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kulyie: Ok,no wonder.i now see ure an atheist who is nt beta dan a gay guy or a prostitute, n of course am off ur thread because ure a looser and everytin bout u depicts dat,n of course i had to com bak wen my phone kept givin me notifications dat a looser has refered to my earlier post if not what am i doin in d thread of a debased mind who doesnt bliv in God but practices what he has ordained n goes ahead to corrupt it.of course i have d right under heaven n earth to talk to u about morals because he has said daughers of God tel d morally bankrupt to desist from their foolishness,and stop highlightin my posts n ill back off from ur filthy thread sucker!

GO AWAY!!! hahahahahahaha!! Is it not late in Lagos now...go get some since it sounds like u need to get laid...forget the preaching pls and go get some from ur weakling future husband if u have not castrated him already to anable ya control him! Haba

@kulyie
Hmmm, u know that I can see u reading this thread still...y dont u just leave this thread alone madam?? See me see wa ha la ooo!,just disappear already, thanks for ur contributions so far...pls go away now, k

Sarah a: I see no reason why a lady would not want to get pregnant after wedding except she is keeping secret.I suggest you shine your eye before she uses you as a ticket to get to American.

Thanks
This is y I am concerned. She said no sex when we met...let's wait until u come back and I said fine.and I respected her No to that. But when she say No Way will she try to get pregnant after the wedding...I started getting really worried.

But I will have a serious talk with her soon. I have already told her she say too many No to very little things sometimes and that I don't like that...

I just need to raise the big issue again, if she says No Way after I explain my reasons properlly in datails again...then it will be bye bye after that

I have no plans to let her or anyone I may marry be stranded in Africa as that is not who I am if she try to watch me very well, she will soon find that out she need not worry

kulyie: @ poster ure just an epitome of mental,intellectual,moral and psychological poverty.i pity d bimbo dat wants to sign her life with a pathetic fellow like u with low iq.ur own idea of marriage is making babies.did u pass d 4 walls of a university?obviously not,because if u did u will have been more refined.smh.if am d b*tch,ure d bigger animal dat hasnt heard d word 'keeping d marriage bed undefiled',ure obviously flounting his laws n u want him to bless ur desecrated and defiled union,whos words dont sum up now?like i said earlier ure way too lousy and u talk too much 4 a man. And frm d crap uve written there,its obvious dat d most active part of ur body is ur penis and not ur brains dats y i said ure animalistic like,looser! My boo sends his regards.. Hehehe.woe unto he who defiles d lords temple and institution (marriage) am sure uve nt seen dat in ur bible.spits on poster once again and spits on d unholy institution of lust,sin,selfishness and conditionalities.@ least dats d foundation of ur union,u can see how strong d foundation of ur pseudo marriage is.hehehehe

I thought you quit this thread...! Let ur Yes be Yes and ur No be No, anything more than that is a Sin or is from the evil one...is that not what ur bible says??
So, why r you back here again?? U see how u can not be trusted to keep ur word n you are here fighting a battle u can never win? U know that I have to dumb down my way of thinking to even have this unending conversation with you? Preacher look In the mirror...
sorry, I dont know where ur claims of defiling marriage comes from and u sure dont sound like a person of God to me...!

Get off of my dick..will ya??

I'm really going to disappoint u now...I do not believe in the bible or in the existence of god! U r wasting ur time, so go find someone else to preach to...urself perhalps.?!!?

Becacia_Barbie: its obvious u dont really know her at all nd u wnto marry her? Dnt b foooled oo, she mite just be a gold digger who is just lookin for an opportunity to leave d country! I advise u get to know her well...b4 u evn think of having a baby wid her...Most gals r desperate o...nd dey wil do anythn to leave the country! And bsds wts wrong in gettn som1 in U.S?

Well, there is noting wrong with getting someone here in America...! They have their set of problems here and I wanted to keep it real and keep it Naija! If she comes over and things don't work out...then I will still have my kids as Naija kids and help care for them. With American women, you could lose everything potentially and that's hard...

American woman do however have their appeal, they keep it real and with them it is what it is...as they let u know with everything they have, when they like you and want you...Some Naija girls seems to want u to beg them for love?

pendo89: You know what stunna? Honestly? can you please take ur time before u proceed with this?
You have so many unanswered questions which make u doubt so much. Reading through ur replies I feel as though ur about to make a move too fast.
When you are confused, do not act! Wait and see how things work out cz some things are too sensitive to quickly jump into.
Get ur attention off the visa,marriage first and think about the girl you plan to marry.Is she worth the headache ur putting yourself through?
If yes then always do the right thing.

I have my own reservations but I will not discourage you if you are head over heels,

Thanks for ur observations

You r not too far from the truth. She asked me when do I want to come back for the wedding I said in 2year time but she said NO right away...it has to be next year! Y the hurry to get married so fast...I wanna know n why so many No to even little things? But then again she could just be forming as she is not out of zuniversity n work life has started n it's a daily grind...she might calm down??

fittty: shes obviously trying to use u as a passport to get overseas then she finds her way when shes there.. wise up and shine ur eyes naija girls blood dey hot oh!

Yes, this is entirely possible...so umma be very careful my guy. Thanks

no1madman: Just learn 2 see/read people's heart. .Most women hide their real self and portray a different personalities in front of potential suitors. .Next time no show any woman ur blue kpali or benjamins. .always maintain a low profile. .goodluck!

Noted!

kulyie: @ poster As far as am concerned u r d lousy talkative.shebi uve made up ur mind on wot u want to do,y r u stil askin 4 approval.good luck to u while u shine ur bimbos congo.as 4 african values gettin destroyed in america,dats good news,am happy to hear dat.@ least women getting devalued will reduce,secondly as 4 u insisting dat someone broke my heart,well like i said earlier ure too myopic and assumptious so dat story is a figment of ur imagination.d sad news i av 4 u is dat women are getin empowered and informed against paranoid animals like u,as 4 my man,lol he is d best thing dat can eva happen to me and he is a man in every ramification of d word.he a decent man dat knows dat things are done are d right tym nt getin me pregy bfor marriage,o dats because he came from a good family with virtous people.if its my gettin married dat is annoyin u,u can jump into d lake,am signing my life with my best friend and confidant nt some paranoid human being,yorubas say d truth is bitter,but it has to be said.once again arguementator good luck.am so out of here,u suck seriously,nt only do u suck,u have issues with inferiority complex.wanabe americana oshi ,mshewwww.spits on poster and thread

I'm sure by now u know that I respond to ur post so that people can see ur problem?!

U said on ur 1set response that someone broke ur heart...saying u dumped him or he dumps ya is irrevant...he broke ur heart and that person is not me!
I'm not sure y u r in Lagos and preaching women empowerment to me who lives in America! Lol
I have no problem with fembots but u don't even qualify for that because they are usually very articulate n u r not! I'm sad for the man about to marry u and make the worst mistake of his life...because how do u reason with a woman when something goes wrong and something will go wrong in any perfect marriage - a woman who can not comprehend a very simple issue!!

I have 2 sets of married friends who proudly announce to anyone who cares to listen that they do not want children ever...they wanna travel n travel n live the good life and save up for retirement and 1 couple been married for well over 10 years now n happy no children! , great for them, right?

I want kids n the lady I'm talking to want kids. She want a wedding and I want a wedding. She does not want to get pregnant after the wedding until I bring her over to where I am. I want us to try to get pregnant after the wedding.

Not sure wut ur issue is...not sure where devaluing women comes in here! I know who I am n u can not redefine me here!

Good luck to ur weakling husband...since if I brought a woman like u to America, u will not even get the chance to leave me later...ur ass will be out my door so fast, u will not realize what happened until its too late!

Would call u a bi tch but you r not qualified for that tittle...! Hehe

no1madman: i feel u,but she sounds stubborn(is dis what u really want)
i suggest u take ur time 2 know her more. . study her wella!
can she stand d test of time/is she a fair weather woman?
It's not all about gettin her pregnant but gettin d right woman. . .gettin it right!

thank you my guy...a stubborn woman (even when she is wrong) can bring ruin and unhappiness to a man's life!

do u know how many woman men send to the embassy to get Visa tell them what to say and these woman believing that they know better...getting there and saying what they feel is right and then having application denied?? ...and the man has to then sort things out with lots of hardship later?

i want to know if im dealing with a stubborn woman who love to say no to everythng and argues about everything...i find it exhausting frankly as im not used to it...this is why i am worried and i have caught her saying NO to lots of thing both big and small

thanks again

CHIMCO: Suposing if she fail to get pregnant after 3 to 6months after the marrage? Wil u continue to be in Nigeria until she get pregnant? You re not God that give children and dont take issue of pregnancy into ur hands because ur not God.

pls move it along with your negativity...you are not God either n dont try to say you know the mind of god and his plan for me, K

as humble humans, we try and God blesses what we do...so when you r planing ur family you take into consideration that god will not approve what u want, that is ur life and ur concern!

in my world, i take god's love as a given and so far i have no reason to believe god in his love and kindness has any wicked plans to not grant my desires!

its up to me to try...if me and my woman speak with one mind and have the same desire, i dont see why i should be concerned about god refusing us what we want...but, if u have a problem with that, then that is not my concern

Gudintent: How u wan do dis , u wan fuxc her over the seas ni? Abu u go give am belle via puzzydial

This 21st century loff sef!! E pass me o

hahahahahahahaha!!! haba, my thngy long but its not that long ooo!!!


the idea is to go back next year for a wedding and hopefully get her pregnant after...while i start processing her papers and she can come have the baby here, but she wants the wedding and then wait until she gets over here

Becacia_Barbie: I understand u, but the fact that it happened to ur frd doesnt mean its gna happen to you. I know u dnt wnto make d same mistake like ur frd bt u shud also know dat destinies are diffrt! Not everyone that wento school made it in life. Well I just wana ask u 1 question: how long have u known her?

i have been speaking to her now for going to 2 years! but we stoped speaking for a while and reconnected when i went home last month!

we stopped speaking because i thought she was not serious when she insisted i have to lodge in her city when i came to visit as her mom would not allow her to travel to my city...and i asked her if she was a baby and how come her mom will not allow her to travel from one naija city to another niaja city to visit me while i was there but will allow her to move to america to be with me!

she wanted me to come home and and gave me a deadline but i insisted i will only come home to see a serious girl and we stopped talking

i was in naija for another reason last month...and she was told that was i was there and she came down to visit me! we liked each other...but i dont know her real well...and its heard to do so as i live so far away. some people told me not to worry because of the way she ran down to see me after she said her mom will not allow her to come to that city to visit me...that she will listen to me...that she is just forming, but im not sure!

i hate forcing people to do what they dont wanna do..so i prefer to look for someone who like me and know i want what is best for them in my decisions for our family

Becacia_Barbie: soory! But please what happened to LOVE

im not sure my dear! im not sure at all...!lol

ask my friend who's wife he went to naija to marry, she got pregnant there. had the baby there then came over here and moved out of the man's house a year after she came!!
what happened to love there?

Gabriel_sylar: Please dont marry that girl.......REASON....COS SHE IS NOT COHERENT....A THIRD PARTY IS SOMEWHERE DICTATING TO HER AND DIS MIGHT HAVE OTHER UNSEEN REPERCUSSIONS

yup, that is what im worried about...she does not make a huge sense at all...

what happened if she marry a local naija man...insist they move to america b4 any pregnancy?

claremont: @OP: What you could do is to have an introduction ceremony with her parents. When you have done the introduction, you can now fire away and get her pregnant . Let her remain in Nigeria and have the child there. If I were you, I will patiently wait until the child is born before sponsoring both of them to meet me overseas. Some home-based ladies can be desperadoes!

i do not want or wish to trick her!

but i would like her to get pregnant there in naija and then start processing the paper...my cousin did that and it worked fine as the wife was already in america by the time the baby was due...!

i personally do not fancy a woman that argues about everything big and small and loves to say no to her man...in my experinec if a woman loves a man, she makes everything easy for him or is that not right?

juman: As you explained that getting pregnant after marriage, I think the lady is afraid of being dump in nigeria after getting pregnant and have the baby.

You need to re-assure her and let her and her family understand the visa process and way to make it easy to get instead of putting yourselves in to situation of appealing of visa.

She and her family must be able to trust you very well before she will agree with you to get pregnant.

thanks!
i have to reveal something here! a relative of hers moved to america i believe to further his education but as soon as he got here, he wanted to stay and started applying to bring his son and wife from back home and the Visa was denied and he had no choice but to move back home...could this be the reason she is afraid she might not be able to join me!

but i am not a Visa student and have never married b4 and sponsored any woman...so there is no need to be afraid at all...i should be able to bring her over fairly easily

Gabriel_sylar: ok bros......lets get serious
...Sir u have tread carefully with such ladies...normally with her seeing u are america based..its normal for her anxiety...but please WHAT IS HER REASON FOR NOT WANTING TO GET PREGNANT...[/b]am not saying she should...but why? did she say NO

is is that

1.She thinks its wrong, maybe against her conscience
2.She tinks u have ulterior motive of hit and run?
3.Or she tinks she cant put to bed
....if u probably can reach her inner-wards.......it will go a long way in helping u know what to do next.....

i know u are also anxious...u dont wanna marry and discover that d lady cant put to bed......thats why in relationships communcation is keyyy ...if u discover that she is decent and have good family value and not a runs girl and u love her truly then just take the step of faith and respect her values....THE "THE JUST SHALL LIVE BY FAITH"...[b]BUT if she not opposed to SEX before marriage but opposed pregnancy before marriage...kaiiiiii something then is wrong

SHE SAID NIGERIA DOES NOT HAVE GOOD HEALTHCARE SO SHE AFRAID SOMETHING WILL GO WRONG AND SHE WILL NOT GET A GOOD CARE!

she is not opposed to sex before marriage, she is not only opposed to pregnancy before but also after marriage...until she gets to be with me period!

Caracta: @OP, i think you should just settle this issue with her and her parents. Let her parents get involved and explain your reason and fears to them. I'm sure she has fears too and doesn't want to be dumped in a 'strange' land. Work it out. You are a man and you are an adult, nobody should make decisions for you. All the best

i might try that, thanks! i was hopping i would not have to use her parents to overide her...that we two could settle this

mission08: It's obvious that both of you don't trust eachother. You are not sure of her motive while she is not sure of yours too. If I were to consider her stand, the following may be her reasons for not wanting to get pregnant in Nigeria;
1) Maybe she is a good Christian who frowns at pregnancy out of wedlock. If this is the case, marry her first, wait for her to get pregnant in Nigeria before she travels.
2)It may be that she's feels you have no genuine plan about her coming over to join you. There are several cases where men have misled ladies to get pregnant for them only to be left alone in Nigeria to face the challenges of single mother. If this is the case, it's up to you to convince her of your intentions.
3)May be she actually see you as a visa to America and plans to scram later on.

Whatever the case maybe, both of you will have to reach a compromise. You both cant stand at the two extreme and expect the other to totally buy your idea. How far are you both willing to take the risk together? We've heard your own side of the story, I mean your fears. You need to listen to her fears too in order to understand her position.

If both of you cant reach a 50-50 compromise, you better part ways and stop waiting each other's time.

thanks for the thoughtful response!
your number one observation above is not the case...she refused intimacy when she came to see me a few weeks ago while i was in africa for other reasons!

if it's number two..she had not mentioned it...she said she does not think it is safe to have a baby in nigeria dues to lack of good hospitals or substandard care! but i think there might be more to it

once i know the answer to number 3...i will have solved the problem...i just have to be sure, i will not be played for a fool!

she will be properly cared for weather or not she gets pregnant in naija or comes here...herself and all her brothers and sisters where all born over there and they are all fine so i dont accept the too risky to get pregnant there explanation! she wants a big wedding or small wedding is all her decision and i will pay for it but getting to america b4 getting pregnant is not a good proposal as far as im concened...since i have no plans to abandon her there in naija!
if i want to marry a girl and leave her in naija...i would look for a girl who does not have a problem with that but that is not what i want

Gabriel_sylar: ok....delete the hotel part but there are other aspect of my post that u may wanna consider.......

your post dont make any sense...so there is nothing to reconsider! when u decide to respond to the issue, then i will hear what u have to say!

why does this lady insist i must come and marry her next year next year and then she must get to america b4 she gets pregnant? why is it too dangeous to get pregnant in nigeria since i have the money to care for her there too, what if i moved to nigeria...does that mean no woman will agree to have a baby for me there because it is too risky to be pregnant there?? respond to those issues...should i trust she has no ulterior motive and still marry her or just forget the whole thing and pick another girl who likes me and dont wanna fight about where to get pregnant??

i said in the post if anyone need to ask me a question b4 responding...pls do so, i will answer ur question...so, dont jump into this with silly conclusions and baseless accusations and opinions just to make up for ur sunday morning fun, k! this is not a joke, my happiness and her happiness is at stake here! i want to make her happy but i also know what i want and what risks i willing to take...

Gabriel_sylar: $tunna pls do u work in an hotel in america......cos all ur previous post is about hotels,hotels.......?u must be used to seeing pregnant women too...dats why u wanna force someone to be pregnant prolly after many failed attempt with other girls....the GIRL in question should be careful ooooooo(except she is ur legal wife)...AMERICA no be by force...if she gets pregnant now and born albino...u next post will now be "she must born un-albino before....bla bla bla"

another fool who can read but can not understand what they read??

i was in nigeria last month and the post about hotel was about the hotel i stayed in benin where some people where robbed in front of it...! haba

unbelievable...who are the people reading and responding to my post here na?? where are the grown men who have experience and have been around and know whats poppin and have something intelligent to say?? dude, move it along pls dont irritate me, k

expertman: @ Poster I Think Is Because The Lady Is Very Spiritual Thats Why.

My Advise For You Is Try To Do Things The Normal Why.

Pregnancy Outside wedlock Is A Sin So Please Do Things The Proper Way.

thanks but you still dont understand the issue.
she wants me to come and we will have a wedding...that is okay and will be done. i want her to then get pregnant for me while i process the papers for her and that will take about 3 to 6 months...this is where she said no way! having a baby in nigeria is too dangerous so she would like to get to america 1st before she get pregnant!!

ths issue is; what is her motive for that since i obviously have the money to send her to the best hospital in Nigeria for care and she will be getting to america b4 she deliver anyways? so if i moved to nigeria does that mean we will not have any kids because it is dangerous to do so there?

abeg people shine ur eyes and talk about the real issue here...

CHIMCO: U re a selfishman! u re already having premonition that the marriage wil end immidiaatly she comes over. Brother u re adviced to enter into contract marriage with a nearby girl strictly to have children. I have carefully read ur post and ur replies, with the way you re sounding you cannot have a stable family,sorry.

YOU R IGNORANT!
when it comes to love...we all take chances but no guarantees and everybody know this that is why people worry and try to find the right fit for themselves. if you think by my trying to do this im doomed, i wonder what you think of people who go to africa and marry 3 different wives without worry only for the 3 wives to get here and leave this person??

do you think hundreds of americans who marry fellow americans and it ends in divorce every year are stupid or do u believe that hundreds and hundreds of african men who go to africa every year to marry and the women gets here and runs after a white man...all such men are all stupid in ur opinion??

what about all the marriages there in nigeria that dont work out are the people who got into it all stupid according to ur logic...

foolish guy, u have read my post and yet blind to what i have said over and over...having kids isnt the issue, but her insisting she must get to america 1st to do so is the issue, do u have a problem with comprehension? smh

kulyie: @ poster let me 1st clear out some erroneous assumptions u made before i go into d matter,i am not married,ive nt yet started avin kids and i'm still a hottie,[/b]back to d issue, [b]ure soundin as if ure marrying ur fiance 4 d purpose of u avin kids.marriage goes beyond dat and 4 those telin u to get her preggy bfor goin to america,who told u she cant still be wayward and dump u afta she gets there,havin a kid has not reduced a womans value in anyway.when its not as if she has givin birth to more than one children.anyway,d ball is in ur court cos ure soundin like uve made up ur mind and u want to bliv whatever u want to belive.u should even b lucky ure marrying someone dats interested in gettin married at all cost without her thinkin dat she will b @ d disadvantged position.u men just like bimbo,mumu kind of women dat cant look @ things objectively dat u will say sit down here,stand up there,if it were to b d likes of me,ill have dropped u like its hot.any woman dat wants to b promiscous wil b whether she has a child 4 u or not,or havent u heard cases of women wit 3 kids dumping their husband n home 4 rich dudes.do things d right way.meanwhile u r invited 4 my wedding that will take place on august 3o in lagos.

i dont know u and i have not made any assumptions about you...this post is not about you so, im not sure how it has turned into ur issue

not sure if u married yet or have started having kids and im not sure how that is relevant here since this post is not about u

like i have said over n over again now...people who dont want kids should look for other people who dont want kids to marry so thats not an issue. we both want kids

issue!

if it was you, you would have dropped me like a hot cake...only for the next girl - more beautiful, more educated and younger than you to come into the picture!! lol
im choosing this girl out of several girls and she is choosing me out of several men...she had a nigerian boyfriend when we were 1st intoduced to each other and she told me that but she said she has since left him and im not worried about that...since that is her choice.

no body wants to be used, or is that not the case?

i do not have enough time to stay in nigeria and get to know her n she wants fast wedding now now and then come to america right away...that is all good, but if she is sincere...then she should be pregnant b4 so that i have no worries and if however she is not...then i would not have totally lost out...but why r you having such a hard time to understand my clear concerns??

someone from overseas broke ur heart b4 and now you think we r all evil! well, i was introduced to girl like you b4 and she said she hates all guys from overseas since we r too proud! she said her best friend in nigeria was sleeping with that her X boyfriend and so the relationship ended!!
but as a woman, where was she when her best friend got the chance to take her boyfriend of a year and a half away from her...and why should i be punished for that anyways...so i ran from her!

if i talk to you on the phone and you nag me about what ur last overseas boyfriend did to you...i will not call you back after that u know...because i do not have the energies to listen to how many men have done you wrong!

THANKS FOR THE INVITATION TO YOUR WEDDING BUT I HAVE TO DECLINE AS I JUST CAME BACK FROM NAIJA A FEW WEEKS AGO AND HAVE NO PLANS TO BE BACK THERE IN ANOTHER 2 YEARS!...unless of course my lady drop her im afraid to get in nigeria talk and i therefore come there next year to marry her!

a woman like you will end up attracting and marrying a very week man as you seek to dominate him...but that is your life and not mine! as a man here in America...woman do not like push over men but im not sure about naija girls yet...that is why im asking my questions, but umma figure them out gradually...n be good!

wishing ya a happy married life

bless

fados4sure: You are sick

why and how you figure im sick dick-head?

move it along if you have nothing to say...and if this is not ur world, you may feel lost and not understand what im saying and so have no clue what to say to me...and think somethinmg is wrong with me...but some people know what im talking about and dont believe im sick...so, why dont you fu c k off dude??

Roseey0: She sounds like a recommended wife?

U both hardly knw each other well enough,[i]u sound like its only the kids that u want frm that union,[/i]dnt forgt u can have kids yet ur marriage wil be like hell..Y not take your time to knw this your wife-to-be,by that u can be able to knw hw best to confront this situation,and nt asking nlanders hw a naija gal wants it.

yes, we heardly know each other and the reason for that is obvious...but while im willing to keep talking to her for a year or two...she is insisting i come and marry her next year and then process her Papers right away and bring her over b4 we start talking about having a baby!

if she is pregnant in nigeria and then came over and have the baby...and the relationship ends...i will not have totally lost out...and trust me, there is a very high chance that it may end and if y'all dont know why that is the case, i can explain! mind you it does not matter who is getting into the marriage,such marriages often end when the woman or even man gets here...so, i can not be foolish

Princeparix: brother, love comes wit no assurance; is a game of risk. When u thought of getting married, wz ur concern all about kids?>kids are d joy of every family but wz dat ur reason 4 gettin married?. No man, it wasnt made 2 be so.
From ur statements, i understand ur ova d coast in america while she is in Nigeria>how do u expect her 2 get pregnant:through d help of d holy spirit? Or would u love 2 father a child dat isnt yours~no! man is not working.
Ur afraid she might change sides wen shes on american soil, love is d greatest of all bonds: u love her and i tink she does too-then betrayal is off d list.
Abt d kids; ur not God broda, God sumtyms allows us 2 make our decisions and blesses us aftawards
Eminem would tell us "is a game called circle"; WAT U TINK OF LYF IS WAT U GET OF IT.

Pls respond to the issue I raised if u want to comment. She wants kids and I wants kids n I have i said that a few times now so that is not the issue! The issue is I do not have time to stay in Nigeria and get to know this woman and then marry her so I can not be sure that things will work out and I have no intension of going to Nigeria and marrying a woman and giving her free tickets to America only for her to get here and say sorry I don't really love you...! Only for her to get there and finds out her university degree from nigeria will not get her a dream job and only to turn around and blame me and want to leave me! If she is sincere that she loves me, why does she insist she can only get pregnant when she gets to America?.

Pls deal with the issue

pro01: OP,

You would be DOOMED if you take any female's advice on this matter. If I were you, I would thread cautiously with that girl because she might have ulterior motives. We have heard countless stories of such women who rode on the back of men like you to the US, Canada or elsewhere, only to dump the men and move on with their lives when they consolidate their residency over there. At least if she has a child for you, it would decrease her 'stock' and reduce the chances of her walking away so freely when she gets to the US. Some might argue that she might have good intentions, but I wouldn't take the chance of finding out at my own risk. Be WISE.

i consider myself to be a reasonable man...and under certain conditions, would not hesitate to bring a woman over here with no worries at all! this woman say no to almost everything...and i dont like the sound of that so far...besides, i was the one looking for a woman to marry; if she were the one who came looking for me - with marriage proposal and a ring and her mom or daddy will pay for our wedding and get her the visa she needs and i will be home one day and she will come knock on my door and say baby im here...then i would not have to worry! Because if things dont work out that way, we simply say bye bye...it would have been her idea her daddy's cash and not my problem!

so, yeah you have a huge point!

but my question remains, should i keep negotiating or just tell her she must be pregnant 1st b4 i apply for any permanent papers for her? what do naija girls respond to the best in a man..toughness or do you just need to pet them...?

pls help with good advice

Caracta: #thinking aloud#
Is pregnancy now a ticket or visa?
@OP, before i make further comments, are you legally married to her sir?

Not yet madam,we are not legally married yet...i just need to resolve these issues 1st b4 i can proceed with the wedding...! it does not make any sense to marry her 1st b4 resolving these tough issue dont you think?

as to pregnancy being a ticket or visa...the unfortunate thing is that some foreigners see us Americans as free visa to America through fake love and marriages and the immigration system here is aware of this and often do refuse visas to spouses that can then take years to appeal...i do not wish to get caught in that process

Princeparix: Women in dis 21st century of ours are not BABY MAKING MACHINES but beautiful stuffs to be loved and adored.
If u doubt me;then ur far from d truth

this is where you are very wrong my dear...you got it all twisted! women who do not want children should look for men who do not want any children...there is really no big deal or any issue there, k!

if as a man, children are important to my life...i should be allowed to seek for a woman who also feel that way and it will be wrong for a woman who do not want any kids to try and insert herself into my life just bcause this is the 21st century and she needs love without children! pls you are not making any sense at all...

anyways, having children is not the issue here, getting pregnant in Naija - is it safe to do so, will they give her papers if she is not and what will happen if i spend all my time and resources to marry and then bring her here and she decides, she does not love me or did not know me well enough and or i make the decision she is not for me...those are the issues my dear!