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Family › Re: How Do I Handle My Problematic Father? by Supreme145(op): 3:58pm On Dec 24, 2021

MrBrownJay1:
the man has been like this for 30 long years, trying to change him now would be impossible nd a waste of time....so instead you guys should accept that this is the way he is and basta. your mum will be fine.

as for the bet shop job issue, i would feel exactly the same way as your father if everyone knew about something i was against, but decided to go against my wishes and do it anyway regardless of my rules (you better start packing your shiit if in my house and not want to abide by my rules). he is right to say that his authority is on the line here.

His reaction was the exact reason we kept it from him, some times you need to consider the interest of the children, would it be better the boy stayed idle at home? Funny enough he continued the bet shop without his knowledge and the boy has been contributing substantially to the upkeep of the house, he even borrows money from him at times which he never pays back from that same bet.

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Family › Re: How Do I Handle My Problematic Father? by Supreme145(op): 3:53pm On Dec 24, 2021

Mariangeles:
Honestly, the only way you can handle such a person is by becoming successful.
When they see that they no longer have no power over you, them go humble.

Is your mum afraid of your dad? I’d say she should try to ignore him, and be away from him as much as possible.
Some women would rather be in the village alone with their peace of mind, than be with this type of husband.

Can't say she's afraid but she's this type that doesn't like talking, she'd rather prefer to sit in a corner and cry her eyes out. As for being successful I and my siblings are working hard towards that if not for anything for the sake of our parents. I know very well that once money comes on a steady peace will reign.

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Family › Re: How Do I Handle My Problematic Father? by Supreme145(op): 3:49pm On Dec 24, 2021

SportsHD:
Sounds like my dad. I'm glad me and my siblings turned out fine and not dependant in him or else our eyes go see shege. My advice to you is to double your hustle so dad won't be making you guys go through shit because he is the one providing.

Just 3 of my younger ones are depending on him because they are still in secondary school every other person is hustling.

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Family › Re: How Do I Handle My Problematic Father? by Supreme145(op): 3:48pm On Dec 24, 2021

TheStakeHolder:
WHAT I SEE HERE IS A MAN WHOSE WIFE HAS BEEN ABLE TO MANIPULATE THEIR CHILDREN INTO THINKING THE MAN IS A PROBLEM.

YOU, YOUR SIBLINGS AND MUM SHOULD GO AND ASK THAT MAN FOR FORGIVENESS AND SUBMIT TO HIS AUTHORITY.

I disagree, my mom has her own faults but manipulation is not one of them, she can't manipulate all the children at the same time.

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Family › Re: How Do I Handle My Problematic Father? by Supreme145(op): 3:20pm On Dec 24, 2021

Mstick:
Almost 30 years of marriage and your Mom doesn't know how to work around your dad?

Weird.

Hmmmm he's not an easy man to deal with bro

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Family › How Do I Handle My Problematic Father? by Supreme145(op): 2:49pm On Dec 24, 2021

Good day Nairalanders, there have been a lingering cold war in my family between my parents and it has created a tension in my family that as the first son I'm running out of options on how to dunce this tension. My parents have been married for almost 30 years and just like another has been full of ups and downs.

I will try not to sound biased but my dad's authoritarian nature has caused a serious crack in my our family and made my mom a very unhappy woman that is just enduring the marriage for the sake of her children. Instead of the children to find solace in our home we all prefer to be far away due to the continuous rift between our parents. My dad has never laid his hands on our mom but constantly talks down on her even in front of the kids, and knowing my father you would rather prefer to be mended with 2x2 plank rather than my father letting his tongue lose on you. His mouth is filled with venom.

A while ago one of my siblings got a job as a cashier in a bet shop without my father's knowledge, we kept it away from him because we knew very well he would object because he hated anything bet. My mom on the other hand knowing fully well that the boy has been idle for a while gave her consent reluctantly. My dad got to know after he observed that the boy was dropping money at home frequently and when he inquired about the source of the money and learnt that he was working in bet shop all hell was let loose.

He called me on phone in school, which he rarely does just to confirm if I was aware which I replied in the affirmative. He said all manner of derogatory things to me, because he felt his position as the head of the home was threatened, he felt we the children was siding my mom to override his authority in the home. My siblings would later call me the following day to complain about how he spoke to my mom, the poor woman cried for days. They said my dad would never see a dime of their money if they get rich even though I know it was childish talk but that's how serious thing are.

Almost all my siblings have grown to hate my dad though they conceal it very well. His tyrannical rule is not helping matters at all, my dad is the kinda father that if you spoil an appliance in the house, it would be in your best interest to repair it before he becomes aware because the funny part is he won't say much to you rather all the aggression would be transfered to my mom. If we use the generator we would have to replace the quantity of fuel that we used. I was sleeping in lecture hall in school, my pop man insisted there was no money and even advised I withdrew from school if I can't cope only to get home to meet the news that he just bought a land lol.

While I don't expect much from him cos I'm of age, I don't like how he keeps alienating himself from my other siblings due to his nonchalant attitude to their warfare. Those kids would spend weeks at home due to non payment of school fees but he would spend hundreds of thousands fixing his car if it breaks down.

My mom called me today in tears, p man just left the house without dropping anything for Xmas, and even a cube of maggi is not at home, and its not as if he doesn't have money, I'm away of the big contracts he's working on at the moment whereas he's been spending on his car putting it in shape for travelling him.
And he was the one that told momsi not to process her cassava and sell because she envisaged that something like this would happen.

Now my siblings have been bombarding me with complaints and this is why I preferred to stay back in school instead of traveling home.
How should I approach this issue? I can't call a man and tell him how to use his money, I've been struggling to make mine so that I can offset some of the expenses from his shoulder.

I love my dad and I understand his struggles, i know what people without a father figure goes through but how can I stop the hate that is brewing towards him from my siblings?
I want our home to be peaceful.
Please I need your advice.

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Family › Re: Nairaland Christmas Giveaway By Twaci (2021 Edition) by Supreme145(m): 1:40pm On Dec 24, 2021

udoji2021:
Seen.

I will call you pls.
However, I'm hearing impaired so I use to communicate through text messages only.

Once again, I'm really greatful

No issue bro, just text me

Business › Re: I Will Develop Your Websites For Free by Supreme145(op): 1:40pm On Dec 24, 2021

expertman:
Let me have ur digit cos email attached to this account no longer accesible

090*38*78*12*79

Family › Re: Nairaland Christmas Giveaway By Twaci (2021 Edition) by Supreme145(m): 1:34pm On Dec 24, 2021

udoji2021:
Pls even if you are busy, I can get it even after Christmas. The truth is, I don't have even 100 on me presently. So I suggest you should send it after Christmas. I will look around for tp and get back to you on the 26th. The problem is how to get your number

Okay 090*38*78*12*79

Business › Re: I Will Develop Your Websites For Free by Supreme145(op): 1:32pm On Dec 24, 2021

expertman:
I need e-commerce website

Okay send a dm

Family › Re: Nairaland Christmas Giveaway By Twaci (2021 Edition) by Supreme145(m): 1:24pm On Dec 24, 2021

udoji2021:
Good day sir,
I'm so much interested in the shirts and the jeans you mentioned. My location is after gboko.
Pls consider me.

Do you have someone that can pick it up for you?

Business › I Will Develop Your Websites For Free by Supreme145(op): 12:54pm On Dec 24, 2021

Since no job is forth coming, I want to start working for free to boost my portfolio. I can develop any kind of website for you for free, just get your domain and hosting plan.

Merry Xmas

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Family › Re: Nairaland Christmas Giveaway By Twaci (2021 Edition) by Supreme145(m): 12:49pm On Dec 24, 2021

ehhmah:
Yes sir

Okay send me a message on 090*38*78*12*79

Family › Re: Nairaland Christmas Giveaway By Twaci (2021 Edition) by Supreme145(m): 12:46pm On Dec 24, 2021

ehhmah:
OK...we can chat through mail then.
I don't have access to this email address.

You can give me yours

Was that your WhatsApp number you posted earlier?

Family › Re: Nairaland Christmas Giveaway By Twaci (2021 Edition) by Supreme145(m): 12:41pm On Dec 24, 2021

ehhmah:
I would get someone at makurdi...
If possible i can pay waybill...
07011403622
The website stuff... We really love it. Thanks.
Just want to upgrade next year

If you have someone that can pick any of the items up for you then fine, as for the website you can DM me.

Family › Re: Nairaland Christmas Giveaway By Twaci (2021 Edition) by Supreme145(m): 12:40pm On Dec 24, 2021

Wanbissaka:
website development sir

Do you have a domain and hosting plan?

Family › Re: Nairaland Christmas Giveaway By Twaci (2021 Edition) by Supreme145(m): 12:31pm On Dec 24, 2021

Supreme145:

I promised myself that must do give away this this year, I've been looking around my room and this is what I could come up with:
*LG DVD with two small speakers( my neighbours big sound systems always drown my own so I make do with my ear piece)
* small sub woofer( needs small touching cos I haven't used it in a while)
* New Dell laptop charger ( bought it because the old one was faulty but it later started working fine)
* A couple of T shirts ( I hardly go out so they are still in good conditions)
* A couple of shirts ( 2nd grade okirika standard)
* One shoe size 44 ( bought as okrika 5k bough worn only 3 times in 8 months)
* I would have loved to give out a jean to go with the shirts but I have just two, the rest are faded can still give if anyone can manage it.
* I will develop websites for 5 different persons for free( just get a domain and hosting)

Please I would prefer someone in makurdi so the person can come to my place and pick them up, I dont have tp to run waybill stuffs for now. I have 2h which I can add up to aid with the persons tp. I still have some potatoes to share.

These are my own widow's smite, Merry Xmas to us all.
PS: I'm having issues uploading the pictures

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Family › Re: See My Wonderful Account Balance On The 24th Of December, 2021 by Supreme145(m): 12:29pm On Dec 24, 2021

Lol you can still buy airtime with your balance self....mine is #24, abeg where una dey see this money huh

Cut soap for me naa cheesy

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Family › Re: Nairaland Christmas Giveaway By Twaci (2021 Edition) by Supreme145(m): 11:48am On Dec 24, 2021*

I promised myself that must do give away this this year, I've been looking around my room and this is what I could come up with:
*LG DVD with two small speakers( my neighbours big sound systems always drown my own so I make do with my ear piece)
* small sub woofer( needs small touching cos I haven't used it in a while)
* New Dell laptop charger ( bought it because the old one was faulty but it later started working fine)
* A couple of T shirts ( I hardly go out so they are still in good conditions)
* A couple of shirts ( 2nd grade okirika standard)
* One shoe size 44 ( bought as okrika 5k bough worn only 3 times in 8 months)
* I would have loved to give out a jean to go with the shirts but I have just two, the rest are faded can still give if anyone can manage it.
* I will develop websites for 5 different persons for free( just get a domain and hosting)

Please I would prefer someone in makurdi so the person can come to my place and pick them up, I dont have tp to run waybill stuffs for now. I have 2h which I can add up to aid with the persons tp. I still have some potatoes to share.

These are my own widow's smite, Merry Xmas to us all.
PS: I'm having issues uploading the pictures

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Car Talk › Re: Mercedes G-wagon 4x4 by Supreme145(m): 3:31pm On Dec 23, 2021

OfficialDJ:
How do you know he/she doesn't use it for the purpose it was meant for? So off road cars are only to be driven off road?
Nice logic

God day senior man, I'm a rookie frontend web developer, please can you take me under your wings huh

I want to enjoy some of the good things you enjoy too please.

Family › Re: Nairaland Christmas Giveaway Awareness Thread (2021 Edition) by Supreme145(m): 2:51pm On Dec 23, 2021

Family › Re: 1k X 20 Give Away For Christmas Celebration by Supreme145(m): 9:23am On Dec 23, 2021

Seen boss thanks

Family › Re: 1k X 20 Give Away For Christmas Celebration by Supreme145(m): 9:10am On Dec 23, 2021*

Thanks

Family › Re: Merry Christmas To All Nairalanders by Supreme145(m): 8:13am On Dec 23, 2021*

Romance › Re: A Girl I'v Been Toasting Just Told Me She's From The Marine Kingdom. I Need Help by Supreme145(m): 1:30pm On Dec 22, 2021

Lol.....which kain tori person no go hear for nairaland

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Programming › Re: Your First Hit Job by Supreme145(m): 10:28am On Dec 22, 2021

AdeOri99:
I'm fully delving into web development next year, and I shall start with front end.

I also had an interest in data science and AI, and I got an offer that allows me to learn and earn at the same time, quite a perk.

Where una dey see all these offers huh

Programming › Re: Your First Hit Job by Supreme145(m): 11:02pm On Dec 21, 2021

jesmond3945:
i think you are into front end development and is very much saturated. Being a full stack will land you more

I'm working towards that just that I need a job in the mean time hence the applications.

Family › Re: Christmas Giveaway 3k For 20 People by Supreme145(m): 8:24pm On Dec 21, 2021*

Celebrities › Re: Kingsley Orji 'Egbeigwe' Returns To Nigeria After Successful Surgery (Photos) by Supreme145(m): 7:31pm On Dec 21, 2021

Just the few months abroad..... See changes, this our country baa.

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Programming › Re: Your First Hit Job by Supreme145(m): 6:06pm On Dec 21, 2021

Getting that first job is kinda difficult especially for us in Africa most guys abroad get a job before the 50th application. I've even lost count of the number of applications I've sent out this month, I'm sure it's well over 200 with limited success though I'm using the scatter gun approach shaa. Na to just keep trying

Car Talk › Re: Nissan Xtera Na Your Mate?? My Painful Experience by Supreme145(op): 5:52pm On Dec 21, 2021

ksmart027:
Nissan Xterra, rugged work horse, your dad bought an abused car.

I guess so because he doesn't joke with the maintenance but when the issues started it nearly sent him back to the village.

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