle down, wish I grabbed that opportunity. Babe is today married with a daughter and we hang out, take her and her daughter to fast food and chill, no hard feelings.
Like the op said, I'm just too choosy now. I'm a final year doctoral student, two years ago I used to say I will not marry any girl who doesn't have at least a masters degree. Last year I dropped that to at least a bsc and working, men this year I just want a God fearing, good Lady..... I've been too choosy I guess.
Met an Akwa ibom chick couldn't move further (I'm AS and oh am from the south west) so it also kinda compound issues.
Single presently, hopeful this year nonetheless.

UltraLeslie1:
Africans prioritise religion, marriage and traditions above personal development, science and technology, education and entrepreneurship that's why we're at the back of the queue globally.

Being single or married is just a small dot in the ocean of life.

kayyat:
Well yea buh mum was more selfless with hers I guess, cos im like 90% her image

ikorodureporta:
Thatz why we should encourage our younger ones to keep many good friendz for relationship. Dnt chase their friendz away pls. Guyz above 30 face real challenge because they dnt wanna marry too young girls (20 range) & they hardly meet their choice (25-28)

whyx06:
Smile ☺

kayyat:
Ma mum ofcourse

DeeTus:
It's probably your fault. Next time, try to learn how to talk to a lady. Chemistry is absolutely important when it comes to women.

kayyat:
Thnks..i got d good gene

edshaf:
Yes 42.5

edshaf:
-We targeted between 28 and 32 blocks per bag sir.
-Dangote 3x
-9 inches for now

Thank you sir

Henrybright:
hahahaha...I'm rolling on d floor ooooo

edshaf:
Block molding on going on site...