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Now we he heard the woman's story.
Everybody will be quick.to side the man initially and tag the wife as bad.


Men, have to realize you cajt tnot to serve you when you least expect.
You go reap am I!

It didn't start today, why do you think some old women leave their husbands and go for omugwo and abandon their husbands for months and years? It is because of the bad way their husbands have treated them in the marriages.

Men need to wake up and smell the coffee. You can't treat your wife badly and expect her to ignore

Since he rejected it.
You youths should sit down and let the monies contributed be given back to the members.


IN this economy, where members have no bag of rice in their homes is when a Pastor expects youth to bring in sums of money above 250k?


Abegiii!

I'm happy she reported and he's getting moved so we don't have to hear he raped her


Some Nigerian men will have to learn the hard way outside the shores of Nigeria where they can get away with everything nasty they do.

Eriokanmi:
My last paragraph says it all, read again. Nobody is judging anyone.

Point of correction, the holy spirit chose for Pa Akindayomi, not by carnal manipulation or preference. There were people who were much better and qualified than him back then. He wasn't even the youngest among them, if a youth leader was what pa Akindayomi was looking for

And who told you the holy spirit didn't choose Jimmy? You just think Pastor Tiawo chose him like that without praying? Abeg make una rest.

How some people have chosen to operate with dead conscience beats me.
Tomorrow this lady/female will be married and be bombarding God for children. An innocent husband oblivious to her past will be worried sick about children unbeknownst to him of her past hidden sins.

SIRTee15:
Personally I don't have a problem with his outward appearance, moreso I heard he grew up abroad.
But the issue is trying to use the bible to justify his actions. He wasn't even convincing.

He has to do more in spiritual matters to convince lots of people he was actually called by God and not just family inheritance.

He ha no business convincing anybody. His job is to preach while the holy spirit convicts and converts the hearts of people.

The sheep he has been sent to will hear the words and follow while those he isn't sent to will go hear the voice of their shepherd who has been sent to them. Period!

Every flock has a shepherd!

Eriokanmi:
Hun! wetin he even sabi sef? A nollywood actor always fond of grabbing women in their butts suddenly turned pastor. I wonder what christendom is turning into. Work of God no be wasa oo. It's much more deeper than acting. If you're not truly called, don't go there. You face a lot of attacks spiritually. The devil will tempt you with lusts, covetousness and greed. Once you fall like this, l'obatan. Your church becomes a shadow of itself.

The way some denominations are turning Christianity into family affairs nowadays is worrisome. Once the owner dies, his child or wife automatically replaces him. Were all those congregations won for them by God their own? What of their donations? Why not pick one pastor amongst them to succeed the owner?I pity those attending such churches. Jesus Christ is enough as the example. Christianity is a religion and not business empire as many have taken it to be.

I wonder why most of these founders and their families didn't emulate Pa Akindayomi, the founder of RCCG who allowed the Holy Spirit to pick his successor.

I pray for this young man not to fall. It won't be funny at all. See him comparing long hair with dreads . Na wah oo.

Must every founder be like Pa Akindayomi? He chose his interpreter to succeed him.

Why didn't you blame Eli and Samuel who handed over to their sons?

Yes, I know you will soon say their sons failed. Yes, they failed because of their stubborn nature to corrections.

Give Jimmy a chance.

Who even made Christians assistant Jesus to judge. Didnt your Bible's say not to judge so you won't be judged?

Even the one picked my Late general overseer has made the church all about family business with wife heading various things and son openly Calling Pastors goats.


Abeg let God be the judge after all he said the judgement will start from his own house. A lot of pastors don't have long hair and tattoos but seep with female members and rape some.
Na God go judge las las.

How come the people who went to spy out the land, didn't judge Rahab?

Paul killed people yet God called him on his way to persecute some more. The God who called a killer to ministry, the God who didn't castigate the Samaritan woman and Mary with her alabaster jar of perfume is in the ministry of reconciling lost to him, he is looking beyond the physical and errors of men.

Same way even then Christians rejected Paul after h got converted is how Christians are rejecting Pastor J today,

Una go dey alright las las.

Same way some of you judged that foreign tattooed lady saving innocent kids of ill-treatment in akwa ibom, yet those judging without tattoos are nothing to write home about the Christianity you profess.

ANYBODY CAN DO THE WORK OF GOD.

DID IT NOT EVEN CROSS YOUR MIND THAT PASTOR TAIWO NOMINATED HIS CHILDREN TO LEAD THE CHURCH AND THE BOT OF THE CHURCH DIDN'T CONTEST IT LIKE WHAT HAPPENED YEARS AGO AFTER IDAHOSA'S DEATH?

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To Juliet, she looks ravishing.
My own s she shouldn't come out with a book years later on how she was raped by her boyfriend and locked up at his house o!

Sonia Ibrahim, is she by any means related to Juliet Ibrahim?

I know JI has a Sonia sister also.

TyroneP:
You know all those stories you read online and you say, ‘eiyahh, stories that touch.” Hmm, my sister, that is my story, o!

This man, yes, I will refer to him as this man. When I met him years back, I was already working and driving a small car, you know those Picantos that flooded Lagos in those days? Yes, I was one of those who owned one. I was lucky to have landed a good job but aside from that, na sharp Ibo babe I be na, I know how to do market well.
I started a shuttle bus business on the side; for a church. I got my younger brother to run it for me. After about two years, we got another one; at this time, my husband and I had begun to court, he was doing business in Dubai then.
Then Dubai was a very hot destination for Nigerians and I honestly thought his business was doing good.

What was he doing? Buying and selling na? What else? All kinds of stuff; computer parts, female wears…stuff, sha!
Ok, when the matter got to the point of Marriage, he went to know my people in the village. They met with his, you know the rest how these things are, we had our Igba kwu and church. A few years later the kids began to come, we have five children!
Along the line, his business just began to crumble and this happens when you are fraudulent; you cannot sustain good business on fraud, you just can’t!

To be honest, I began to suspect he wasn’t doing genuine business shortly after we got married. He was dodgy about certain things, certain monies coming in, you know, I would ask him for certain papers and he was quite dodgy about them. I decided to mind my own business, after all he had been doing his thing before we met, so which one be my own?
I also knew I had to separate my business from him. I continued to use my maiden name in all my transactions on my own business.

Then he ran into customs wahala in Dubai, his goods were seized and that marked the end of things for him. Naturally as his wife, I encouraged him to be positive, I told him he had to get the right papers, organize his business in such a way that he would not raise red flags every time he passes through customs.
At that time, my job and businesses were thriving, I had five buses in my fleet, I had two schools and the church as clients; also, I had already bought a land from doing cooperative in my office.

Now, that land was bought with the mind that at least, I would be able to give my sons something to inherit. Land is a surer investment; transport business is good but buses always run down, break down, need fixing with you spending money…you get?
So, I first got a piece of land which I bought in my maiden name. That one became wahala for oga at home. He hala me tire, we had long quarrels. He wanted me to put his name on the papers for the land, me kwa, I refused, instead I put the name of my first son; we have three boys and two girls.

I then purchased a second land, again I used my second son’s name….I was just doing business as per say, e dey my blood and this job may not last. I wanted something to retire to as well; I am not the type of woman who waits for a man to provide everything for her and in a way, yes, I wanted to support my husband’s hustle, if he was unable to provide for us, would I fold my arms but no bi say make I kuku carry the load of provision for my head.

But even before the wahala of his business, I was paying school fees, rent, fueling our gen, paying house helps, lesson teacher, driver…Nne, I was Mrs Man in the house o!
Things got bad and my husband just became a degenerate!
You know, he would faff around and go to the club in the evening and come back at past 3am! Biko which kind wahala be dis?
So, I decided to help out, na, isn’t that what a good wife should do?
I swear, I regret it to date!

What did I do? I asked my brother, who I run the businesses with, I mean the one who manages the fleet of buses and over sees the new business we began, to allow my husband to join him, so at least he would have a sense of responsibility, instead of him parading night clubs like a male prostitute!
Abi? As he goes to clubs, no bi my money e dey go spend there?

Husband joined my brother and after a few weeks, na so so complain e dey complain; my brother did this, my brother did that, wahala every day… ol Gehl, I had to ask my brother to leave!
Because the quarrels were everyday and for my peace of mind, I just begged my brother, biko move to the other things we are doing; I asked him to focus fully on the nylon business we had just begun because all I heard every day was my husband complaining and my brother calling to tell me to tell my husband to back off!

Hummn. My sister like I told you, I still had my job and I had five children to raise, so my mind was most times not on the bus business or nylon business.
Then under my husband, who claimed he was helping me save cost that my brother was squandering, the buses would develop fault more often than before; yes, during my brother’s time, the buses too had problems, so it wasn’t a new thing for me.

The difference was that the cost of maintenance skyrocketed! My husband fired the old drivers and hired new ones then he would bring mechanics and his new drivers to me and they would complain about this and that and ask me to bring huge sums of money. At first, I would just sign the cheques for payment of these parts but after like six months, I began to document the things being repaired.
It was just on a hunch; I discovered I was being fleeced by the drivers and mechanics…they were fixing the same things they claimed had been fixed earlier.

Na every six months dem dey repair fuel pump? Gear box? Shocks?
I vexed, one day, I accused one of them of being a thief and cursed him and told him because of this thing he did to me God would punish him. Do you know what the man told me? He said, ‘Madam, na your husband dey do am, na hin tell us to increase price then he will pocket it!’
Nne, I shock but to be sincere, I no too shock because my brother had said the same thing months back.
The driver dropped the bus key and stopped working for us.
So, I had to call my brother, I told him and he told me some of the drivers had called him to tell him the same thing but that he didn’t want to ruin my marriage so he kept quiet after the first time he told me.

Chineke! I said which marriage? Marriage that I had been the one managing since the day we got married. I paid the rents, paid the hospital bills for delivery of all five children, paid the maids, the drivers, bought the land and…and yet he squanders what he gets on ashis at clubs! Abi you think I don’t know that he meets with ashis? Or is he meeting his aunties at the club?
Biko shift o!

I told my brother, enough is enough!
So, I am telling you the same, I no do again… to your tent o Israel!

Nigeria Series written and edited by Peju Akande and based on true stories

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/07/chai-my-husband-has-been-doing-me-yahoo-yahoo/

Serves you right as a woman.

You saw the signs yet married him.

You saw he was dodgy with questions about a count and his businesses before marriage and you finally entered and went ahead to birth five kids?

who did you think will raise those 5kids? the irresponsible man? No you.

You will play the role of a husband in that marriage.


You also after seeing he irresponsible he is, he could t manage his business yet Joh handed over your business over to him to save a marriage, which marriage are Joh saving when a man is alteady visiting clubs and coming back 3am when he isn't Davido, mscheeew!


a man not faithful in little, u carried transport business to him to run? Let him continue to fleece you so you get sense.


Now raise the 5kids yourself. you are husband and wife at the same time while you feed a lazy man when you are not a widow.

mschewww!

Who told you at 48 you can't get a job abroad? At 48 you should be thinking of your family. Aren't there IT courses you can take to change career path?
Abeg if Naija hungry you to stay then, stay back working for a private family company, the day they throw you out, you begin wise up.

They will sponsor mass weddings of jobless people to further impoverish the state by birthing more babes they can't cater for to increase the population and poverty in the land to litter everywhere with beggars and them recruit some into banditry and other vices.


Wetin concern me, sebi one said it is their culture?

They will sponsor mass weddings of Almajiris and jobless people to further impoverish the state by birthing more babes they can't cater for to increase the almajiri population and poverty in the land to litter everywhere with beggars and them recruit some into banditry and other vices.


Wetin concern me, sebi one said it is their culture?

ChemicalReaction:
Lol... But it's very possible nau...
Angel claims to be in her early 20s. If she's her mum's first, then it's possible to have dated Dbanj whether or not he had achieved fame.

Shebi Genevive also dated Dbanj and she has a grown-up daughter.

Will Genevieve's child come in the air to say her mum dated Dbanj? Even If we know that the affair happened.
Is it everything you know about your parents and family you say out?
Wisdom is key. But what do we have today?

People are shameless for likes, social media clicks and fame.

IconicR:
She should be wise enough to know not to talk about her mother's relationship on national tv. This one is common sense

Clearly she isn't wise and it has shown now from her utterance.

Blaze14k:
I understand what u are saying very well. The issue is that my mum want me to marry someone she found for me. I can't really disclose the detail here but they want me to marry a doctor for a purpose and I don't want it due to some personal reason.

Now you are talking.
If you are man enough, stick.to your plan and who you love not your mother picking for you.

He that findeth, not he who a wife e as picked for.

Igbo women always wanted to pick a wife their son must marry for their own selfish purpose and who they can control.

When you stick to your plan to marry who you love, protect your wife against your family because there will be war and battle for supremacy o

IconicR:
See how a daughter is disgracing her mom on national tv smh

Which disgrace?
This one and her mama get shame?
How old is her mother to have dated Dbanj as at the time he came into limelight?

Dem no get shame for body.

So don't be surprised.

[quote author=Blaze14k

post=125273932]I have done a proper research and found out she's not osu.[/quote]I have said my own.
Leave that girl for a man who will marry her into a family so she will not have to fight for love and acceptance.
Your family doesn't want her.

The ball is in the court of that girl to either end up with you and cry, fast, and pray for love to conquer your entire
family accepting her.
A wise female knows to go where she is celebrated

Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you

What have you been doing all your life till you got to a marriageable age that you will claim not to know about the OSU caste system in igbo land?

Abeg free that girl.
Don't marry her into a family that has lt already rejection her based on happenings of years ago.

Igbo land claims to be highly civilized and highly religious but after all their excess spirituality they still hold on to the Osu thingy.

Free the girl, I don't want her to suffer further rejection should you marry her by force. A woman doesn't need to fight for acceptance all her life in marriage to be accepted by the husband's family. She can't fight that battle alone. It isn't worth it.


If truly she is OSU, they know they marry themselves not outsiders.
Know your culture.
Not like I support this year thing. I have had to ask people to get educated as a non igbo

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Nataliace:
The younger brother to my husband occasionally comes to visit us. My husband takes good care of him and support his business dealings.

He trusts his brother that he can travel for weeks leaving us together.

Recently my brother in-law's movement towards me changed.

He sometimes rub his hands on my back as if he was just being friendly. He made strange and unusual move towards me several times and I was uncomfortable with that.

I warned him that if he doesn't stop I will report to my husband.

My husband travelled last week and his brother has begun his behaviors of unexpectedly touching my body and showing up in my room or just following me to the kitchen whenever I am preparing meal.

I thought of reporting to his brother but I don't want to be the reason they will be enemies for life.

How do I stop him so this remain between two of us?

This is sincerely becoming unbearable.

Don't report till he rapes you or you both have consensual sex, you hear?

How I'm I even sure that your husband didn't set you up for the brother to make passes at you.

Do you have kids yet? you didn't mention this. Let it not be what im thinking.

Healing upon you Sir.

He WAS driving for Uber and myth, so what is he up to now?

Nigerians have to know when they relocate, they start small and walk their way up. No be new thing. The big time actors and actresses today in Ho)ywood some served as waitresses etc while working their way up to be known in Hollywood.


Welcome to Hollywood, what's your dream? (excerpt from the Pretty woman movie)

Seems you have light to keep your meat as you plan to eat it all year

Throwback:
So sad.

May his soul rest in peace.

He lost Bimbo Odukoya to the Sosoliso Air Crash, He also lost his Zimbabwean wife that he married after Bimbo.

Jimi Odukoya has lost his dad.

May God comfort the family.

South Afrcian Zulu wife, not Zimbabwean

Why tourist visa?
As a tourist will he be able to work?
Now is he married,? why not he goes through the study entry pathway? Which is the easiest now.

Even if he doesn't want to study, his wife can gain admission and he goes as a dependant.

As a tourist, nope! he might not be able to access all benefits.

The study pathway allows him work and later on integrate into the Canadian system.

So him or his wife should consider the study secure route and admissions are open against Sept next year now

All these years living with unforgiveness ,has it made you a better person? Your parents were wrong to bring kids into this world and not care for them. They were wrong to not make their marriage work and that was what led to you the kids being taken from your mom who never sought her kids.

You need to forgive and determine in your heart to become a better human being who will never allow what he has passed through in life to determine how they act. Determine that you will do right and that your kids won't go through all you want through.


It starts with a choice.

Ask God to help you forgive and see how He will replace the years you lost. He will pan out your life. It is never too late my friend.

God bless you.

For someone earning 1.2 million naira monthly to be asking if he should Japa after applying for Visa a year ago, to finally get and be asking this question shows you will also come to ask us if you should go to work on Monday.

Mschew!

Stay na if Nigeria never taya you.

E never taya you naim you apply for visa?

I will remove the tray and bay leaf from the jollof rice

Now here is my take.
So Mildred means to tell me that God's prized possession that he sent his only son to die for is "useless" because she doesn't have transport fare?

And Mildred goes further to label them lazy.

Okay, why is a man even inviting a lady over of he has problems with footing the bills? Tomorrow this same Mildred will call men of these days irresponsible and shying away from responsibilities.

Wait fes o! Nigerian pastors are always leaving what they are ordained to preach which is good news to bash and critique people wrongly. Did Christ ever call his father's creation "useless"?

All these women who married pastors who automatically become pastors by marriage and handle microphone will just be spewing trash, critics and condemnation.

God calls husbands and man marries, automatically wife go dey preach and labelled Pastor MRS.

Ogbeni who did God call?
Who called themselves because of title and mummy GO tag?

How come Eli's wife didn't offer priestly role? Sebi peter was married in the Bible, how come his wife didn't carry her sandal and join them on the mission?


Joyce meter has been preaching for year's, why Dave no dey carry microphone to bash the congregation?

Nigeria own go always dey different.

This is the same Mildred who said after she married Kingsley, They didn't have gas, he bought a stove and, the first day she used it, she was coughing and coughing. Since she is useful, why didn't she go an and buy a gas ajebutter that she is?

I pity people who take everything Nigerian pastors say hook , line and sinker, make dem no read their bibles to know God for themselves.
Mschewww!

Many Nigerians can't even quote the scripture, they only wait for Sunday for what pastor will say, you only hear them say Baba say, my pastor say. What does the word say?

You call a human created in the image and likeness of God " useless*... Hmm

And members go siddon dey clap hands dey nod head.

These ones should focus on their drama ministry and stop condemning people and their choices.

The scripture says I place before you life and death, choose ye this day, choose life that you may live.

God gave us the power of choice. He isn't forcing himself on anybody.

They should focus on their drama ministry and let others choose their recreational hobbies in peace and let God be the judge.

Last time I checked, God isn't tired of being the judge of the whole earth that he assigned Joshua or his father to come out openly to condemn as Assistant Jesus.