Jakumo: I wonder how it is that men can be so overcome with blind rabid lust that they cannot tell the difference between a fit, nicely toned, and busty young woman who has never been pregnant, and a high-mileage matron who has already mothered multiple babies. Those once-gravity defiant perky upturned firm yet jiggly breasts WILL droop and deflate after pregnancy or even after a single abortion. In Nigeria where breast augmentation silicone implantation surgery is still rare, droopy breasts and saggy stomachs will STAY droopy for life, and CAN NOT be missed by a trained observer once that bra comes off.
My hypothesis is that all too often when sexual activity is thought to be imminent, the male cranial brain typically DISENGAGES and goes offline, while the much smaller and easily confused auxiliary brain located in the now-activated third leg, is allowed to take over the acquisition of carnal knowledge duties whenever a willing woman of ANY age starts to disrobe. I can think of no other reason why a rational man would marry a mother of two, yet imagine that she had never once borne a child.
LordIsaac: These would be the propeling force to push me out. Every second he spends there will only earn him a "sorry" and further weaken his resolve.
I guess it's individual differences to respond to issues, arising from our emotional level. I would cry it all out and exhorts my anger, then walk away
tungamaje: It's very simple if you agree that nature cannot be cheated. If you have a friend who has a child already, just compare her with another friend who hasn't. You would surely see differences.
Not doubting you though, just blaming my naivety or should I say ignorance
tungamaje: It surprises me some men are saying they can't differentiate between a tear leather girl and a tokunbo. Is it because they are deceived by attires and make up? Don't you observe that a tokunbo doesn't look glowing and fresh any longer talk more the chest zone and the tummy? You can never cheat nature
Baba you must forgive some of that love dating matured ladies, at the age of maturity, I can't differentiate. I am trying to know now. Men are naive too.
LordIsaac: The groom looked like he wants to be begged. Cos I wonder what he was still doing around that premises after such a realisation. I would have since japaed from that premises.
Baba it's not that easy oh Imagine relationship you've invested everything, time, energy, emotions, finance, affection and everything. You can't just walk out na haha.
madridguy: Thank God your friend has a brother like you as a friend. Na so him for just enter one chance. You did well bro. My opinion is that walking away secretly would have help him to avoid evil people begging him.
kunle75: Having more than one isn't any mistakes or a sin either but the crux of the issue at hand is not revealing it to the guy before the wedding day, is evil and very condemnable. But its up to the guy in question to move on or do otherwise.
masam: I just hope the guy no agree, because na premium tears he will suffer, all the women begging him wont be there when the liar of a wife will start her wahala.
Wetin pain me pass be say the mother in-law is trying to use reverse psychology on the guy.
Imagine saying "So all this while you don't love my daughter". Shey you dey whine me?. He h Doesn't love your daughter and he went to pay bride price and do everything to marry her?. Shey it's now the guys fault?
highchief1: ma so my friend when Dey firm guy man take Dey fork person wife the lady wife Dey abroad she has 2 kids my guy say the lady never told him I was like me I will know na.Toto when pikin don pass no fit be like the one Nthg don pass.it’s just like a brad new Kia car and tokunbor used American car.no matter how d tokunbor clean it can never be like tear rubber.i feel na over excitement of puci Dey make guys no observe.
I take the last part, "over excitement of 'new' puccy". It can make pesin loose train of thought
GoooodHardDick: Observe her body, walking movement, fallen breasts, loose stomach, especially around her hips and also how wide her pussy is.
Na so I meet one girl for road, collected her number and called her up for meeting. She came over and we went straight to an hotel, just then this girl told me she has something to tell me...I responded and told her I know already but that isn't why I am here (am I crazy to date a Nigerian girl? Let alone a single mother?)
At once I got down to the business of banging, banged the hell out of her and then dumped her ASAP and move on to the next available girl for a very hot bang.
Only SIMP men bangs a hoe without knowing she already has a child.
Omo pity our women. But I Sha no know. Some of Nigerian girls are the best. I know this age and time, things has really gone south and lots of them are into runs. I pity this generation sha
kunle75: Its not a sin to have children and seeking a new life all together with someone else but she could have told the guy. Its up to him to stay or move on,rather than finding out this way.
It's not a sin bro, but why didn't you tell him if that's what he wants for himself?.
Having a child, a mistake but having 2, is that also a mistake?.
Jakumo: For the man to have FAILED to note from the woman's breasts and loose stomach that she had borne children, a few lashes of the cane ought to teach him small sense. If he have never seen his potential bride without clothes before deciding to marry her, even more flogging would be mandated to TRY and impart even a tiny amount of rational thinking into the man's little pea-brain.
Not only would I never marry a woman with kids, but I would never date one in the first place. No matter how well-hung a man thinks he is, his tool will NEVER be as wide as a frigging baby's head, meaning that the concept of a tight snapper must be ruled out completely in the case of ALL mothers, with no offense intended at all.
Bro honestly some of them don't have loose stomach and sagging breast, I have fallen victim before, didn't know she has a boy and a girl. Chai God save us.
madridguy: Imagine evil people begging him... The guy should have just secretly walk away from the venue and switch off his phone..
Another woman was saying inlaw abeg na when she dey small, like she go happy her own son carry after 2 come house.
Roland God go replenish your pocket and give you your own wife.
Walking away and switching off phone without confronting them not gonna be easy bro.
That's how a friend of mine almost married a lady with 3kids meanwhile this guy never get even 1. At first he knew she has 2 girls, but she lied that the other girl is her house help but she's her sister's daughter. That her sister died after giving birth to her. Omo my guy accepted. I carry cane follow the guy ohh. I digged so tey she confessed that she's the owner of the remaining girl. Now it's 3:0. My guy ran away
libertyfather: That's what they always do, lure you into marriage after then turn into evil spirit
I pity the young man. He must be going through a lot already. Worst of it the amount of money he must have spent. Why not tell the guy earlier. It really hurts.
Few minutes to wedding, Nigerian man calls off his wedding with his fiancee and demands for return of the bride price, after discovering that the bride had 2 kids already and hide it from him.
The bride groom could be heard shouting at the top of his voice, asking her mother inl-aw why she kept him in the dark and the mother in-law said it wasn't her fault but that of the bride who never wanted to let him know.
Apparently the bride had thought she could keep it as a secret but it blew up minutes to their wedding and the groom was heartbroken.
It is always in the interest of all, that all parties come clean during courtship, tell your partner the truth.
Kudos to that man. 99% of fetish doctors will do it for them.
Another alternative which works more is to do a fake ritual for them and instruct them to come for occassional renewal rites such that he will keep seeing them and monitor them coz as he has refused them now they will probably go to another babalawo that will do the money ritual for them.