It's a fundamental problem.

Politics has always been all about self-interest, which is quite unfortunate.

Teespice:
I still go to church. Only thing that has changed is no more sign of peace,then communion is received on the palm.

That's interesting.

Teespice:
I still go to church. Only thing that has changed is no more sign of peace,then communion is received on the palm.

That's interesting.

Stay put with her, if she's a good girl as you've said, and if both of you truly love each other. You can build a successful future with her in your life in the cause of doing so. Truth is that, it's very difficult to choose a girl after achieving success.

LadySarah:
What has he been doing to his wife to turn her to the monster she has allegedly become?

You should know better that you don't need to do anything bad to a megalomaniac person, especially one you share closeness with, before s/he will directly or indirectly make it known to you that you've to choose between giving up your liberty (to him/her) for peace to reign or bracing up for her abuse of any kinds. It's also the same when dealing with a narcissistic person, or any person with psychological and moral problems.

It's good as he has chosen to keep distance from her instead of taking the ruthless options of either giving her a dose of her own medicine or killing her automatically.

Richdad50:


Odion Ighalo is nothing but a child and should never have gotten married. Marriage is meant for men of absolute character and applied wisdom. Who understands the role of a wife and woman in his life but also understands the importance of siblings and parents.

When a wife acts in such manner, it means she has genuine fears, unanswered questions, and a lack of leadership from from her husband.

If you treat your wife with respect and sincerity of love, and most importantly, the assurance of her financial and marital security, she will do anything for your people to be taken care of.



Richdad

Some of you are so foolish that you do anything for Nairaland like and share. Equating foolishness to wisdom is one of such things.

Meanwhile, knowing that some people can't change from bad to good, even after being treated good, is common sense.

allandutch:

I agree with you on the bolded. But the thing is...

Nobody deserves anything, at the end of the day you get what you get.

To earn a thing, is to be deserving of it. All the same, you are entitled to your opinion. Unfortunately, opinion doesn't automatically represent fact.

For the first time in a very long time I read a relationship advice that doesn't have neither a pseudo feminist/misandrist nor a pseudo alpha male connotation from this section. I believe your message, though, is for HVW only, because a LVW doesn't deserve a HVM.

You scored 98/100.

machiavelli95:


You just said it all. Leave them to wallow in ignorance

Thank you. Most people have nauseating mindset.

spik007:


If your life DN pick ,you wont be reasoning like this.
If you've dated pretty ladies before, you'd understand the angle I'm coming from.
Why do you think other women from other African countries love Nigerian men? Have you ever thought about it?
It's cause they have the pocket(money) and mouth to do so.
The way women love has always been the same right from the creation of man.
If a woman has many options,tell me why she won't flaunt her beauty.
Even in the olden days, a man needs to prove his worth in many ways before a woman will give in, it is still happening today ,only in another dimension.
To be frank bro,you are typing like a broke ass,go out there,work and make your life better,you won't have the time to think about women..

Just shut up. I am not your mate.

Bye-Bye.

spik007:


My guy,na you Sabi that one ooo, all I know be say if your life pick up today,all the trash you dey talk go change.
U dey enter better location,dey meet better people. You go understand why attractive girls gats do Shakara.

I said it before that problem with low value people like you is that you have the habit of using yourselves as a standard for every other person. Well, my life does not need to pick up again because it has been up all the while.

spik007:


Lamba,dey deceive urself

The mistake most of you do make is using your low value selves as a standard for everyone.

spik007:


It's normal for pretty ladies to get attracted to you once you are well to do. While younger ,I don't have a good understanding of how issues like this work..Dont blame pretty women for getting attracted to rich guys only, you put your self in their shoes and you'll have a good understanding of what it feels to be pretty lady and being approached by guys who cant take care of themsleves not to talk of taking care of their girlfriends.

No woman will love you with you brokenness,don't mistake basic life needs with poverty and you expect the woman to stay when she has alot of better options.
Mr. Man,if Dangote's daughter asks you out today and another regular girl asks you out,which one will you go for?

My point is don't blame pretty ladies for being attracted to rich guys,youself go find a way and make your life better.

The way women fall in love these days is different from the previous centuries, now you need to be doing well,at least have some basic needs.

You have a gold digging mindset. And the following statement is nonsense "Mr. Man,if Dangote's daughter asks you out today and another regular girl asks you out,which one will you go for?"

Not everyone's commitment (love) can be bought with money. Dangote's daughter cannot have me, whether I have money or not, just because she is a daughter to Dangote; between the two options you presented, I will surely go out with the one who tickle my fancy, regardless of her background.

He made off-label suggestion, meaning that it's also off-label prescription in particular and for clinical trials in general. FDA has not approved anything yet.

He has mistaken brand warranty for conventional insurance from an insurance change.

I hereby sentence him to 3 months community service for brand defamation.

Anyone who loves you will not knowingly deprive you strength or vitality in any form, especially if both of you are an item. So if a woman does not extort money from you, for example, but knowingly deprives you strength in any other form, it means that she does not love you. Also, if a man gives a woman in his life all the money in this world but deprives her strength in any other form, it equally means that he does not love her.

- A woman who does not extort money from a man, maybe because she makes money directly or indirectly on her own, but has other bad character she knowingly exhibits will deprive her man strength. Toxic love, her aim is to have him under control.

- And a man who has money and gives his woman any amount she needs any time, but deprives her liberty or cheats on her, will deprive her strength in other areas of life. Toxic love, his aim is to have her under control.

Love supplies strength, provided that you are deserving of it, and that which deprives you strength in any form can never be love.

rosy1992:
Sex is overrated.

Virgin Rose, I have started suspecting you. It seems the cherry has finally been popped.

Ishilove:
Na people wey never marry dey give marital advice pass. Smh

Effective marital advice doesn't necessarily require firsthand experience but common sense from a sound mind. It's the same with many other things in life, and knowing this is common sense.

Say what you want, the truth is that Ikpamezie is a good guy. My former DOS.

safarigirl:
The host kids had more stressful day than someone that traveled? More stressful tthan someone who had to leave her father's house to stay with virtual strangers?

What Kind of evil person are you? You and the three people that liked this nonsense are sadists and masochist's. You have a history of abuse in your family

I'm so pissed off by this nonsense. If there was Child Protective Services in Nigeria, most of you would never be allowed to have kids.

Nobody is passing any narrative, but for you to endorse this kind of behavior, you must be an evil relative as well.

May God not allow us to die and leave our kids behind with people like you.

And as for the OP, the next time you want to start such a vile thread that supports child abuse and domestic abuse, don't you EVER tag me in it. I could have gone my whole life without reading the rubbish you lot are writing here. Nonsense.

Just shut up and stop typing nonsense everywhere since you lack ability to comprehend and judge well. Some of you just come online to form nonsense. Shouting abuse abuse everywhere as if abuse is worse than insult in the context under discussion.

Only a foolish person will not see action of a girl who insulted her host like the girl did as an abomination. Don't even think that I will entertain your foolishness here, so look elsewhere for foolish people like you.

As a matter of fact, when I was just a little above her claimed age of 21, I was already making waves in the international community and relating with important international figures in respectful manner, yet here you are defending and calling her a kid. A kid that was bold enough to blatantly refuse to obey a simple instruction, and one wonder how come she did not die after being forced to do the same work, since she made the world to believe that it was a heavy task. Nonsense.

Also, it's only a foolish person who will consider subsequent claim of someone who acted the way she did as truth, at least not in the same case.

sisisioge:
Hmmmm...OP had some good points here and there but majority were words in the dark...you never had such experience, simple. You know what they say about being more knowledgeable about the comforts of shoes if well tried? Yeah...

The aunty had kids in the house but still managed to have a maggot filled kitchen, yet she took it upon herself to teach the new entrant how to clean...think about her "wokeness"! That's the basis of everything else, why didnt she teach her own kids this before the new girl arrived? By the way, new girl isn't a maid, she is her niece. And her reaction is very understandable albeit rude.

Anyways, I'm not going to dwell on the girl's rudeness or her expectations. All I know is I grew up in a family that could hold their own, had to spent 90 specifically days with an aunt so as to concentrate on passing an exam, aunty turned me and my sister to maids while having her own kids in the house....simple. Her kids stopped sweeping, mopping the floor, cooking, laying her beds and washing her cloths...those became our chores. Remember we were cousins of those kids in the same age group, imagine how unfairly treated we must have felt we were sweating it out while they watched TV! Please!

On a bright note, we learnt a lot from that encounter...we learnt the importance of treating others fairly, we learnt not to dwell on unnecessary extended family relationships, we learnt to do those chores better and learnt that Christianity is in fact a personal relationship with God, not a clearance for participants good behaviour. Our own aunty too was an elder in the church .

Stop stereotyping host relatives as evil, it is not good, whatever firsthand experience you had elsewhere notwithstanding. In fact, you probably acted like the girl, which is reason why your own host returned your bad manner in multiple folds. And, the fact that you or anyone will believe the "maggot filled kitchen" statement and other subsequent nonsense allegations from a girl who blatantly refused to obey first simple instruction from her host showed that you are not a wise person. The host did not order her to go and kill anyone, she's just a mannerless, entitled and lazy girl.

About the host's children, probably, they had more busy stressful day on the said day than the girl, so questioning why the auntie chose not to send her children on the errand does not make sense.

On a general note, first impression, if there's a need for it, on a situation like that is incumbent on someone in the girl's position not her host.

People should stop expecting royal treatment after exhibiting commoners' behavior.

This generation is heading to doom. People now support evil all in the name of false claim of wokeness and to appeal to the larger population online. The worst thing is that foolish people who supported the ill-manner of the girl were calling the wise ones foolish in that thread. The way majority supported the girl and her bad attitude has made me lost respect i used to have for most members of this forum. These same women who will not tolerate disrespect from their relations and servants are the ones who supported the girl the most. SMH.

It's her duty to make first impression to her host not the other way round. Besides, she was obviously aware that her father and the host had discussed her stay long before she went there, so it cannot be said that she was a visiting guest.

More so, she probably arrived in the morning or afternoon hour and was asked to clean the kitchen in the evening. It's not even as if she probably trekked from Sokoto to Lagos, so the excuse that the host was wrong on sending her on an errand on the same day does not make sense.

Most people are using the bad experience they had elsewhere to judge this particular case, which is a bad thing to do. Stereotyping host relatives as evil is not good.

People should stop expecting royal treatment after exhibiting commoners' behavior.