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Klass99:
Lol , abeg die this woman's matter. I told myself that no matter how tempted I was, I will no longer chook my mouth in her matter. I will quietly read her stories and try to learn a lesson or two from it.

One of the lessons I've learnt so far is that authentic relationships, building good will with others and generally having a good rapport with folks, does count for something.

I recall seeing a post where she said she is a mind my business, do my work, I no send my colleagues kind of person. I am paraphrasing because I can't remember her exact words but that was the gist of her post. You know those kind of people who act like the real OGs, the dey your lane make I dey my lane, kind of people. Who basic courtesy and pleasantries are too much to ask for!

All this time she has been on NL soliciting help, I kept thinking to myself, none of this would be necessary if she had a good rapport with some of her colleagues in her past or most recent place of work. One or two of them may have been willing to help and if they couldn't, they may know someone who knows someone with the capacity to help.

But, knowing her, after four market days, she will return with a story about a colleague who wants to throw her out because she refused to follow them to their fetish church. She has used that lie twice now, with two different monikers. She can't even keep up with her own stories, meanwhile some of us read her tales and remember what she previously said.

Mrblessed been off me completely when he said the only advice or comment she likes to hear is send me your bank account details, I couldn't stop laughing the day I saw that post. These days I just read her threads for the entertainment value and any lessons I can learn. Another lesson I took away is that sincerity matters as well.

I get your point and your two lessons are golden. The last one is where my focus is actually that is the possibility that she was working in conjunction with some other people with the intention of defrauding unsuspecting people.

Well, like you said; I rest my case!

Metrix147:
Read more at: https://abntv.com.ng/news/senator-kalu-advocates-for-part-time-legislature-to-cut-costs-video/

Then what happens to the executive, should it be part-time again?

Let's stop chasing shadows!!

The problems that should be addressed are:

1. Reduction of the number of national assembly members, if possible make it unicameral by eliminating the Senate and reducing the number of Representatives to 5 per state max.

2. Cutting down the number and amount of allowances for public office holders in the executive, judiciary and the national assembly.

3. Sincere reduction in corrupt practices in public offices.

4. Declaration of emergency in in the Agriculture, Solid minerals and Manufacturing sectors of the economy.

5. No political office holder should have dual citizenship or investment outside Nigeria/have foreign bank accounts either in person or through proxy.

So, like play like play; this is all scam!!

What happened to all those various accounts, not so good relationship experiences, twinny, phonetic teacher and schools she claims to work with, "my German bobo", federal government grant or the rice palliative, church and pastor, .....

Nigerians Sha... We deserve the leaders we have got because majority of the people are that way!!

Echoke and eshok me!!!

This issue should not just go dead like that. The people who have had close contact with her should out her most especially the "German bobo" etc.

Klass99
Ishilove
Cococandy

dre11:
The APC leaders advised Mr Ndume to quit the party and join the opposition.



https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/715366-how-tinubu-buhari-ordered-me-to-join-apc-ndume.html

Always being begged to take and now they are begging you to leave the party too. Just obey as usual! Nonsense!!

Wotowotoman:
Rest how? 🤔

Normal rest na..

girlFlavor:
When they got that 150k from coco, they went and killed one big chicken.
They posted it on here the following day.
Funny humans

Link to the post please. I want to check something....

Klass99:
He is a hypocrite if you ask me.

You can't be condemning people for a certain kind of lifestyle and actively participating in the same sort of lifestyle yourself.

Biko, what is the difference between him and his escorts? Abeg, the guy is a brolosho. That was my first thought and initial impression of him after reading that post.

I got your point which definitely aligns with mine. But you know in life you just past on an information and it is now left for the other person to accept and internalize it. You can't force it down the person's throat.

Klass99:
You made me laugh.



What kind of savagery is this? The guy and his girlfriend may be practicing a no sex relationship until marriage. But, your response to him suggests that is not something majority of men do, want, like or are good at.

My point is if he truly so hate what those set of girls are doing, he should also discipline himself. But he has a point too from his response to me, in that he is only paying for the product the seller is hawking!

Slimdan360:
Okay, thanks a lot.
The doctor I plan to see is not a dermatologist though. I have to go back to school so I don’t know if I can wait to get an appointment with a dermatologist.

Seeing any other doctor is like seeing a quack because he is not a specialist in the area you need help on and maybe a waste of your resources.

You will get the best results by see a dermatologist.

Like the first comment above, don't buy anything skin material. Go see a dermatologist and follow through any treatment recommended.

This is a skit!!

No lady will buy something eatable without testing it.

Fryx:
Before I spend money on any lady I am not planning to marry. I will first think - how much have I given my babe this week, or my grand mum?

Well, you talking of what’s common though. But, it’s something I will never do.

I’m not even sure I will have time to womanize like that.

There is this distaste I had for any woman that don’t know how to be a proper woman. Also, if a woman feel comfortable having sex before marriage, I will always consider her a worthless good, only worth the value of a runs girl. But, I will pay you well for your service.

You are also having sex before marriage in the case you cited and the way you classified her also suit you too.

Zooposki:
Yes o, just as Adam blamed Eve for his failure as a man.

Na you know oooo.

My point is 12 children are too much and the probability that they only stopped after getting a female child led to my assertion!!

These things happens. Check around you or ask questions? Some couples keep on birthing because the man wants a male child or the woman wants a female child and vice versa.

I am not supporting what the man did ooooo... But if you check it well, it was the woman who kept going in on just because she wanted a girl child!!

Anyway, she should just give him some time cos he probably went to cool off a bit. He will come around soon and hope they stop making more babies!

Gistmedia10:
A young Nigerian man was left embarrassed after his girlfriend rejected his proposal on her signing out day, which marks her graduation.

The man went to visit his girlfriend to celebrate her graduation with her. During the celebration, he decided to propose to her in front of everyone. He got down on one knee and asked her to marry him.

To his surprise, his girlfriend said no and walked away, leaving him kneeling with one knee and the ring hanging in the air, in front of all their friends and onlookers. The people who saw it felt bad for him and were shocked by what happened.


Why embarrass this young man in public?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fF2hGffFEKs

His usefulness as ended. He was just used to contribute his own quota towards her schooling needs and now that she has graduated, he is no longer her class!

Magicalsineros:
This really got me laughing. Some people are really funny 🤣. I had a friend back then during NYSC days. Just because he was asking me out and I declined, the dude refused to talk to me for a very long time. I kept on calling and sending messages, thinking that something bad might have happened to him. I was so worried. So, on his birthday, I sent him mtn 1k, immediately he got my message, he replied me. I was shocked. I called him and he responded, he sound cheerful, telling me it was because I hurt him that was why he has not been talking to me. Immediately after the call, mine started 😂😂. I blocked him. That was the end

He isn't your partner and hence this doesn't follow. He just didn't see the essence in continuing to give you attention since you don't want him.

henrimoto:
before the recent visit to Nigeria, when did you left Nigeria ?

Why I ask, you act like it's been ages you left Nigeria. That lady can still make head way in life even as a young single mother if she is determined.

And she must avoid the same mistake. The reason why it seems it is the end of the world for them is because most of them give in! What do I mean? I have seen some of them who hand over the baby to their own mother and go back to the street following other men just to get something to send to their mother for the upkeep of the child and for their own daily needs.

Of which having who to hand over the child to should normally have provided them the opportunity to focus on building up their lives either by going back to school if her parents can sponsor it or going to learn a skill or take up a work that can help them earn a living without allowing men to pass them from one to another just for the pecks!

FromZeroToHero:
There's this school in my area that started in 2017 with a small bungalow. Before it was just a Nursery and primary school but as of today the building is already a 4 storey building because they now have both secondary school.

From the look of this building you will know that its a disaster waiting to happen. There are visible cracks around the building which they always use plaster and paint to cover. I want to report it to the appropriate authority but I don't know how to do so.


File Photo used for illustration

Snap the building and make sure you capture those fault lines or cracks.

Also state clearly that the former bungalow was converted to four story building.

Create a new Facebook or X/twitter account. Post the narrative with this untraceable account and tag relevant state and federal government agencies. Tell them that they must take appreciate action now to save the lives of the students and teachers who use the building.

brain54:
I know both are fast growing economies...

Just didn't expect them to be in the top 10 bracket... Especially India, because of high poverty rate even though they have a huge population!

Thought is different from fact or reality! India took over the fifth position from the UK in September 2022.

Brazil too have been in top ten for a while now not just of recent.

She is not sure yet or she is double dating and prefers to say yes to the other guy than you but will only say yes to you if the other option (s) fails.

TunezMediaBlog:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_HKBt4vnOk

Babalawo Wives Association Takes To The Street To Flaunt Their Beautiful Looks

Why not?

When their clients brings free food, goat, chicken, drinks and money!!!

adebowales:
Hello nairalanders!
I seek your opinion concerning this situation I find myself in.

Learn to separate business from personal life!

Your sales girl is your employee and that is it!!! If she is doing the work well to the best of her ability, that is what you employed her for and that is what you normally should expect of her.

You caused it because you probably have complained about your relationship in her presence and that is the reason why she thinks she can snatch you away from your girl.

She might just be pretending to be good until you fall into her trap.

Cut off all interpersonal relationship with her and be professional in dealing with her henceforth. Nothing concerns you about who she gives attention to and nothing concerns her with your relationship too. If possible, tell her to focus on her work and forget about you.

vdestro:
Thought so but i am an undisputable carbon copy of the 2 of them like God was making a clear statement.



What is wrong with my thinking? I call him poor because he is poor and has nothing. But he looks like he loves me and of course no one plans to be poor.

But, i am trying to decide that between him and continuing in this hell which is better, for if i evem come with a rich guy and that is if overlook the bastardism that rich people have, my peopl would stil reject him and may tear my face as i know that they lock me up because they fear a rich guy would take me.

But i see that they enjoy laughing at me since they are aware the poor guy wants me and so i see something.that looks like an opportunity to get out, but i am not sure, hence this question.

And no one is answering it, though, i think i hear their silent answer.

You are the only one who can make the choice you seek. No one else can tell you which of the two is better because we are not in your shoes!

You who is wearing the shoe knows where the pains lies and how best to remedy it.

If you are still in school and needs them to be paying your school fees and other expenses, you have to wait it out until you are through with schooling before you can then move on with your man.

vdestro:
Is it because i did not say that i know that i am going through this hell because the man who is supposed to be father also wants to have sex with me but i refuse?

Or that in the house, there is nothing like family. From birth, those who are supposed to be brothers and sister see each other as enemies up to the point that the boys could imagine that they could have sex with me?

Not to talk about the fact that my room was a windlowless room used for dumping damaged things and furniture, so figuratively speaking i got the info that i was a reject.

And you did not see i said "slave". Which mother turns her daughter to a slave? And that is i must serve everyone, even the baby of the house.

So, it is not well o, hence this question and from the silence, i see i am on my own. Thanks

Have you asked your mom if her current husband is actually your father?

I think the whole family knows what you don't know and that is the reason they are treating you the way they do.

Ask your mom to tell you what she is hiding from you and that you need to know why she is not treating you like her daughter. I guess you were adopted before they started giving birth to children of their own.

You also need to work on your own mentality. The man you are calling a poor man is probably not poor because if he is, he will not be a student of the same school with you.

You are not ready to get married and to be a father but you did it raw and impregnate someone daughter.

Just imagine a guy doing this to your daughter and then starts giving these excuses!

If truely you love her in return, just carryout your own investigations to make sure you are responsible for the pregnancy. If you are, do the needful and get married. There is no right or wrong age to getting married as long as you are financially stable and mentally prepared.

By the way, which baby bump does she wants to cover up at just 3weeks preg? Mr. just make sure you don't outspent yourself to the extent they will start using the situation to extort you!!!

AbokiWam:
My Salary is a little above #100, 000 naira, My friends know I am working which brings enormous pressure on me, They think it is a high paying job because of the Corporate dressing and all.

I don't Know if it is the hardship from this era, but now 4 out of every phone calls someone receives is usually them asking you to lend them money. Currently self I am skeptical of answering phone calls. Work Colleagues also do not spare you in this regard.

My problem now is I am too soft hearted, Any small story and I am already heading to my bank app to do transfer for,

Beginning of June, money I lent to a total number of 7 different people was running into almost 60,000 naira.
At the start of July, Only two people have paid me back (5000 & 4000)

Because of that I promised myself not to lend anyone money again from my salary, but Just this morning I got a call from someone I know , he was crying to me of his salary being delayed at work.
He pleaded with me to lend him #10,000 which I obliged, Knowing fully well I wont get my money back (He has borrowed 8k from me before without paying back)

I think something is wrong with me, I can even go to loan app to borrow and gift a friend if I don't Have

Same borrowing habit almost ruined my Dad, it destroyed his friendship with a close pal, he borrowed his friend #800,000 back IN 2011 when money still had value, the friend refused paying and that crumbled his business for a while.

My Mom have warned me if I continue, I might experience same.

I really need to change...
If every one should pay me money they have owed me, I would be able to buy honda baby boy
This is a bad habit I need to stop.

Two things I will tell you. One is an immediate solution while the other will help you consolidate the habit of self preservation.

1. Send a message to all those owing you and those not currently owing you but have the tendency of doing so in the nearest future or have owed you before. Tell them you are in a financial crossroad and need them to lend you #10,000.

Most of them will not do but they also will not ever have the mind to ask off you again. For the few who will do it, keep their money and pay it to them back as agreed. This will enable you to put boundary between you and the current set of those bent on bringing you down.

2. This is a long term solution for your inability to say NO without feeling guilty. There are great books by different renowned authors on "how to say NO without feeling guilty". Get one of them, read and apply what you learn to straighten your thought on this issue.

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