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Alfred74:
This write up dey give all man better migraine.No form of punctuations at all.Even comma that everybody use like water,you cannot put

eleojo23:
Leave village people out of this.

Obviously, she was treating an undisclosed ailment before the wedding judging by the IV infusion line on her hand.

homesteady:
Wow!! This will be very difficult. A 40 something year old man.

I suggest you take him for another rehabilitation, because the truth is that he is a "nuisance" that you can't do away with. He can't be driven out of the house because he will still come back. It's so sad.

raphy:
my advice as a legend on here is for them to try to re admit him in the psychiatric hospital .I.know it won't be easy .but thy can inject him to deep sleep when he is sleeping.like strong guys hold his hands and leg and hamd cuff him to. a bed then they give him the injection that will.make him sleep for like 1hour.

am not a Dr or medical student i just share my own sense of treating a mad person.



I hop am helpful

may God bring him back to his right senses amen.

ajl:
See people talking about psychology or psychiatrists. Why continue to recommend solution that has failed multiple times. And you are an African. More so, your brother is not mentally deranged. Try traditional means. It may sound stupid. But out of all the solutions you listed that you have tried, that's the only one that is missing. But not any traditionalist can do this. Your brother does not have a mental problem but only an habit that has eaten deep to him. He is not himself any more and he is possibly under the control of dark entities that profits from his habits and the grief he brings to his family. Don't get me wrong. I am not saying there are people behind his travails. But his state of being as it is, is "food" for negative entities that operate unseen around us. Remember this in case you are a Christian , Ephesians 6:12 "For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places."

So, be open minded about the options available. And hopefully you have not been brainwashed about African tradition treatments. I am a PhD scientist and I know modern science or medicine does not provide solutions to every health problem.

salford1:
Yup. Someone I know doing such was sent away from Lagos to the far North were he had no access to his suppliers. He is now doing okay in the North.

gabrielsizou:
the point is not just going to the psychiatrist but getting a good therapist because that is where the real job is. Most psychiatric hospitals in Nigeria dont have clinical psychologist and a psychiatrist is not trained to do the work of the therapist. The major reason why he has to be taken to the psychiatrist is to stablize him with med before moving him to the clinician.

As it stands now the problem you are facing isnt necessarily the drug abuse but how to get him to motivate himself to stop. And the main people trained to do that re counselling and clinical psychologist (esp.If its very serious)


so you may want to try few more reputable clinical psychologists around you.

If that fails too then all effort should be geared towards managing him

goodluck

Jman06:
Like someone already suggested, your brother may need to be relocated to an environment far away from his current location. After the next rehab, he should be taken far away to a new environment where he won't readily have access to the drug.

Take him away from his current cycle of suppliers, destroy his SIM card(s) and every other means of contacting his "friends" and suppliers.

Exc2000:



without personal conviction to change, you guys are just wasting your money.. disown him let him carry his own cross at 42, you aint his guardian angel

the only card on your table now is to accept him like that, and move on so that he wont drag you guys off

My cousin had a similar problem when he was young, he did drug, raped, was a cult top guy even without going to uni, and instead of fighting him after we had tried and failed at many attempt to rescue him(hospital, Alfa, babalawo) , we got him to join the Navy and spent our last kobo to keep him in the training , when he came out he was still rugged but atleast people thought he was just being a normal soldier hard guy, when his recklessness was still getting much, and had signed up to Join Special Boat Squad SBS (special ops) and got redeployed to Sambisa, we had to beg and induce financially one of his Girlfriends to please marry him or atleast get pregnant. long story short he is still a naval officer and has kids, a house and a car still acts violently and still does weed and booze but atleast we pointed him to where his violence and highess could be useful

at this point for a 42 years old man, stop forcing him to rehabs anymore, take your mum away for him and have him cater for his own needs including buying drugs. if he stayed broke for a little while and the urge to get high hits him, as a man he would find a way to make money, and later start being responsible for himself


.

Hezmatosky:
But I wonder why you chose to be bothered by your brother's state of health? At that age? Even after you have tried all these? Simple and short, leave him alone. It might be his calling

gabrielsizou:
It is quite clear that the individual lacks intrinsic motivation to stop the drug use. And without it nothing can be done.

First task is to take him to a psychiatrist. Once he is stable, thats when he should be transfered to a clinical psychologist (not a counsellor). The clinician will extensively work on helping him develop a strong desire to stop using drugs, not becuz you people want him to stop, but because he himself wants to stop.

After that, the clinician would then proceed to designing therapies that would help him control the urge to take drugs and function well even in the midst of drug without taking it.

As for reintegration into the society?

He has to be moved to another new environment

This whole process will take time, money and most importantly, social support in the form of love from the family.

Aladdin1:
My advice for you maybe harsh.but i think that brother of yours is possessed by demonic spirits and may be under a curse.believe it or not such compulsive drug addictions or bad habits are caused by demonics spirits.your brother needs deliverance first before anything.look for any deliverance minister like umai ukpai,apostle suleiman,mercyland jeremiah fufeyin,chosen or any other experienced deliverance minister to handle his case.after his complete deliverance you can take him to join a christian drug addicts rehab centre plus support group.and i think you should continue to hold personal and family prayer sessions for his deliverance and for him to encounter jesus and give his life to jesuschrist.also go do a sacrificial offering to God,church or to the poor,helpless orphans and widows for ur brothers behalf.This is what can save ur brothers life.if you cant do these then u guys should disown him and allow him face d harsh realities of life.cos failure to do these he may oneday kill ur mum or somebody.

edoman2016:
What about his wife? Is your brother not married?

Xyzee:
How many uncles do you have in the village?

OsuIgboIpob:
Sometimes, you people are the architects of your own woes.

Someone beats your mother up and has been jailed several times... Who usually bail him up?

You people should continue with your fuckēry of forcing yourself to change him until one day, HE WILL BEAT YOUR MOTHER TO DEATH and then, you'll all know when to stop.

2pacamarushakur:
No matter what the situation might turn out to be please never give up on your brother ok. He is coming out clean out of this addiction.

merahki:
You are right, sadly. First thing in mental/psychological therapy is insight into the problem. He has to know he has a problem with substances. He has to know that he should quit the habit. He has to desire to get well, in essence. Then every other help can work.
Good luck OP
I am rooting for your family. You are doing an amazing job trying to get help for your brother.
May you be healed from this

ensamy:
This is simple to Restore: He has been LIVING IN BONDAGE for more than 20years. The impure spirits have formed Thier military headquarter inside of him. So he is manifesting alot of different personalities. His situation seems hopeless but it is not. They is hope for FULL RESTORATION.
Exorcise those little demonic entities.
Why all the Churches are failing to heal him is that they are all trying to drive the entities away. No they will not go away because that is Thier legal property. The only JUST way they will leave is to RELOCATE them the boy will be made whole immediately.
How do you relocate them to an animal or into a tree . Jesus did same with the madman of the Garderen with 2000 Legions of demonic spirits.
The strong man should try to Relocate them.

ajl:
See people talking about psychology or psychiatrists. Why continue to recommend solution that has failed multiple times. And you are an African. More so, your brother is not mentally deranged. Try traditional means. It may sound stupid. But out of all the solutions you listed that you have tried, that's the only one that is missing. But not any traditionalist can do this. Your brother does not have a mental problem but only an habit that has eaten deep to him. He is not himself any more and he is possibly under the control of dark entities that profits from his habits and the grief he brings to his family. Don't get me wrong. I am not saying there are people behind his travails. But his state of being as it is, is "food" for negative entities that operate unseen around us. Remember this in case you are a Christian , Ephesians 6:12 "For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places."

So, be open minded about the options available. And hopefully you have not been brainwashed about African tradition treatments. I am a PhD scientist and I know modern science or medicine does not provide solutions to every health problem.

tenderjunkie:
OP, a quite touching experience you've shared. Unfortunately I have a relative battling addiction as well

The truth is, drug addiction is messy and it's best not to even start.
A study once revealed that a rat will rather die being hooked to cocaine than go in search of food.
It's bad enough to be hooked on drugs, but our society has made it almost impossible for addicts to overcome the addiction.
Our churches have failed woefully in this regard.
You complain of addiction and they hook you on prayers, as though prayer is the end result.
Prayer is only a tool to get to the end result.
Aside prayer the churches have failed to set up establishments to fully rehabilitate drug addicts.

I'm not talking of rehabs were you go and spend sometime then when you're out you relapse.

I'm talking of complete rehabilitation in the mind, body and spirit. A rehab center were as you're taking time off drugs, you're introduced to vocations, life changing principles, truths about life. Even when you get out, you're monitored and you're actively engaged in something of purpose.
Who better to implement this than the church?
After all we are the light of the world and the salt of the earth.
Church is not only to collect tithe and build cathedrals. They should have a meaningful impact on the society as well.

OP, concerning your brother's case, so called big men of God won't work any miracle. Your brother will have to find God for himself

Fulcrum15:
What type of drugs does he abuse? Is it opiate or all kinds really?

SeriouslySense:
This is really hard problem.
Because his brain needs to be un-wired from the addiction, and thoughts patterns can help disengage from this hold.

Some thoughts of pleasure from drugs can be discouraged by the realization of the consequences.

It depends on your brother, the pleasure from drugs is of much value to him, he has to build the patterns of thoughts that makes the pleasure of drugs worthless.

It is very hard to overcome the deep connection to drugs at once, you can help your brother plan, a gradual disconnection from drugs, with successive successful points.

maybe then you plan a gradual step away, like maybe
1) A plan is made to become no-more reliant on drugs such that
2) In one month, he can replace drugs with a healthy meal.
3) Build a barrier pattern that stops him from going back to drugs that will make him see it, as a dangerous, reckless substance which is just destructive and no value.

But i have no idea, how to do that, a psychologist needs to work with him and with the family

But it seems you have done so much and almost all we can think of,

namenick:
I wish I could tell you something different, but only Christ can totally turn your brothers life around. This thing you guys call addition are demons that have made his body their home.

Now the fact that someone is a pastor, has a large following, or fancy building doesn’t necessarily mean they possess the power of God.

I was an addict for a whole lot of things until Christ made me new again.

You see Mfm, I’ll forever be grateful to God for connecting me to this church. Giving your life genuinely to Christ is the first step, believing totally in the delivering power of the blood of Jesus is another step, then the next step is a church like Mfm. One of the pivotal reasons God called them, was for stubborn problems like your brother’s case.

If you guys can get the opportunity to meet up with the general overseer, that could speed up the process. But honestly, I feel like people that go manhunting for pastors to help them connect to Christ, instead of genuinely going to meet Christ, are lazy. Well for your brother’s situation(18 years in captivity) it won’t be a bad idea if you can see the general overseer.

When the demons behind the problem has been casted out, then and only then can a shrink have any effect on him.

Mountain of fire and Miracles Ministries( Dr Daniel Olukoya)

Apostle Joshua selman

God is using these men in a different way when it comes to recalcitrant problems like the case you mentioned.

God will direct you guys

Relish5Dfloors:
I have a brother exactly this same issue . The last rehab he undergone cost us over 1M . When he came out we rented an apartment for him now the rent has expired he never worked or think of renewing his rent or utilities. Now we are about to rent a house for him again this may . In conclusion: he’s calm when around with people but has refuse to get a job and stay clean always doin drugs . Mom still pray and hope good for him . most times I feel he’s under curse or when he wan young he might have done something bad . Wide thoughts ! You never can imagine if he was your brother .

somtoto:
You dont force one to quit drugs.its more of a self choice.i think wat you guys should do is to sit him down and talk to him,make him see reasons why its unhealthy for him.after that,the solutions you stated can be applied.

frozen70:
If you guys can take him to psychiatric hospital, there is a drug they will give him that will calm his mental state down

Take your mum away from the house because of fear of killing her

Whatever property he can sell, you guys should sell it and he will have nothing to sell

Lastly, if he continues, he will definitely commit a crime that will take him to jail

XXLMANDIGO:
Chai wasted life...

JaffyJoe:
Hope you guys haven't taken him to one alfa's place in the bid to help. No disrespect but it always turns out worse in such places.

merahki:
I hope the OP has noted this bolded point.

hpk:
Hard Drugs, Hard Drugs, OP what exact substance is he addicted to?

Please specify if it's marijuana, tramadol, rophenol, heroine or cocaine. This would go a long way in identifying the best cause of action to implore as all the above stated substances react differently and are combated differently.