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apatheticme:
Later, you'll say you have superior brains.

If a bus conductor insults you in Lagos, you'll assault him bah??

If a fellow road user be it motorcyclists (okada) or bus driver curse you out while driving on the highway you'll assault him abi?

Should your boss, client or superior at work abuse or talk down at you, you'll assault him abi??

Even your pastors abuse you either on the pulpit or otherwise, would you assault him??

Then once it's women, your power suddenly flies from your brain to your hands!!

I maintain my stand as regards this issue. If you clamor to end DV against both genders fine, not biased hatred and inciting assault against women because of your spurious crimson pills you swallow upandan!

When next a garage tout abuses you, use the power in your hands !!

apatheticme:
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

Who is emotional now??

@bolded, why are you taking paracetamol for someone's else's headache??

Worry about your hateful, logical and unemotional life, let me worry about getting married or not! Stop crying more than the bereaved!

You claim to be logical, yet you're capping nonsense! Keep supporting assault against the next gender, yours is just by the corner! Hypocrite, quoting Bible passages upandan, yet supporting violence!

#unemotional broke ass

apatheticme:
So many contradictions in your own post!!
You regard her as a stranger yet you quoted the Bible as saying you should love her as your self!!



This is a stupid red dumb pill belief spread amongst fools to discredit women!
Except you married an opportunist/ghetto entitled/slum/club girl, women love their husbands, care for their husbands and also sacrifice a lot for them, especially in marriage. Some at the expense of their careers, jobs, money etc yet these same husbands treat them like trash.

You're not even married, you don't have a job, yet you're suddenly an authority on marriage because of twitter people known for cruise and vibes only??



Again, you purposely for some dumbass reasons best known to you continue to generalize specific cases to an entire gender without facts and evidence based statistics!!

How many woke women worship their Pastors??
Don't we have men who also worship pastors /alfas/herbalists to the point of killing for rituals, should we then say that all men are dumbass ritualists??

At least we read on this forum how a supposedly logical gender was incinerated at a celestial church in Lagos in the middle of fellow logical celestial comrades while performing some church rites with holy perfume amongst naked candle flames. With this singular case, shebi we can say woke logical men also worship their Pastors, nor be so??

Make una dey reason before una type nah, abeg!
Use the logical part of your brain, Biko.

TONYE001:
1. We are the ones that make situations ideal, or not. God's plan for us was an ideal society until we began to deviate and make imperfect ways for ourselves.

2. "Blood is thicker than water" is a mere saying that is not biologically true. The reason you may go extra lengths for your siblings is not because you share the same blood. As a matter of fact, you don't (not even twins). From the molecular level to any other imaginable extent, we are entirely different from our siblings. The thing is, we have lived with them for years and we have been taught by our parents and the society to "see them as our brothers and sisters" and to love them unconditionally and to do stuffs for them. If siblings grow from different homes (without knowing they are related), they would not show this special love to each other.

3. So you see that the reason we love our family the way we do is because of of choice, and a bit of indoctrination.

4. How about choosing to love our spouses this same way? How about allowing ourselves to be indoctrinated to loving our spouses this same way? See? It's all a matter of choice. Choice, choice, choice!

5. There are women that stick to their husbands even when things turn terribly ugly. I want to believe you know this and you may have witnessed it. If not, please go through your neighbourhood and you'd find some. Some of these women have options too. There are women that have sacrificed rare opportunities because of their husbands. These are women that trully love their husbands. I want to believe you know this too. Let's shy away from generalizations and begin to objectively look at things. No gender is perfect; we all have our flaws.

6. I want to believe you know women that have demonstrated true and consistent love for their husbands within your immediate family, your neighbourhood, and elsewhere.

7. Of course there are women (and men) that respect their pastors more than their spouses. But this is just A GROUP of an entire gender, NOT the entire gender. See the difference?

I hope you begin to see reasons with me that we need to reorient ourselves and do away with some of our beliefs.

TONYE001:
I don't know if you're married now. If not, hopefully, when/if you eventually get married, you'd learn to replace "my" with "our."

There are many women that provide for their families and nobody knows about it. Many! You may not know but there are women that support their families when their husbands are out of jobs.

My understanding about marriage is a bit different. I know the husband-provide-for-your-wife teaching but I'm of the opinion that spouses should provide for each other. Husbands and wives must learn to do away with the "self mentality" and be selfless.

See, these things are not difficult. Honestly. We don't need to read big books or to listen to complex messages in places of worship to come up with these things. God gave us all common sense and an inert ability to love absolutely. We are the ones that have refused to put all these to use.

I am tempted to tell some stories about my home but maybe this is not the right place. This is our eight year in marriage and so far, with God's grace and application of common sense, my home has been excellent.

For DV to be eradicated, we all must unlearn certain things. Honestly. I see you saying your wife would leave in pieces if she doesn't go in peace. I'm sure if God blesses us with long days, a time would come you'd think differently. If your sibling continuously offends you, would you ask him/her to leave the family in peace or in pieces? How about your parents? Maybe it's because you are yet to see a wife as an INTERNAL component of her husband. If your heart fails to pump blood effectively, would you tear it out? God's concept of marriage is that the wife and the husband are one!

Let's make some redefinitions, please.

Before now, we are told that wives must respect their husbands. Emphasis wasn't made on husbands respecting their wives. For a successful home, the husband and the wife must respect each other.

We were also told that wives must be submissive to their husbands. We weren't told that husbands should submit to their wives. Guess what would happen if a husband and a wife submit to each other! They'd listen to each other's counsels. They'd honour each other. They'd be happy.

Before now, we were told that husbands must provide for their homes. This puts undue pressure on men. Imagine what the home would be like if the husband and the wife provide for each other! Imagine a husband thinking how he'd find money to fill the gas cylinder and his wife calls him that she just refilled the cylinder. Imagine a wide ringing her husband to tell him that their son is sick and she has already bought the meds. Imagine a husband buying his wife's needs. Just imagine.

Let's stop thinking of marriage like a big issue. Recall how you lived with your brothers and sisters at home. Recall how you lived with your best friend at school. Recall how you easily forgive your younger sister when she offends you. Recall how your parents always overlook your terrible mistakes. Recall all these and replicate them in your home. You'd find that peace would be natural.

I'm not just talking about stuffs I know nothing about. I told you I've been married for 8 years. My wife was my classmate and we knew ourselves right from year 2 at school. These are stuffs we do and I know that by God's grace, we'd see many more years.

Brother, tame your anger and learn to overlook things. If after all these it's still impossible to run the home, your next option would be to separate. Separation too can be peaceful. I've seen some divorced couples that still talk and visit each other. I know of one, as a matter of fact.

Please reconsider your stance.

ImaIma1:
Fortunately, it's happening. You not believing it doesn't change it. Funny thing is the men's egos cannot take it. So he finds faults, and any little thing is a form of disrespect and an injury to his ego.

We can go back and forth, and our points will be valid. We just have to do better and try to live with consideration for people around us.

ImaIma1:
That is the law. Anyone that wants to waste his life in jail is free to beat. Afterall jail is nothing since it's better than death.

That is where coexisting peacefully comes in. The same way if a man can't control his temper he should remain unmarried and not go and be forming macho in the home.

What have worshiping pastors have to do here? They should marry the pastor.

ImaIma1:
Is not only verbal abuse that warrants beating?

Women with mouth as a weapon and man with fist. Ok. If there's a fight and the woman is beating badly as a result of her mouth, which one is punishable ny law?

If she dies, do you think the excuse of "she insulted me" will hold water? .

It's not just about women. I have also pushed for punishment for women that were abusing their partners. My point is that no spouse has a right to raise his/her hands on a partner. When it comes to self defense, it can be argued. But if the other party is dead, what happens to that argument?

I have never condoned DV. My mindset has always been that no man born of a woman, created by the same God can step to me like that. It's not pride o, it's awareness. I learnt at an early age to speak up and challenge nonsense. And it has worked for me.

I just wish that more women will respect themselves enough not to accept such rubbish from their fellow humans.

ImaIma1:
From your last paragraph, the snake can be the woman too right? I mean what happens in a relationship where the man provokes the woman? Can she also beat him? Those relationships where the guys beats the ladies, don't the men offend too?

You guys make it sound like being emotional is a bad thing? If we cannot accommodate each other's differences, are we humans? Who indeed made men more logical and women more emotional?

Look at your house for instance...do you have grown sisters? Does your dad still beat them? If not, why doesn't he? Don't they annoy him? I'm just trying to understand why men think it is their place to beat their women.

We4all:
Stop justifying domestic violence. If your partner is uncouth, then walk away.

Do you know the number of toxic bosses some of these abusers have? But they choose to keep silent because they are afraid to lose their jobs.

If they can endure their bosses at work, then they should also learn to endure their wives at home.

apatheticme:
Ha ha ha ha

Keep hitting pls, you'll end up like a "snake"!

Of course we all know how snakes end up

apatheticme:
Answer the question, stop deflecting or shifting goal post!!

#Logical gender!

apatheticme:
So Men are snakes!!

Wow, thought y'all said you were equipped with higher brains. So once you're poked, you must react instantly, no thoughts, no maturity!! This right here is you admitting that Men just act, but don't think!!! Implying that you're not actually higher animals at all, just reptiles

A quick question, who strikes when Men pokes women?? Or y'all are saints in your relationships, you don't offend women??

ImaIma1:
Regardless, men do not have the right to hit women.

Did you read the guy's comments and sa how he disregards women? Did you go for him? But instead you came for me. Why?

ImaIma1:
People like that are set in their thinking. They cannot see beyond their own narrow-minded thinking.

But you cannot blame him. It was how he was brought up to view women and the relationship between men and women. He has to make a conscious effort to get enlightenment.

emmanuelbrown26:
When it comes to DV, women are simply d cause, that's d fact. I would hv narrated stories upon stories but I won't go their bcs this is not why we are here.
Yes I know some stupid men in boys skin that can't reason at all.
Yes I know some men that are not worthy to be called men at all.
Yes I know some idiotic men in boys skin that are not suppose to associate with human beings.
But domestic violence are being caused by women and d earlier women start knowing that they are d cause d better for them

Solofresh2:
Exactly.Anytime I try acting like a hard guys, my conscience comes to life.Not that am doing something bad oo.For example maybe someone ask me for something but I decided not to give due to genuine reasons best known to me

Anthonyoz:
This afternoon Monday after taking my siesta thanks to the weekly sit at home that always give me the much needed rest ,I decided to take a walk at nearby farm observing nature , while receiving the fresh air and remembering my childhood memories of hunting grasshoppers , squirrel and birds, I smiled and thank the sit at home for giving me a break from day to day works .

As I was looking around I saw a fishing net probably trab so I decided to incept it ,then I saw this medium size phyton that has entangled around the net.

Vinnie2000:
Sabi Guy! Thats just it! To demonize men, Wear us a devil's robes and make us look like Beasts! Those news is just camouflage! I have talked to her! Hopefully, she will change!

SeaTrade:
First off,I didn't runaway from you.We went pass small talks obviously, I think we were curious to know more of each other, I asked we talk on phone,you weren't sure about it,I could also not keep talking in public,then things got hard.
I didn't and still don't know what exactly it is you do,so there's no way I will run from you for being a succesful career lady.
And if you notice,I didn't say all career women are bad,was looking at things from my experiences and want to know from other people's experiences.

BIGVAJINA:
When I was in Secondary School, a teacher raped me and terrible thing , I was seeing my blood. I hear this teacher is now a judge, how do I seek compensation for what he did to me when I was just a teenager?

endsarrrs:
That's great



Madamvanessa Akwa Ibom train is moving faster o......Lalas don born two pikin, you are still there. Pocahantas don get her bobo o, you are still here Vanessa forming arrow head. When will you give Helinues, omenka, boggyman, offpoint, slawormiir, leoking, incandescentena, sarrki, tinubuadvocate and many more a chance eeennh?!

Leave siofra,datboredberry,sapphire, mannaBBgrillz,airminem,candylady and grab the bull by the horn just like this couple to be......

A word is enough for the wise my sister.
No insult

Kobojunkie:
All you are doing here is rambling meaninglessly.

Again....So you don't know that that are also fathers out there who rape their own kids ?

I mean what exactly is your point? Are you somehow of the mind that since not all Nigerian men are Rapists therefore Saphiere should stop obsessing about rape - speaking out against rape and for the victims?

So what if she doesn't believe men cannot be raped? Does her somehow negate her concern for female rape victims or something? Or are you reacting her simply because of the one thread you saw earlier on Frontpage?

Kobojunkie:
So you don't know that that are also fathers out there who rape their own kids ?

I mean what exactly is your point? Are you somehow of the mind that since not all Nigerian men are Rapists therefore Saphiere should stop obsessing about rape - speaking out against rape and for the victims?

ThickSharon123:
Abeg shift. Which kind question is this?

saphiere:
What is wrong with men of these days?

MadamVanessa:








You're fun of saying this. I know it's hurtful when things like this happen, as such, our emotions drives us to say things that sound so stupid on ears.


Darling, deep down you , you know that not all men are paedophile, pervert, animal or whatever demeaning names you may call them.


You're always one sided with your judgement. I have never seen you condemned any evil done by women, it's only men you talk much about, and I hardly see my fellow girls here condemned any evil done by women, but under this thread you'll see men condemning this action of their fellow man, that makes them so different from us and that's the reason I like them regardless of their endless insult on women.

My account have been called catfish account severally because I am not the type that when my gender does wrong I tried to.justifies it, but when a male gender does wrong I carry it on my head like galla. I said it the way it is . It was on this ground that I discovered that nairaland has been structured in such a way that if a girl go against a fellow girl action and condemn such action, nairalanders both male and female will see such account as a fake account owned by a man.