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You don’t have to accept their friends request. Just tell them that you are not active there. If you must accept their request then go to your post viewers settings and block them from seeing your posts. Workmates are not your friends and most times they will try to personalize anything or everything you post no matter how innocent it is. Your innocent jokes might even be used as a basis your gauge your attitude at work or even be used against you in times of crisis.
I am not friends with my workmates on Facebook or any other platform, I’ve blocked all my workmates from seeing my posts and stuff on WhatsApp also.
Just do your best thing.

Persephone1:
I can relate, I guess it's one of the reasons I left the app .

I'm a very private person and I love to define relations and set boundaries. Let work be work, school be school , home be home, church be church. You must be a special being to cut across all.

Right now, my boss is blocked from seeing my WhatsApp status. Only one of my colleagues have access to that.

People just don't understand.

I did/do this exact thing. I love my privacy. If it’s work, we work and go. No intrusion.

Wow… you two must be really reconnecting as friends again after years.
I had a childhood friend from primary one days, people used to refer to us as aki and porpor. We were so close, like sisters. We did almost everything together, from school to home. Our teachers would always ask her about me or me about her. I was the calm, easy-going intelligent but timid one and she was the extroverted sassy and confident one. Unfortunately, after several years, we are no more friends. We are not enemies but we are not friends and I particularly have made sure of that.

I wish you all the best in your rekindled friendship, OP.

Milk and honey by Rupi Kaur

Chai, so me too I can say ‘the good old days’ 😆
We used to call it walkie-talkie. It was one of my favourite childhood gadgets. I’d listen to various stations especially mid night when I don’t feel like sleeping.

MrAndre07:
Maybe she saw what she wants to become in future in you.
Or you are one of the encouragement for her to attain her ambition.
Or maybe you have similarity in life outlook, and she hardly saw that in others. You just made one of your 'genders' to go astray now. Better call her back o
Or probably you had no boyfriend and thought you needed company, lol.
But Opposite sex clinginess is love sha!

I am in prayers with her..

Blupen:
Maybe she want you to knack her nah bros you self jonze

😆I am a female and I am straight besides she has a boyfriend.

Ballzproblem2:
so are you free now ?

O yes! Absolutely free

Blupen:
There is no polite way to get rid of a clingy friend nia

This is true. Some people will never understand no matter how you try to put it out to them politely. They don’t even look at your facial expression to at least get the clue.
I had a clingy friend (and by clingy, I am particularly referring to people whose presence around you only deducts and adds little to nothing to your life and they just want to stick around). I had to abruptly stop talking to, I stopped picking up her calls, moved and I’ve made sure she doesn’t know where I stay. I never pick up her calls, only texting once in a while. And I always tell her that I am not in town, I am in the village. I am free now, we chat once in a while.

No polite way for some people, just take the steps and free yourself.

1. Wasted resources (time, money etc.) You could have learnt a new skill with your time and money, could’ve spend the money on your mom who will pray for you, could’ve done something productive for yourself with your resources; something that won’t one day break your heart.
2. Flashbacks of both the good and bad (the good makes you want it and wish it could work out but the bad makes you wonder why you didn’t see it then and it makes you feel stupid). You even start to imagine or assume things like(so when he/she was calling me or talking to me or visiting me or telling me they love me, they had someone else they were saying the same thing to?)
3. The feeling of betrayal; you feel like a fool
4. The questioning aspect (which a lot of people deny); the point where you start wonder what exactly went wrong, whether it’s you that really had problems or it’s them, whether you need to work on yourself or something, whether you actually pushed them or it just them. It can be mentally draining.
5. Known and unknown in-laws questioning; here, you see people asking you about the relationship, even people you never thought were watching you, start to ask and you have to find an answer for them.
6. The regrets; you regret why you did not listen to that one friend, or sister or adviser who warned you about them
7. You still regret the time you rejected someone who wanted you at the same time you were getting into a relationship with that person who broke your heart, wish you could turn back the hands of time to choose them.
And more.

Persephone1:
You did the right thing, it's your mental state here and you have the right to protect it. Ignore her.

OP this!!

Have my sympathy dear… May God console you.
Be thanking God for showing you the kind of misery you will be putting yourself into, if you marry her. God loves you.
Now call it a quit, thank God and move on

Magnoliaa:
Lmaoooo. Like this is a plus to Naija women sef.

Our men that they like now, no be we groom them?

If SA women are rejecting SA men for Nigerian men - how is it an L to Naija women that SA men don't want them? Like, obviously, they cannot find us attractive.

Watin we dey find na upgrade to Naija men like this; not a demotion, plisss.

This take is not really what she thinks it is.

Perfect!